Death

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Death of someone known

Death of yourself

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Death the walking dead or rigor-mortis

Death dancing with or meeting dark figure

There are two forms of death and any study of death needs to be aware of them.

  • The easiest one for us to confront is the death if the body. This occurs when the body is badly injured, has suffered a bad illness or is dying from old age and so cannot support the intricacies of consciousness, then consciousness can longer function in the body.
  • Another one that many people are not aware of is ‘ego death’. There are many descriptions of ego death, in fact the term Ego Death is misleading, because nothing dies in this  process of enormous process of growth, instead it is a huge enlargement, a massive shift of our ideas and experience of who and what we are. The history of those who obviously have experienced this enlightened state, does not show that their experience of themselves has disappeared, it has been transformed. It occurs when we have stopped living in our thinking, beliefs and opinions – or what is sometimes thought of as our personality.A man, Anthony, describes the experience of it by saying, ‘I was sitting opposite someone during an enlightenment intensive workshop. We had been posing the question for days – “Who are you?” Suddenly I realised that it was a silly question, because I was the answer. All thought stopped and I existed as the answer. My being had always been this. In this state there was an awareness of being connected with everything around me, in the beginning of creation. This was the first day.While in the state of simple existence I was able to observe many things I am usually not aware of. For instance while I simply existed, my usual pattern of behaviour and thought went through contortions to be the centre of attention again. I could see them almost like habits, systems, that have life, like a body does, and they were dying and twitching in their death throes. Also I saw that I knew that all thought is like a mimic, so all our thinking is like photocopies, without any real life. Also as I saw this I had an image of a monkey that was actually my normal thinking self running alongside my every motion and trying to mimic it. It was almost as if as I as a person walked along, another mechanical person ran alongside trying to keep up and mimicking everything I did in an attempt to be alive and real. Yet thought can never be life. If you think of dog, the thought can never be a living creature, just a word.’

    Another person says, ‘Unexpectedly everything changed and my fundamental self was something that existed throughout all time. It didn’t have a beginning or end. There was no goal to achieve. I am.

    I am a wave on a shoreless sea.
    From no beginning
    I travel to no goal,
    Making my movements stillness.
    Constantly I am arriving
    And departing,
    Being born and dying.
    I am always with you
    And yet have never been.’

    Slightly different but still the same enlightenment. ‘Everything seemed to slip away and I felt as if I melted back into the primal being of the universe. It didn’t seem as if my ego was gone, just melted into everything else. It was blissful.’

Dreaming of death: Some aspect of your outer or inner life is fading, or being superseded by a changed approach or attitude, so may be shown as dying. Your drive to achieve something might die, and be shown as a death in your dreams. Changing from adolescence to puberty, maturity to old age, are also shown as oneself dying. Lost opportunities or unexpressed potentials in oneself are frequently shown as dead bodies.

But death of anything also involves a tremendous release of energy as the form breaks down. But the various levels of energy involved in the death of a person are never lost, for energy cannot ever be lost, it is transferred and used elsewhere. A transformation takes place. The consciousness and energy that gave the body life also goes through a process of transformation into universal life.

All of us unconsciously learn attitudes or survival skills from parents and others. If these are unrecognised they may be shown as dead. Sometimes we have killed the child or teenager in us because of difficulties or trauma at those ages, and these may be seen as a dead person in one’s dream. Some death dreams may show the awakening of new life in the dreamer. For instance, Sue worked on a dream in which she was told her baby had died. She woke shaking with grief and tears. The dream and emotions appeared to show her becoming alive enough to feel the grief of her past pain as it connected with the death of her hopes, love, and ideals. She had suppressed her pain for so long. In now coming alive enough to feel her emotions, she was feeling at last that something had died in her.

Because you cannot actually die in your dreams. It is like you become totally involved in a movie that you can only escape from by waking. But when you wake things are the same – you are not dead – but you have been enriched by a lot of new experiences. I feel so deeply that our society does not let us die. What a terrible thing! The process of death isn’t just your heart stopping, it is a long process of shifting values, of creating a self that is no longer so deeply identified with the things of the world. The way our society is structured forces the ageing individual to go on and on almost like a hunter or warrior tied to processes in the external world trying to pay their way. Why I wonder? It seem so strange that the Stone Age societies living in very difficult circumstances, without our massive technological back-up, could manage to support their ageing and allow them a period of sinking into death. We, with massive resources, cannot do this. I felt a tremendous desire here to let go of all my worldly activities. I wanted to hand all my savings over to my sons and say, look, you care for this. All I ask is for a small amount of money to pay for my food and basic needs. I dearly wanted to give up and live from within myself.

Also parts of ones feelings sometimes die. Our love for someone might die for instance, and so our dream illustrates this with a death, perhaps of that person. Some teenagers dream of their parents dying as they start to become independent. This is a form of killing of dependent feelings about their parents as a means of growth. This happens in some relationships too, where we want to break with the person. See Dimensions of Human Experience

“The dead differ from the living only in this respect: they are in a permanent dream state the subconscious state because the conscious mind of the physical body no longer exists. But the body is an expendable shell, and all else is intact. On the astral level of existence, the sub-conscious mind replaces the conscious mind of the soul, and the superconscious replaces the subconscious.  Hence, in dreams, we find that communication with those who have passed on is more logical than the average person is able to comprehend.” Quote from Edgar Cayce.

Death of someone known: Frequently, as in the example, this might express desire to be free of them, or unexpressed aggression. Perhaps your love for or connection with that person has ‘died’. We often ‘kill’ our parents in dreams as we move toward independence. Or we may want someone ‘out of the way’ so we do not have to compete for attention and love. When someone we know dies lots of things happen to us. First of all we have always thought of the person as being outside of us. Then suddenly they are gone from the outside world, and we either think of them as gone forever never to be seen again; or we do what dreams often do and find them inside of us. In this way we can discover a new relationship with them, either because they now communicate with us as a dead person, or we receive from them what they left in us.

Example: ‘During my teens I was engaged to be married when I found a more attractive partner and was in considerable conflict. Consistently I dreamt I was at my fiancé’s funeral until it dawned on me the dream was telling me I wanted to be free of him. When I gave him up the dreams ceased.’ Mrs. D.

Death of yourself: You might be exploring your feelings about death, or retreating from the challenge of life. Sometimes it expresses a split between mind and body. The experience of leaving the body is frequently an expression of this schism between the ego and life processes. It could also be death of old patterns of living – your ‘old self’, or the loss of the traits that limit your awareness to an identity connected only to your body.

Example: ‘I dream I have a weak heart which will be fatal. It is the practice of doctors in such cases to administer a tablet causing one painlessly to go to sleep – die. I am completely calm and accepting of my fate. I suddenly realise I must leave notes for my parents and children. I must let them know how much I love them, must do this quickly before my time runs out.’ Mrs. M.

This is a frequent type of ‘death’ dream. It is a way of reminding yourself to do now what you want – especially regarding love.

Example: During a major operation I dreamt I saw my little daughter – dead for many years – standing in a corn field. When she was actually buried the cemetery was skirted by a corn field, and later in life, coming to terms with this early death of a child, I imagined my daughter walking into the corn field. In the dream I walked into the corn field. My daughter was waiting for me with her arms held up. I put my arms to her and we greeted each other smiling. At that point I felt it wasn’t time to die yet, turned and walked out of the corn field.  Ken S. Example: I was upstairs watching T.V. with my dog laying on the bed. I heard a motorbike out in the yard. I went downstairs and the dog followed me and this person on the bike tried to run the dog over. My husband came out and told me to go back to bed. I picked the dog up and started up the stair, reached the top and there was a big gap from the top of the stairs to the bedroom door, so to get to the bedroom I had to jump across this gap. I tried to jump this gap but missed and I fell and hit the bottom. The next thing I remember was I was floating up, I looked down and saw myself lying face down with arms spread out and I suddenly realised I was dead. I was so frightened that I woke up. I had the feelings of fear of dying and that the dog had been killed. I felt no pain.

The dream is obviously about her fear of dying, and also shows that even if one hits the ground one does not actually die, but experiences feelings of dying.

Death of child: Dreaming that your child dies can have several meanings. In some dreams a parent, much to their horror dreams of killing their child; or as one dreamer said, “I saw him jump off a bridge to his death.” This occurred at a time when her young son was making his first moves toward independence, and it was a difficult thing for the mother to face – the loss of her son. So it can easily be shown as the death of ones child in a dream. Another women describes it differently as follows:

‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F

Mrs F was dreaming about her young daughter leaving her, and she has to grieve it, almost like a death.

This can mean a lot of other things than your actual child dying. For instance a man told me a dream that worried him enormously about walking with his wife and his young son fell down a hole and was apparently dead. But in fact he had had a terrible row with his wife that day, and it was showing the child as what they had created between them. In fact the dream child recovered as did their marriage. Your child dying can also be a warning that your inner child is dying. We each carry some awful memories from childhood that are shown in our dreams as our child. So it is worth taking hold of your apparently dead child – nothing can actually die in our dreams – and hold it and tell it you love it. Watch any feelings that emerge as you do this and any tears you shed. See what you understand from what you feel. Of course this could be a ‘mother’s’ dream in which your terror of losing your child is dreamt. A woman ones told me a dream in which her daughter was murdered. As we helped the woman explore her dream – not interpret it – she burst out into enormous sobs, crying that her daughter was leaving home and she was terrified of losing her. The girl was never murdered. See Baby or child hurt or killed So ask yourself what your fears are about.

But our dream child can represent many things, and it is useful to realise that any person, object or scene in a dream is not a symbol – it is not dead thing that has to be interpreted – it is a living part of you and can only be understood by relating to it. So in this way I have found that a child can represent whatever our strongest feelings about them are. It can represent your marriage or partnership because it is what you have created between you. In that case the death of the child can depict something like an awful argument that feels as if it the marriage has died.

A child and its death can also show you how you have killed out the growing or adventurous side of you; or if you see your child as vulnerable and needing protection it could show you the death of that part of your feelings.

So you need to ask yourself what your dream child depicts as a living part of you.

When our child actually dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this. See Life’s Little Secrets

For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’ Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’. When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality. After her converstation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.

Death the walking dead or rigor mortis: Aspects of you that are denied, perhaps through fear.

Death dancing with or meeting dark figure: Facing up to death and developing a different attitude to it – unless of course you are running away. If you turn around and face these figures you will break through to a different way of life. Death of someone close to us: As explained above, this often refers to ones own feelings or talents that have been hurt, denied, or ‘killed out’ by events and your response to them. The following example illustrates this.

‘My son comes in and I see he is unwashed and seems preoccupied and as if he has not cared for himself for some days. I ask him what is wrong. He tells me his mother is dead. I then seem to know she has been dead for days, and my two sons have not told anyone. In fact my other son has not even accepted the fact.’ Anthony.

Anthony is a divorcee. Processing the dream he realised the two sons are ways he is relating to the death of his marriage – the children’s mother. Although the unconscious has a very real sense of its eternal nature and continuance after physical death, our conscious personality seldom shares this.

Also we all we all carry within us ideas, behaviours, talents and ways of life from those now dead. The farmer today unconsciously uses the collective experience of humanity in farming. What innovation he does today his children or others will learn and carry into the future. This aspect of a life beyond the physical is shown in many dreams.

For instance a man I knew dreamt of walking with a friend of his. As they walked they came to a river. The friend crossed, but the dreamer was unable to. Even in the dream he felt crossing the river meant his friend had died. Some time later he discovered that his friend had died at about the time he experienced the dream.

As the dream points out, the friend died, but continued another type of life ‘across the river’. A woman told a similar dream to me. Her teenage son came down to breakfast looking very unhappy. When she asked him why he said he had a dream that deeply disturbed him. In it he was walking with a friend and the friend walked through a door. When her son tried to follow he could not pass through the door. They could not find a rational explanation for the dream, but on arriving at school, her son heard that his friend had been killed in a motorbike accident on his way to school.

The river and the door are often used in this way, suggesting a change to another dimension of life usually unreachable by the living. Idioms: Dead and buried; dead from the neck up/or neck down; dead to the world; play dead; dead to the world; dead tired; drop dead; stone dead; at death’s door; brush with death; death wish; kiss of death; sick to death. See: Dreams of Death; Illness;

Useful questions and hints:

What feelings about death does this dream highlight?

If I imagined the dream being carried forward, how would I change it?

Am I changing and my past self dying?

If this is someone I know what are my feelings about them – and where are those feelings arising in me at the moment? What part of myself have I killed?

See Being the Person or Thing – Near Death Experiences – Techniques for Exploring your Dreams – Journeying Beyond Dreams and Death

 

Comments

-Allyson 2013-04-29 3:26:37

My daughter was 5 months old when she passed away. In my dream she was being carried by An evil man who looked at me like I have her now. What does it mean?! Please help. Is it because I blame my ex?

    -Tony Crisp 2013-05-05 11:06:06

    Allyson – Our dreams do not usually see evil except in our own judgements and views. I can only suggest that you hold grudges against your ex – rightly or wrongly – and so it is reflecting your feelings back to you.

    Try imagining a different ending – See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/secrets-power-dreaming/

    Tony

-Lilia 2013-04-25 23:52:53

This really helped me alot … Today i woke up in sweat an tears from a terrible dream i had of my sons death hes only two at started off with the baby sitter saying he choked on a object to me turning it to the most evil person an turning on everyone n i was at dinner one night with my husband an daughter an a idea came to me that he couldnt have choke on something an i called the corener an they said i was right he was mutdered….. It felt so lividd i woke up i had to come back to reality because i woke up as if i was still in the dream … Reading this article helped,me alot because i do have fears of me leaving my children when im at work

    -Tony Crisp 2013-04-28 10:37:23

    Lilia – Thank you. What I have written is the result of many people sharing their dreams with me and teaching me – sometime by exploring their dreams with me.

    As a mother you have a very sensitive sense of danger in connection with your child. It is what it means to be a mother and being everything for them.

    Tony

-doll 2013-04-20 3:47:41

I am dating someone I rlly love. In my dream we had just been married no ceremony or anything we just knew we were but we were in a morgue holding hands looking down at a dead child at about 3yrs old ans naked in a coffin. We didnt grieve rlly but were sad and shocked to silence. I woke feeling confused and sad. what could it mean?

    -Tony Crisp 2013-04-21 9:12:33

    Doll – I believe it means that you have made a wonderful union. But it seems from the dream that circumstance will end the relationship. A child in such a dream can represent the ‘marriage’ and so its death suggests a sad ending to your togetherness. But pray that you love may change it.

    Tony

-Laura 2013-04-18 13:36:19

I wish someone would tell me something about the dream of a 14 year old. Every so often I have dreams that my family members or close friends die terrible deaths. I don’t have many friends at all as I am shy.
Last night I dreamt that my dog, Kyra was killed in a dog fight. It was night, and I was sitting on the porch watching a video of what I assumed to be live feed of her playing. Suddenly doubt grew in me and I fast-forwarded the video to find a still image of Kyra laying sprawled on the bottom of a hill, as if she was running and tripped, never to wake up again. I was absolutely heartbroken, and when I lowered to phone I was watching the feed on, I found her in the identical position as the video had promised.

I would like to point out that I spend a large amount of time with her in our woods and generally more than I spend with my few friends. It had worried me very much lately as to what I will do with her once I start traveling across the country. She is not the most well behaved around people she doesn’t know, and although I love her, I am finding her more and more of a problem and a hindrance to future travels as time passes.

I really hope someone reads this and cares… thank you so much if you do.

    -Tony Crisp 2013-10-14 8:20:10

    Laura – Your dreams seem to be a mixture of many feelings. Your dreams are created by what we think, feel and fear, and yours are a mixture of what you feel and fear.

    The dream of your dog could be caused by you wanting a safe way for you to be free to travel. People often kill off people and animals because of that. The death dreams of family and friends are a mixture of you fearing being alone, and also the move toward independence. At that time we tend to kill of parents because it give us a taste of being alone in the world. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#Summing

    Tony

-hayley anderson 2013-04-14 10:00:51

my dream was that i went out side to put rubbish in the bin and when i came back his 17yr old cousin was standing crying and my son was laid on the floor wasnt moving and when i got an ambulance they sed he was dead, then when we went to the hospital the doctor cam out and sed tht he had bruising to the head and thts how he died, he is only 3

-barbara 2013-04-12 12:19:18

I dreamt that my duaghter was being accused of killing someone – it was disturbing and very sad. what does that mean

    -Tony Crisp 2013-04-14 11:59:32

    Barbara – It sounds as if you have been heavy handed with some of your viewpoints or beliefs, so you have been bruising your own young and growing self.

    If you think about a person, do you honestly think your thoughts are them? Thoughts are like photocopies and never deal with reality. Your dreams are like thoughts, they do not deal with the dreamed of people or things. But they do deal with the reality of your own inner life. It is similar to computer games where you can be killed or fail a thousand times and emerge none the worse. But if you learn the rules of the game of Life then you can go up the levels in this virtual reality world.

    So nobody has been killed or will be killed, the drama shows how some of you attitudes that you associate with your daughter have damaged some of your own thinking processes. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/association-of-ideas-with-dreams/#Working

    Tony

-Pocahontas 2013-04-09 5:18:17

My mom called me to tell me she’s had a dream that I died 2 nights in a row. Very vivid, real like dreams one in which I was tortured and killed then set afire to cover it up and my mother was called in to i.d. my body. The 2nd one I was in the hospital & a fake doctor posing as a real doctor tortured me with surgical tools,cutting my face, etc. My mom and I have a strained relationsip she used to live with me but I had to ask her to leave and she moved in with her own mother, an hour away. However, I think it might be a literal danger warning dream since I am an exotic dancer, I just switched to a new club, and got in a bad DUI accident where my passenger was seriously injured about 2 weeks ago. Help??? Now I’m really scared.

-Rosina Martinez 2013-04-04 8:37:42

I was very close to my son who was 35 years old and I worried about him all along because he was constantly leaving with his friends to party. I had two sons and three daughters. When he was little I would dream that he was with me in the car and my car had overturned and he fell in the ditch and I kept looking and looking for him all over the ditch. That was an ongoing dream. One night he left with his friends and at 3:00 a.m. they come to tell me he was dead. I took it so very hard. Cried all the time for 5 years it was very hard. My husband died after the 5 years, but when we still had my son in the morturary, one night I had a dream that I could see my son exactly the way he was and had his baseball cap and there was a stream of water in the center and he looked at me from the other side and streched his hand to touch mine, but our hands could not touch, so he gave me one last look at my face and turn around and walked towards what looked like a forest. I never saw him again, so I took it he came to try to tell me good bye or who knows what, but that dream came to mind again to me that when I had lost him when he was small and we had a car accident and he fell in the ditch and I kept looking for him and that dream was on and on until the real thing happened that he died. It was terrible ahd heart breaking, but still I want to know what it meant that I saw him across that stream streching his hand to me and walking towards the forest and never saw him again. We could not meet our hands because he was on the other side of the stream. When my newphew died in a car accident I had dreams about it too, but it involved other relatives and not him, but exactly the way I dreamed, the accident happen where he died while riding with his buddy in his buddy’s car. So I get scared often times when I dream because it is like ESP. Do not give my e-mail to anyone. I just want an interpretation of these dreams. Do I have ESP? Or is it premonition of what is to happen. After my husband died, I dreamed of seeing him by the foot of my bed and he would just tell me in the dream “I just want to see how you all are doing? ” Nothing else. I would tell him what happend after he died where the adult kids revolted, but he would not say a word other than I came to see how you all are doing, I have to leave now and never saw him again. I really feel these dreams tell us exactly the truth. I am even scared to dream because things do happen.

-freetetris 2013-03-29 22:48:12

While this might seem fantastic at first glance, let

-Lori 2013-03-10 7:46:42

My husband of 21yrs died on Jan 28th 2013 suddenly at 47yrs old.We have 2 grown kids as well. For the last 5 nights ive had a reoccuring dream where my husband and I are walking and walking with no apparent destination.We walk day and night and in one dream our kids were directly behind me.He is always at least 10ft away.I do not know what this might mean

    -Tony Crisp 2013-03-10 10:38:43

    Lori – It seems you are being led somewhere and you can’t grasp where it is. That is a way that what was an unconscious realisation often appears. You need to understand that all the time we are taking in things without any form or meaning – for instance your eyes simply receive formless light impulses that are then passed along the nerves to the brain. The brain then translates these impulses into something meaningful to us.

    But if we work with the process by asking the right question we stimulate the possibility of an answer. So by using http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/peer-dream-group/#carryforward and holding a question in mind such as, “Where am I being led, I need to know” or “What does these dreams mean? And watch what feelings and images arise you will at least change subsequent dreams.

    Tony

-Sheila 2013-03-05 23:58:41

I dreamt that I was told that I was going to die. I did not feel that I wanted too or would. Nobody could or would believe it as I looked so good. The priest was in shock but accepting as I was too. I could see myself asleep. I was accepting of what the doctors said but was disturbed, I did not wake but was aware of the dream. I kept thinking of what my family would say and questioning were the doctors correct. There was conflicting results. I thought about my children but I don’t actually have any. I thought about my mother and her tears.

-Harsh 2013-03-04 11:11:36

Dear SIr,
I saw I lost my 10 months child . I was crying & shouted on my family. Whats the meaning . Please tell me ASAP.

-Farhad 2013-01-16 21:00:44

Dear Sir! this question is very important for. all the time my boy friend appears sick in my dream what is the reason for it?

-jelay 2012-12-12 5:50:24

The situation I had is different, since 2000 when my brother died because of cancer of the bones ,before he died I dreamed that he go in my skol and his okay,he walk and his body become normal and after a week of that dream I had he died..for the next year I dream again of my lola which is paralize and cannot walk that in my dream shes been okay and healthy. But a week after of that dream she died..i also dream that i.am walking to a red land full of blood of cow and a lot of cow’s died.and after that dream a lot of people i’ve known died with in a year. The most horrible happend is when my lolo died in our other house.after his death I dream that he is in that house which he died and he want his coffin to put in other house which my other lolo stayed and he told me that the sala set chairs should be letter L the position of that sala set. And just only a week after my other lolo died and the sala what we had in that house is letter L… That my two lolo are very closed. And this time I dream that my first lolo who Died first, he want to go with me.. At that dream is included my lolo his wife.but my lola goes separately..but me and my lolo go together…maybe im next…or my lola.and I am afraid to what will happen…hope u can help me… Some people I didn’t know they only told me that I had a 3rd eye.but I only quite and didn’t say anything.

-Zeea 2012-12-03 2:48:46

I had a dream that my mom was going out. She told me she’d be gon for a little while so I didn’t worry. As it got dark outside I got a call on the house phone. When I looked at the caller I.D. the number was jumbled up and practically unrecognizable. When I picked up the phone it was my mom. I asked her what was up and she told me she was dead. I ran across the street immediately and asked a neighbor to help me reach her. We kept calling and by the time we got an answer I was told she was dead. What does this mean?

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