Jail Jailer Gaol Gaoler

This can point to any of a range of attitudes such as – guilt, self criticism, a sense of alienation, intellectualizing life – anything restricting the way you express yourself. So the jailer is the attitudes or concepts you imprison yourself with, or hold yourself back with. See: prison. Feelings of being restrained by your environment, morals, philosophy.

What we believe or imagine about who we are, or what we are not, is for many people an incredibly potent torturer and jailer. But many of what people call their demons are unbelievably subtle, and capture us, restrict us, shut out the possibility of a full life, or being able to respond with our own creativity. The real problem is that we often accept this as normal or barely notice them. See Archetype of the Paradigm – Masters of Nightmares

 Example: I now lives in a state in which I am constantly tortured and put down by seeing that unlike my sisters I have never had a child, have not achieved any lasting success in my life and live in a tiny bedsit which I might have to leave due to not being able to pay the rent. There is also an inner ghost haunting me through my feelings that I have not lived up to my father’s hopes. I long to earn enough to own my own house, and to have a loving partner who closely my life. The lack of all of these pulls me down to frequent feelings of despair and hopelessness.

All of what Lisa feels about her life – no child – no external achievement – no partner – no house of her own – not measuring up to her family – are all true, but only in a certain way. What is devastating is that Lisa believes she is what she feels. Those beliefs are her jailers keeping her trapped.

Example: I was in a prison with several others – all in one cell. It felt as if I had been in the prison for years. I was standing near the bars angry and shouting about the injustice of my incarceration. As I stood raging I suddenly realised that all my anger was having no affect on the world. I was the only one suffering it. I saw that the peace and freedom I wanted from release I could have now by letting go of my anger. I would then be in peace, and would be free of my own negative emotions. I forgave my judges and gaolers, and a change came over me. In the following years I learnt to drop the other ideas and emotions I tortured myself with. I was filled with joy until my bliss filled the cell. In this way all had a changed relationship. In a strange way I was now utterly free.

Useful Questions and Hints:

Can I admit to myself what I am imprisoned by?

Do I use self justifications to avoid admitting the truth to myself?

Is there a way out of the prison I have created?

See Avoid Being VictimsMartial Art of the MindSecrets of Power DreamingSumming Up


-Virjean Nissen 2015-09-08 12:46:35

My son is in jail for his drinking and has shut me out of his life. I keep dreaming that something bad is going to happen to him. Why do I dream this? It is not a good feeling at all.

    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2015-09-15 8:53:04

    Dear Virjean – Recurring dreams can arise because there is a need to learn something. Also the growth instinct is incredible powerful one and pushes us through growth, sometimes unwillingly. And if we resist it can cause recurring dreams.
    Unfortunately you do not share what the “something bad” is, that is going to happen to him in your dreams.
    Your dreams could show you some of your feelings that you are not aware of yet. So perhaps while being awake you only allow and/or are aware of loving and caring feelings for your son and while you are sleeping, your dream shows you the feelings you have repressed so far, but that are still a part of your inner/unconscious world.
    Only when you can allow and are aware of a feeling that “is not a good feeling at all”, can you look at it and (continue to) digest the experiences that gave rise to these feelings and release them from your inner world.
    See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/digest/
    Because this dream is a recurring dream, I do not believe that it is about precognition, because “future dreams” in general do not tend to recur.
    See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/recurring-dreams/
    Anna 🙂

-Kecia 2014-04-30 1:52:52

I was feeling very trapped by the past teenager and the jail in my dream, but this article reminded me I can still create my own reality, that I don’t have to accept the dream cell as final. Thank you, Tony. You help me more often than you imagine. 🙂

    -Tony Crisp 2014-04-30 8:26:56

    Kecia – Thanks for your encouragement. It always give me more enthusiasm for what I do.

    Having read your blog I would like you to read – if you have not already – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#Summing also http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/inner-world/

    I usually need to delete any links put in with the post, but as yours was a really interesting journal of your dreams I have left it. If you have written or write anything interesting you have learned from your dreams I would consider it for putting on the site.


      -Kecia 2014-04-30 20:15:24

      I apologize for the link. I only included it because the reply form asks for a website. I wasn’t aware it would appear in the reply.

      I’m glad you found the blog interesting. I never expected you would see that!

      I’ll look at the links you offered. Thank you for your response.

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