Breasts Breastfeeding

In general the breast represents a giving of oneself, or of ones sexual pleasure. But at the most fundamental level it is LIFE ITSELF. Having watched and even help in the birth of babies I noticed something that isn’t shown in the media. As the baby is born it is connected with a very evident umbilical cord. This cord I realised was the continual life connection for the infant. In many birth situations this cord is cut as quickly as possible, I wonder if the nurse feels that is being efficient, but while it is still pulsing the baby feels connected with its life source. Watching kittens being born, as soon as the mother breaks the sac it was born in and disconnects it from the cord, the first thing these tiny creatures do is crawl to the nipple and so connect with the life flow again. Unfortunately newborns can’t crawl but they too want to quickly connect to the life giving source again.

The breast is an expression of female love and nurture, and an expression of female sexuality. To go to a woman’s breast in a dream may represent an expression of the baby’s desire to be fed, be loved and made feel secure. That is, a regression, or reliving of infant desires. A woman expresses male sexuality through her breasts, in that she fulfils the body of the infant. May also represent emotional security.

But kissing the breasts with much tenderness and lack of lust can indicate the soul receiving its own sustenance. It is releasing the power from the breast and mouth to be lifted to a new level of experience by love.

Self giving, nourishment or the wonderful bonding and connection that arise from motherhood or sex.

But at the most primal level it can mean many things. The other emotion that the breast may arouse is ultimately as rapturous as the first, the joyously orgiastic, but it is entirely different. The two raptures are prototypes, ultimate extensions of almost every emotion we feel in life. They express the most fundamental split in the psyche: one, the passive release, dissolving into ecstasy; the other, the hot, aggressive conquest which ravishes its object. Every psychic feeling, thought, or act seems to fall on one side or the other of this great divide of the mind. Hostility, aggressiveness, sadism, masculinity, egotism, self-aggrandizement, the attempt of the self to become a god and destroy all else—these are all expressions of the hot fire of conquest which reveals itself in oral cannibalism. Submission, masochism, sexual passivity, mysticism, selflessness, humility—all these are the attributes of the passive release.

We are psychically always on one side or the other—tiger or fawn, destroyer or destroyed, taker or giver, object or subject, active or passive, creator or created. Here is the dichotomy of our fall from the greater self of primitive psyche into the forms of reality, the division of self and other. All our lives we try to achieve a balance of these contradictory opposites, and whether in our egos we succeed or fail, every function claimed by the ego is balanced by its opposite in the subconscious. Only in the fusion of infancy, or of sexual orgasm, or in religious ecstasy do we escape the psychic wound of division.

In woman’s dream: In quite a number of women’s dreams the breasts appear in a health sense, connected with the anxiety about breast cancer. To dream of that does not mean you have cancer, only that you are anxious.

The breasts also link with how positive you feel about your own womanhood and ability to feel proud and easy with your sexual as well as intellectual functions. So in some women’s dreams the breasts are exposed to say, “See, I am a real woman.”

Of course the breasts also are used in dreams where the desire, lust or love feelings link you with a man. But such a link is not necessarily to do with an external male. They also indicate how well or badly you are relating to your own wholeness.

The size or development of the breasts in a woman’s dream are often used as a self assessment regarding how fully you have emerged from childhood.

Breastfeeding: Quite a number of dreams are about breast feeding, and this usually indicates how easily you can give of yourself. At times it can be about past experiences of feeding and any difficulties encountered.

Many dreams received are about giving birth to a baby and breast feeling it, even though there may not be a man involved. This is about caring for a new aspect of you that has come into your life. See Woman’s Creative Power.

Kate in the example gives of herself even though frightened, and feels whole – the circle.

Example: ‘I was about to lie down naked near my grandmother as I was caring for her, when she started to suckle my breast. For a short time I was very frightened that she would hurt me or even suck my breast right off, but she didn’t and it felt very good as I fed her. It felt as if we were one, our bodies forming a circle.’ Kate.

This next example shows how the breasts are a measure of emerging womanhood, especially when young. Lin was near to being anorexic.

Example: I’ve been meaning to tell you about a dream I had when I was so sick. Truly weird. I sort of woke up and rubbed my chest. It was so bony, and I thought in that instant I have the chest of a guy. I then fell back asleep and dreamt I was a boy! Needless to say, after that dream, I began my campaign of making myself eat! Lin.

Example: In this dream it was as if I had just remembered that I had a baby, and as I remembered this I also realized that I hadn’t been feeding it. I was upset and thought, “How can I have forgotten something so vital and important as feeding my baby!?”

I thought I had better start feeding the baby again, but I was worried that my milk would have dried up. I picked up the baby to feed him, and was struck by what a lovely child he was – he seemed calm and serene even though I had been neglecting him. He had a beautiful face and shiny, longish straight hair. He didn’t look malnourished or dehydrated and I was relieved at this. I was even more relieved when I put the baby to my breast and he started feeding again. As he started to suckle I could feel my breasts filling with milk and I could see that he was swallowing, and thus getting milk. I knew that the more I fed him, the more my milk supply would increase – I was happy then, to know that despite my neglect of the baby, all would be well.

Woman’s breast in a man’s dream: In some measure this is usually about a return to infant dependence, or childhood pleasure and wonder of accepting a woman’s love and comfort. Even when this is directly sexual, it still links in some way with how well or badly you were bonded with your mother, and what traits you carry from that.

In some men’s dreams the breast are a confrontation with what is felt as the woman’s power in your life. If you feel emotional pain or fear when you get close to a woman emotionally, that is the power you feel she has. Or is when you become intimate with a woman you feel enormous dependence and pain if you feel you are losing her, then that is the power of the woman in you. In other words each man carries deep imprints of his maternal relationship, whether for ill or good, and that acts as a powerful force in his life influencing the way he relates to females. The breasts in dreams can indicate this.

Example: When I was about six or even younger, because my mother worked constantly I was left with our next door lady who had a daughter who must have been in her late teens or maybe a bit older. One morning I was standing at one side of their large dining room table, on the other side was the daughter standing side on to me. As I watched her I saw that her blouse had a spilt and through it I could see her naked breast.  Immediatly my whole abdomen was fulled with an exquisite hunger. It wasn’t hunger for food, but for the beauty of the feelings a child gets when at the breast.

The following example shows Grant, the dreamer, meeting his ability to unite with his inner ‘woman power’ and to recognise this as an aspect of himself.

Example: Two night ago I had a fascinating dream that left me feeling more at peace with myself, and more hopeful of a real sense of growth than for a long time. The dream was one of those that seemed to go on and on. In one section of the dream I was with a number of women in what felt like a classroom or semi public building. I felt completely at ease with the women and the marked feature was that I had easy and relaxed intimacy with any of them. With one of them for instance I was gently stroking her breast, which was very cone shaped and nice to hold. Even as I dreamt this part of the dream I had quite a high level of lucidity. Enough to realise that I was experiencing the ability to claim any of the female aspects of myself.

This then also occurred with males. In this section of the dream though I actually became any of the males who appeared in the dream. Again I was lucid enough to realise how I was able to accept any aspect of myself and identify with it easily, and how wonderful this was. There was another section of the dream which is difficult to remember. I believe it was more general in that I was realising some of the pleasure or wonder of being able to accept life – myself – so fully. Grant.

Example: I felt lonely, terribly lonely, for it, longing for the nearness of someone I loved. My face was against my left bicep. It was the only human comfort I could find – myself. I rolled my head back and forth across the softness of my bicep. Then, as my aloneness became more intense, I suckled my bicep like a breast, longing for the warmth only I could give myself at that moment.

Breast Implants: I want to bring the word “natural” in here because it is relevant to what is being explained. If we see animals as examples of what is natural, or what happens in nature without human intervention, then we could say that it is not natural to have one’s appendix taken out when it is inflamed. It is not natural to have breast implants. It is not natural to have vaccinations against disease. But these things are all options we are capable of, along with the countless other things that humans do because they are possible.

Dreaming of breast implants could have several associations, such as what would be the consequence; would I feel better with them; is it safe. So you need to ask yourself what thoughts and desires you had felt before the dream, and what the dream is commenting about this.

Useful Questions and Hints:

What are my feelings about breasts in this dream?

Are the breast(s) linked with feelings that I am usually repressing or accepting?

Am I at ease in this dream – if not what is it that prevents this?

You can explore your dreams to find otherwise hidden meaning by using Processing Dreams or Talking As


-Melissa 2018-05-31 19:13:31

I had a dream that I came upon a monkey who was trying to care for too many baby monkeys to count, many of them seemed completely newborn. I felt so sad for her and them that i squeezed my own breast milk out for them. So much of it spilled with them all moving around and I felt so sad for all the tiny ones who were basically being trampled by the older ones. I wanted to help all of them and relieve the poor mother but didnt know what else I could do.

    -Tony Crisp 2018-06-03 9:05:34

    Melissa – You are obviously a loving and caring person.

    You dream is unusual because you do not dream of your own baby but the babies of another creature.

    But the theme of the dream appears to be about caring deeply about the unfortunate and weak babies who are not looked after. So you give of your own milk.

    In the foolishness of my old age I believe I see visions. In these I see that the tradition offering a baby to a higher influence, the tradition of baptism, is older than the historical Christian church. It had its ascendance in the love a mother felt for her children, and beyond that the love she felt and gave to other children. Beyond that still, a loving woman might suckle a creature and extend her love beyond the normal boundaries. She might hold that other child, or that creature, with the same tenderness that she held her own baby. In such a moment she would know something that was beyond herself. It is something that flows through all of us. We symbolise it as the milk, the wine, or the blood.

    The urge that enables us to reach out to another person who is not our own kin, or to another creature, is a degree of awareness of that universal life and consciousness that pervades all things. However we like to symbolise it, it represents what IS. It represents the Mystery that we can perhaps never understand, that is Life.

    I feel you have that in you – it is beautiful.

    Because I was born a weak chick, being two months premature at a time prior to intensive care and antibiotics; I know the experience of being the week one. So every evening I send thoughts and feeling to those babies and children, and animals that are having a rough time. I feel I am part of a wonderful crowd of women and men who give of themselves.

-Emily-rose Jamesion 2018-04-13 4:09:47

I had a dream that i was topless and breast feeding a baby girl and my now boyfriend was helping me do it. He was sort of squating down by my right side with his left leg behind me and his right by my arm that held the baby. I wasnt sure if he was helping me or just watching/encouraging. I felt a strong ebb in both my nipples even though the baby only fed on my right side. Also i felt very in love with my baby. Im not married or pregnant. Weirdest and most emotional dream ive had since i was a kid.

    -Tony Crisp 2018-04-13 11:41:45

    Hi – It is important that you read
    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practicing what is described in – or


    Emily-Rose – I don’t care what you look like, but your dream shows you as a lovely and loving person; one who is deeply connected with your deep inner self.

    Your dream is an expression of your creative power, expressing as this beautiful baby and the love you felt flowing through you and your breasts. You create it out of your feelings for your boyfriend, and the instinctive urge in you to create a baby. But this baby is not an external baby, but a dream baby, meaning it is a new part of you coming to expression.

    If you think about it you have already brought forth many new areas of your potential, for you are an expression of Life, which is an expression of the universe. For each of us are immersed in a ‘river’ of constant change. If you think about it you have been carried, pushed, impelled by this current as you were moved through babyhood, childhood, teenage and adulthood. And as we passed through these changes we died to our old self in order to change to the new. It is the current of Life. This current then carries us on through old age and through the gates of death. All the time we are faced by decisions, and each decision directs us on a different path, helping to create our future. And this is a force of growth and change.

    So keep feeding that wonderful new part of you, a new level of maturity, and it will gradually become apparent to you.

-Melly 2018-03-24 22:48:32

I recently had a weird dream about my deceased mother breastfeeding my youngest son who is 5 years old. After which she drove off in a white car. The dream abruptly ends after that. I’m not sure what it means or the significance. Any thoughts??

    -Tony Crisp 2018-03-25 13:41:10

    Hi – It is important that you read
    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practicing what is described in – or


    Melly – Grown men often want to go to a woman’s breast. A man told me that in a loving relationship the men felt so at ease with his female partner he simply said to her, “Can I have titty?” Whereupon she willingly gave it so him to suckle. The desire for the breast does not stop after a few months.

    So either your dead mother felt your son’s need to suckle, or you in your dream felt his need, and in the role of your mother allowed him. Because nearly always when people dream about someone they know they automatically believe the dream is about that person. But when we think of our friend or partner our thoughts are not them – just our thoughts and feelings about them. In the world of dreams our most intimate fears and longings are given an exterior life of their own in the form of the people, objects and places of our dream.

-Lina 2017-11-05 7:16:51

I had a dream I was breast feeding my son who I have been trying to conceive for four years now. I am currently not pregnant but am TTC. My baby was beautiful, strong and was quick to help himself to my breast. I thought breast feeding would be difficult but in the dream it was very natural. Throughout the dream i had other family members watching or trying to coach me but my husband was not around. I was okay with that and continued to learn how to feed my son. It was a beautiful dream but also felt very lonely. Much like my current feelings of dealing with infertility.

-Renee 2017-07-16 14:55:31

I am 9 months pregnant and the dream I dreamt last night was just not okay. I dreamt that my boyfriend/father of my kids kept giving me this bug and telling me it was our baby. I ended up dropping the bug and hearing our real baby start screaming bloody murder from our other son’s bedroom. I went to get our real baby and he had a full head of hair and full mouth of teeth but was still just a day or so old. He was super hungry and couldn’t find a bottle anywhere. I remembered I was breast feeding and when I lifted my night gown to feed him, my boobs just started leaking like a water faucet and I couldn’t get it to stop. I tried everything. I panicked and thought I was going to run out of breast milk. But every time I went to feed my baby the bug was there and my baby was back in the bedroom screaming. I couldn’t ever actually feed him. It stressed me out so bad I woke up having contractions.

-Motunrayo 2017-07-04 8:24:22

I dreamt I was breast feeding a baby girl which was my daughter in that dream and in my real life am not even pregnant yet talkless of having a baby please help

    -Tony Crisp 2017-07-04 9:23:22

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – and also which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – or


    Motunrayo – Dreams deal almost entirely with your inner life, not the outer life of your body. See

    So it has nothing to do with being physically pregnant, but because you are a woman, it is about your wonderful power of creation. Something that I have seen often before, is how, particularly women I suppose, have often failed to understand the great power they have in their instinctive sexual drives. Those drives link them with their ability to create and be creative. But what I see is that those drives need not be expressed through producing a child. This does not mean they need to be frustrated or repressed, but that they be accepted and directed into another direction. It means being fully aware of the sexual and creative dynamics of interrelations, in business, in work, in everyday dealings with people. It is about creating new opportunities, abilities, artistry and businesses.

    The girl you have given birth to and fed with your own beautiful life giving energy is a new ability, talent and aspect of your own unlimited potential. Care for it, feed it and help it to grow.

-Michele Montgomery 2017-06-02 5:51:13

I had a dream the other night that I was using a breast pump on my right breast and I filled the container with breast milk that was very slightly thick. As I was trying to find my boyfriend (who in real life likes breast milk) but couldn’t find him.i was trying to hid it from everyone else that was around. I ended up in a bathroom and as I was about to lock the door a not came in. I was irritated because I couldn’t be alone anywhere to keep others from finding out. No I do not have kids me can I get pregnant. My co worker is pregnant and it was the same night we had her baby shower when I had this dream.

    -Tony Crisp 2017-06-02 12:03:00

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – and also which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – or


    Michele – This is obviously about your natural instinct to have a baby. You said you do not have kids, and then you said, “me can I get pregnant,” and I cannot make out whether that was a question or that you cannot have children.

    But what I can see is that you produced a lot of breast milk, slightly thick. In dreams, you read, the breast and giving milk represents a giving of oneself, and the breast is an expression of female love and nurture. It sounds like this is the first milk – the very first milk you produce, just after birth, is called colostrum. It is a warm golden milk that is concentrated with everything a newborn baby needs for their nutrition and immune system.
    So your dream is saying that as a woman you are a very loving and giving person – this thick warm loving can be given in many ways, and not just when having a baby. It shows you have a great capacity to care for others, which leads many women to work in the caring professions. Here are some suggestions – nursing, counselling or therapy, animal care, kindergarten teacher, home health aide, yoga, massage, personal makeovers, and day care provider for children or adults with special needs.

-Rebecca 2017-05-13 6:49:51

I’ve looked everywhere and can’t seem to find the meaning for my dreams. They play over and over.

There’s a beautiful young girl in my dreams, I keep calling my sister but she looks nothing like any of my sisters. She’s breastfeeding a baby then lays the baby asleep next to her, and I see my father drinking from her milk. I scream at my mother who watches him but ignores me. So I keep screaming “that’s my sister! Get away from my sister!” But my father keeps drinking and laughing. I wake up feeling angry and sickened.

-Izzie 2017-02-27 1:28:05

I had an extremely weird dream last night. I dreamed that my now 4 year old was about 10 months old, and we were in an old apartment building, like something you would expect to see in NYC or something. Not exactly slums but not exactly nice. I dreamed I was breastfeeding him. And talking to someone but I couldn’t ever see who, just heard the voice in my head. I don’t remember the conversation, but I got the feeling that it was either my ex husband or my current boyfriend(whom I got with about 6 months after my ex and I split), not sure which, bit either was I was close to him in some way. It was weird. Any thoughts?

    -Tony Crisp 2017-02-27 11:39:57

    Hi – I am stopping from answering your posts fully – but will try to give hints; sometimes long ones because I quote from masses I have already put online. Also I need to take time to update the site – dreamhawk.

    It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – and also

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practicing what is described in – or


    Let’s start with your ex’s – most people are often totally unaware of the experience they take in and how it interacts with them when we love or interact with someone. In other words because we memorise the feelings and responses we felt; and because our we learn through our experiences. we are changed by them. The memories and the learning are part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences, along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with someone and they are what makes you the person you are. Your dreams tend to put all that in the image of the past person when you are dealing with the influences left in you from the relationship.

    So you can see that the person in your dream is a representation of a part of you. This applies to you son also. What happened to you at that age that caused or causes feelings of ‘not exactly nice’.

    Obviously you are a good mother and are caring for a part of you shown as you son. Try being your son as he appears in the dream –

-Izzie 2017-02-27 1:26:52

I had an extremely weird dream last night. I dreamed that my now 4 year old was about 10 months old, and we were in an old apartment building, like something you would expect to see in NYC or something. Not exactly slums but not exactly nice. I dreamed I was breastfeeding him. And talking to someone but I couldn’t ever see who, just heard the voice in my head. I don’t remember the conversation, but I got the feeling that it was either my ex husband or my current boyfriend(whom I got with about 6 months after my ex and I split), not sure which, bit either was I was close to him in some way. It was weird.

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