The Baby In Your Dream
Your dream baby is very special to you. It doesn’t matter that perhaps the baby in your dream is the child of another woman, it is still the baby of your dream. Like any baby, it is something new and vulnerable that has come to life – come to your life. The important question is, what is it that is new and growing in your love, in your work, or in yourself? Or perhaps it is about vulnerability. Therefore the answers you give to the following questions are important in helping you discover the truth about your dream baby.
Example: I have had 2 dreams now where I am pregnant and there are 3 possibilities for the dad! 3. And usually its a pair of brothers (different each time) and another person (cant remember exactly who, once it was my ex bf I think). Weird right? Why would I have this dream? I am married and had a baby over a year ago.
Your dream baby is very special to you. Like any baby, it is something new and vulnerable that has come to life – come to your life. The important question is, what is it that is new and growing in your love, in your work, or in yourself? Such a baby is a new part of yourself that you have formed out of your life experiences and so is enlarging you. Take care of it and see what it adds to your life.
However, if you are pregnant or hoping for a baby at the time of the dream, your dream baby may be reflecting your hopes, fears or intuitions about pregnancy. Many pregnant women have very anxious or strange dreams about their baby. So do not feel that such dreams are predictions. They are often ways of releasing anxiety or of expressing hopes regarding your unborn child.
If you have given birth to a baby in a dream, it can represent a new phase of life; a new idea; new activity – as when we say someone has a new baby, meaning a new project or business. This ‘baby’ might be part of you that did not have a chance to be ‘born’ or express before. Or it may be things learned in a rich life that you could not put into practice because of circumstances. The baby in this aspect is the ‘you’ that could have been if you had been free from problems and past hurts.
How would you describe the condition or situation of the baby?
The baby in your dream might be hungry or ill. It might be wonderfully advanced and already able to speak. Whatever the condition, this is a description of what is happening with the newly emerging or vulnerable part of you. Therefore try to put into words what you see or feel the condition of the baby is.
As an example of this, here is a fragment from a man’s dream: ‘I am responsible for bringing up a baby boy. I feel very happy about it and feel committed to it.’ So in this case the condition of the baby is that of being loved and cared for.
What does it mean when I give birth to a dream baby without a father?
If you have given birth without any man involved, it suggests it is a virgin birth – i.e. no male partner was involved at the time.
So the dream baby born to you in this way a wonderful creative act between you and Life. It is a new part of you that if you let it gradually grow into your waking life as a new force, a new way of feeling about life and acting. Being pregnant like that is very important. Obviously you are not going to give birth to a physical baby, but dream babies are important too.
Many women dream of giving birth without any man involved. Virgin birth is normal part of dreaming. It means that the woman or young girl has conceived as a process of Life. Being a virgin represents the human soul or psyche and its possibility of dropping pre-conceptions, thus attaining an inner virginity and through that being receptive to the unseen or unconscious side of self. Joseph Campbell in his book “Myths To Live By” says – “There are myths and legends of the Virgin Birth, of Incarnations, Deaths and Resurrections; Second Comings, Judgements and the rest, in all the great traditions. And since such images stem from the psyche (from you and your dreams), they refer to the psyche. They tell us of its structure, its order, and its forces, in symbolic terms.”
For instance, the story and events surrounding the virgin birth, when looked as if a dream are not about a biological miracle, but about how as ordinary people, we can drop our preconceptions, our fixed ideas and beliefs and allow an entirely new and creative impulse into our life. This truth has been so venerated that we find virgin figures all over the world such as Maya the mother of Buddha born 500 BC; the virgin mother of Osiris, and of course the story told of Mary.
Being a virgin in this case is about having a mind free from previous ‘conceptions’ and so being open to Life itself fertilising you for a new and precious thing being born. If you are not a virgin because you have had children, that is not what virgin birth is about. It is about conceiving without any mental preconceptions, having an open and receptive mind or soul. it is about a wonderful human possibility.
Only a ‘virgin birth’ can bring forth the birth of an intuition, a new response to oneself and ones environment, that transforms ones life. This is a living relationship with the mystery which underlies our life. If we generate a child in this way, we are not held prisoner by habits of thought, stereotypes of behaviour, then we can begin to allow into our waking life what was previously impossible to know. This open state of mind and feelings, acts as a link between the identity or personality, and the deep unconscious life processes. This link allows a birth of realisations and inner change that brings healing and a possibility of experiencing the aspect of oneself that is our core self. Here is an example of a man giving birth to the wonderful child.
“Was in a basement where my wife and a woman I loved was giving birth to a baby, but I was somehow the one who gave birth to it without a doctor being there. It was a lovely boy. Its lower face was covered by a tight caul, but I pulled this off and it began to breathe. It opened its eyes and looked about, fully conscious; then said something about Jesus, and, “It is gone!” I asked what had gone, and it replied, “The other ego; where has it gone?” I explained that the spirit self it knew before birth was now gone so it could live in the body. The baby was then taken upstairs, and I felt it was a holy and wonderful baby. I was going to rest from the rigours of the birth, but on looking around saw how dusty and dirty the basement was. I began to clean it, and felt I would go upstairs and rest afterwards.”
This was a dream marking a real change in the man’s life. The man did work at cleaning his basement/unconscious and then began to go upstairs to his wider awareness.
Example: “I had a baby girl, but I had no idea who the father was. I’m dating someone now, so I figured it was his, but she didn’t look like him at all. I remember I started going through this list of men I’d been with recently”.
A way to understand this dream is that you have given birth to a new part of yourself and your inner male is the father. This is said because of your uncertainty about who the father was, and that your baby girl did not look like the present partner. /so this makes it more certain that your baby was a creation with you and the processes of life in you, your inner male – or animus – which is a synthesis of all your male contacts.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-animus-jungs-view-of-the-male-in-the-female/
What are your feelings or thoughts about the baby as it appears in the dream?
What you feel and think about the baby gives an indication of how you are relating to the new or vulnerable part of yourself, or what worries you are discharging. Clarify them to recognise what may be helping or hindering this new experience in your life.
An example of this: I had a dream that I had a child and had to cancel a test because I had to take care of the baby. I was breast feeding the baby, because it is healthier to breast feed than to give formula from a bottle. The person that I had been seeing wanted to know what I thought I was doing. The question was in an accusatory manner, like I had no business breast feeding my own baby. Then I left the baby with my friends and left. When I came back, they were feeding the baby Tabasco sauce because they ran out of milk. This shocked me because I thought my friends were more responsible than that.
So there are two issues here. The first is the struggle and strength to oppose what is felt to be right in the face of other people’s opinions. The second is that other people can injure your vulnerable and growing self if you let them take over your decisions. In either case it is clear that you have the intuitive knowledge to see what is the best way to nurture your baby.
Is the dream baby my own child?
If we are parents we often dream about our own children. Occasionally such dreams express concerns we have about our own child. We have noticed something ‘out of the corner of our eye’, and the dream puts this into focus. But often such dreams use the child to illustrate a developing part of you. This is because your actual child has characteristics unique to itself. They may be adventurous, playful, thoughtful or highly verbal. To understand your dream you need to define how you see and feel about your child.
For instance a woman dreamt she was sitting on a window sill and was frightened of falling. So much so she couldn’t move. Then she reached out and took her small son’s hand and climbed into the building away from danger. In describing how she felt about her son, she said he was courageous and confident. So her dream was showing how, by reaching out for her own confidence and courage, however immature, she could overcome her anxiety about falling/failing. Her child calls out her inner strength to meet the situation and overcome the danger.
Can I help the baby in any way?
This is an important question to answer because your dreams often present you with opportunities to change or to grow. If the dream is dealing with an emerging part of your nature, or a new love or project, protecting and helping this new dimension of your life is important. So, for instance, if your baby needs feeding or affection, sit quietly and imagine yourself feeding the baby, or giving it affection. Do whatever you feel is needed to help it. See Secrets of Power Dreaming
Is this an intuition about a baby’s or my baby’s situation?
Quite often we dream about awful events in connection with our baby or child. Because these can be incredibly disturbing it is important to understand their meaning. As a first step there are at least two types of dreams that deal with disturbing events. The first type of dream is called ‘representative’. And the following is an example of it.
I am on a country walk with my wife and small son. I look back to see my son fall down a deep hole. I rush back to see him drowning, and wonder whether I should jump down to help him. Then suddenly he is okay and with me again.
The father was incredibly worried that it showed a bad situation for his son. But as we explored it we realised that the son represented his marriage. He had a terrible row with his wife the day before, and he was frightened that it was the end of their life together. The son in this dream was the result of their marriage, what they had created together. So if the son had died it would have shown the father feeling their marriage had no hope of a future. But the dream showed the son fully recovered, showing that even when he was feeling bad, his dream showed him a different outcome. So it represented the father’s intense feelings and the possible outcome.
The other type of dream can be called direct insight or prophetic. Such dreams are usually not in any way symbolic and are highly uncommon. They do not include such things as are in the above dream which quickly switches from danger to ease. The following dream is an example.
One morning my wife woke and told me she had dreamt about the baby of two of our friends. The friends, a man and wife, were living about 200 miles from us. We knew the wife was pregnant, and about a week or so before the dream we had received a short letter saying their baby, a boy, had been born. We were not on the telephone at the time, so the letter was our only means of communication.
In the dream my wife saw the baby and a voice from behind her told her the child was ill. Its illness, she was given to understand, was serious, and would need to be treated with a drug taken every day of the child’s life. The reason for this illness and the drug use, she was told, was because in a past life the person now born as the baby had committed suicide using a drug.
In this dream very definite information was given that could be checked. I didn’t take the dream seriously, thinking it was some sort of personally symbolic dream. The dream was sent to the couple, and about a week later a letter from them said that the letter and dream had crystallised their already existing anxiety about the baby. It had not been feeding well and was fretful. On taking it to the doctor nothing definite could be found but special tests were made in hospital. From these it was discovered the baby was dying. It lacked an enzyme which was needed to digest calcium. To compensate it was given a drug, which it has had to take every day of its life to make up for the lacking enzyme.
The dream did not represent a situation, it described it clearly. Also it could easily be checked. So if you are uncertain, always go for the representative dream, as prophetic dreams are extremely rare.
So the questions to ask are: Is this dream making a direct statement? If so can I check it for accuracy? If it is a representative dream, ask yourself what it represents symbolically, and go through the questions above.
Summing Up
From the answers you have given to the questions see if you can recognise what new thing has come into, or is emerging, in your life. What do you feel vulnerable about? Is it to do with someone you love? Is it a new attitude you have to the way you express yourself? Or perhaps it is a new project you have undertaken.
When you can connect the dream with your everyday experience, consider what the dream is depicting in its drama. Is it saying the baby is healthy and strong? Does your baby need support? Is it nourished? Whatever you have discovered from looking at your dream baby, try to use the insights in your everyday life. Build them into the way you feel and think, and watch your baby grow.
See Being the Person or Thing; Inner Baby and Child; also baby babies.
Comments
I had a dream that I was at my parents home (my mom just passed away last year and her favorite place in the house was the kitchen). There was an infant baby on the counter in the kitchen that everyone just left. I found it and brought it into the living room where I placed it on by chest and cradled it. I told my family that this was the way I had cradled my oldest daughter when she was an infant. Then I woke up.
Pamela – That is a lovely dream.
It tells me that when your mom passed she left something behind her that is very special. You found it because of your love and your feelings for your mother. And the baby wasn’t your mother, but something that was born out of everything that your mother left you. It isn’t a static gift but something that will respond to the love you give it, and will grow and thrive. You will gradually see it in things that appear in the way you see and respond to everyday life – the kitchen.
Tony
After a minor disagreement with my boyfriend before bedtime, I dreamed that I gave birth to a healthy, happy, and smiling baby boy (even though I looked barely pregant in the dream and gave birth at home with no pain). I was very happy and felt a lot of warmth, care, and protection towards my baby and cuddled him a great deal. Then I was lead away by a strange nurse through a sea of people (apparently in a shopping mall) for some sort of bogus medical exam. When I returned to my room, my baby was gone and no one would tell me where he had been taken. My mother had been in the room and other people I trusted. I woke up feeling very sad with a sinking feeling in my chest /stomach. The dream was very vivid and realistic … the voices, feelings, warmth and texture of the baby’s hair are easily remembered. I am 26, not pregnant and likely won’t be any time soon. Thanks for your thoughts on this!!
Allie – I believe this dream is about love that you gave birth to easily. Then you trusted others to care for it as you did yourself – but they were not, and probably are not to be trusted.
Love, like a new born baby, is such a precious gift you need to protect it with all you can. Your baby is not lost forever, so reclaim it.
Tony
I had this dream that I was in my room, and was sitting on my bed, watching a baby boy crawling on the floor playing with things, incl. my shoes, my cat and a teddy. I felt a lot of love for the child, quite overwhelming. I’m 16, not pregnant, don’t have a child and have no intentions of this for a long time. Can you tell me what this means?
Kyra – I once help a sixteen year old girl explore a dream and her body began to shake with such energy. It was, as I understood it that her Life wanted a baby, but she didn’t.
We each have two levels of will – to elp you understand this I quote from http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/what-we-need-to-remember-about-dreaming/
1. In life and sleep we have two powerful actions working in us. The first is our waking experience based on having a body, its limitations, vulnerabilities and a particular gender. Our second is the power that gave us life and continues to express as dreams.
2. While we sleep our conscious self is largely or totally unconscious, and while we sleep our voluntary muscles are paralysed – so another will or motivating force moves our body. So we have a Conscious Will, and what I will call a Life Will. The first one we have experience of as we can move our arm or speak; but the second will takes over when we sleep or sometimes while awake.
3. This Life will can move us to speak, to move our body, and in fact do things that we cannot do with our Conscious Will.
4. This Life Will or motivator has been active for millions of years and we see it working all the time in animals. We are partly split in half because we are often opposed to what our Life Will in us wants. So the only way to express what is good for us is in dreams when our conscious will is largely passive.
5. Life Will created your body and pre-existed you as a person you know today. It was working in you prior to your ability to speak or know in the way you do now. But of course it has fantastic wisdom and skills, as can be seen in animals.
Because you are now a woman in body, and presumably have menstruation, life in you wants to get on with procreation. That is an instinctive response to your being a woman physically. But of course we can either frustrate it, become pregnant, or use that enormous creative energy in other directions.
If you deny that part of you – the urge to procreate – you deny yourself. Do not cut yourself off from your roots otherwise you will die emotionally. To become free it is not necessary to repress that part of you. In fact that basic, primeval drive is your source of power. It is a great river of energy. Out of that your power arises. You do not have to become childbearing to have that creativity. Take hold of that primitive part of you, that ancient river of desire and longing, flow with it. Of course it will try to go in the old channels, the old pathways.
So help that young child grow and shower it with love, because it is a new part of you that wishes to grow in the way described above. Take the love you have and breathe in to it the breath of life. Take that child then take off and fly with it.
Tony
I had a dream of an infant baby girl that was being molested by teenage kid. i have NO children and I’m not pregnant ot trying. I’m really confused.
I had a dream that I was assisting in a young Asian woman’s childbirth, she was young and scared, I instructed her on breathing and pushing, when she did as I instructed, the baby crowned and then slipped right out, the baby was blue, I removed the “afterbirth” from the baby”s mouth and compressed the baby”s chest lightly, I then gave the baby to the young Asian woman. The dream started in an office environment and ended in a home.
Tania – You are obviously a caring person, and appear to be frequented with the birth process. And considering that any part of a dream is an expression of your feeling associations, it suggests you are caring for a slightly different part of you, one that seems vulnerable. An Asian woman in a white person’s dream often means you are caring for a part of you that you are unfamiliar with, something from within you, from your inner life. It can often be your intuitive self.
The baby is a new part of you that you caring nature has allowed to be born to you – again a vulnerable part that needs to be nurtured as it matures. But dream babies can mature incredibly quickly. To find out for yourself what the Asian girl and the baby represent try using http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-in-your-dream/
Tony
So I had this dream… I was 6 months pregnant and I was at home and i could feel the baby moving and kicking inside of me, especially its foot pressing against my left side near my hip… then all of a sudden I went into Labor and the baby popped out… i called to my husband in my dream (a man i only knew was there and could speak to but never actually saw)… he told me to quickly push the baby back in… but i told him the baby was fine and seemd healthy and i couldnt push it back it. The baby seemd healthy and cried and was complete. We then headed to the hospital and I took the baby to the nurses, by this time the baby had fallen asleep and the nurses came to me and told me my baby was a still born and that it had never been alive… i knew that wasn’t so, I layed near my baby for 3 hours and then the baby jsut woke up, as if it had been sleeping… we then were realeased from the hospital, all the nurses were confused. But everytime the baby fell asleep it would stop breathing and would have no pulse… i kept freaking out and eventually didn’t want the baby to sleep… it wasa constant state of panic and confusion. what does this all mean?
Kristi – You gave birth prematurely because this new baby, a wonderful new development of you, wanted to be born because it/you want to give something of yourself; something that you only vaguely feel stirring in you and you knew was on the way.
It is a special time at the moment, and this birth is a waking up to a new you that wants to give and be a part of what is happening in the world. The reason it can stop breathing when it sleeps – in the dream – is because you and everyone else needed to know this baby is special, and comes for a reason.
I think if you ask yourself what that reason is as you hold the baby in your arms you it will come to you. Maybe using the following will show you the depths of your dream – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-in-your-dream/
Tony
I have a recurring dream about “forgetting” that I have a small infant. I suddenly remember the baby and find that it is very weak and nearly starved to death. In one dream I remembered I had left the baby in the car. When I return for it, it is weak and near death. I always panic when I remember that I have a baby I haven’t taken care of. Sometimes I wake up in a sweat, panicked at the thought the baby will die and I will be in trouble for it.
Pam – You will be in trouble if you neglect that baby. But it is not an external baby, but memories of your own baby experience, that is calling to you again and again to care for it.
In some way many of us have not been loved, cared for or fed sufficiently. Rather like a plant, if it doesn’t get enough light, or nutrients, it growth will not be full and complete. The same applies to us, parts of us cannot grow and flower unless cared for, and so there is a part of you that needs attention. Having been born prematurely I had a lot of catching up to do.
It might help to read http://dreamhawk.com/health-and-healing/inner-baby-and-child/ and http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/your-inner-child/
If you recognise the dream as applying to you, the your dreams will change and educate you in what needs to be done.
Tony
I am a singel, nursing student, 23 years old who’s living alone and currently not dating. I am really longing for a baby though.
Last night I had this really clear dream – that I had a baby boy, who got sick with sepsis due to an infection and had to get respiratory care, and was hospitalized for months. I got to visit him during this time, see him but not hold him. I was crying a lot during this time. When he was 8 months he was let of the respiratory care and it was also the first time I could hold him. I walked in to him and I was very emotional, scared but happy at the same time. I changed his diaper and I was waiting for the nurses to come check on him. I know I was married and I was there with my husband but he was not in the room, I have no idea what he looked like in the dream or who he is? However, the baby got better and it felt like i had something to do with it… but I don’t know if we ever got out of there. And my husband never showed up, but I felt his support and we were waiting for him.
I am very curious what all this means, I usually don’t remember dreams this well! I’ve been thinking of this the whole day. Does it have something to do with my career as a nurse? Or my future in any way? I am really longing to meet someone and build a family, but I’ve had trouble meeting guys and trusting them so it feels like I’ll end up alone and childless. Should I worry? Thanks!!
Btw – I have a good relationship to my own parents who have been happily married for 26 years.
McKayla
McKayla – Thank you for trusting me with your dream, and being so open. It helps me to get insights into what your dream is about.
I feel that the dream revolves around your first statements – that you are 23, single and really wanting a baby.
Obviously this is a dream baby, and does not appear to me to be a prophetic dream. But a child, your dream baby, can represent your longing for a relationship and a baby; and your fear or anxiety that you might end up alone and childless has created a dream of a sick child. That is borne out by the end of the dream that you do not know whether the child will ever get out of there.
In fact I am guessing that you feel hopeless about having your real healthy baby with the support of a good man. You are a lovely young woman, are healthy and with so much love, and that love has turned inward and created this dream.
If you can do this – and I know it works – can you put your hand on your chest and feel your heat beating. That is Life, and it created you and has given you a longing for a partner and a baby. That action pumping you heart is universal; it is everywhere, in everyone. If you can get a feeling of that realise your own beauty – and I am not talking about film star stuff but the ordinary loveliness of you – and say to Life –“Here I am, you know me and you know how much I want to be a mother and with a partner. Help me find the right person to create a baby with.”
Tony
I am 34 white and my partner is black, we have 3 children. in my first dream my partners sister gives me a black baby boy wearing nothing but a nappy a few months old. in the second dream i have had a black baby girl (not mixed race in appearance) i am cradling her with my partner standing next to me. both these dreams have been in the last week.
i would love to know the meaning of these dreams as i am finding them quite confusing, thank you
Kayr – In neither of the dreams were you pregnant. So it seems as it if you want a baby, and perhaps you realise it is getting near the end of your time to easily have another child. But I do not see any signs wither that you should or should not have a child.
Tony
I had a dream that I gave birth to a baby boy and there was blood all over my carpet, The baby died and the doctor brought him back to life, I was soo proud of the baby in my dream, I was excited and almost didn’t want to wake up, I have missed my period for two months and was spotting for a week when I should have been on my period, I took two pregnancy tests that were negative and now I am wondering if this dream is trying to tell me something? Anyone have some help???
Ashley – Because pregnancy tests are usually so accurate I feel that you were experiencing a false pregnancy – thus the baby died.
But the doctor bringing the baby back to life suggests that you could get pregnant again quickly, and this time it will take and grow and you can have the baby you will feel proud of.
Tony
Hi there, I had a dream that my 2yr old had a really runny tummy. There was another child visiting with his mother – also a toddler who’s dirty nappie spilled out onto me. Can you tell me what this might mean. Many thanks. Tania (South Africa)
Tania – This is something that is spilling over into your life. Something you could do without.
This is probably a load of garbage that someone has said to you or has unloaded onto you. It has influenced you because of your concern about your child.
Tony
I dreamt that I had a new baby boy that was very advanced and was speaking to me and my son…he was also using his hands while he was talking and he said something about the number two and held up two fingers for emphasis. My ex-husband also showed up briefly and he was supposed to change the baby’s diaper but he couldn’t figure it out or he didn’t want to and then he was gone. (My ex-husband left the family about 3 ½ years ago and it left our lives very devastated…anyway, I don’t think that the baby was his.) I leave the room and come back and realize that the baby is quite lovely with hazel eyes and still has newbirth on his forehead. I was surprised that I had a baby but as soon as I realized that he was mine I jumped right in and gladly accepted him. My almost 5 year=old son, in reality, has been asking/telling me for months about his new brother and that he is very excited that he will be a big brother…when my son speaks about this child it’s as if he knows something that I don’t. I’m not in a relationship and am actually quite unsatisfied with my life currently but am always hopeful (even if only way deep down). Can you please let me know your thoughts?
Ki – This is a wonderful dream, and I have to find a way in which all the pieces fit together meaningfully.
For instance you say, “I was surprised that I had a baby but as soon as I realized that he was mine I jumped right in and gladly accepted him.” Now that suggests that he wasn’t a baby you carried and probably didn’t have a normal father. Nevertheless he was yours, and beautiful and advanced, and he spoke to you and your son.
So my strongest feeling is that the son represents a wonderful new thing coming into your life; something that your ex doesn’t have any connections with and cannot or does not have the capacity to deal with. Your son feels it coming though and welcomes it.
But it could also be that you are already chosen to be the mother of an exceptional child, and now you have to wait for it to work out. I had similar experience many years ago and it is mentioned on this site under pregnancy.
In any case you are an exceptional mother and whatever you bring into the world, whether it is a child or a new impulse, it will be special. These are special times and need special children or abilities.
Tony
HI! Lastnight my husband had a werid dream of our daugther she isn’t yet born. He dreamed that I went into labor early. He also dreamed that she could talk and walk already when she was born that is kinda of alarming for me. I was just wondering if you could describe it for me.
Jennifer – This dream is completely normal and is nothing to be alarmed by.
In our dreams we present things that are mostly about our much ignored inner life. Because we see our outer life as the most important we judge dreams to be literally about the physical world. The opposite is the truth. Nothing in the outer world has existed by itself.
Anyway – the dream is saying that your daughter has a Soul – not a body – she is what has been called an ‘old soul’. She, like many others born at this time, has something to do, a destiny; maybe not a front row person, but someone who has something to contribute.
So watch out for any early interests she has and give her some headway.
Tony
The dream I had about a baby was that i was pregnant and i had the child but the doctors put me out of the hospital and didnt even let me name it…what does this mean. I am only 21 and yes i do often think of my neice. could it be bc i miss her so much or that i long for a baby of my own..the baby in my dream was a girl. please help me i am very confused.
Krista – This may sound strange, it sounds strange to me as I think about it, but what happened at the time of your birth? Was there a time when you were parted from your mother?
You see we often dream about a baby and it can represent yourself at that age, and being parted from your baby must have produced a difficult feeling in this dream. See if you can allow yourself to feel what it was like to not even name your baby. This can sometimes lead to an understanding of the dream.
Tony
Dear Tony, I am very happy to have found this article! I’ve been having different dreams about the same situation for the past few weeks now. I’m currently 19, have dropped out of college to figure out what my passion is in life, cannot find a job, and am looking for a place with my boyfriend who is also in a similar situation. Only he is a type one diabetic who doesn’t get along with his parents and is currently living with me and my family. If you would help me with these dreams I would greatly appreciate it! The first one I had was of my holding my new baby boy, and I kept running up and down the streets looking for my friends and family. I eventually found them in a church waiting for me, but I never let go of my baby. I act like he is a newborn but he is the size of at least an 8 month old. My boyfriend never appears in the dream, but the whole time I assume it’s his. The second dream was in my house, in my childhood bedroom where I am holding my new baby boy. For a second there are twins but I only hold one and I leave the other one laying on the carpet. I then go downstairs to show my extended family my baby boy but I refuse to let my aunt hold him. When I return upstairs the twin is gone, and I only have one baby and for some reason I am fine with this. It’s as if the twin never existed, and once again my boyfriend never shows up, even though it’s assumed he’s the father. The third dream I would like to share happened just last night. I was sleeping in my parents bed (which I used to do a lot as a child because I had so much trouble sleeping) and my baby boy is in a crib next to me. My boyfriend appears for a split second and just hands the child to me and then disappears. I then return to my childhood bedroom and will not let go of the baby. I eventually put him down next to me to sleep in a playpen. The one thing I want to stress through these dreams is that I always love the baby very much, he is always a boy, always mine, and I hate letting go of him. The baby is always healthy and smiling and never needs food or anything, but I’m always holding him. Also, I’m wondering why I assume he is also my boyfriend’s child but he never shows up in the dreams. We have been fighting lately, it’s been stressful at home, and all i want to do is get out of here and grow up already. Anyways, when I wake up from my dreams I always find myself wanting that baby boy. Thank you for your time!
Alex – Let us first deal with the boyfriend in – or not in – your dreams. The person you dream about is not the person you dream of – they are your own thoughts, feelings and hopes you put into their shape. So your boy friend is a representative only of a male figure, and in your dreams does not play any dynamic part. All he does do is give you the baby and leaves. That is what your dreaming self sees as his role.
You say that you are trying “to figure out what my passion is in life”. Well it seems obvious to me that it is to give birth to this baby boy you keep dreaming about. Since early teens or from the age of three I knew deep down what I wanted to do and I have supported that wonderful urge by working at whatever would earn enough to do it. So maybe if you get a guy who could support you, or even support yourself and your baby, it could work.
Another thing that you say that is a move toward the goal is, as you again said, “all I want to do is get out of here and grow up.”
Tony