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Death of someone knownDeath of yourselfDeath of childDeath the walking dead or rigor-mortisDeath dancing with or meeting dark figureDeath of someone close to us -

Some aspect of your outer or inner life is fading, or being superseded by a changed approach or attitude, so may be shown as dying. Your drive to achieve something might die, and be shown as a death in your dreams. Changing from adolescence to puberty, maturity to old age, are also shown as oneself dying. Lost opportunities or unexpressed potentials in oneself are frequently shown as dead bodies. All of us unconsciously learn attitudes or survival skills from parents and others. If these are unrecognised they may be shown as dead. Sometimes we have killed the child or teenager in us because of difficulties or trauma at those ages, and these may be seen as a dead person in one’s dream. Some death dreams may show the awakening of new life in the dreamer. For instance, Sue worked on a dream in which she was told her baby had died. She woke shaking with grief and tears. The dream and emotions appeared to show her becoming alive enough to feel the grief of her past pain as it connected with the death of her hopes, love, and ideals. She had suppressed her pain for so long. In now coming alive enough to feel her emotions, she was feeling at last that something had died in her. Because you cannot actually die in your dreams. It is like you become totally involved in a movie that you can only escape from by waking. But when you wake things are the same – you are not dead – but you have been enriched by a lot of new experiences. I feel so deeply that our society does not let us die. What a terrible thing! The process of death isn’t just your heart stopping, it is a long process of shifting values, of creating a self that is no longer so deeply identified with the things of the world. The way our society is structured forces the ageing individual to go on and on almost like a hunter or warrior tied to processes in the external world trying to pay their way. Why I wonder? It seem so strange that the Stone Age societies living in very difficult circumstances, without our massive technological back-up, could manage to support their ageing and allow them a period of sinking into death. We, with massive resources, cannot do this. I felt a tremendous desire here to let go of all my worldly activities. I wanted to hand all my savings over to my sons and say, look, you care for this. All I ask is for a small amount of money to pay for my food and basic needs. I dearly wanted to give up and live from within myself. Also parts of ones feelings sometimes die. Our love for someone might die for instance, and so our dream illustrates this with a death, perhaps of that person. Some teenagers dream of their parents dying as they start to become independent. This is a form of killing of dependent feelings about their parents as a means of growth. This happens in some relationships too, where we want to break with the person.

“The dead differ from the living only in this respect: they are in a permanently subconscious state because the conscious mind of the physical body no longer exists. But the body is an expendable shell, and all else is intact. On the astral level of existence, the sub-conscious mind replaces the conscious mind of the soul, and the superconscious replaces the subconscious.  Hence, in dreams, we find that communication with those who have passed on is more logical than the average person is able to comprehend.” Quote from Edgar Cayce. Death of someone known: Frequently, as in the example, this might express desire to be free of them, or unexpressed aggression. Perhaps your love for or connection with that person has ‘died’. We often ‘kill’ our parents in dreams as we move toward independence. Or we may want someone ‘out of the way’ so we do not have to compete for attention and love. When someone we know dies lots of things happen to us. First of all we have always thought of the person as being outside of us. Then suddenly they are gone from the outside world, and we either think of them as gone forever never to be seen again; or we do what dreams often do and find them inside of us. In this way we can discover a new relationship with them, either because they now communicate with us as a dead person, or we receive from them what they left in us.

Example: ‘During my teens I was engaged to be married when I found a more attractive partner and was in considerable conflict. Consistently I dreamt I was at my fiancé’s funeral until it dawned on me the dream was telling me I wanted to be free of him. When I gave him up the dreams ceased.’ Mrs. D.

Death of yourself: You might be exploring your feelings about death, or retreating from the challenge of life. Sometimes it expresses a split between mind and body. The experience of leaving the body is frequently an expression of this schism between the ego and life processes. It could also be death of old patterns of living – your ‘old self’, or the loss of the traits that limit your awareness to an identity connected only to your body.

Example: ‘I dream I have a weak heart which will be fatal. It is the practice of doctors in such cases to administer a tablet causing one painlessly to go to sleep – die. I am completely calm and accepting of my fate. I suddenly realise I must leave notes for my parents and children. I must let them know how much I love them, must do this quickly before my time runs out.’ Mrs. M.

This is a frequent type of ‘death’ dream. It is a way of reminding yourself to do now what you want – especially regarding love.

Example: During a major operation I dreamt I saw my little daughter – dead for many years – standing in a corn field. When she was actually buried the cemetery was skirted by a corn field, and later in life, coming to terms with this early death of a child, I imagined my daughter walking into the corn field. In the dream I walked into the corn field. My daughter was waiting for me with her arms held up. I put my arms to her and we greeted each other smiling. At that point I felt it wasn’t time to die yet, turned and walked out of the corn field.  Ken S. Example: I was upstairs watching T.V. with my dog laying on the bed. I heard a motorbike out in the yard. I went downstairs and the dog followed me and this person on the bike tried to run the dog over. My husband came out and told me to go back to bed. I picked the dog up and started up the stair, reached the top and there was a big gap from the top of the stairs to the bedroom door, so to get to the bedroom I had to jump across this gap. I tried to jump this gap but missed and I fell and hit the bottom. The next thing I remember was I was floating up, I looked down and saw myself lying face down with arms spread out and I suddenly realised I was dead. I was so frightened that I woke up. I had the feelings of fear of dying and that the dog had been killed. I felt no pain.

The dream is obviously about her fear of dying, and also shows that even if one hits the ground one does not actually die, but experiences feelings of dying. Death of child: Dreaming that your child dies can have several meanings. In some dreams a parent, much to their horror dreams of killing their child; or as one dreamer said, “I saw him jump off a bridge to his death.” This occurred at a time when her young son was making his first moves toward independence, and it was a difficult thing for the mother to face – the loss of her son. So it can easily be shown as the death of ones child in a dream. Another women describes it differently as follows:

‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F

Mrs F was dreaming about her young daughter leaving her, and she has to grieve it, almost like a death.

This can mean a lot of other things than your actual child dying. For instance a man told me a dream that worried him enormously about walking with his wife and his young son fell down a hole and was apparently dead. But in fact he had had a terrible row with his wife that day, and it was showing the child as what they had created between them. In fact the dream child recovered as did their marriage. Your child dying can also be a warning that your inner child is dying. We each carry some awful memories from childhood that are shown in our dreams as our child. So it is worth taking hold of your apparently dead child – nothing can actually die in our dreams – and hold it and tell it you love it. Watch any feelings that emerge as you do this and any tears you shed. See what you understand from what you feel. Of course this could be a ‘mother’s’ dream in which your terror of losing your child is dreamt. A woman ones told me a dream in which her daughter was murdered. As we helped the woman explore her dream – not interpret it – she burst out into enormous sobs, crying that her daughter was leaving home and she was terrified of losing her. The girl was never murdered. See Baby or child hurt or killed So ask yourself what your fears are about.

But our dream child can represent many things, and it is useful to realise that any person, object or scene in a dream is not a symbol – it is not dead thing that has to be interpreted - it is a living part of you and can only be understood by relating to it. So in this way I have found that a child can represent whatever our strongest feelings about them are. It can represent your marriage or partnership because it is what you have created between you. In that case the death of the child can depict something like an awful argument that feels as if it the marriage has died.

A child and its death can also show you how you have killed out the growing or adventurous side of you; or if you see your child as vulnerable and neding rotectionit could show you the death of that part of your feelings.

So you need to ask yourself what your dream child depicts as a living part of you.

When our child actually dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this. See Life’s Little Secrets For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’ Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’. When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality. After her converstation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years. Death the walking dead or rigor mortis: Aspects of you that are denied, perhaps through fear. Death dancing with or meeting dark figure: Facing up to death and developing a different attitude to it – unless of course you are running away. If you turn around and face these figures you will break through to a different way of life. Death of someone close to us: As explained above, this often refers to ones own feelings or talents that have been hurt, denied, or ‘killed out’ by events and your response to them. The following example illustrates this.

‘My son comes in and I see he is unwashed and seems preoccupied and as if he has not cared for himself for some days. I ask him what is wrong. He tells me his mother is dead. I then seem to know she has been dead for days, and my two sons have not told anyone. In fact my other son has not even accepted the fact.’ Anthony.

Anthony is a divorcee. Processing the dream he realised the two sons are ways he is relating to the death of his marriage – the children’s mother. Although the unconscious has a very real sense of its eternal nature and continuance after physical death, our conscious personality seldom shares this. Also we all we all carry within us ideas, behaviours, talents and ways of life from those now dead. The farmer today unconsciously uses the collective experience of humanity in farming. What innovation he does today his children or others will learn and carry into the future. This aspect of a life beyond the physical is shown in many dreams. For instance a man I knew dreamt of walking with a friend of his. As they walked they came to a river. The friend crossed, but the dreamer was unable to. Even in the dream he felt crossing the river meant his friend had died. Some time later he discovered that his friend had died at about the time he experienced the dream. As the dream points out, the friend died, but continued another type of life ‘across the river’. A woman told a similar dream to me. Her teenage son came down to breakfast looking very unhappy. When she asked him why he said he had a dream that deeply disturbed him. In it he was walking with a friend and the friend walked through a door. When her son tried to follow he could not pass through the door. They could not find a rational explanation for the dream, but on arriving at school, her son heard that his friend had been killed in a motorbike accident on his way to school. The river and the door are often used in this way, suggesting a change to another dimension of life usually unreachable by the living. Idioms: Dead and buried; dead from the neck up/or neck down; dead to the world; play dead; dead to the world; dead tired; drop dead; stone dead; at death’s door; brush with death; death wish; kiss of death; sick to death. See: Dreams of Death; Illness; Useful questions: What feelings about death does this dream highlight? If I imagined the dream being carried forward, how would I change it? (For help doing this see Carrying the Dream Forward) Am I changing and my past self dying? If this is someone I know what are my feelings about them – and where are those feelings arising in me at the moment? What part of myself have I killed?

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-Dee 2015-05-06 13:03:50

I need some help with a horrible recurring dream I’m having. In it, my three child has died. There is no common way for her to die-it is not more frequently illness or violence. In the dream, she is already dead, and i am trying to contact people (family, friends, etc) and those I can eventually get ahold of (being unable to contact people to get help in any given circumstance is a frequent theme in many of my nightmares) don’t seem to care. It is probably important to note that I am going through a custody situation currently that, at least ostensibly, involves her. It is a custody situation with my ex (not her father) and my two oldest children, using some of her purported behaviors as cause. Since this situation started, this dream has become much more common.

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    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2015-05-08 9:37:56

    Dear Dee – I see your recurring dreams as an attempt of Life to help you deal with your hurt inner child, which is symbolised by your daughter. Often situations in our waking life trigger these (unconscious) memories.
    There is innate in you the process that is already trying to lead toward the experiences that can release the past you are still carrying. It is constantly trying to bring old hurts and injuries to awareness.
    Every image and person in your dreams is an expression of your own Life process. As such it is alive and intelligent and is something sent to help you. A dream is like a projection from a movie projector, except that you are the projector.
    Not being able to connect to people on the phone suggests feeling isolated and alone.
    I think it is good to explore if feeling isolated and alone relates to your inner child or to the adult you are now or to both. (Do you feel you receive any support while going through this custody situation?)
    It is good to learn to become an observer so that you can become aware “who is feeling”, your inner child or the adult you are now, mainly because it is very difficult to deal with a custody situation when the feelings of your inner child are “in charge”.
    We then refer to this inner child’s feelings managing you and/or a situation you are in – instead of your adult part managing her feelings and the situation you are in – as an autonomous complex.
    See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/autonomous-complex/
    Through simple self-observation one gradually arrives at a form of insight which leads to a transcending of oneself as you stood prior to the insights. One may even arrive at a massive altered state of awareness – an insight into the impermanence of your present personality, and the experience of liberation arising from it.
    Observing your own ebb and flow of thoughts and feelings, your own habits and responses to things, is one of the most powerful of tools to use in transforming your life. This also leads to a fuller connection with your intuitive connection with your core.
    Much of our behaviour is largely or wholly unconscious. Becoming aware of something can by itself produce a change. If you are not aware of how you act or respond, there is less likelihood of satisfying change.

    That your inner child is dead in your dreams I see as a symbol of an inner aspect in you which has died probably when you were her age.
    So what do you associate with this inner child/aspect? In order to explore that there are helpful means available such as “Being the dead child” and/or “Talking as the dead child”.
    See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
    and
    http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/practical-techniques-for-understanding-your-dreams/#TalkingAs
    You can also explore what you associate with your daughter in your waking life to see if you can uncover which aspect of you is asking to be brought back to life in your inner world.
    Please also read this article as it also talks about healing the inner child http://dreamhawk.com/health-and-healing/inner-baby-and-child/
    Good Luck!
    Anna :-)

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-juanita 2015-05-08 7:03:34

What if you dream people dead, then they die?

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    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2015-05-08 9:48:34

    Dear Juanita – Your dream suggests that your mind was able to connect with another mind outside time and space.
    Apparently distant objects, or people, are intricately linked in an immediate way. There is no separate existence as we previously thought. Our view of the world is not one supported by the facts of physics. Time and space are transcended. David Bohm, an eminent physicist, goes as far as to say that all things in our observable universe are inextricable linked. Nothing has separate existence.
    Quantum physics has begun to show that the roots of our being are not in the atom — the material object that led to our view we are only a body that lives and dies. The new view suggests that the very foundation of our being lives beyond time and space.
    Please also read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/esp-in-dreams/
    Anna :-)

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-Brooke 2015-05-15 5:43:53

I have had dreams twice the last 2 weeks about my 2 year old (youngest Right now) preparing for death or close death. Something such as a plane wreck but she was ok and then leukemia. She is a healthy baby and idk anyone with cancer close to me right now and therefore with no connections I am worried about her :/. I am due with a baby in 6 weeks and the only thing I could see that could be causing this after reading the article is I’ve worried a lot about her being left out since he is coming and her sister is starting pre school this year. Could this be why I’m having these dreams or is it something I should really be concerned about? I don’t have these dreams with my oldest.

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    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2015-05-16 10:02:38

    Yes dear Brooke, your dreams are relating to your worries. Your youngest daughter having leukaemia is a symbol of YOUR worrying anxious self.
    A plane crashing is a symbol of something difficult happening in one’s life and that is the way you believe your youngest daughter will perceive the changes she has to go through with the arrival of her little brother and her sister starting preschool this year.
    The dream also shows that she will be okay; “Something such as a plane wreck but she was ok”.
    So please stop worrying dear mother and start trusting.
    Anna :-)

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-Tarere Tukaki 2015-05-16 21:03:34

I had a dream and it felt like a lifetime. Because I had a son and I watched him grow up
Then suddenly he was in an accident and died, I went to go look for him. But I woke up, I had fallen asleep in the living room. So I went to bed in my room and felt this overwhelming sadness and started crying for a long time. I still feel this sadness when I think about it. I actually have no children.

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    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2015-05-18 21:16:02

    Dear Tarere Tukaki – Your dream starts with something new in your love, in your work, or in yourself and you are able to watch it grow.
    Growth is about the changes in us which bring about new ways of relating to other people, ourselves and activity. The change or personal growth may be mental, emotional or physical.
    An accident is a symbol for something that can damage your hopes, beliefs or motivations that enable you to do things in life and achieve goals.
    What is interesting about your dream is that it felt like a lifetime to you.
    Sometimes our dream is ‘a tentative feeler toward the future’; ‘a dress-rehearsal for life,’ in which the dreamer reveals his hopes, fears, and plans for the future. You can become very aware of your present state of being and your possible future. It is only your possible future predicated from the time of the dream. It appears that what we do today casts shadows that are our future. But because we may change and act differently the shadows of the future change.
    I feel it will be helpful to explore this “possible future” of this new aspect of yourself and if “this future” – death “by accident” – is based on your beliefs.
    See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/beliefs/
    and
    http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/accident-accidental-accidentally/
    Our dreams can graphically illustrate our beliefs and what influence they have upon our decision making, responses and relationships. The importance lies in the fact that many of our beliefs are unconscious. They were absorbed in childhood and often remain without any conscious evaluation. Dreams also tend to explore where such beliefs lead us, and what the outcome of holding them may be in certain circumstances.
    Please also read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/accident-accidental-accidentally/
    I think it will also be helpful to explore “the (dead) son; so try “Being the (dead) son” and/or “Talking as the (dead) son” to explore this aspect of yourself.
    See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
    and
    http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/practical-techniques-for-understanding-your-dreams/#TalkingAs
    Good Luck!
    Anna :-)

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-Ashley 2015-05-20 14:38:27

I had a dream that my two year old son was dead, i was bawling my eyes out and wouldnt let anyone burry him to the point where we brought him home & strangely had his casket on the back deck, his casket was see threw and i went outside and would not let him go, i kept crying and hugging the casket, but the weird part was he ended up coming back to life, and i would not let him go for anything, he was nothing but skin and bones and I kept trying to feed him and make him better but nothing was working, I woke up in the morning covered in sweat and already bawling my eyes out.

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    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2015-05-21 11:00:44

    Dear Ashley – There are many ways in which we might come face to face with our inner baby or child. These might include the arising in your daily life of inappropriate responses to situations. In a warm and loving relationship you experience only pain instead of pleasure; you feel terror that your partner will abandon you; you hit out emotionally or even physically at the person who is actually closest to you; you withdraw from the world or lack any motivation to be a part of society or be in contact with others; you feel enormous longing to find love, but it never seems to be there when you relate to someone.
    Those are signs of the undealt with emotions and pains of childhood, but there are many others. But one of the clearest indicators of the hurt baby or child within is from your dreams.
    Your son can be a symbol of your ambitions; potential; hopes. It can also represent your marriage. The child is the fruit of the relationship, so can represent the state of the relationship.
    See also http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/your-inner-child/
    In your dream you allowed the release of sorrow; the letting go of grief, guilt, misery, loss, memories that have been held back, knowingly or unknowingly perhaps over years and it is this release which unblocks this aspect of yourself and so it is brought back to life. A wonderful step!
    The next step is to explore how to feed this part of yourself and/or how to feed your relationship with your partner.
    See also http://dreamhawk.com/relationship-sex/ages-of-love-2/
    You wrote “I kept trying to feed him and make him better but nothing was working”. Sometimes it takes some time to explore different approaches until you have found one that works for you.
    So what food did you give “him”?

    There is food for the mind; food for thought; food for the body; and spiritual nourishment. We can digest information or experience, the latter being food for our growth as an individual. Food can represent any of these. Something we might take or are taking into ourselves – such as experience of a relationship – qualities of another person – sexual pleasure – social pleasure, or warning about health in regard to what is eaten.
    Did “he” digest the food so that “he” can grow?
    See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/digest/
    I suggest you try “being your son” or “talking as your son” to explore how you can help this aspect in yourself and/or how to support your relationship.
    See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
    and
    http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/practical-techniques-for-understanding-your-dreams/#TalkingAs
    Another way to explore what your true needs are is to use Power Dreaming; http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/secrets-power-dreaming/
    Good Luck!
    Anna :-)

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-Maria 2015-05-21 17:50:34

I just had this horrible dream where my husband, my daughter, and I are at Disneyland and all of a sudden we’re at mall where I’m looking for my daughter I find her about 5 stories high in the mall where she’s playing with a ball, I’m coming up the stairs and she bounces the ball to high and it goes over a railing and it lands on a balcony a story down my daughter pushes herself off the railing to try and get it she’s dangling and she falls , 5 stories and doesn’t make it . I tried to save her but I was glued to the step , when I woke up and saw her I couldn’t stop crying . What does this mean ?

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-Briana poole 2015-05-22 9:38:16

I can’t find anything for mine.2 little.boys who lived beside me died and I discovered they had been murdered by their parents I bonded with then and spoke to them through the dream

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-Llayne Ngo 2015-05-22 14:52:25

Hi eveyone, i need help understanding my dream that i just woke up from. In my dream I was with my parents at the zoo enjoying a beatiful day. As we walked pass this big body of water that was surrounded by fences,but could easily be jumped over. We noticed 3 kids(looked around 2-5 yrs) were playing in the water and their parent screamed for them to come back. Out of no were this big wave pushed the kids out and they were on the shore, and to big alligators emerge out of the water. Most of the kids ran off in terror, but one girl stayed behind and tried to pet it. The gator tokk advantage of this and as she came closer it showed no mercy, grabing her by her stomach shaking her vigorously. The acreams and the blood, i just couldnt take it anymore and I turned to my dad and cried. Then I woke up and broke down crying. What does this mean?

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-Abby 2015-05-24 12:22:15

I need help interpreting a disturbing dream I iust had please.
My daughter (4) her best friend (4)and myself(20) went to a pool they were on the diving board for a while just the two of them (we were the only people at the pool for now) then crowds of people started pouring into the pool and they took over the diving board where my daughter and her friend were. I was talking to someone at the time and got distracted not paying attention to the two girls. When I ended the conversation I began to look to the diving board where the girls were, when I realized the girls weren’t on the board anymore I franticalky jumped up and began to look to the bottom of the pool, I saw two little girls in Elsa dresses at the bottom of the pool lifeless, I jumped in and grabbed both of them and carried them to the surface as I threw them on the pool deck to do CPR I started with my daughter who opened her eyes and then closed them then I woke up because I couldn’t handle it anymore.

I’m very disturbed by this dream can you help me interpret it please?

Thanks.

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