Cried Cry Crying

The release of sorrow, grief, guilt, misery, loss, memories that have been held back, knowingly or unknowingly, during the day or even over years. It may be the release of any type of emotion, from enormous pain to wonderful joy – they all produce tears. The way we struggle to grow or attain, the effort we put into life and perhaps feel we get no reward, the love we have for someone, are all springs from which tears can flow.

Sometimes we cry out of an intuitive knowledge of another person leaving, or dying, or sorrow over something we have done. Or else they might be crocodile tears in an attempt to convince yourself that you feel badly over an attitude, desire or action, or in order to manipulate someone.

Example: “I dreamed that I was awakened by the sound of a horse’s hooves in the street. I saw a white horse, with no rider, stopping at midnight in front of our house. I knew it came for my younger sister. I went to the door and opened it to call her, when suddenly I saw her coming down the stairs, all dressed in white. She did not say a word to me, but walked with stately steps down the stairs, through the hall, and out of the door. She mounted the horse and rode away. I woke up crying.” The woman’s sister died a month later.

Tears can sometimes express things we have no words to describe or know. They communicate without speaking. If this is so in a dream it is worthwhile seeing if there is a clue in the people, things or events in the dream as to what the emotions are emerging from. You may be crying out for something, or your body weeping for something you need.

Example: I dream my past boyfriend of five years has come to tell me he is going to marry his ex-girlfriend. I am so distraught that I jump out the window, and break my neck. The paramedics come to gather me up and place a football helmet on my head. Then I am on my death bed in the hospital where I am crying and grieving for the hopelessness of the lost relationship. My old boyfriend holds my hand and very coldly says, “You are going to make a radiant corpse.” I wake feeling I had been given a message from my deeper ‘self’. I had grieved for the last year without feeling I was able to move on. Two days later I went to the doctor – I was having palpitations and dizzy spells. He told me I had a leaky valve in my heart. I felt this dream was my wake-up call! Since then I seem to have moved on in my life. I believe my broken heart manifested itself physically and my subconscious warned me of the damage.

In some dreams we cry can depict a cleansing of yourself and a change of heart or forgiveness where old feelings are washed away. You may need to cry or release and ‘wash out’ long held emotions.  Another sort of change we can cry about is when we enter womanhood or manhood, as in the following example.

The girl is with her boyfriend. She had been ‘initiated’ into sexual activity. Sex with her boyfriend has changed her image of herself.

Example: ‘A ritual began whereby a large knife was drawn and a few deep cuts were made to both our faces. I put my hands to my face and saw them covered with blood, crying and crying.’ O. S.

Sometimes we cry as a baby in our dreams, and that is important and should not be stopped until it is understood.

Example: I was crying like a new born baby and I knew someone loved me. I knew they understood what pain was and were not afraid of it or of death. This pierced me right through. It was my grandmother, but to me it felt like some higher being who had reached out of the unknown to help me. The bonding cry was a signal to say “I recognise you! I recognise you! I’m bonding to you. I’m bonding to you! Someone recognises me. I can cry now because I am in the presence of love.”

To feel rejected as a child and to need acceptance can cause a lot of inner pain and crying, and may not be understood by others or even oneself. The following example isfrom a man who was put in an orphanage by his mother. Max was his lover and partner.

Example: My first image was to take her face in my hands and say Mum I want you to acknowledge me. I want to tell you that I love you very much. You have asked me to be your Man, Son, Lover to know and accept you. Well Max /Mum I do know you and I see your fear and I can tell you now that it is all right but do you not realise that because I love at child level I have to know everything about you for my survival, yet at the same time because of my inner work I can see and understand from an adult point of view. So you can see that I know everything about you, and it is all fear. I have died for both of us Max because of this Love and so it is OK to let go. If you can see this pain that I have suffered for us and just tell the truth then my Love can become unconditional and can only love and support you. We can then let go and go out into the world to look for what we want collectively or as individuals, but that Love is still there from Mum to son or vice versa. As I am saying all this I am very emotional and crying, and then I asked her to bless me to ACCEPT ME. To validate me in the world. There it was still looking for ACCEPTANCE.

Baby crying: Your fundamental needs are not being, or were not in the past, met. These include basic things like feeling happy and relaxed in your environment, feeling wanted and loved, having a sense of connection with other people, and being nourished. There may be something distressing you are feeling/needing at the ‘baby’ level that you are not acknowledging. It could also be a new project or aspect of you needing more care.

Example: ‘An old lady made room for me to sit at the end of one of the three seats of a bus. As we drove away a very large chicken size baby bird flew in. It had short stubby wings and yellow down, but flew expertly. I believe it first landed on the lady and chirped squeakily. But in it’s squeaks it actually spoke, saying it had lost it’s mother. It sounded as if it were crying.’ Andrew.

Example: I cry like a baby. The question burns in me – Why is life like this? I cry again. Then I realise that at first when I was born I was too small and undeveloped even to be able to cry properly, so I couldn’t let out my misery. It is such a relief to cry now and be understood, to have known what I felt at that terrible time.  I am aware of my connection with my stream of life having been broken – the umbilical cord.

Idioms: It’s all over but the crying; cry in your beer; cry the blues; a far cry; cry her heart out; cry me a river; cry over spilt milk; cry your eyes out; a crying shame; for crying out loud; hue and cry.

Useful Questions and Hints:

What am I crying about in the dream, and does that connect with waking feelings?

What feelings do I hold back in daily life, and how can I release them?

Is there a deeply felt need I am not allowing?

What hurts are my tears expressing?

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-Laura Lynne Watson 2017-07-24 18:06:45

I had a dream the other night that I was in North Truro, Massachusetts, a place that I went to for nearly a decade. I was so happy as I looked to my right & I had my feet digging into the sand in nostalgia & I could see province town. I went to pull out my phone to put my location on snapchat but I suddenly teleported to the nursery at my church. I was with these two young girls, both sisters & I felt as if they were orphans in my dream. The older one was on top of the Little one & they were wrestling. The older sisters back was on the younger sisters torso & she kept grabbing her head from behind. Neither won cause I quickly separated them then the older sister stood up & stumbled to
The ground. She started to cry then as she stood up she stopped crying. I came to her with open arms & asked if she was okay which she then replied no & purposefully fell down again & began to cry. I knew she was alright but I still picked her up & cradled her in my arms a while. I don’t understand the crying in the dream, as she clearly wasn’t hurt & no one lost / won the wrestling match

-EZ 2017-03-12 20:10:12

I dreamed i was with my deceased grandmother and my boyfriend (we had just broken up in real life). I was crying and pleading to my gma to not sell my horse (which i had as a teen, which did get sold). My boyfriend was just standing not saying anything, just w watching me as i begged to not sell my house. As I woke up i was really crying and looked around for my boy friend it felt like he was really there, but he wasn’t. I felt sadness and all alone.

    -Tony Crisp 2017-03-13 9:39:28

    Hi – I am stopping from answering your posts fully – but will try to give hints; sometimes long ones because I quote from masses I have already put online. Also I need to take time to update the site – dreamhawk.

    It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – and also which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practicing what is described in – or


    Your dream is about losing the things you love – the horse and the boyfriend.

    Our love we developed between and animal such as a horse if very real. Its tearing away stays with us always and was repeated with your boyfriend.

    A woman has a variety of ways she needs to be fulfilled. That is, by being cared about, being loved sexually, having her man do something valuable socially, and having a companion of depth and width she can play and cry, work and talk with. So a powerful woman can face a powerful man because she knows her own power. She feels within her the ability to stand as a force in the world, as well as the ability to care for her own children or even others. She acknowledges everything everything she is, from her animal within her to her human ability to take hold of the world and create, children as well as business or social functions. She has a natural religious feeling which may have nothing to do with the church or other religious bodies, but is a love of life and its creatures. She is a WOMAN.

-Ginika 2016-06-28 18:40:03

Hi,I’ve not been in speaking term with my immediate elder sister for couple of years now(kind of emotional scores to settle)I saw my sister in my dream this morning.She gave me something that looks like clothe and said she is sick and tired of our unhealthy non speaking terms.When I saw her repentant face I broke into tears crying a lot in the presence of other family members.As I was crying I remembered our late brother who(while alive) pitched tent with her to fight against me.

Looking forward to your wise interpretation of my dream.


-Mike 2016-06-28 18:36:52

Hi,I’ve not been in speaking term with my immediate elder sister for couple of years now(kind of emotional scores to settle)I saw my sister in my dream this morning.She gave me something that looks like clothe and said she is sick and tired of our unhealthy non speaking terms.When I saw her repentant face I broke into tears crying a lot in the presence of other family members.As I was crying I remembered our late brother who(while alive) pitched tent with her to fight against me.

Looking forward to your wise interpretation of my dream.


-Jasmin 2016-05-03 13:53:25

I need help in know wHat part of my. Dream means. In a part of my dream I was walking in a yard and I saw roses beautiful. Faded burgandy edges were dark burgandy. But the edges lined up and read on the first row cry the second die the feel in the dream was sadness and confusion as to why I would see that because I was happy in the dream before I saw it.

-Destiny Bonner 2016-04-19 14:50:35

Hi I’m Destiny
and I dreamed about my friend I moved away from but in my dream I was at her school then I saw her and she looked different then I was crying on the floor
What does this mean?

    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2016-04-22 8:55:27

    Dear Destiny – Crying on the floor may be a symbol of surrendering and so allowing and releasing your feelings of losing the relationship with your friend as you know it.
    You can still be friends, but the way you share has changed because of your moving away.
    Your dream can also reflect how you are changing in “the school of life”; because of inner growth and new experiences the image of yourself has changed.
    Your friend in your dream is then symbolising your inner growth and perhaps you feel like exploring “her”?
    Each person, object or even place in a dream should not be thought of as a symbol, such as a road sign that needs interpretation. A person or object is a living part of you, just as your hand is not a symbol it is a living part of you.
    As such a friend is alive and responsive, with enormous depths. And a good friend is a wonderful aid in your life, an aid that can see you through times of inner change, and show you a new side of yourself.
    To understand the friend you need to be that friend. I mean imagine yourself in her body and see how it feels, and describe yourself as her, even ask her questions.
    In doing so do not forget that this is a part of yourself you are making more real.
    Don’t get the silly idea this is someone else, even though she has the face and body of someone else. In this way you will discover an enormous amount about your own strength and ‘goodness’. But if you cannot do that, then at least imagine talking to her ask her questions and listen for her replies.
    If this approach does not work yet, then do remember that you have a good friend inside you and treasure “her”.
    See also
    Anna 🙂

-Joebert 2015-12-30 4:11:00

Hi. I’m a 17 year old male. My mom had a dream about me and two girls. The other one cried. Girl 1, the one who cried, we had something, a relationship close to being a couple but just ended recently. Girl 2 is a girl I have my eyes on and would like to talk to her and get to know her someday. In my mom’s dream she saw me holding hands with Girl 2 and Girl 1 witnessed it too. Then Girl 1 cried and my mom talked to her and asked why was she crying. Then she said that it’s because of me, I’m holding hands with another girl. What does this dream mean?

-Anonymous 2014-12-21 14:07:40

i had a dream once, when i was dancing with the one i love. He was smiling and i was crying. I’m really happy that he’s dancing with me but i’m sure that those tears weren’t really tears of joy like there’s something wrong.

-teresa 2012-09-20 20:41:20

i dreamt of people trying to cook a tame cat on a flat grill in a field,the cat managed to get away,i was really upset as i love animals. What does this mean ?

    -glenda 2012-11-07 13:47:03

    I had a similar dream about puppies being cooked in an oven. I became vegitarian the the moment I woke up. Haven’t had a dream like that since. If you love animals but eat them, this phsycological behavior is called dissasociation.

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