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Death

Death of someone knownDeath of yourselfDeath of childDeath the walking dead or rigor-mortisDeath dancing with or meeting dark figureDeath of someone close to us -

Some aspect of your outer or inner life is fading, or being superseded by a changed approach or attitude, so may be shown as dying. Your drive to achieve something might die, and be shown as a death in your dreams. Changing from adolescence to puberty, maturity to old age, are also shown as oneself dying. Lost opportunities or unexpressed potentials in oneself are frequently shown as dead bodies. All of us unconsciously learn attitudes or survival skills from parents and others. If these are unrecognised they may be shown as dead. Sometimes we have killed the child or teenager in us because of difficulties or trauma at those ages, and these may be seen as a dead person in one’s dream.

Some death dreams may show the awakening of new life in the dreamer. For instance, Sue worked on a dream in which she was told her baby had died. She woke shaking with grief and tears. The dream and emotions appeared to show her becoming alive enough to feel the grief of her past pain as it connected with the death of her hopes, love, and ideals. She had suppressed her pain for so long. In now coming alive enough to feel her emotions, she was feeling at last that something had died in her.

Because you cannot actually die in your dreams. It is like you become totally involved in a movie that you can only escape from by waking. But when you wake things are the same – you are not dead – but you have been enriched by a lot of new experiences.

Also parts of ones feelings sometimes die. Our love for someone might die for instance, and so our dream illustrates this with a death, perhaps of that person.

Some teenagers dream of their parents dying as they start to become independent. This is a form of killing of dependent feelings about their parents as a means of growth. This happens in some relationships too, where we want to break with the person.

“The dead differ from the living only in this respect: they are in a permanently subconscious state because the conscious mind of the physical body no longer exists. But the body is an expendable shell, and all else is intact. On the astral level of existence, the sub-conscious mind replaces the conscious mind of the soul, and the superconscious replaces the subconscious.  Hence, in dreams, we find that communication with those who have passed on is more logical than the average person is able to comprehend.” Quote from Edgar Cayce.

Death of someone known: Frequently, as in the example, this might express desire to be free of them, or unexpressed aggression. Perhaps your love for or connection with that person has ‘died’. We often ‘kill’ our parents in dreams as we move toward independence. Or we may want someone ‘out of the way’ so we do not have to compete for attention and love.

When someone we know dies lots of things happen to us. First of all we have always thought of the person as being outside of us. Then suddenly they are gone from the outside world, and we either think of them as gone forever never to be seen again; or we do what dreams often do and find them inside of us. In this way we can discover a new relationship with them, either because they now communicate with us as a dead person, or we receive from them what they left in us.

Example: ‘During my teens I was engaged to be married when I found a more attractive partner and was in considerable conflict. Consistently I dreamt I was at my fiancé’s funeral until it dawned on me the dream was telling me I wanted to be free of him. When I gave him up the dreams ceased.’ Mrs. D.

Death of yourself: You might be exploring your feelings about death, or retreating from the challenge of life. Sometimes it expresses a split between mind and body. The experience of leaving the body is frequently an expression of this schism between the ego and life processes.

It could also be death of old patterns of living – your ‘old self’, or the loss of the traits that limit your awareness to an identity connected only to your body.

Example: ‘I dream I have a weak heart which will be fatal. It is the practice of doctors in such cases to administer a tablet causing one painlessly to go to sleep – die. I am completely calm and accepting of my fate. I suddenly realise I must leave notes for my parents and children. I must let them know how much I love them, must do this quickly before my time runs out.’ Mrs. M.

This is a frequent type of ‘death’ dream. It is a way of reminding yourself to do now what you want – especially regarding love.

Example: During a major operation I dreamt I saw my little daughter – dead for many years – standing in a corn field. When she was actually buried the cemetery was skirted by a corn field, and later in life, coming to terms with this early death of a child, I imagined my daughter walking into the corn field. In the dream I walked into the corn field. My daughter was waiting for me with her arms held up. I put my arms to her and we greeted each other smiling. At that point I felt it wasn’t time to die yet, turned and walked out of the corn field.  Ken S.

Death of child: Dreaming that your child dies can have several meanings. In some dreams a parent, much to their horror dreams of killing their child; or as one dreamer said, “I saw him jump off a bridge to his death.” This occurred at a time when her young son was making his first moves toward independence, and it was a difficult thing for the mother to face – the loss of her son. So it can easily be shown as the death of ones child in a dream. Another women describes it differently as follows:

‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F

Mrs F was dreaming about her young daughter leaving her, and she has to grieve it, almost like a death.

This can mean a lot of other things than your actual child dying. For instance a man told me a dream that worried him enormously about walking with his wife and his young son fell down a hole and was apparently dead. But in fact he had had a terrible row with his wife that day, and it was showing the child as what they had created between them. In fact the dream child recovered as did their marriage.

Your child dying can also be a warning that your inner child is dying. We each carry some awful memories from childhood that are shown in our dreams as our child. So it is worth taking hold of your apparently dead child – nothing can actually die in our dreams – and hold it and tell it you love it. Watch any feelings that emerge as you do this and any tears you shed. See what you understand from what you feel.

Of course this could be a ‘mother’s’ dream in which your terror of losing your child is dreamt. A woman ones told me a dream in which her daughter was murdered. As we helped the woman explore her dream – not interpret it – she burst out into enormous sobs, crying that her daughter was leaving home and she was terrified of losing her. The girl was never murdered.

So ask yourself what your fears are about.

But our dream child can represent many things, and it is useful to realise that any person, object or scene in a dream is not a symbol – it is not dead thing that has to be interpreted - it is a living part of you and can only be understood by relating to it. So in this way I have found that a child can represent whatever our strongest feelings about them are. It can represent your marriage or partnership because it is what you have created between you. In that case the death of the child can depict something like an awful argument that feels as if it the marriage has died.

A child and its death can also show you how you have killed out the growing or adventurous side of you; or if you see your child as vulnerable and neding rotectionit could show you the death of that part of your feelings.

So you need to ask yourself what your dream child depicts as a living part of you.

When our child actually dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this. See Life’s Little Secrets

For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’

Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’.

When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality.

After her converstation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.

Death the walking dead or rigor mortis: Aspects of you that are denied, perhaps through fear.

Death dancing with or meeting dark figure: Facing up to death and developing a different attitude to it – unless of course you are running away. If you turn around and face these figures you will break through to a different way of life.

Death of someone close to us: As explained above, this often refers to ones own feelings or talents that have been hurt, denied, or ‘killed out’ by events and your response to them. The following example illustrates this.

‘My son comes in and I see he is unwashed and seems preoccupied and as if he has not cared for himself for some days. I ask him what is wrong. He tells me his mother is dead. I then seem to know she has been dead for days, and my two sons have not told anyone. In fact my other son has not even accepted the fact.’ Anthony.

Anthony is a divorcee. Processing the dream he realised the two sons are ways he is relating to the death of his marriage – the children’s mother.

Although the unconscious has a very real sense of its eternal nature and continuance after physical death, our conscious personality seldom shares this. Also we all we all carry within us ideas, behaviours, talents and ways of life from those now dead. The farmer today unconsciously uses the collective experience of humanity in farming. What innovation he does today his children or others will learn and carry into the future.

This aspect of a life beyond the physical is shown in many dreams. For instance a man I knew dreamt of walking with a friend of his. As they walked they came to a river. The friend crossed, but the dreamer was unable to. Even in the dream he felt crossing the river meant his friend had died. Some time later he discovered that his friend had died at about the time he experienced the dream.

As the dream points out, the friend died, but continued another type of life ‘across the river’.

A woman told a similar dream to me. Her teenage son came down to breakfast looking very unhappy. When she asked him why he said he had a dream that deeply disturbed him. In it he was walking with a friend and the friend walked through a door. When her son tried to follow he could not pass through the door. They could not find a rational explanation for the dream, but on arriving at school, her son heard that his friend had been killed in a motorbike accident on his way to school.

The river and the door are often used in this way, suggesting a change to another dimension of life usually unreachable by the living.

Idioms: Dead and buried; dead from the neck up/or neck down; dead to the world; play dead; dead to the world; dead tired; drop dead; stone dead; at death’s door; brush with death; death wish; kiss of death; sick to death.

See: Dreams of Death; Illness;

Useful questions:

What feelings about death does this dream highlight?

If I imagined the dream being carried forward, how would I change it? (For help doing this see Carrying the Dream Forward)

Am I changing and my past self dying?

If this is someone I know what are my feelings about them – and where are those feelings arising in me at the moment?

What part of myself have I killed?

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-k.v. 2014-07-12 11:13:19

Just awoke from a dream where I was a my now still adult age but all the neighborhood boys were about 9 to 14; including my brother ( we currently do not get along). In this dream my so was also there he started at his current age 9. I’m searching I this big house for my son and when I get in the boss are all lined up facing the outside window’s with guns in their hands now I’m frantic because I don’t want him there I run into my brother and I ask him where my son is and he tells me don’t worry you can’t help him. Everyone starts turning towards me like they want me to leave. One not actually fires at me I push the barrel and swing the barrel away from me and do how gets the gun in my possession I for onto him about five times and now everyone is attacking me. I’m not confused because my brother is in the same room and not helping me. I go through this big gun battle flipping guns on the shooters. After all is calm and they see I’m not playing games they tell me to leave there’s a war going on and he recruited. I’m more confused because i’m like my child is 9 he’s not joining anything. I make it outside to see he’s younger about 4 sitting on the sidewalk in a bent over fashion and coughs blood I realize he’s shot and run over just in time before he passes out. We are prepping to move to a new area and he a new school and environment. What could all of this mean?

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-Brittany 2014-07-16 11:29:05

I just had an awful and very strange dream where I was babysitting 3 of my friends toddlers and I unintentionally killed one of them. In my dream, they were sleeping together and I saw a large bug near them I thought I would get rid of with one of those spray wands like you see for weeds. When I got to the bug, it had turned into a mouse, so I still sprayed it to kill it, but it had moved right next to the children and I got the chemicals on them as well. 2 of the kids only got burned but one of them died as quickly as the mouse. I tried to rinse the chemicals from the other 2 children to make sure they were ok just as all 3 set of parents got to my house to pick them up. The oddest part was that as I was saying repeatedly it was my fault, all my friends were understanding and did not judge me for the death of the child (including the parents). The detective who investigated, though, grilled me and pushed me as to why I didn’t try to resuscitate the child or take steps to prevent his death. I remember being inconsolable, but still felt oddly detached. As the dream progressed, I was in a hospital trying to practice what I would have done differently when one of the children in the room was found dead. The detective was the one to maneuver the child to the position that caused her death, but I was the one to discover her. I remember feeling relieved I wasn’t at fault again, but it was extremely jarring and disturbing to see her manner of death, which was decapitation. What could this mean when I am not a mother, nor are these my children that die in my dream?

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-jo 2014-07-24 9:01:48

Hi,

I just had dream where in I keep on dying (in a tragic and brutal way) and returning back to life. It keeps on doing that until the scene change, suddenly I was with my boyfriend talking to him at our house then the man came to kill me. then my boyfriend kick the man and the man fell on the ground immediately another man helped us (my boyfriend and I) and it felt like he was protecting us and then I woke up. The only think that was bothering me is that my boyfriend and I went on a vacation in Bali, Indonesia and as soon as we came back we found out an ancient myth about the land being curse that unmarried couples will broke up with in 6 months if they visit Bali. Which I don’t really want to happen as we are currently on the process of planing for our wedding.
I hope you can help me interpret my dream properly. thanks in advance.

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-Elizabeth 2014-08-03 17:56:37

In my dream I was at at work, but it wasn’t my real life job. I saw a lot of people that I know from my real life job and my sister and her husband, and theirs two friends who are married were all there. I split from the group to get some work done around the corner when a man comes in. He points a gun at me, and tells me to put my hand-held radio down(so I can’t call for help). I set it down and he tells me to come with him. I raise my empty hands and follow him. He takes me around the corner and I my entire body starts to shake from fear. He hides the gun before he turns the corner and my hands are still up. My friends look at me funny then they notice the fear and my hyperventilating. My friends husband comes over and places his hands on my shoulders and I try to mouth the words ‘help’ and ‘gun’ at him.
The man with the gun yells and wants everyone on the ground. But for some reason he is satisfied with everyone sitting on benches or standing against the walls.
So eventually he walks around the corner again and I decide to sneak over to the phone, attempting to stay on the exact opposite side of this around wall he is walking around. When one of the stupid extras in my dream says in a loud voice “oh, youre trying to get to the phone!” And the man hears and comes back seeing me near the phone. He does not have a gun now, More like a statue that was broken and had a long sharp tip on it. I’m in my original spot now and the man is angry with me and yelling. My friends husband stood in front of me, this angered the man and he charged at my friend in front of me and ended up stabbing him in the shoulder. I could some how feel the tip enter my friends body. He collapsed and his wife and I screamed, she rushed over and I put pressure on the wound. He was severely injured but it didn’t seem to phase him from the neck up that he had been stabbed and was a little unaware that he was hurt badly( or he couldn’t remember it) asking me why I was holding his chest. I told him he was stabbed, I lifted my hand to see the damage but there was hardly anything wrong. It was like the wound turned into a scratch. But there was still a lot lf blood on the shirt.
I can’t remember anything else.

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