Dreaming about your child often relates to how you feel about her. Is she an adventurous creative person? If so then it will usually be depicting your own feelings of creativity and risk taking. Is she an introverted person, or anxious. Are you worried about her? If so then the dream is either about your own urges to withdraw, or your feelings of concern for her.

Any child is a fruit, an expression of the marriage or relationship from which she sprang. So she can represent what is happening, or what is being felt, about the relationship. So a sick child could represent problems in the relationship.

In a mother’s dream: Your daughter could represent the support you get from her; any ties you feel through being her parent; or even your own feelings and difficulties at her age, that might be surfacing at the time of the dream. You might even be feeling her as a competitor because of her youth.

A feelings of not being alone in the area of emotional bonds; or one’s feeling area. It can also represent the responsibility or the ties of parenthood.

Sometimes it is oneself at that age; one’s own urges, difficulties, hurts, which may still be operative.

A comparison. The mother might see the daughter’s youth, opportunity, and have feelings about that. So the daughter may represent her sense of lost opportunity and youth – even envy; competition in getting the desire of a man.

In a father’s dream: Your daughter usually represent your feelings, your more feminine or receptive side. So problems in the dream could suggest you are having difficult allowing your feelings to mature. She could also depict whatever difficult feelings you have about mistake you have made in the relationship, or self recriminations you experience. When she starts courting, dreaming of her might also point out the struggle you have to let go.

One’s relationship with the daughter – in other words what feelings you have had regartding her recently. The daughter, or son, can represent what happens in a marriage between husband and wife. The child is what has arisen from the bonding, however momentary, of two people.

In dreams the child therefore is sometimes used to depict how the relationship is faring. So a sick daughter might show the feelings in the relationship being ‘ill’. See Characters and People in Dreams this can help enormously in understanding your dream.

In a father’s dream: One’s feeling self; the feelings or difficulties about the relationship with daughter. Or it can illustrate the struggles one’s own feeling self goes through to mature; how the sexual feelings are dealt with in a family situation – occurs especially when she starts courting. It can also indicate ones sister; parental responsibility; one’s wife when younger.

Someone else’s daughter: Feelings about one’s own daughter; feelings about younger women.

Death of daughter: This can sometimes suggest you are losing your daughter because she is becoming independent. But it can signify feelings of great loss, or the end of something such as a relationship.

Example: ‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F.

Such dreams of the daughter becoming independent can occur as soon as the child starts school, persisting until the mother finds a new attitude. See: child; woman.

Useful Questions and Hints:

What way do I describe my daughter to a stranger?

What are my secredt feelings about her?

What was my relationship with her in the dream?

See Techniques for Exploring your DreamsAssociations Working With


-CARLOS 2018-02-27 14:35:29


-Sonia Shandil 2017-07-15 7:42:33

Hi for last 2months I have been having dream that my 10 old daughter is in having sex ,first time I saw it was with the dad and then again I saw it with my cousin.i don’t know what this means but it is very scary

    -Tony Crisp 2017-07-17 11:03:12

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/news/summing-up/ and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/


    Sonia – In dreams we often use our own children to represent ourselves when at that age. So it is not your daughter who is having sex but your child self living out its sexualdevelopment.

    It has long been recognised that as children we do not have the social taboos of adults. So they want to love what they love. It is called the Electra Complex. Women at a certain stage of their development often dream of having sex with their father. As shocking as this may seem to the waking person it is a way a woman or young woman can achieve a real sense of equality with her mother in competition with her father. In this way she can move on to a real sexual maturity. See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electra_complex

    Your father was the very first person you loved, with full sensual and sexual feelings. And so of course he was the first person you desired, but our social taboos block the natural satisfaction of this, but we often, if we are free to some extent of such taboos, experience it in dreams.

    Example: I have been having erotic dreams of my father since adolescence. The dreams are elaborate, long and highly arousing and end with intense and multiple orgasms. The dreams are often of me seducing my father and my father willingly being seduced or of my father and I having passionate sex. The context of these dreams is that my mother is looking on and we are ignoring her or she is preventing us from being happy and having sex together and being in love with each other. Needless to say, the dreams are disturbing when I wake up and I feel really bad about them.

-JENNIFER 2017-07-07 15:27:58



-Victoria C. 2017-05-16 11:58:39

I dreamt that my young daughter was lost at a big high school function. She had yellow hair bows and was wearing a yellow shirt with dark denim shorts. In the process of looking for her, I found a little lost boy who was sick and looking for his mommy and daddy. While walking around, we saw an outside pool type of area that had murky water with people swimming in it as if it were clean.

-Viji 2017-02-20 1:28:56

I dreamt that my 23year old daughter was lighting a fire to something but suddenly the firw was caught to the electrical wire.. Then i put some blankets on it & trying to stop.

    -Tony Crisp 2017-02-20 11:39:22

    Hi – I am stopping from answering your posts fully – but will try to give hints; sometimes long ones because I quote from masses I have already put online. Also I need to take time to update the site – dreamhawk.

    It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practicing what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPersonOrThing or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/


    Nearly always when people dream about someone they know or a strange new person or situation they automatically believe the dream is about that person, situation, or animal. But when we think of our friend or partner our thoughts are not them – just our thoughts and feelings about them.

    So, dream images are ways of communicating via our associations not actual things or people. In the world of dreams our most intimate fears and longings are given an exterior life of their own in the form of the people, objects, and places of our dream. How do you associate your daughter – clever, crazy, adventurous, what? Why is that part of you creating a fire – destruction – transformation – change?

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