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Death

Death of someone knownDeath of yourselfDeath of childDeath the walking dead or rigor-mortisDeath dancing with or meeting dark figureDeath of someone close to us -

Some aspect of your outer or inner life is fading, or being superseded by a changed approach or attitude, so may be shown as dying. Your drive to achieve something might die, and be shown as a death in your dreams. Changing from adolescence to puberty, maturity to old age, are also shown as oneself dying. Lost opportunities or unexpressed potentials in oneself are frequently shown as dead bodies. All of us unconsciously learn attitudes or survival skills from parents and others. If these are unrecognised they may be shown as dead. Sometimes we have killed the child or teenager in us because of difficulties or trauma at those ages, and these may be seen as a dead person in one’s dream.

Some death dreams may show the awakening of new life in the dreamer. For instance, Sue worked on a dream in which she was told her baby had died. She woke shaking with grief and tears. The dream and emotions appeared to show her becoming alive enough to feel the grief of her past pain as it connected with the death of her hopes, love, and ideals. She had suppressed her pain for so long. In now coming alive enough to feel her emotions, she was feeling at last that something had died in her.

Because you cannot actually die in your dreams. It is like you become totally involved in a movie that you can only escape from by waking. But when you wake things are the same – you are not dead – but you have been enriched by a lot of new experiences.

Also parts of ones feelings sometimes die. Our love for someone might die for instance, and so our dream illustrates this with a death, perhaps of that person.

Some teenagers dream of their parents dying as they start to become independent. This is a form of killing of dependent feelings about their parents as a means of growth. This happens in some relationships too, where we want to break with the person.

“The dead differ from the living only in this respect: they are in a permanently subconscious state because the conscious mind of the physical body no longer exists. But the body is an expendable shell, and all else is intact. On the astral level of existence, the sub-conscious mind replaces the conscious mind of the soul, and the superconscious replaces the subconscious.  Hence, in dreams, we find that communication with those who have passed on is more logical than the average person is able to comprehend.” Quote from Edgar Cayce.

Death of someone known: Frequently, as in the example, this might express desire to be free of them, or unexpressed aggression. Perhaps your love for or connection with that person has ‘died’. We often ‘kill’ our parents in dreams as we move toward independence. Or we may want someone ‘out of the way’ so we do not have to compete for attention and love.

When someone we know dies lots of things happen to us. First of all we have always thought of the person as being outside of us. Then suddenly they are gone from the outside world, and we either think of them as gone forever never to be seen again; or we do what dreams often do and find them inside of us. In this way we can discover a new relationship with them, either because they now communicate with us as a dead person, or we receive from them what they left in us.

Example: ‘During my teens I was engaged to be married when I found a more attractive partner and was in considerable conflict. Consistently I dreamt I was at my fiancé’s funeral until it dawned on me the dream was telling me I wanted to be free of him. When I gave him up the dreams ceased.’ Mrs. D.

Death of yourself: You might be exploring your feelings about death, or retreating from the challenge of life. Sometimes it expresses a split between mind and body. The experience of leaving the body is frequently an expression of this schism between the ego and life processes.

It could also be death of old patterns of living – your ‘old self’, or the loss of the traits that limit your awareness to an identity connected only to your body.

Example: ‘I dream I have a weak heart which will be fatal. It is the practice of doctors in such cases to administer a tablet causing one painlessly to go to sleep – die. I am completely calm and accepting of my fate. I suddenly realise I must leave notes for my parents and children. I must let them know how much I love them, must do this quickly before my time runs out.’ Mrs. M.

This is a frequent type of ‘death’ dream. It is a way of reminding yourself to do now what you want – especially regarding love.

Example: During a major operation I dreamt I saw my little daughter – dead for many years – standing in a corn field. When she was actually buried the cemetery was skirted by a corn field, and later in life, coming to terms with this early death of a child, I imagined my daughter walking into the corn field. In the dream I walked into the corn field. My daughter was waiting for me with her arms held up. I put my arms to her and we greeted each other smiling. At that point I felt it wasn’t time to die yet, turned and walked out of the corn field.  Ken S.

Example: I was upstairs watching T.V. with my dog laying on the bed. I heard a motorbike out in the yard. I went downstairs and the dog followed me and this person on the bike tried to run the dog over. My husband came out and told me to go back to bed. I picked the dog up and started up the stair, reached the top and there was a big gap from the top of the stairs to the bedroom door, so to get to the bedroom I had to jump across this gap. I tried to jump this gap but missed and I fell and hit the bottom. The next thing I remember was I was floating up, I looked down and saw myself lying face down with arms spread out and I suddenly realised I was dead. I was so frightened that I woke up. I had the feelings of fear of dying and that the dog had been killed. I felt no pain.

The dream is obviously about her fear of dying, and also shows that even if one hits the ground one does not actually die, but experiences feelings of dying.

Death of child: Dreaming that your child dies can have several meanings. In some dreams a parent, much to their horror dreams of killing their child; or as one dreamer said, “I saw him jump off a bridge to his death.” This occurred at a time when her young son was making his first moves toward independence, and it was a difficult thing for the mother to face – the loss of her son. So it can easily be shown as the death of ones child in a dream. Another women describes it differently as follows:

‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F

Mrs F was dreaming about her young daughter leaving her, and she has to grieve it, almost like a death.

This can mean a lot of other things than your actual child dying. For instance a man told me a dream that worried him enormously about walking with his wife and his young son fell down a hole and was apparently dead. But in fact he had had a terrible row with his wife that day, and it was showing the child as what they had created between them. In fact the dream child recovered as did their marriage.

Your child dying can also be a warning that your inner child is dying. We each carry some awful memories from childhood that are shown in our dreams as our child. So it is worth taking hold of your apparently dead child – nothing can actually die in our dreams – and hold it and tell it you love it. Watch any feelings that emerge as you do this and any tears you shed. See what you understand from what you feel.

Of course this could be a ‘mother’s’ dream in which your terror of losing your child is dreamt. A woman ones told me a dream in which her daughter was murdered. As we helped the woman explore her dream – not interpret it – she burst out into enormous sobs, crying that her daughter was leaving home and she was terrified of losing her. The girl was never murdered.

So ask yourself what your fears are about.

But our dream child can represent many things, and it is useful to realise that any person, object or scene in a dream is not a symbol – it is not dead thing that has to be interpreted - it is a living part of you and can only be understood by relating to it. So in this way I have found that a child can represent whatever our strongest feelings about them are. It can represent your marriage or partnership because it is what you have created between you. In that case the death of the child can depict something like an awful argument that feels as if it the marriage has died.

A child and its death can also show you how you have killed out the growing or adventurous side of you; or if you see your child as vulnerable and neding rotectionit could show you the death of that part of your feelings.

So you need to ask yourself what your dream child depicts as a living part of you.

When our child actually dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this. See Life’s Little Secrets

For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’

Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’.

When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality.

After her converstation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.

Death the walking dead or rigor mortis: Aspects of you that are denied, perhaps through fear.

Death dancing with or meeting dark figure: Facing up to death and developing a different attitude to it – unless of course you are running away. If you turn around and face these figures you will break through to a different way of life.

Death of someone close to us: As explained above, this often refers to ones own feelings or talents that have been hurt, denied, or ‘killed out’ by events and your response to them. The following example illustrates this.

‘My son comes in and I see he is unwashed and seems preoccupied and as if he has not cared for himself for some days. I ask him what is wrong. He tells me his mother is dead. I then seem to know she has been dead for days, and my two sons have not told anyone. In fact my other son has not even accepted the fact.’ Anthony.

Anthony is a divorcee. Processing the dream he realised the two sons are ways he is relating to the death of his marriage – the children’s mother.

Although the unconscious has a very real sense of its eternal nature and continuance after physical death, our conscious personality seldom shares this. Also we all we all carry within us ideas, behaviours, talents and ways of life from those now dead. The farmer today unconsciously uses the collective experience of humanity in farming. What innovation he does today his children or others will learn and carry into the future.

This aspect of a life beyond the physical is shown in many dreams. For instance a man I knew dreamt of walking with a friend of his. As they walked they came to a river. The friend crossed, but the dreamer was unable to. Even in the dream he felt crossing the river meant his friend had died. Some time later he discovered that his friend had died at about the time he experienced the dream.

As the dream points out, the friend died, but continued another type of life ‘across the river’.

A woman told a similar dream to me. Her teenage son came down to breakfast looking very unhappy. When she asked him why he said he had a dream that deeply disturbed him. In it he was walking with a friend and the friend walked through a door. When her son tried to follow he could not pass through the door. They could not find a rational explanation for the dream, but on arriving at school, her son heard that his friend had been killed in a motorbike accident on his way to school.

The river and the door are often used in this way, suggesting a change to another dimension of life usually unreachable by the living.

Idioms: Dead and buried; dead from the neck up/or neck down; dead to the world; play dead; dead to the world; dead tired; drop dead; stone dead; at death’s door; brush with death; death wish; kiss of death; sick to death.

See: Dreams of Death; Illness;

Useful questions:

What feelings about death does this dream highlight?

If I imagined the dream being carried forward, how would I change it? (For help doing this see Carrying the Dream Forward)

Am I changing and my past self dying?

If this is someone I know what are my feelings about them – and where are those feelings arising in me at the moment?

What part of myself have I killed?

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-first time 2014-11-11 14:27:06

Okay this is my first time doing this, so here it goes.I just woke up from my dream and in my dream it’s me and my wife are at my place of work (which is a detention center). We are walking along a hallway outside called a catwalk when all of a sudden this big dog turns the corner and starts running after us we turn to the side and find a box/cart full of small screwdrivers. So we each grab one as we are waiting for the dog to attack us I stand in front of my wife and just as the dog jumps up I stand it multiple times in the neck and skull. I look to my wife to see if she’s okay then I look towards the dog but the dog turned into my three year old son who starts talking and calling for his mama and dad (which are me and my wife) his grandma and grandpa. I look at my hands which are covered with blood and the screwdriver. This is when I woke up. Please help me understand my dream thank you

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    -Tony Crisp 2014-11-12 10:46:02

    First Time – I do not know if this applies to you, but I will say what I understand the dream to mean.

    But as this is your first time I would like you to skim through the following, because dreams take place and reflect a very different reality than our waking experience – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#Summing

    Your dream starts of in a particular feeling environment. It sounds as if it is one in which you have to watch out for attacks and you are ready to defend yourself. And living and working in that environment you trigger your animal instincts. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/brain-levels-and-dreams/#mammalbrain

    I grew up in England during the war when bombs were falling every night. It was a culture of warriors for many generations, and if the guys at the top told you what to do and you didn’t there was the danger of being shot. So I wasn’t conscious of that as a background to my life until I started hitting my kids for not doing as they were told. Unconsciously I was training them to be obedient warriors instead of children.

    I am not saying you are the same, just that the environment we live in can influence us. The animal instincts have been aroused in some way and you then become aware are inflicted on your son.

    But in dreams your son is only a symbol, and can also represent your marriage or your own childhood experiences. In any case you have blood on your hands, showing you have repressed or murdered an aspect of yourself. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/murder-murderer-murdered/

    I suggest trying to use the following to really know what you child represents – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson

    Tony

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-Reovery 2014-11-16 7:04:48

Tony… a few months ago, I had a dream that my daughter died. I do not remember how she died only that I was crying, and upset. I contacted my ex, who fathered her, and told him I wanted another baby , to remind me, of our daughter. That is all I remember . I do not like the fact that I had a dream like that. Any feedback would be appreciated .

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    -Tony Crisp 2014-11-16 11:18:51

    Reovery – You haven’t told me what age your daughter is and what she is doing.

    So I have to guess that your daughter has become more independent recently, and that is the death you dreamt of. Such dreams are common among women whose child shows any signs of becoming independent. This is because a mother has a living inner link with her child, and it feels like a part of them is dying – thus the dreams. Some years ago, while I was leading a dream group to explore their dreams, a woman told us a dream that was so real it terrified her. She dreamt that her daughter had been murdered.

    It took the group a while to hit the real feelings behind the dream. She told us her daughter had recently left home, and as we gradually unfolded what she felt it suddenly exploded in her sobbing with real anxiety and passion. It was the first time the woman’s daughter had really left home and the feeling of loss was so deep that it was shown in her dream as murder.

    So your dream of wanting another baby is because you are a natural mother and so want to have the same wonderful experience again. But in a dream your ex-partner is not about your real ex, but it is that most people are often totally unaware of the experience they take in and how it interacts with them when we live with or love someone. In other words the memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with someone and they are what makes you the person you are. Your dreams tend to put all that in the image of the past person when you are dealing with the influences left in you from the relationship.

    So please see – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/characters-or-people-in-dreams/ and http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#Summing

    Tony

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    -Tony Crisp 2014-11-16 12:45:24

    Recovery – It really helps me to understand peoples dreams when some background information is given.

    For instance is your daughter starting a new activity, a new direction, leaving home, going to college.

    Many mothers dream such dreams as their daughter becomes more independent. A mother has lived for a child all her life and it feels like they are dead – so of course you want that connection over again with another baby.

    A woman told me a dream in which her daughter was strangled while at university. I was able with a group to help her explore her dream. As the exploration progressed the woman suddenly wept strongly as she met feelings of fear about her daughter leaving home and living independently at university. The daughter was in fact okay.

    Tony

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-Reovery 2014-11-16 23:35:20

Tony… In regards to the dream of my daughter dying. At the time of the dream , my daughter was 17, and is currently away, at college. All I remember about the dream is I was upset , and crying , and informed my ex, who fathered her the news. I wanted to immediately have another baby to resemble her by my ex. Even though we had ended our relationship . I was grief stricken .

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-Reovery 2014-11-16 23:41:05

Tony… Thank you, so much for the feedback. I think you are brilliant ! all your feedback , seems to be accurate. thank you, once again.

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-Curious 2014-11-18 17:11:20

Ok here goes…I dreamed that a young woman who fluctuated in age during the dream from early childhood to early teens, was trying to kill me. She came to my home bearing food, strawberries, one of them really stood out bright and deep red. She had someone with her…a woman, adult who said to her as I stood in the doorway to my home baring their entrance, “so this will be your strangest one yet.” The girl shook her head yes and the woman said “ok then,” and left. Somehow the girl convinced my to let her in. And she succeeded in poisoning someone in my home, then attacked my child trying to strangle him. Then I killed the girl. In waking life my son is grown and out on his own, in the dream he is about 3-4. I woke up very disturbed by this dream and can’t seem to shake off the imagery.

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-Tracy 2014-11-20 16:52:37

I’ve never done this before because I can’t ever recall having such vivid dream that has been weighing on my mind since it woke me around 6 this morning. I dreamt that my son had been shot in the neck and was dying, he was asking me what happened as he gurgled for air. It felt so real and I can’t stop thinking about it. There he was my 18 year old son laying on the ground in a parking lot bleeding and calmly asking me Mom what happened, please help me. It’s bringing tears to my eyes and giving me anxiety just typing this out! I’ve looked on several sites to see if I can figure out what it means and I’m stumped. I just know that it’s weighing on me so tremendously I don’t want to go back to sleep tonight. Thank You

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-Mia 2014-11-21 17:31:57

I had a dream my baby 1yr old going on 2 walked out the front door onto the road, I was preoccupied with cooking and my family was there but no one saw her go out, this was at an old house that I grew up in and she was run over by a group of drunk people, I could see her lying face down on the road she died and I was screaming I felt terrified and so hurt. I was in tears and started praying to God to look after her. It was like I had accepted it. I also dreamed the next night she was kidnapped and murdered. The killer was unknown like a random tourist.. I’m not sure what to make of it I do have fears and tend to worry a lot. My life is changing quite a bit too.

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-Lisa 2014-11-22 6:12:49

I had this terrifying dream that my sister had died. I did not know the cause of death…I just heard it through the grapevine. After we had found out, I had to clean up all her belongings (pictures and other sentimental items, etc) and throw out unwanted things (strangest thing I had found was salad but oddly enough I had a hard time discarding it). She had kept all her stuff in some kind of crypt or hidden underground cave. At the end of my dream I found out from my aunt she passed from cancer but never told anyone else about it.

Right now me and my sister have a rocky relationship. We haven’t spoken in years. Even tho we don’t talk I still miss her and love her, even tho there is still feelings of anger. She was my mother figure growing up. And as far as health concerns there are none.

Can you please shed some light on my dream

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-leah 2014-11-25 23:37:14

Hi.. i just woke up from a horrible dream. my son is six and the dream took place at our house at least the nieghborhood looked the same the house looked different in the dream me my daughter and son are all the age we r in real life… but in my dream someone is trying to kill my son people to to help me my daughter and son get away but then a crazy pile up of cars happens and me my son andt daughter flee back to our house i am tsitting there terrified that my son is going to get killed then our house starts getting shot at and i am trying to protect both my kids i get shot in the leg the shooting stops and someone keeps knocking on our door its the killer but he trying to act like sumone else i let him in he makes something to eat and leaves….. its weird dream but it really freaked me out and it felt so really i was so scared for me and my babies? Any thoughts on this

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