Death

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Death of someone known

Death of yourself

Death of child

Death the walking dead or rigor-mortis

Death dancing with or meeting dark figure

There are two forms of death and any study of death needs to be aware of them.

  • The easiest one for us to confront is the death if the body. This occurs when the body is badly injured, has suffered a bad illness or is dying from old age and so cannot support the intricacies of consciousness, then consciousness can longer function in the body.
  • Another one that many people are not aware of is ‘ego death’. There are many descriptions of ego death, in fact the term Ego Death is misleading, because nothing dies in this  process of enormous process of growth, instead it is a huge enlargement, a massive shift of our ideas and experience of who and what we are. The history of those who obviously have experienced this enlightened state, does not show that their experience of themselves has disappeared, it has been transformed. It occurs when we have stopped living in our thinking, beliefs and opinions – or what is sometimes thought of as our personality.A man, Anthony, describes the experience of it by saying, ‘I was sitting opposite someone during an enlightenment intensive workshop. We had been posing the question for days – “Who are you?” Suddenly I realised that it was a silly question, because I was the answer. All thought stopped and I existed as the answer. My being had always been this. In this state there was an awareness of being connected with everything around me, in the beginning of creation. This was the first day.While in the state of simple existence I was able to observe many things I am usually not aware of. For instance while I simply existed, my usual pattern of behaviour and thought went through contortions to be the centre of attention again. I could see them almost like habits, systems, that have life, like a body does, and they were dying and twitching in their death throes. Also I saw that I knew that all thought is like a mimic, so all our thinking is like photocopies, without any real life. Also as I saw this I had an image of a monkey that was actually my normal thinking self running alongside my every motion and trying to mimic it. It was almost as if as I as a person walked along, another mechanical person ran alongside trying to keep up and mimicking everything I did in an attempt to be alive and real. Yet thought can never be life. If you think of dog, the thought can never be a living creature, just a word.’

    Another person says, ‘Unexpectedly everything changed and my fundamental self was something that existed throughout all time. It didn’t have a beginning or end. There was no goal to achieve. I am.

    I am a wave on a shoreless sea.
    From no beginning
    I travel to no goal,
    Making my movements stillness.
    Constantly I am arriving
    And departing,
    Being born and dying.
    I am always with you
    And yet have never been.’

    Slightly different but still the same enlightenment. ‘Everything seemed to slip away and I felt as if I melted back into the primal being of the universe. It didn’t seem as if my ego was gone, just melted into everything else. It was blissful.’

Dreaming of death: Some aspect of your outer or inner life is fading, or being superseded by a changed approach or attitude, so may be shown as dying. Your drive to achieve something might die, and be shown as a death in your dreams. Changing from adolescence to puberty, maturity to old age, are also shown as oneself dying. Lost opportunities or unexpressed potentials in oneself are frequently shown as dead bodies.

But death of anything also involves a tremendous release of energy as the form breaks down. But the various levels of energy involved in the death of a person are never lost, for energy cannot ever be lost, it is transferred and used elsewhere. A transformation takes place. The consciousness and energy that gave the body life also goes through a process of transformation into universal life.

All of us unconsciously learn attitudes or survival skills from parents and others. If these are unrecognised they may be shown as dead. Sometimes we have killed the child or teenager in us because of difficulties or trauma at those ages, and these may be seen as a dead person in one’s dream. Some death dreams may show the awakening of new life in the dreamer. For instance, Sue worked on a dream in which she was told her baby had died. She woke shaking with grief and tears. The dream and emotions appeared to show her becoming alive enough to feel the grief of her past pain as it connected with the death of her hopes, love, and ideals. She had suppressed her pain for so long. In now coming alive enough to feel her emotions, she was feeling at last that something had died in her.

Because you cannot actually die in your dreams. It is like you become totally involved in a movie that you can only escape from by waking. But when you wake things are the same – you are not dead – but you have been enriched by a lot of new experiences. I feel so deeply that our society does not let us die. What a terrible thing! The process of death isn’t just your heart stopping, it is a long process of shifting values, of creating a self that is no longer so deeply identified with the things of the world. The way our society is structured forces the ageing individual to go on and on almost like a hunter or warrior tied to processes in the external world trying to pay their way. Why I wonder? It seem so strange that the Stone Age societies living in very difficult circumstances, without our massive technological back-up, could manage to support their ageing and allow them a period of sinking into death. We, with massive resources, cannot do this. I felt a tremendous desire here to let go of all my worldly activities. I wanted to hand all my savings over to my sons and say, look, you care for this. All I ask is for a small amount of money to pay for my food and basic needs. I dearly wanted to give up and live from within myself.

Also parts of ones feelings sometimes die. Our love for someone might die for instance, and so our dream illustrates this with a death, perhaps of that person. Some teenagers dream of their parents dying as they start to become independent. This is a form of killing of dependent feelings about their parents as a means of growth. This happens in some relationships too, where we want to break with the person. See Dimensions of Human Experience

“The dead differ from the living only in this respect: they are in a permanent dream state the subconscious state because the conscious mind of the physical body no longer exists. But the body is an expendable shell, and all else is intact. On the astral level of existence, the sub-conscious mind replaces the conscious mind of the soul, and the superconscious replaces the subconscious.  Hence, in dreams, we find that communication with those who have passed on is more logical than the average person is able to comprehend.” Quote from Edgar Cayce.

Death of someone known: Frequently, as in the example, this might express desire to be free of them, or unexpressed aggression. Perhaps your love for or connection with that person has ‘died’. We often ‘kill’ our parents in dreams as we move toward independence. Or we may want someone ‘out of the way’ so we do not have to compete for attention and love. When someone we know dies lots of things happen to us. First of all we have always thought of the person as being outside of us. Then suddenly they are gone from the outside world, and we either think of them as gone forever never to be seen again; or we do what dreams often do and find them inside of us. In this way we can discover a new relationship with them, either because they now communicate with us as a dead person, or we receive from them what they left in us.

Example: ‘During my teens I was engaged to be married when I found a more attractive partner and was in considerable conflict. Consistently I dreamt I was at my fiancé’s funeral until it dawned on me the dream was telling me I wanted to be free of him. When I gave him up the dreams ceased.’ Mrs. D.

Death of yourself: You might be exploring your feelings about death, or retreating from the challenge of life. Sometimes it expresses a split between mind and body. The experience of leaving the body is frequently an expression of this schism between the ego and life processes. It could also be death of old patterns of living – your ‘old self’, or the loss of the traits that limit your awareness to an identity connected only to your body.

Example: ‘I dream I have a weak heart which will be fatal. It is the practice of doctors in such cases to administer a tablet causing one painlessly to go to sleep – die. I am completely calm and accepting of my fate. I suddenly realise I must leave notes for my parents and children. I must let them know how much I love them, must do this quickly before my time runs out.’ Mrs. M.

This is a frequent type of ‘death’ dream. It is a way of reminding yourself to do now what you want – especially regarding love.

Example: During a major operation I dreamt I saw my little daughter – dead for many years – standing in a corn field. When she was actually buried the cemetery was skirted by a corn field, and later in life, coming to terms with this early death of a child, I imagined my daughter walking into the corn field. In the dream I walked into the corn field. My daughter was waiting for me with her arms held up. I put my arms to her and we greeted each other smiling. At that point I felt it wasn’t time to die yet, turned and walked out of the corn field.  Ken S. Example: I was upstairs watching T.V. with my dog laying on the bed. I heard a motorbike out in the yard. I went downstairs and the dog followed me and this person on the bike tried to run the dog over. My husband came out and told me to go back to bed. I picked the dog up and started up the stair, reached the top and there was a big gap from the top of the stairs to the bedroom door, so to get to the bedroom I had to jump across this gap. I tried to jump this gap but missed and I fell and hit the bottom. The next thing I remember was I was floating up, I looked down and saw myself lying face down with arms spread out and I suddenly realised I was dead. I was so frightened that I woke up. I had the feelings of fear of dying and that the dog had been killed. I felt no pain.

The dream is obviously about her fear of dying, and also shows that even if one hits the ground one does not actually die, but experiences feelings of dying.

Death of child: Dreaming that your child dies can have several meanings. In some dreams a parent, much to their horror dreams of killing their child; or as one dreamer said, “I saw him jump off a bridge to his death.” This occurred at a time when her young son was making his first moves toward independence, and it was a difficult thing for the mother to face – the loss of her son. So it can easily be shown as the death of ones child in a dream. Another women describes it differently as follows:

‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F

Mrs F was dreaming about her young daughter leaving her, and she has to grieve it, almost like a death.

This can mean a lot of other things than your actual child dying. For instance a man told me a dream that worried him enormously about walking with his wife and his young son fell down a hole and was apparently dead. But in fact he had had a terrible row with his wife that day, and it was showing the child as what they had created between them. In fact the dream child recovered as did their marriage. Your child dying can also be a warning that your inner child is dying. We each carry some awful memories from childhood that are shown in our dreams as our child. So it is worth taking hold of your apparently dead child – nothing can actually die in our dreams – and hold it and tell it you love it. Watch any feelings that emerge as you do this and any tears you shed. See what you understand from what you feel. Of course this could be a ‘mother’s’ dream in which your terror of losing your child is dreamt. A woman ones told me a dream in which her daughter was murdered. As we helped the woman explore her dream – not interpret it – she burst out into enormous sobs, crying that her daughter was leaving home and she was terrified of losing her. The girl was never murdered. See Baby or child hurt or killed So ask yourself what your fears are about.

But our dream child can represent many things, and it is useful to realise that any person, object or scene in a dream is not a symbol – it is not dead thing that has to be interpreted – it is a living part of you and can only be understood by relating to it. So in this way I have found that a child can represent whatever our strongest feelings about them are. It can represent your marriage or partnership because it is what you have created between you. In that case the death of the child can depict something like an awful argument that feels as if it the marriage has died.

A child and its death can also show you how you have killed out the growing or adventurous side of you; or if you see your child as vulnerable and needing protection it could show you the death of that part of your feelings.

So you need to ask yourself what your dream child depicts as a living part of you.

When our child actually dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this. See Life’s Little Secrets

For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’ Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’. When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality. After her converstation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.

Death the walking dead or rigor mortis: Aspects of you that are denied, perhaps through fear.

Death dancing with or meeting dark figure: Facing up to death and developing a different attitude to it – unless of course you are running away. If you turn around and face these figures you will break through to a different way of life. Death of someone close to us: As explained above, this often refers to ones own feelings or talents that have been hurt, denied, or ‘killed out’ by events and your response to them. The following example illustrates this.

‘My son comes in and I see he is unwashed and seems preoccupied and as if he has not cared for himself for some days. I ask him what is wrong. He tells me his mother is dead. I then seem to know she has been dead for days, and my two sons have not told anyone. In fact my other son has not even accepted the fact.’ Anthony.

Anthony is a divorcee. Processing the dream he realised the two sons are ways he is relating to the death of his marriage – the children’s mother. Although the unconscious has a very real sense of its eternal nature and continuance after physical death, our conscious personality seldom shares this.

Also we all we all carry within us ideas, behaviours, talents and ways of life from those now dead. The farmer today unconsciously uses the collective experience of humanity in farming. What innovation he does today his children or others will learn and carry into the future. This aspect of a life beyond the physical is shown in many dreams.

For instance a man I knew dreamt of walking with a friend of his. As they walked they came to a river. The friend crossed, but the dreamer was unable to. Even in the dream he felt crossing the river meant his friend had died. Some time later he discovered that his friend had died at about the time he experienced the dream.

As the dream points out, the friend died, but continued another type of life ‘across the river’. A woman told a similar dream to me. Her teenage son came down to breakfast looking very unhappy. When she asked him why he said he had a dream that deeply disturbed him. In it he was walking with a friend and the friend walked through a door. When her son tried to follow he could not pass through the door. They could not find a rational explanation for the dream, but on arriving at school, her son heard that his friend had been killed in a motorbike accident on his way to school.

The river and the door are often used in this way, suggesting a change to another dimension of life usually unreachable by the living. Idioms: Dead and buried; dead from the neck up/or neck down; dead to the world; play dead; dead to the world; dead tired; drop dead; stone dead; at death’s door; brush with death; death wish; kiss of death; sick to death. See: Dreams of Death; Illness;

Useful questions and hints:

What feelings about death does this dream highlight?

If I imagined the dream being carried forward, how would I change it?

Am I changing and my past self dying?

If this is someone I know what are my feelings about them – and where are those feelings arising in me at the moment? What part of myself have I killed?

See Being the Person or Thing – Near Death Experiences – Techniques for Exploring your Dreams – Journeying Beyond Dreams and Death

 

Comments

-Russ 2012-07-11 15:34:16

Tony, so the other night I have this dream. I’m going to collect my 3 children (7,5 & 4) from my ex-wife, they are at my ex-mother in-law. The front door is unlocked as usual so I just walk in, for some reason my instinct tells me to go straight to the bathroom without greeting anyone. As I walk into the bathroom I see all 3 of my children floating and blue. The eldest is in the bath and the other 2 are in this oversized basin, for some reason I immediately grab my middle child and attempt mouth to mouth but with no success. I then hear laughter in the background, so I proceed to the kitchen where I find my ex-wife, her new partner and ex-mother in-law all enjoying a smoke and some brandy. I immediately pull a gun and request them to proceed to the bathroom. Where I make go down on their knees. I kill each of them with a single shot to the head. Although I realise there must be some underlying issues here. My immediate thought was why did I show no heartfelt emotion for the loss of my children. Then thinking back I remember when both my grandfathers passed, there was also no emotion, no tears nothing. It’s like I have no feelings. Am I interpreting this correctly? Many thanks for your response in advance

-Emma 2012-07-03 6:29:45

Could you please help me. Last night I dreamt that I was caught in a battle and when the one side realized they were loosing, just before the main warrior died, he gave the order: ‘Do these things, then kill some of our people’.

The warriors then rushed around massacring their own children!
I watched quietly, as children were hacked with machete’s, chainsaws, knives, swords and I wondered when the killing would stop and why they were targeting the children.

The children tried to help each other get away, but they were no match for the warriors. I just stood there helplessly. Passively. I didn’t want to leave my hiding place because then I would also die.

And then I woke up. Please help me, it is such a strange dream. (I did have a few years of trauma as a child. The amnesia just lifted 2 years ago and sometimes it is still lifting. I have PTSS for a while as well. I don’t have children.)

-Jana 2012-06-27 1:37:22

I am having dreams that my boyfriend is killing me, by stabbing and snakes are killing me..
every night someone or something is killing me and im waking up screaming. what do i do?

-Karina 2012-06-24 6:40:46

so i had a dream that me and my boyfriend were house hunting. while in the house i was watching murder take place. i was the only one who could see what was going on i didn’t recognize any of the people. as we continued to view the 3rd house the murders that were ghost became real and were trying to kill me. i looked up and i sawl my step grandma and as i was scream for help she would just stare with a blank face.. help

-lorraine 2012-06-23 22:50:43

In dream i got one night to have sex with my ex partner Then i got killed by ghosts in a horrid way and i actually died in dream it was freaky what does this mean

-Teresa 2012-06-21 17:29:48

My dream last night was so disturbing to me that I’ve been having anxiety about it all day. I was in a room with my husband, the lights went out and we were calling for our dog. She wouldn’t answer and we started looking around for her. We found her down a dark hallway – which looked much like a school or hospital hallway. She was sitting near some double doors and she had changed breeds and wouldn’t come to us. So we went to her and as I was petting her I noticed my husband was behind the double doors (which had circular windows in them) with a man who appeared to be a janitor. They both had horrified looks on their faces. My husbands mouth was open as though he were trying to speak and no sound would come out. He didn’t want to let me through but I went anyway and something caught my eye down the short hallway. There were school type lockers along the wall and one was open. I saw I think a shirt that looked like it belonged to my grown son (23 years old) and as I approached saw he appeared to be dead. His arms were bound over his head and the rope was hanging from the coat hook inside. I began sobbing and tried to lift his body and hug him. When I woke up it occurred to me that our dog knew something was up behind the doors and didn’t want to leave. She knew our son was back there. There were no marks on his body – I seem to remember thinking this too. I cannot stop thinking about this dream…

-swild 2012-06-19 17:51:45

I have and dreams of friends and love ones on the night or the night before that person dies. Not noing of sickness or even seen this person in years .This has happend for years and some times im shocked on hearing the news for the death . One time i was in gremany at a church and i started to cry like out of control tears and the next day hi hear that my grandfather had passed.

    -Tony Crisp 2012-06-21 13:11:59

    Swild – I believe that the reason you have this ability is that death is always a shock to you. Therefore you hear of a persons’ death before it happens, and that lessons the shock somewhat.

    Tony

-carlene 2012-06-18 14:34:31

i had a dream last night i wont go into too much detail, however my 5 year old daughter was dead.. its really playing on my mind please help

-Amy 2012-06-14 18:34:21

My husband keeps having this dream where I have left and he is looking for me, but here lately the dream is differnt I have still left but now my daughter and his deceased son is with him helping him look for me. What does his dream mean, what is it trying to tell him? This dream is really upseting him.

    -Tony Crisp 2012-06-18 8:03:01

    Amy – It is upsetting him because it is a difficult feeling being unloved. And that is what this dream is about. It is not about you leaving him, it is about him DREAMING that you leave him and feeling the awful feelings around that.

    It is a dream that people have who have felt at some time in their childhood that they have been abandoned. Unfortunately we tend to project it onto the one we love. So ask him to remember backwards to the time when he felt that he was abandoned. If he can really allow his feelings as he remembers it will help

    The business about the children still with him is because that is his feeling of belonging – to children.

    Tony

-Erika 2012-06-13 22:03:33

I have been having the same dream for a couple of months now. I keep dreaming about this little girl, about 5-6 years old, medium-long, dark-brown hair, light skinned. She is wearing a dress, and shes very very pale. Somehow I know her mom killed her, she’s always standing by a lake, and in my head I feel as if she was telling me her mom murdered her, and threw her body in the river, or drowned her in the river. I’m not quite sure. She tells me things, and at the moment I understand what she says, but once I wake up I can’t remember what she was telling me. At first I was a bit scared, but somehow she seems after dreaming of her so many times I am not afraid of her anymore. She approaches me, and as she trie to touch me I open my eyes and wake up. I have probably dreamed about this about 6 times, same girl, same lake, but i can never remeber what she tells me in my dreams. I would like to know if there is a meaning to this dream, or if the girl is really trying to tell me something. How do I know the difference? and how can I remember what she tells me while I’m asleep.

    -Tony Crisp 2012-06-17 11:08:42

    Erika – A very interesting series of dreams.

    I can see two different theories for these dreams. One is that as a young girl your mother related to you in a way of ‘killing’ you with all your potential. In other words the dream actually dramatises what a part of you felt – that something was done to deny you of our full development. If that is true the part of you wishes to contact you and to continue her growth into full womanhood.

    The other theory is that this is a past life memory. See http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/the-mind-reaches-beyond-the-body-2/

    In that case the young girl is a aspect of you that needs to be integrated into the present life – probably because it was cut short in a painful way. I can quote you an example of that is a man exploring a dream. See http://dreamhawk.com/stories/the-house-of-the-ancestors/#OpenDoor

    It might help is you try using this technique as it may give you an insight. http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/practical-techniques-for-exploring-your-dreams/#TalkingAs Try being the little girl in your dream and talking as her. Maybe then you will remember what she has told you. Please let me know any results.

    Tony

-Merissa 2012-06-11 7:19:24

I am sitting at my desk at work and cannot stop thinking about the dream I had lastnight … This is what I dreamt : My colleague (who I have been working with for 2.5 years) were standing at a lift in the mall. We didnt speak to each other as we stood waiting with a group of people for the lift. Eventually, we all walked in, and we waited for a gentleman to push G (ground floor) as we were on the 6th floor. There was a lady standing in the corner barefoot, and she sang a line of a song (cannot remember which song) and as that man pushed the button, I knew that we were going to die. The lift fell, and it crashed … and I felt a little pain, but at the same time, my soul had left my body. My colleague’s soul had done the same, and we floated around for a bit. Confused, not knowing what to do, we went our own ways. We didnt speak to eachother but we knew that we needed to go and say goodbye to our loved ones… And so I embarked on this journey. I remember hugging a very very old friend of mine, he had a tear, I remember speaking to my son and he kept on telling me that these bikers were outside waiting for me, and I remember hugging a dog. (But we do not have any pets) I walked into the office this morning, and I told my colleague – we were alone, and I spoke with her. She explains to me that her christian cousin converted to islam and he got married yesterday. She felt as if her soul had died … that explained why I dreamt of her. I am a bit confused with my death – I have split from my ex more than a year ago, but we share custody of our 6 year old son and we are in contact everyday. My current partner feels uncomfortable as my ex has been referring to our past more quite a lot (via text messages and emails) … He has been confusing me as I have also been going through a very trying time at work, trying to juggle being a single mom and running a home by myself … I am not happy in my current work environment and have been trying to find an alternative job, but work is very scarce in our country. Alot of emotions, alot of confusion … and then this dream. Please advise, many thanks Merissa xoxo

    -Tony Crisp 2012-06-14 11:14:27

    Merissa – This is a very unusual dream, and I don’t think it reflects your relationships, but it does seem to connect with your work college. You must have been connected in some way.

    The death is shown exactly as many other deaths that are dream of, the loss of body and the seeking to say goodbye to loved ones. I think the dog was because you are quite aware of your inner feelings and the dog is actually a part of you. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/brain-levels-and-dreams/#mammalbrain

    These times of knowing what death is like often come at pivotal moments in your life, to strengthen and give you clearer insight into what you want to do with your life.

    Tony

-cindy vincent 2012-05-23 17:25:22

My mom keeps having the same re-occurring dream of her deceased sister holding the same baby over and over again. What does that mean?

    -Tony Crisp 2012-05-24 13:42:57

    Cindy – It is difficult to comment on someone else’s dream because there is no background to what is said.

    Is someone in the family expecting a baby? Because it sounds like a way of saying there is a new baby wanting to be born.

    Tony

-melinda 2012-05-18 21:03:00

Last night I dreamed my son passed away of a heart attach he is 23 I know his girlfriend was in my dream I ask what had happened and she said the car backfired I thought how could that have made him die I was at his. Service i saw his picture on the coffin what’s that mean

    -Tony Crisp 2012-05-21 8:27:21

    Melinda – When we dream of someone it is not that person in our dreams. It is like when we think of someone we cannot believe it is them – just a thought. Of course dreams put us right in the picture and so we are tempted to believe it is actually them. Please see – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/what-we-need-to-remember-about-dreaming/

    Am I right in believing this is your only child? If so it can easily be explained by the fact that you have worried a great deal by the thought and feeling of losing him. Then any recent thought or image of that happening could produce the dream. I get the feeling that your son is now becoming more independent, and so that often produces dreams of ones son dying – losing a son is a bit like a death – I remember it happening to me when he left home.

    Tony

-Brigitte 2012-05-10 23:49:11

My boyfriend recently had a dream about death. We were in France (I guess you could say I was his sidekick showing him around and telling him that he had to do this…) and he had this envelope. It was sealed with nothing written on it. He had to take it somewhere but did not know what to do with it. Finally, we made it to where he was suppossed to be (there was lots of people, thats all i know), but all he knew is that he had this envelope but didnt know who to take it to or what he was to do with it. Everyone including me kept telling him this is where you are meant to be and you know what to do. Finally, he said in the dream he pulled out the envelope and opened it. he said it was a list of names and he was meant to read them aloud. He had thought at first we were on vacation but then, everything just got eerie and he wanted to leave. They were names of Jews that had died in the holocaust and he realized he was surrounded by nazis.
My boyfriend is not jewish. he maybe german somewhere in his bloodline but nothing prevalent. He is not prejudice against neither the Jews or Germans.
I have no idea why he would dream this. He has been having a lot of war dreams lately but he has never fought in a war. Usually, I can interpret dreams but lately I have been lost.

    -Tony Crisp 2012-05-13 10:32:39

    Brigitte – War dreams are about an internal conflict, probably something that happened in childhood about something he couldn’t deal with emotionally at the time, or something he couldn’t face. As he grows stronger and more secure he can start to meet these issues – and that is what dreams are largely about, sorting out the ways our emotional energy has got blocked or knotted.

    The Germans or Nazis are common dream images in such dreams. They represent the result of our conflict and the things that such conflicts can do to you. Often they eventually show torture or death; the torture of living under such conflict, and the death of ones emotional or sexual energy.

    If you want to help him work through this, work as a team with http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/peer-dream-group/

    Tony

-Sierra 2012-04-19 15:31:16

Okay so I’ve been having dreams that like continue in different days or years. Sort of like they leave then they come back and have another part to it. So the first dream I had was about 7months ago. It was my friend’s mom and she was cheating on her husband and she was tired of the man that she was cheating on her husband with. She told us her plan. When everyone is asleep I’m going to kill him with this knife. It was a very large knife! We woke up to see a dead body of a man, and she was asking us to help her clean up the blood. The police came to the door about 3 hours and searched our house, but to no avail. She has gotten away with murder. Now the dream I had tonight. We were going to a camping site and her mom didn’t like this black girl. All I could do is remember she had killed before and so I was nervous. She hated the child so much, and no one knew why. We moved camp sites because the original was to close to the house. So we went to a far away camp site that was also an amusement park. She made the child sleep outside; the child did not know she was going to get killed. We woke up to a bloody girl in a bag and her mom telling us to get in the van and go. The police went over their and didn’t discover a body. And that’s when I woke up. What do these dreams mean?

    -Tony Crisp 2012-04-20 11:40:29

    Sierra – This returning to a theme can have at least two reasons. One is that there is an issue the dream process is working on; such as the emergence of a trauma. The other one is spelt out by Marie von France is describing Jung’s views. “Thus our dream life creates a meandering pattern in which individual strands or tendencies become visible, then vanish, then return again. If one watches this meandering design over a long period of time, one can observe a sort of hidden regulating or directing tendency at work, creating a slow, imperceptible process of psychic growth-the process of individuation.

    Gradually a wider and more mature personality emerges, and by degrees becomes effective and even visible to others. The fact that we often speak of “arrested development” shows that we assume that such a process of growth and maturation is possible with every individual. Since this psychic growth cannot be brought about by a conscious effort of will power, but happens involuntarily and naturally, it is in dreams frequently symbolised by the tree, whose slow, powerful, involuntary growth fulfils a definite pattern.”

    Consider consciousness (mind) as a process, always exposed as a verb, thinking, imagining, planning, being. It has no substance because it exists in time only, “I” am always in the “now” moving with the arrow of time, like the story in a movie. The story is not the film, or projector, or screen. Any frame is not the story. The story is an artifact of the physical movie. Stop the movie and the story stops. The mind-body linkage is like talking about the hour-clock problem, or the travel-car problem.

    As for your dreams, as usual I have to remind you that dreams are a magical mirror in which your innermost hopes, longings, fears/terrors and genius are made real. They are made real as external environments, people, animals and relationships. Unfortunately this wonderful virtual reality world is usually felt as dealing with other people, as externals, like something that can damage us, or something like the Devil that can possess us.

    So your dreams deal with death, a death of parts of you that are seen as separate. So I can only suggest that the man who was killed by a murderous mother was someone you had a relationship with. And the little girl was a young part of you that you still feel awful about.

    I may have got the facts wrong, but ask yourself what has been killed out by what you carry in you as your mother or a vicious woman.

    Tony

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