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Death of someone knownDeath of yourselfDeath of childDeath the walking dead or rigor-mortisDeath dancing with or meeting dark figureDeath of someone close to us -

Some aspect of your outer or inner life is fading, or being superseded by a changed approach or attitude, so may be shown as dying. Your drive to achieve something might die, and be shown as a death in your dreams. Changing from adolescence to puberty, maturity to old age, are also shown as oneself dying. Lost opportunities or unexpressed potentials in oneself are frequently shown as dead bodies.

But death of anything also involves a tremendous release of energy as the form breaks down. But the various levels of energy involved in the death of a person are never lost, for energy cannot ever be lost, it is transferred and used elsewhere. A transformation takes place. The consciousness and energy that gave the body life also goes through a process of transformation into universal life.


All of us unconsciously learn attitudes or survival skills from parents and others. If these are unrecognised they may be shown as dead. Sometimes we have killed the child or teenager in us because of difficulties or trauma at those ages, and these may be seen as a dead person in one’s dream. Some death dreams may show the awakening of new life in the dreamer. For instance, Sue worked on a dream in which she was told her baby had died. She woke shaking with grief and tears. The dream and emotions appeared to show her becoming alive enough to feel the grief of her past pain as it connected with the death of her hopes, love, and ideals. She had suppressed her pain for so long. In now coming alive enough to feel her emotions, she was feeling at last that something had died in her.

Because you cannot actually die in your dreams. It is like you become totally involved in a movie that you can only escape from by waking. But when you wake things are the same – you are not dead – but you have been enriched by a lot of new experiences. I feel so deeply that our society does not let us die. What a terrible thing! The process of death isn’t just your heart stopping, it is a long process of shifting values, of creating a self that is no longer so deeply identified with the things of the world. The way our society is structured forces the ageing individual to go on and on almost like a hunter or warrior tied to processes in the external world trying to pay their way. Why I wonder? It seem so strange that the Stone Age societies living in very difficult circumstances, without our massive technological back-up, could manage to support their ageing and allow them a period of sinking into death. We, with massive resources, cannot do this. I felt a tremendous desire here to let go of all my worldly activities. I wanted to hand all my savings over to my sons and say, look, you care for this. All I ask is for a small amount of money to pay for my food and basic needs. I dearly wanted to give up and live from within myself.

Also parts of ones feelings sometimes die. Our love for someone might die for instance, and so our dream illustrates this with a death, perhaps of that person. Some teenagers dream of their parents dying as they start to become independent. This is a form of killing of dependent feelings about their parents as a means of growth. This happens in some relationships too, where we want to break with the person.

“The dead differ from the living only in this respect: they are in a permanently subconscious state because the conscious mind of the physical body no longer exists. But the body is an expendable shell, and all else is intact. On the astral level of existence, the sub-conscious mind replaces the conscious mind of the soul, and the superconscious replaces the subconscious.  Hence, in dreams, we find that communication with those who have passed on is more logical than the average person is able to comprehend.” Quote from Edgar Cayce.

Death of someone known: Frequently, as in the example, this might express desire to be free of them, or unexpressed aggression. Perhaps your love for or connection with that person has ‘died’. We often ‘kill’ our parents in dreams as we move toward independence. Or we may want someone ‘out of the way’ so we do not have to compete for attention and love. When someone we know dies lots of things happen to us. First of all we have always thought of the person as being outside of us. Then suddenly they are gone from the outside world, and we either think of them as gone forever never to be seen again; or we do what dreams often do and find them inside of us. In this way we can discover a new relationship with them, either because they now communicate with us as a dead person, or we receive from them what they left in us.

Example: ‘During my teens I was engaged to be married when I found a more attractive partner and was in considerable conflict. Consistently I dreamt I was at my fiancé’s funeral until it dawned on me the dream was telling me I wanted to be free of him. When I gave him up the dreams ceased.’ Mrs. D.

Death of yourself: You might be exploring your feelings about death, or retreating from the challenge of life. Sometimes it expresses a split between mind and body. The experience of leaving the body is frequently an expression of this schism between the ego and life processes. It could also be death of old patterns of living – your ‘old self’, or the loss of the traits that limit your awareness to an identity connected only to your body.

Example: ‘I dream I have a weak heart which will be fatal. It is the practice of doctors in such cases to administer a tablet causing one painlessly to go to sleep – die. I am completely calm and accepting of my fate. I suddenly realise I must leave notes for my parents and children. I must let them know how much I love them, must do this quickly before my time runs out.’ Mrs. M.

This is a frequent type of ‘death’ dream. It is a way of reminding yourself to do now what you want – especially regarding love.

Example: During a major operation I dreamt I saw my little daughter – dead for many years – standing in a corn field. When she was actually buried the cemetery was skirted by a corn field, and later in life, coming to terms with this early death of a child, I imagined my daughter walking into the corn field. In the dream I walked into the corn field. My daughter was waiting for me with her arms held up. I put my arms to her and we greeted each other smiling. At that point I felt it wasn’t time to die yet, turned and walked out of the corn field.  Ken S. Example: I was upstairs watching T.V. with my dog laying on the bed. I heard a motorbike out in the yard. I went downstairs and the dog followed me and this person on the bike tried to run the dog over. My husband came out and told me to go back to bed. I picked the dog up and started up the stair, reached the top and there was a big gap from the top of the stairs to the bedroom door, so to get to the bedroom I had to jump across this gap. I tried to jump this gap but missed and I fell and hit the bottom. The next thing I remember was I was floating up, I looked down and saw myself lying face down with arms spread out and I suddenly realised I was dead. I was so frightened that I woke up. I had the feelings of fear of dying and that the dog had been killed. I felt no pain.

The dream is obviously about her fear of dying, and also shows that even if one hits the ground one does not actually die, but experiences feelings of dying.

Death of child: Dreaming that your child dies can have several meanings. In some dreams a parent, much to their horror dreams of killing their child; or as one dreamer said, “I saw him jump off a bridge to his death.” This occurred at a time when her young son was making his first moves toward independence, and it was a difficult thing for the mother to face – the loss of her son. So it can easily be shown as the death of ones child in a dream. Another women describes it differently as follows:

‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F

Mrs F was dreaming about her young daughter leaving her, and she has to grieve it, almost like a death.

This can mean a lot of other things than your actual child dying. For instance a man told me a dream that worried him enormously about walking with his wife and his young son fell down a hole and was apparently dead. But in fact he had had a terrible row with his wife that day, and it was showing the child as what they had created between them. In fact the dream child recovered as did their marriage. Your child dying can also be a warning that your inner child is dying. We each carry some awful memories from childhood that are shown in our dreams as our child. So it is worth taking hold of your apparently dead child – nothing can actually die in our dreams – and hold it and tell it you love it. Watch any feelings that emerge as you do this and any tears you shed. See what you understand from what you feel. Of course this could be a ‘mother’s’ dream in which your terror of losing your child is dreamt. A woman ones told me a dream in which her daughter was murdered. As we helped the woman explore her dream – not interpret it – she burst out into enormous sobs, crying that her daughter was leaving home and she was terrified of losing her. The girl was never murdered. See Baby or child hurt or killed So ask yourself what your fears are about.

But our dream child can represent many things, and it is useful to realise that any person, object or scene in a dream is not a symbol – it is not dead thing that has to be interpreted - it is a living part of you and can only be understood by relating to it. So in this way I have found that a child can represent whatever our strongest feelings about them are. It can represent your marriage or partnership because it is what you have created between you. In that case the death of the child can depict something like an awful argument that feels as if it the marriage has died.

A child and its death can also show you how you have killed out the growing or adventurous side of you; or if you see your child as vulnerable and neding rotectionit could show you the death of that part of your feelings.

So you need to ask yourself what your dream child depicts as a living part of you.

When our child actually dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this. See Life’s Little Secrets

For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’ Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’. When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality. After her converstation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.

Death the walking dead or rigor mortis: Aspects of you that are denied, perhaps through fear.

Death dancing with or meeting dark figure: Facing up to death and developing a different attitude to it – unless of course you are running away. If you turn around and face these figures you will break through to a different way of life. Death of someone close to us: As explained above, this often refers to ones own feelings or talents that have been hurt, denied, or ‘killed out’ by events and your response to them. The following example illustrates this.

‘My son comes in and I see he is unwashed and seems preoccupied and as if he has not cared for himself for some days. I ask him what is wrong. He tells me his mother is dead. I then seem to know she has been dead for days, and my two sons have not told anyone. In fact my other son has not even accepted the fact.’ Anthony.

Anthony is a divorcee. Processing the dream he realised the two sons are ways he is relating to the death of his marriage – the children’s mother. Although the unconscious has a very real sense of its eternal nature and continuance after physical death, our conscious personality seldom shares this.

Also we all we all carry within us ideas, behaviours, talents and ways of life from those now dead. The farmer today unconsciously uses the collective experience of humanity in farming. What innovation he does today his children or others will learn and carry into the future. This aspect of a life beyond the physical is shown in many dreams.

For instance a man I knew dreamt of walking with a friend of his. As they walked they came to a river. The friend crossed, but the dreamer was unable to. Even in the dream he felt crossing the river meant his friend had died. Some time later he discovered that his friend had died at about the time he experienced the dream.

As the dream points out, the friend died, but continued another type of life ‘across the river’. A woman told a similar dream to me. Her teenage son came down to breakfast looking very unhappy. When she asked him why he said he had a dream that deeply disturbed him. In it he was walking with a friend and the friend walked through a door. When her son tried to follow he could not pass through the door. They could not find a rational explanation for the dream, but on arriving at school, her son heard that his friend had been killed in a motorbike accident on his way to school.

The river and the door are often used in this way, suggesting a change to another dimension of life usually unreachable by the living. Idioms: Dead and buried; dead from the neck up/or neck down; dead to the world; play dead; dead to the world; dead tired; drop dead; stone dead; at death’s door; brush with death; death wish; kiss of death; sick to death. See: Dreams of Death; Illness;

Useful questions and hints:

What feelings about death does this dream highlight?

If I imagined the dream being carried forward, how would I change it?

Am I changing and my past self dying?

If this is someone I know what are my feelings about them – and where are those feelings arising in me at the moment? What part of myself have I killed?

See Being the Person or Thing - Near Death ExperiencesTechniques for Exploring your Dreams




-Tracie Gilliam 2015-09-21 0:24:56

I keep having dreams of myself dying. In the dreams someone is telling me that death is following me, and that I will die. I constantly think of death it’s a big fear. Is this why I always dream of it? I’m tormented daily by the thoughts. It makes me unable to cope with life properly, because I’m always thinking of death everyday.


-emma smyth 2015-09-25 4:24:08

Please can you help me I have a grown up son who will be 22 this year we are very close he lives with his lovely girlfriend and her two daighters he is working and has a good wee life at the moment . I don’t really see him as much now because of his work but we still close and am very proud of him . Then last night I had a really bad nightmare about him in the nightmare he was showing me that he could jump from roof to roof of building’s I told him to stop but he didn’t and while jumping from the 2nd building to the 3rd on a coner he missed and fell then I was screaming one of my sisters was with me the doctors told me he was dead on arrival I had to phone my mum and was screaming down the phone that my son had died this dream has really shook me up and frightened me badly could you please help me and tell me what this dream means please . Also I am getting remarried next year and my son and partner get on really well . I look forward to hearing from you as soon as possible please thank you yours sincerely emma smyth .


    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2015-09-25 8:42:33

    Dear Emma – I can feel that you love your son very much and I see it is your love for him that is preparing you to do the next step in letting go of him.
    For a mother letting go of her son is a process which involves many steps on many levels.
    The first step you managed to do; “I don’t really see him as much now”.
    The next step as I see it expressed in your dream is to accept that he will be less close to you emotionally, which is reflected by him standing on the roof; he does not need your emotional protection anymore and he is ready to take the jump.
    You perceive this jump as him falling – during our development or growth we also ‘fall’ from our mother’s womb when ripe – and dying; it symbolises the end of the relationship with him as you have known it so far for he will become more independent and you are aware that this is a natural growth process that you cannot stop.
    Do understand that he is not jumping/pulling away because he does not love you anymore. A son needs to emotionally separate from his mother (as does a mother from her son) so that he can grow into the man he needs to be.
    What this looks like and feels like to him is often very different from what it looks like and feels like to you, his mother.
    You feel the loss of the son – of the relationship with him – you’ve known. You feel the loss at such a deep level that it hurts more than you thought it ever could. And you now have to figure out a different way to relate to him — one that may feel more distant, but may be more respectful of where he is in his life.
    See also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/individuation/
    Anna :-)


-Lily Cramer 2015-09-29 13:40:16

This is more of a question, I had a dream that my Dad death in a car accident unexpectedly and I went after and found and killed the men that caused the accident, What would this mean?


-linda 2015-10-01 14:12:33

I dreamed last night that we were with people from my past. Chasing each other in cars one of the caars sank so the people in my husband and myself in our truck we drove around they were doing drugs .I was not my grandson Levi was with us as well. all of sudden we were at a church and they were all doing drugs ( white powered and they were doing in front of everyone I remember watching Levi playing with other kids a lady ( from my past ) put a line in front of me. I I remember feeling anxiety and pressure from the ppl at the table with me too do it I just took my arm and brushed away all of sudden finally somebody said something in the church ( iwas wondering when they notice) I asked are you going call the police. All of sudden this man asked us come outside .right then I turned around and notice a lot woman under the floor or another section of the church just watching me. It suddenly dawned on me where is Levi I started too run all over the place went too the place where the other parents were with children I was screaming his name every where running like mad woman. Suddenly I saw black car filled with ppl all hispanic ( I am half hispanic from hispanic family the ladies under the the bench or church looking at me were too) anyway the car was speeding away I looked and levi was lying there with big cut on his head it looked like he got hit by the car and hit the tree in front of him. He was jerking around I started crying I was afraid to move him he was barely hanging onto life . I woke up hyperventilating and crying . levi was next to me in bed he woke up too. He said you ok mama ( i have been raising him since he was born) his mother is on drugs and I have been too at one time in my life . ( not any more ) I hated the dream I kind of know what its about .I also lost two aunts and uncle this year within 3 month span. anyway it was frightening because Levi is my bay his about be 6 and I just cant imagine what happen if i lost any of my kids .My daughter has been in contact with me lately and I always text her back she is still using and wants too come home she is also running from the law. I have all these different emotions going on I bottle them up inside or I take my anxiety pill .. CAN YOU HELP FIGURE OUT WHAT’S WRONG WITH ME..:(


-Carol 2015-11-02 12:24:47

Iv had dreams loads of times that my son dies.I wake myself up crying. Last night I was with him in my dream and he fell off a high building. I saw it and went down and saw him laying there dead.omg it’s heart breaking why do I keep dreaming that my 1 and only child dies?


-Amber 2015-11-23 0:59:12

I had a dream a few days ago, that my boyfiend, my kids dad passes away in the occen for two days, then I was so sad . I wanted to kill myself tho i didnt I was walking on the occen tho it wasnt no water what so ever, just dry sand then next thing i know i see water come tores me then my boyfriends body. he was wearing nothing but white basketball shorts. I wanted to do CPR on him but then I remembered that if you bing some one back from the dead they will notbe the same, so I didnt i just hugged is dead body, crying my hand on his heart, my head on his cheast.Then next thing i know he woke up..


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