Dreaming about your child often relates to how you feel about her. Is she an adventurous creative person? If so then it will usually be depicting your own feelings of creativity and risk taking. Is she an introverted person, or anxious. Are you worried about her? If so then the dream is either about your own urges to withdraw, or your feelings of concern for her.

Any child is a fruit, an expression of the marriage or relationship from which she sprang. So she can represent what is happening, or what is being felt, about the relationship. So a sick child could represent problems in the relationship.

In a mother’s dream: Your daughter could represent the support you get from her; any ties you feel through being her parent; or even your own feelings and difficulties at her age, that might be surfacing at the time of the dream. You might even be feeling her as a competitor because of her youth.

A feelings of not being alone in the area of emotional bonds; or one’s feeling area. It can also represent the responsibility or the ties of parenthood.

Sometimes it is oneself at that age; one’s own urges, difficulties, hurts, which may still be operative.

A comparison. The mother might see the daughter’s youth, opportunity, and have feelings about that. So the daughter may represent her sense of lost opportunity and youth – even envy; competition in getting the desire of a man.

In a father’s dream: Your daughter usually represent your feelings, your more feminine or receptive side. So problems in the dream could suggest you are having difficult allowing your feelings to mature. She could also depict whatever difficult feelings you have about mistake you have made in the relationship, or self recriminations you experience. When she starts courting, dreaming of her might also point out the struggle you have to let go.

One’s relationship with the daughter – in other words what feelings you have had regartding her recently. The daughter, or son, can represent what happens in a marriage between husband and wife. The child is what has arisen from the bonding, however momentary, of two people.

In dreams the child therefore is sometimes used to depict how the relationship is faring. So a sick daughter might show the feelings in the relationship being ‘ill’. See Characters and People in Dreams this can help enormously in understanding your dream.

In a father’s dream: One’s feeling self; the feelings or difficulties about the relationship with daughter. Or it can illustrate the struggles one’s own feeling self goes through to mature; how the sexual feelings are dealt with in a family situation – occurs especially when she starts courting. It can also indicate ones sister; parental responsibility; one’s wife when younger.

Someone else’s daughter: Feelings about one’s own daughter; feelings about younger women.

Death of daughter: This can sometimes suggest you are losing your daughter because she is becoming independent. But it can signify feelings of great loss, or the end of something such as a relationship.

Example: ‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F.

Such dreams of the daughter becoming independent can occur as soon as the child starts school, persisting until the mother finds a new attitude. See: child; woman.

Useful Questions and Hints:

What way do I describe my daughter to a stranger?

What are my secredt feelings about her?

What was my relationship with her in the dream?

See Techniques for Exploring your DreamsAssociations Working With


-Brit Brat 2017-01-02 13:13:47

Last night on new years I had a dream that there was a man put kidnapping kids so I took my youngest daughter with me who is 5, my other kids were there and a lot of friends, the man who was supposed to be the kidnapper I don’t think it was, but anywho we went to a busy metro station mind you i dont live in the city anymore, she got away from me I dont know how she was not holding my hand anymore when I turned around she had go hit my an oncoming train, then out of nowhere the so called kidnapper shows up in front of me, I said you killed my baby, I was even on t.v. news on my dreams I remember my face and the hurt I felt and the pain confusion all over it, I woke up when I thought my heart was gonna bust in my dreams, I saw my daughter’s face next to mine in my bed sleeping where she belongs

-Peter O'Hara 2016-11-28 1:08:26

I had a dream where my daughter came home early from an audition with a dirty face. (It was like she had a dried beard of dirt/mud). She said she did not have to do the dance audition.
I was concerned that something had happened.
She was not distressed at all.
She went into character and was relating a story about meeting a fellow thespian on the train to/from the audition.
I was getting annoyed as I wanted to know what happened to her but she just kept delivering this monologue in character of what the other thespian had told her on the train..
The only thing I remember of it was that she said she was going to Las Vegas for her “cameo appearance”.
All of this took place our kitchen pantry.

Prior to this part of the dream I dreamed our house was invaded by a dance class who just decided to conduct their dance classes in our home. I spoke to the dance instructor and said I wasn’t happy and she should have asked permission first.

-Alexis 2016-10-28 21:16:01

I’m having strange feelings about a dream I had 2 nights ago. But first let me explain I do have a boyfriend and daughter that is not his biologically and we just recently suffered pregnancy loss at 16 weeks last month. It was a boy. We also had relationship problems really bad before and during the pregnancy and him cheating was one issue. So this is what is strange to me. My dream was I had another daughter along with my current daughter. She looked just like my boyfriend. She had his nose eyes and hair color but the thinness of my hair. he kept obsessing over her in the dream and he was happy the the entire time. I kept telling him in the dream they were so cute together and he was an amazing father. I felt real emotions in that dream. It felt like we were an actual family! Is this is literal dream or metaphorical?. Cause in the dream this little girl was a daddys girl and it wasnt the baby I lost cause it was a boy. We haven’t even talked about another baby. Its only been a month since we lost the baby. But It almost makes me want to have another girl!

    -Tony Crisp 2016-10-31 9:24:18

    Alexis – You may not be dreaming about your actual boyfriend, but your own inner male.

    When you think about a boyfriend or a person you meet, you are only taking in your thoughts, impressions and feelings about them, and in dreams that is what you meet. So many people do not realise that they have an inner person equally as powerful as the external person you know. You have taken in millions of bits of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by meeting or living with them, and they are what makes you the person you are. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner person can appear in dreams because you still carry the memories or impressions of them, and so they influenced what you hold within you.

    But your dream boyfriend is obviously an edited/improved version and might be your real inner male. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-animus-jungs-view-of-the-male-in-the-female/

    The child you dreamt of is almost certainly what you created as inner partners and gave birth to your inner child. It is innate in women to dream of being creative and giving birth in their dreams. So, I believe that such a baby is a very real part of you – though an inner and not always an outer part. If you have given birth to a baby in a dream, it can represent a new phase of life; a new idea; new activity – as when we say someone has a new baby, meaning a new project or business. This ‘baby’ might be part of you that did not have a chance to be ‘born’ or express before. Or it may be things learned in a rich life that you could not put into practice because of circumstances.


-Elida 2016-10-04 15:20:57

I have had so much anxiety thinking about a dream I’ve had involving my daughter. My family and I are sitting in a room when a psychic lady comes in and asked how the little kid that is dying is doing. My sister freaks out thinking it is her son, but the lady then says that it is my daughter who is dying of a chronic kidney disease. What does this mean? I’m so afraid it means horrible things!

    -Tony Crisp 2016-10-06 12:39:20

    Elida – It is anxiety that is the killer, not the kidney illness. For anxiety is making you helpless, and if your dream has any truth you should be acting on it and getting her checked. Again, if it is true, maybe your daughter has a disease she could die of, but such things can be stopped by modern medicine. So get up and stop it.

    If she hasn’t got such an illness, then the dream is illustrating a mother’s extraordinary anxiety – natural in being a mother. Mothers have an enormously increased anxiety about their baby. They see all manner of things that might be a threat, and I believe that is what such dreams show. Your imagination for such dangers is enormously increased.


-Sukie 2016-09-22 8:27:10


I was looking for a meaning of a recurring dream my mother has. For a long time now, she dreams of me as a small child,always aged between three and six .She never dreams of me as a teenager or adult.I am 28. She is one really brave woman who did not have an easy life. She doesn’t open up easily and is really reserved with her words and emotions.My mother is old school and being around her was not always easy.I hope that you will be able to interpret this dream.Thank you in advance.

    -Tony Crisp 2016-09-22 11:01:21

    Sukie – Nearly always when people dream about someone they know or a strange new person or situation they automatically believe the dream is about that person, situation or animal. But when we think of our friend or partner our thoughts are not them – just our thoughts and feelings about them. So dream images are ways of communicating via our associations not actual things or people. In the world of dreams our most intimate fears and longings are given an exterior life of their own in the form of the people, objects and places of our dream.

    The dream is most likely about herself at a young age. As I said, dream images are developed through our associations. Her image of you at that age was probably associated with caring for you, and most mothers are very worried about their child being hurt or killed.

    So my guess is she had a hard time at that age herself, and she can create a change by imagining the dream ‘you’ making satisfying changes. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/secrets-power-dreaming/


-Aluradana 2016-09-21 16:13:44

Hi .
I’m pregnant and I just had a dream about me having my own daughter but she was in trouble in school she was about 4yrs old . I have no idea what this means and I need help of understanding . Please comment . Thank you !

    -Tony Crisp 2016-09-22 13:20:02

    Aluradana – Don’t be too worried by anxiety dreams about the baby. Virtually all women have awful dreams during pregnancy. Only get worried if they persist. A scan can quickly see if you are anxious or intuitive.

    But you didn’t give much background information, and so I wondered whether your daughter had problems at school, which could account for the dream. You might have a boy anyway. See http://dreamhawk.com/pregnancy-childbirth/the-baby-in-your-dream/


-Janice 2016-09-03 16:16:38

i dreamed i was putting turmeric paste on my face and my daughter was playing with a kitten. then the kitten scratched me and i saw turmeric paste on the left cheek of my 3 year old daughter. do i have to worry about anything with my daughter?

-Nicci 2016-08-13 5:14:44

My Mom just sent me a text message to say she has had a dream about me. In waking life we live in different countries because of my work. I try to go home at least 3 times per year. I’m not involved with anyone. So she tells me in her dream I come home, wearing a blue dress with Scottish trim. I have a whole new family in tow and I tell het that I got married. She says in the dream she feels happy that I have found love but also very upset that she wasn’t part of the wedding. Mom says that in waking life she just wants me to be happy no matter what. This dream seems to bother her very much. Could you possibly shed some light on it?

    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2016-08-16 7:53:42

    Dear Nicci – Your mother’s dream may reflect her thoughts about the changes you go through without her being able to be a daily witness of your growth process; http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/individuation/
    In dreams the family is a symbol for the values, attitudes and emotional or social responses you have absorbed from your family.
    So when you show up in your mother’s dream with a “whole new family in tow” it reflects your mother’s awareness of your inner changes; of uniting with new aspects inside you and if the new dream family consists of your children too of the flowering of new abilities or qualities.
    Her being upset about this in the dream opens up the possibility to explore her feelings about the sometimes difficult process of letting go of your child; http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
    See also http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/opening-to-life/
    Anna 🙂

-Bee 2016-06-22 11:39:59

hey guys, I have a question and I’m in deep need of help !!

My mother had a dream a few nights ago about my future with my boyfriend.
She dreamt that I was living a struggling life with him along with our kids apparently. So I was working hard to get the money to provide for the family. He was not earning as much as myself. She said it seemed as though the plans that he has put into place for him (FYI he wants to be a cop) just does not seem to go to plan and has ended up going from one job to another.

I’m not too sure what this all means so I hope you guys can help 🙂

-Joan 2016-06-06 10:27:05

I dreamed my daughter was severely beaten and slashed all the way up her arm. She appeared to be about 17 in the dream, she’s 21, and when I frantically asked her who did this to her she responded by saying “the diseases in the household ” in the dream she was at the house of one of her friends. In the dream I knew this was a group attack. I’m Besides myself with worry after having this dream last night. Can you please tell me what this means???

-Maria 2016-04-03 12:35:55

I dreamed I was showering my 4yr old daughter she was looking at me smilling as I was so I felt happy but I’m scared it might mean other way around. What does it mean?

-Marietjie 2016-02-04 14:47:22

My friend dreamed he was old and grey and his current girlfriend was the sister of their child together and her eldest son. They have had an extremely difficult relationship. What does it mean?

-Shem 2016-01-10 21:23:10

My mother dreamt that my boyfriend hit me. What might that mean?

-Breda 2015-10-06 6:27:39

Nightmare!!!!! I had a dream my 5 year old was pregnant.. Then a sibling tried to baptize her in the tub she became demonic.. She gave birth in the toilet to a baby boy… Since she wasn’t babtize I was scared to get the baby out the toilet.. I ended up getting him out (he had a scar on his left side of his face,but was healthy) BUT WHAT ABOUT THE BEGINNING OF THE DREAM. Help!!! What does this scary Dream mean?????

-Svetlana 2015-09-10 11:38:36

Hi there,
I saw my 15 y o daughter naked and swimming in a small pretty dirty lake. I saw my ex bf sitting on the riverside. My feelings were like – that’s ok, I was even a bit proud of her.
The whole dream was about my ex bf with whom I splitted 8 month ago and there are still unresolved issues. I wonder why my daughter was there.
Thank you for any clue…I just worry what does it mean for my child

    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2015-09-20 14:07:28

    Dear Svetlana – Both in this dream and in the other dream you posted you leave out part of the dream.
    That is somewhat like asking me to bake pancakes from the flour you did not bring 😉
    So how about you share the whole dream?
    Anna 🙂

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