Death
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Death the walking dead or rigor-mortis
Death dancing with or meeting dark figure
There are two forms of death and any study of death needs to be aware of them.
- The easiest one for us to confront is the death if the body. This occurs when the body is badly injured, has suffered a bad illness or is dying from old age and so cannot support the intricacies of consciousness, then consciousness can longer function in the body.
- Another one that many people are not aware of is ‘ego death’. There are many descriptions of ego death, in fact the term Ego Death is misleading, because nothing dies in this process of enormous process of growth, instead it is a huge enlargement, a massive shift of our ideas and experience of who and what we are. The history of those who obviously have experienced this enlightened state, does not show that their experience of themselves has disappeared, it has been transformed. It occurs when we have stopped living in our thinking, beliefs and opinions – or what is sometimes thought of as our personality.A man, Anthony, describes the experience of it by saying, ‘I was sitting opposite someone during an enlightenment intensive workshop. We had been posing the question for days – “Who are you?” Suddenly I realised that it was a silly question, because I was the answer. All thought stopped and I existed as the answer. My being had always been this. In this state there was an awareness of being connected with everything around me, in the beginning of creation. This was the first day.While in the state of simple existence I was able to observe many things I am usually not aware of. For instance while I simply existed, my usual pattern of behaviour and thought went through contortions to be the centre of attention again. I could see them almost like habits, systems, that have life, like a body does, and they were dying and twitching in their death throes. Also I saw that I knew that all thought is like a mimic, so all our thinking is like photocopies, without any real life. Also as I saw this I had an image of a monkey that was actually my normal thinking self running alongside my every motion and trying to mimic it. It was almost as if as I as a person walked along, another mechanical person ran alongside trying to keep up and mimicking everything I did in an attempt to be alive and real. Yet thought can never be life. If you think of dog, the thought can never be a living creature, just a word.’
Another person says, ‘Unexpectedly everything changed and my fundamental self was something that existed throughout all time. It didn’t have a beginning or end. There was no goal to achieve. I am.
I am a wave on a shoreless sea.
From no beginning
I travel to no goal,
Making my movements stillness.
Constantly I am arriving
And departing,
Being born and dying.
I am always with you
And yet have never been.’Slightly different but still the same enlightenment. ‘Everything seemed to slip away and I felt as if I melted back into the primal being of the universe. It didn’t seem as if my ego was gone, just melted into everything else. It was blissful.’
Dreaming of death: Some aspect of your outer or inner life is fading, or being superseded by a changed approach or attitude, so may be shown as dying. Your drive to achieve something might die, and be shown as a death in your dreams. Changing from adolescence to puberty, maturity to old age, are also shown as oneself dying. Lost opportunities or unexpressed potentials in oneself are frequently shown as dead bodies.
But death of anything also involves a tremendous release of energy as the form breaks down. But the various levels of energy involved in the death of a person are never lost, for energy cannot ever be lost, it is transferred and used elsewhere. A transformation takes place. The consciousness and energy that gave the body life also goes through a process of transformation into universal life.
All of us unconsciously learn attitudes or survival skills from parents and others. If these are unrecognised they may be shown as dead. Sometimes we have killed the child or teenager in us because of difficulties or trauma at those ages, and these may be seen as a dead person in one’s dream. Some death dreams may show the awakening of new life in the dreamer. For instance, Sue worked on a dream in which she was told her baby had died. She woke shaking with grief and tears. The dream and emotions appeared to show her becoming alive enough to feel the grief of her past pain as it connected with the death of her hopes, love, and ideals. She had suppressed her pain for so long. In now coming alive enough to feel her emotions, she was feeling at last that something had died in her.
Because you cannot actually die in your dreams. It is like you become totally involved in a movie that you can only escape from by waking. But when you wake things are the same – you are not dead – but you have been enriched by a lot of new experiences. I feel so deeply that our society does not let us die. What a terrible thing! The process of death isn’t just your heart stopping, it is a long process of shifting values, of creating a self that is no longer so deeply identified with the things of the world. The way our society is structured forces the ageing individual to go on and on almost like a hunter or warrior tied to processes in the external world trying to pay their way. Why I wonder? It seem so strange that the Stone Age societies living in very difficult circumstances, without our massive technological back-up, could manage to support their ageing and allow them a period of sinking into death. We, with massive resources, cannot do this. I felt a tremendous desire here to let go of all my worldly activities. I wanted to hand all my savings over to my sons and say, look, you care for this. All I ask is for a small amount of money to pay for my food and basic needs. I dearly wanted to give up and live from within myself.
Also parts of ones feelings sometimes die. Our love for someone might die for instance, and so our dream illustrates this with a death, perhaps of that person. Some teenagers dream of their parents dying as they start to become independent. This is a form of killing of dependent feelings about their parents as a means of growth. This happens in some relationships too, where we want to break with the person. See Dimensions of Human Experience
“The dead differ from the living only in this respect: they are in a permanent dream state the subconscious state because the conscious mind of the physical body no longer exists. But the body is an expendable shell, and all else is intact. On the astral level of existence, the sub-conscious mind replaces the conscious mind of the soul, and the superconscious replaces the subconscious. Hence, in dreams, we find that communication with those who have passed on is more logical than the average person is able to comprehend.” Quote from Edgar Cayce.
Death of someone known: Frequently, as in the example, this might express desire to be free of them, or unexpressed aggression. Perhaps your love for or connection with that person has ‘died’. We often ‘kill’ our parents in dreams as we move toward independence. Or we may want someone ‘out of the way’ so we do not have to compete for attention and love. When someone we know dies lots of things happen to us. First of all we have always thought of the person as being outside of us. Then suddenly they are gone from the outside world, and we either think of them as gone forever never to be seen again; or we do what dreams often do and find them inside of us. In this way we can discover a new relationship with them, either because they now communicate with us as a dead person, or we receive from them what they left in us.
Example: ‘During my teens I was engaged to be married when I found a more attractive partner and was in considerable conflict. Consistently I dreamt I was at my fiancé’s funeral until it dawned on me the dream was telling me I wanted to be free of him. When I gave him up the dreams ceased.’ Mrs. D.
Death of yourself: You might be exploring your feelings about death, or retreating from the challenge of life. Sometimes it expresses a split between mind and body. The experience of leaving the body is frequently an expression of this schism between the ego and life processes. It could also be death of old patterns of living – your ‘old self’, or the loss of the traits that limit your awareness to an identity connected only to your body.
Example: ‘I dream I have a weak heart which will be fatal. It is the practice of doctors in such cases to administer a tablet causing one painlessly to go to sleep – die. I am completely calm and accepting of my fate. I suddenly realise I must leave notes for my parents and children. I must let them know how much I love them, must do this quickly before my time runs out.’ Mrs. M.
This is a frequent type of ‘death’ dream. It is a way of reminding yourself to do now what you want – especially regarding love.
Example: During a major operation I dreamt I saw my little daughter – dead for many years – standing in a corn field. When she was actually buried the cemetery was skirted by a corn field, and later in life, coming to terms with this early death of a child, I imagined my daughter walking into the corn field. In the dream I walked into the corn field. My daughter was waiting for me with her arms held up. I put my arms to her and we greeted each other smiling. At that point I felt it wasn’t time to die yet, turned and walked out of the corn field. Ken S. Example: I was upstairs watching T.V. with my dog laying on the bed. I heard a motorbike out in the yard. I went downstairs and the dog followed me and this person on the bike tried to run the dog over. My husband came out and told me to go back to bed. I picked the dog up and started up the stair, reached the top and there was a big gap from the top of the stairs to the bedroom door, so to get to the bedroom I had to jump across this gap. I tried to jump this gap but missed and I fell and hit the bottom. The next thing I remember was I was floating up, I looked down and saw myself lying face down with arms spread out and I suddenly realised I was dead. I was so frightened that I woke up. I had the feelings of fear of dying and that the dog had been killed. I felt no pain.
The dream is obviously about her fear of dying, and also shows that even if one hits the ground one does not actually die, but experiences feelings of dying.
Death of child: Dreaming that your child dies can have several meanings. In some dreams a parent, much to their horror dreams of killing their child; or as one dreamer said, “I saw him jump off a bridge to his death.” This occurred at a time when her young son was making his first moves toward independence, and it was a difficult thing for the mother to face – the loss of her son. So it can easily be shown as the death of ones child in a dream. Another women describes it differently as follows:
‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F
Mrs F was dreaming about her young daughter leaving her, and she has to grieve it, almost like a death.
This can mean a lot of other things than your actual child dying. For instance a man told me a dream that worried him enormously about walking with his wife and his young son fell down a hole and was apparently dead. But in fact he had had a terrible row with his wife that day, and it was showing the child as what they had created between them. In fact the dream child recovered as did their marriage. Your child dying can also be a warning that your inner child is dying. We each carry some awful memories from childhood that are shown in our dreams as our child. So it is worth taking hold of your apparently dead child – nothing can actually die in our dreams – and hold it and tell it you love it. Watch any feelings that emerge as you do this and any tears you shed. See what you understand from what you feel. Of course this could be a ‘mother’s’ dream in which your terror of losing your child is dreamt. A woman ones told me a dream in which her daughter was murdered. As we helped the woman explore her dream – not interpret it – she burst out into enormous sobs, crying that her daughter was leaving home and she was terrified of losing her. The girl was never murdered. See Baby or child hurt or killed So ask yourself what your fears are about.
But our dream child can represent many things, and it is useful to realise that any person, object or scene in a dream is not a symbol – it is not dead thing that has to be interpreted – it is a living part of you and can only be understood by relating to it. So in this way I have found that a child can represent whatever our strongest feelings about them are. It can represent your marriage or partnership because it is what you have created between you. In that case the death of the child can depict something like an awful argument that feels as if it the marriage has died.
A child and its death can also show you how you have killed out the growing or adventurous side of you; or if you see your child as vulnerable and needing protection it could show you the death of that part of your feelings.
So you need to ask yourself what your dream child depicts as a living part of you.
When our child actually dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this. See Life’s Little Secrets
For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’ Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’. When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality. After her converstation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.
Death the walking dead or rigor mortis: Aspects of you that are denied, perhaps through fear.
Death dancing with or meeting dark figure: Facing up to death and developing a different attitude to it – unless of course you are running away. If you turn around and face these figures you will break through to a different way of life. Death of someone close to us: As explained above, this often refers to ones own feelings or talents that have been hurt, denied, or ‘killed out’ by events and your response to them. The following example illustrates this.
‘My son comes in and I see he is unwashed and seems preoccupied and as if he has not cared for himself for some days. I ask him what is wrong. He tells me his mother is dead. I then seem to know she has been dead for days, and my two sons have not told anyone. In fact my other son has not even accepted the fact.’ Anthony.
Anthony is a divorcee. Processing the dream he realised the two sons are ways he is relating to the death of his marriage – the children’s mother. Although the unconscious has a very real sense of its eternal nature and continuance after physical death, our conscious personality seldom shares this.
Also we all we all carry within us ideas, behaviours, talents and ways of life from those now dead. The farmer today unconsciously uses the collective experience of humanity in farming. What innovation he does today his children or others will learn and carry into the future. This aspect of a life beyond the physical is shown in many dreams.
For instance a man I knew dreamt of walking with a friend of his. As they walked they came to a river. The friend crossed, but the dreamer was unable to. Even in the dream he felt crossing the river meant his friend had died. Some time later he discovered that his friend had died at about the time he experienced the dream.
As the dream points out, the friend died, but continued another type of life ‘across the river’. A woman told a similar dream to me. Her teenage son came down to breakfast looking very unhappy. When she asked him why he said he had a dream that deeply disturbed him. In it he was walking with a friend and the friend walked through a door. When her son tried to follow he could not pass through the door. They could not find a rational explanation for the dream, but on arriving at school, her son heard that his friend had been killed in a motorbike accident on his way to school.
The river and the door are often used in this way, suggesting a change to another dimension of life usually unreachable by the living. Idioms: Dead and buried; dead from the neck up/or neck down; dead to the world; play dead; dead to the world; dead tired; drop dead; stone dead; at death’s door; brush with death; death wish; kiss of death; sick to death. See: Dreams of Death; Illness;
Useful questions and hints:
What feelings about death does this dream highlight?
If I imagined the dream being carried forward, how would I change it?
Am I changing and my past self dying?
If this is someone I know what are my feelings about them – and where are those feelings arising in me at the moment? What part of myself have I killed?
See Being the Person or Thing – Near Death Experiences – Techniques for Exploring your Dreams – Journeying Beyond Dreams and Death
Comments
Hello Tony.
I am looking for an answer to a recurring dream I am having with my two year old son. The first dream which was weeks ago I get to my son’s daycare (he stays home) and all the lights are off and as I am pulling into the parking lot I see a black somewhat helicopter watching over me and I tell my husband that they are aliens. I go in to get my son and he is very sick and the teachers are not paying attention to him. He dies. I change dreams and I am out on a field where my son has just died and it’s beauitful out. I attend his funeral. Thru the crowd however I see my son running thru the grass and flowers and playing hide and seek. He starts running towards me and disappears. I scream out for him and I see him hiding behind some people. I run to find him and he disappears. My deceased mother which died in 2007 and never met my son tells me that I should not be selfish and I should let him go. That I should appreciate the time I have with him.
This morning, during a severe rain thunderstorm the lights went out in my house. My toddler woke up and walked to my bed. He slept at my feet. After falling back asleep I dreamt that I had a mansion (I dream of mansions alot) and I was super focused on perfecting this home for my children. I decided to climb up to my third floor and my toddler is trying to come down. As I reach out for him he falls three stories to his death. I fly down (literally) and pick him up from the floor. There are spectators and I ask them to call 911. No one moves, I call up to my family and everyone just looks at me as if I’m crazy for wanting to save his life. I woke up and my toddler let out a small cry, just like the one he let out right before he died in my arms. At the daycare he also died in my arms. From the first two dreams I woke up crying and panicking. This dream this morning…I just woke up looked at him and kiss him. Am I forseeing something?
During my pregnancy their was constant scare of still birth or birth defects because of my gastric bypass. He is alive and well…am I still panicking from that?
Gissel – Because of the number of dreams about your son’s death, and because of your dead mother’s remark, I feel this is a borderline case. So I do not feel this is a straight out predictive dream, but is saying that you may need a little help through prayer.
You do not have to be religious to use prayer. So I would suggest that you pray for help to avoid any event that you dreamt about. Prayer is a way we can focus our attention and also to appeal to the wider part of us that is seen in animals as instinct. So or doesn’t matter if you do not have any religious views, use it and express your worries and fears as you pray for help.
As a mother you have a direct connection with Life through your care for your child and also because you are a part of creation (having a baby was the wonderful creative act), so you can create a new future than the one you fear. Also see http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions/#Baby Dead
Tony
Hi Tony, Was wondering if you could help me interpet my dream. I was so troubled by it I woke up and got on the internet to try and find out the meaning anyway I had a frightening weird dream that my baby was dead. My baby is 10 months old but in the dream he looked about 5,6 months old. I don’t know how he died but he was in hes pram and wasn’t moving and my fiance, he’s father didn’t care! Which is so weird because he absolutely adores him. He was trying to tell me not to worry about it and we hide he’s body. He went to get him out of them pram to like dispose him and I scream no, no so he didn’t. In my dream it felt like a few days had past and I was thinking what am I going to do. I need to get rid of him, what will I tell people, what will they say, how am i going to lie! Like i was covewring up he’s death! And was thinking how can I bring him back to life. Than suddenly I couldn’t breath I was crying and felt like I was having a panic attack and was thinking I really need a drink and to get drunk to forget about what happen. Mt fiance came up to me and said it’s all going to be ok and to stop freaking out and walked away into the next room where my oldest son and daughter were. I could here my little girl saying did he die? And there father saying yes and my oldest son screaming and crying. It was horrible! I could’t even walk in to the room to see them because the feelings I felt was sick,guilt, wanting to die myself and could’t face them to console them. And my baby was still in the room in he’s pram dread. Any he’s father the whole time really seem like he didn’t care?
Jessica – I do not enjoy answering these dreams about dead babies – in case I get it wrong. However, having been sent many such dreams my conclusion is that you are a good mother, and so it is natural that you would think and dream of the many threats to your precious child. Bit to save me answering this at length, please see http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions/#Baby Dead were I have explained why this dream happens.
Tony
Thank you for answering my dream question. In the dream two people (I think male and female) were trying to tell me something bad had happened but they couldn’t speak it. Getting more and more anxious by their not telling me, I ran down a hall in a hospital and saw my mother dying. In reality she has been gone for many years.
Today is my daughter’s bitrthday and I woke up horrified as I was dreaming she was murdered. Today of all days.
She has recently moved away.
I once had a dream that her father had given me back several sentimental items after a bitter divorce and as I reached out in my dream to brush the tears from my face it was actually her in real life kissing me. I will never forget how profound that dream was to me.
This one has me shaken to my very core.
Michelle – Some years ago, while I was leading a dream group to explore their dreams, a woman told us a dream that was so real it terrified her. She dreamt that her daughter had been murdered. It took the group a while to hit the real feelings behind the dream. She told us her daughter had recently left home, and as we gradually unfolded what she felt it suddenly exploded in her sobbing with real anxiety and passion. It was the first time the woman’s daughter had really left home and the feeling of loss was so deep that it was shown in her dream as murder. In our dreams it mirrors what we feel and fear; and the woman was terrified that harm would come to her daughter, on top of the fact she had cared for her child all her life, and the shock of her leaving was awful. Underneath our personality we are in fact creatures of enormous passions.
So as your dream and situation is very much the same I feel your dream is an expression of your great feelings of loss and love for your daughter. It is not anything that you should feel that she will be murdered. If you can release the emotions under the dream I am sure it will help. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/
Tony
Tony,
Thank you so much for your response to my dream of losing my daughter last week. Although, I know on some level that it can not be a premonition; it is difficult to shake the funk that it left me in for the day.
I write today because I am enlisting your insight once again. I am not a person to remember dreams or even for that matter have any of significance to remember them upon wakening. I have over the past week had disturbing dreams that have waken me in tears. The first was my daughter’s death. The other two will follow, with the last being the one from last night….
..i am standing in my bedroom, but the home is not mine in reality, with my children in the other side of the house when it begins to rumble and comes crashing down. The side that I am in is the only part of the house damaged and there is a clear definition when I step out of the rubble that all is well with the remainder of the house. Not one person comes along and notices my cleaning up the mess and loading it into a pick up truck. There is too much so I have to get another truck and so I park the first truck with my belongings in front of my neighbors house and as I am loading the next truck I see my neighbors taking my things into their house. (I don’t recognize these people or the street as any part of my life) I run over and tell them to stop and they do not hear me, they keep going about their business. I call the police and they go to the house and they don’t hear me telling them that the people are taking my things. I run after them into the house and I am screaming to please give me my things back and begging the police to make them give it back. They are all talking friendly and laughing and ignoring me. They don’t even hear me. I woke up in tears.
…..last night…I am in a park to get married and Saint Peter comes to bless the rings but he steals them instead and disappears over the lake. I get into the boat and start rowing after him but he won’t stop and I am trying to row but these birds keep falling on me and getting stuck in the folds of my wedding dress. I try to get them away but I can’t stand touching them because they are soft and the more they thrash around in my dress they become bloody. They are dying and I can’t row the boat because I can’t move because they are everywhere. I call the Saint Peter but he just keeps leaving and never turns around. And again, I wake up with a start crying.
Obviously, my subconcious is trying to tell me something and I’m not getting it because I am having nightmares when I have not had one since I was a teen. That one was my mother drowning me in a huge vat of spaghetti noodles. LOL! I was young; you must forgive me!
Thank you in advance for your insight.
Michelle – Good to hear from you again.
Both the dreams you describe are very passive in that you did not manage to get people to respect your needs, or that you always felt as if people did not hear you or respect you. Sometimes this is a situation in your everyday life, or even a habit. Certainly in dreams it is not a situation that you should tolerate. Please see http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/active-passive/ as this will explain it more fully.
I think it would be good to glance at http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/dream-yoga/
As it gives some good ways of looking at your reactions in dreams.
By the way – I forgive you, but not for letting people take advantage of you in your dreams.
Tony
Hi I was wondering if u could help me with my dream last night I dreamt I was pregnant and had the baby early and it died this has really freaked me out as me n my partner are getting married soon I have 3 children and he wants to me to be the mum of his 1st child please help me out as I scared to sleep just incase I have the same dream again it made me cry
Kirsty – The fact that you feel scared in case you go to sleep shows you suffer anxiety. Anxiety is a normal part of life, except as humans we do not deal with it well. I have some bird feeders outside the window where I sit and write, and all the time the birds are looking everywhere even between pecks. In humans it would be a sign of great anxiety.
It seems that your love and care for your baby has triggered your mothering instincts. Being female and a mother holds with it an enormously increased anxiety about the baby. They see all manner of things that might be a threat, and I believe that is what your dream shows. This is natural in all mammals. When my son Leon was working for a year prior to entering Cambridge University, he met people who owned wolfhounds, and often walked the dogs. I went with him a couple of times. The dogs were kept in a large pen, but one of them, a bitch, was kept in the house. When we went to the house to let the owner of the dogs know we were going to walk them, the bitch came to the door to look at us because she had pups. As soon as she saw we were strangers she rushed back to her pups to check they were okay. Then, for the short period we were there she continued to come and look at us with obvious tension, and then run back to check her pups.
So I think your dream is a normal anxious reaction to your husbands needs for a baby, and your fear about not be able to fulfil his need. So please relax and say to yourself, “I am a normal and happy person, and if I want to I could successfully give birth again.”
Tony
When I first got married I had a series of dreams with me having sex with a faceless man and then a dream of someone covering my face with a mask and the mask dissolving into my face and becoming a part of me. The other one I had was walking over scores/hundreds of dead babies or their skeletons I can’t recall. What did these dreams mean? Thank you
I dreamed my father who died from alheimzer last year woke up in the funeral home and tried to talk to me and could not. Me and my brother were trying to free him. I also dreamt that my brother died and he told me everything would be ok when I was crying. I dreamed that I brought a huge bull dog as well. What does this mean?
death of old love
Had a weird dream where an old friend forgot who I was. Followed me around to try and find out I guess, but my dream jumped around a bit and next thing I know they are burning me to death…it felt so real….then somehow I was brought back to life in some kinda incubator thing. It was just weird. Just wondering if you had any idea to what it might mean.
Ange – Burning and dying in a dream shows how you do not have a strong self-image, and the fire is a cleansing and a way of starting a new self. Because you cannot actually die in your dreams it is like you become totally involved in a movie that you can only escape from by waking. But when you wake things are the same – you are not dead – but you have been enriched by a lot of new experiences.
So then you are reborn and so it promises a new life. And that will slowly become apparent to you. There is however, no final death or rebirth. The cycle is a fundamental process in nature, and therefore active too in the physical and psychological nature of humans. It is not only old age or approaching death causing the experience to arise. It can also happen during profound personal growth, when old fears, traumas and habits fall away and allow a completely new relationship with sexuality, with work, with being alive.
Tony
Dear Tony: please help me understand this awful dream
well i woke up @3 am from a bad dream i was actually crying, i cant understand y i would do what i did in this dream!!!!!! I dreamed that me,brandi & sherry was staying with these elderly people and we killed them and the 4&5 year old kids that were there to. WE took garden spades and shoved it into their stomach’s, and beat them in the head with something. The next thing i knew my aunt brena called the police and we were takin to jail, they had us in the station and next thing we came out with life jackets on, and got onto a speed boat, i remember i was drinking a miller highlife on the boat the sheriff came out and told me i couldnt have it but said i was going down for life anyhow so enjoy it. It was like way weird tho the authorities were very nice like unbelievably nice, we were taking off in the boat and i started crying the lady sheriff asked how old i was and sherrry said 33 i turned and said no im 37 and sherry said well u knw how i am in these situations so i see that ur 33, wtf…. Brandi looked over at me and said y r u crying i said dont u get it brittany is having her baby, and i woke up crying…………… i knw this is a weird but awful dream but it was so real that i could feel that spade go into their flesh, y would i dream such a horrible thing?????
Dear Tony, hope you are very well.
It is almost 2 months since my sister has passed away, you helped me with my cousin’s dream of her.
I finally had a dream of her last night.
Could you please advise with your thoughts of the meaning of my dream below:
In the dream the phone rang and I answered. She was calling my name slowly, from a distance but her voice was very clear. She kept repeating my name, and I was filled with anxiety and excitement to be hearing from her finally as we have not spoken since she died. I knew in the dream she was dead, just like any day since she died now, and so I was so excited to hear from her and also frightened that she wanted to tell me something terrible maybe just because she was making this unbelievable effort to call me/contact me from the afterlife (as I have been hoping she would contact me someday in real life).
I remember after she called my name a few times, I urgently handed the phone to someone near me so they could hear as PROOF that she was calling me from the afterlife and she wanted to talk to me- and then everyone believed that she was calling on the phone.
That was the dream – I felt great hearing from her, and now feel it is possible for her to reach out to me because I felt her in the dream.
Now I am feeling extremely excited about hearing from her – even if she didnt say anything to me but kept saying my name. I feel she is listening to my pleas for her to contact me and that I miss her so much and talking to her so much. I tell her to contact me everyday when I leave her crypt.
Can you tell me what the dream means – does she want to talk to me and miss me, was it a visitation from her, was she visiting me or was I just wishfully hoping she would call me again one day like she really did in the dream?
(Clearly I am excited hearing from her even if it was a dream! I hope it was really her).
Paula – Please relax and see if you can stop calling out for her to contact you. I have a sense that you are wanting her so much that your feelings get in the way. The world we make contact in is one which is created by our thoughts and feelings. Of course that is true pf the material world as well. Look around you and see how everything except nature has been created by us humans. Sometimes that is beautiful, but sometimes ugly and awful.
So your inner world you are creating is one that may be getting in the way of having a clear as crystal mind that allows you to meet and be near each other.
But yes she was calling you. Your need for proof was a powerful part of your dream, and also part of what you create. So please know that you love each other so much it will burn away all the things that might hinder your easy communication.
Maybe read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions/#YouProjector
Tony
Thanks Tony, this helps very much.
Yes I am missing physical presence and words so much that it must be getting in the way. It is very intense at times. I am not sure how to handle the harder moments feeling loss of our intimate shared life together. Thank you for the projection info I am reading it.
Paula
Paula – The way to “handle the harder moments of feeling the loss” is to dive right into it. Obviously this only applies to you if you have the temperament for it.
Another way is to use the Keyboard Condition – http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/the-keyboard-condition/ and http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/the-lifestream/
Sorry if I am overloading you. Ignore if I am.
Meanwhile you are doing fine with what you have gained in your dreams.
Tony
Thank you Tony, deeply appreciated. I am reading through. It is hard to see anything without her in it, she was very spiriutally evolved so for me she is in everything. I am trying to place her in a protective spot in me at the same time. Hoping this grief will change into something else soon.
Paula
Hi Tony! I was wondering if you can interpet my dream…last night I dreamt that my 9 year old son had died. The dream began with him playing and then falling and bumping his head. He runs to me crying and then we go to sleep. When I wake up he is dead! There is alot of crying and then we have a funeral for him. My weeping is uncontrolable but as I look at my family and husband and other children I feel a sense of peace over me. I tell my husband that everyhting will be ok. Then as we are about to bury him they allow us to see our son one more time. I can see his face and he looks so peaceful…PLEASE HELP ME OUT WITH THIS DREAM. AS MY SON LEFT TO SCHOOL THIS MORNING I FELT SO EMOTIONAL!!!
I was wondering if you could interpret this dream for me: I dreamt that I had died in a car accident, and didnt realize I was dead…so I was at my grandmothers house and alll my family was there..I was looking in th cubbords for some snacks I knew I had just bought at the store and very frustrated that I couldnt find them, My cousin was also looking i nthe cubbords as well next to me so I was asking her where they were and was very mad she wouldnt respond to me..I jsut knew she could hear me..so I go to her room and find tem hidden under her bed, I come out yelling that she took them and hid them from me…and it seemed as though everyone was listening to me but would not repond…so a while later I see somone goin thorugh my purse so I go to get my car key and cant find them…once i found them, I remember my whole famil sitting around the kitchen table doin some sort of saonce thing.. i remeber sitting inbetween my aunts lad with her hand around my chest holding me tightly and we were both crying, apparently all my family had felt my presence and knew I hadnt realized that i was dead, and had apparently felt as though i had unfinished buisness to do, so I hadnt yet crossed over…so listening to everything that was being said I remember sitting in what was supposed to be my car but wasnt, it was a big metal spinning ball, and all i could hear was everyone talking and this calamity came ove me and I was gone form them I guess I had crossed over…and I woke up… thinking this was a real dream… Im still very confused at what all this could mean
Hi! I just wanna know what my dream means.. In my dream, I killed my baby cousin. I don’t wanna do it but someone in our family said that sometimes we have to do it. I don’t know why I dreamt of that. I love my cousin very much. I will never ever ever think of doing it to him. Please answer me. Thank you.
Dear Tony, wonder if you can help interpret?
My beloved sister passed away last week of brain cancer after 7 struggling years. I havent dreamt of her, however my cousin dreamt of her the morning after her funeral.
Here is the dream:
There was a bright calm meadow, with a small white cottage at the far distant end.
My sister then appeared at the foreground of the meadow – appearing as she did before she was ill, and very happy and giddy giggling shyly and smiling to my cousin. She was beautiful and her smile was calm and beautiful to my cousin.
My cousin said he felt happiness with her just like the familiar feeling he had with her as when they were kids together growing up.
She appeared very happy.
Just as he was about to take a photo of her and she posed for him with her smile, his alarm went off in his bedroom and so he suddenly woke up from the dream.
The remarkable thing about the alarm is that he works at home and so never sets the alarm to go off, but it did go off suddenly in his room.
The time on the alarm clock he saw was 8:28am.
August 28 was her birthday.
I told my cousin she loved the countryside and landscapes and so to see her happy in that setting made sense to me, he didnt know this about her.
What has been bothering us deeply is that she became paralysed from a brain seisure on her birthday this year August 28 and we couldnt speak to her then, and then she had months of pain in the hospital and died a week before Christmas.
It is painful to us that these events have happened at 2 most happiest times of year for her – her birthday and Christmas.
Her husband now feels after hearing of my cousins dream and seeing her birthday on the alarm clock – means that her journey to her pain-free happy new life tarted on her birthday August 28 and she achieved that happy new life as a gift at Christmas when she died last week.
What do you think Tony, is she telling us she is happy in her new birth/life.
What do you thinkg of the dream Tony?
Paula – What a wonderful dream, and thank for sending it to me.
And what a strong and capable woman your sister was too make sure the message got through with the alarm sounding. Most departed do not have that sort of skill. And yes, she was telling you of her wonderful new life.
Dr Elizabeth Kubler Ross who was present as a helper at thousands of death scenes and witness to their communications afterwards is adamant that any suffering they go through should not be seen as anything to feel sad about. Her book On Life After Death is a real inspiration, though she doesn’t write a someone who is trying to allay people’s doubts and pain, but as a scientist who herself went through the process of knowing for herself what death is – that there is no death, only the wonder of leaving the body – which I have experienced myself. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/dreaming-of-death/#Talking
Because we are so much more after death than before, you can say that your sister, wife and loved relative is now with you all the time,
Tony
Thank you Tony, I cannot thank you enough for the insight and it is reassuring you also believe she was connecting to let us know she is ok.
I am reading her book as well as your incredible experiences here online. Things are becoming clearly as I understand how her consciousness is alive and connecting to me/us, beyond the physical.
all the very best, Paula V.
Paula – Thank you and I send love.
Tony