Depend Dependent Depending
Life’s age old unconscious processes are still the major part of our being, yet we seldom consciously meet them – except in dreams. As our physical and psychological health depend upon a reasonable co-operation between the spontaneous processes of life and our conscious decisions and actions, the encounter in dreams is vital.
Can we not see that our very existence is brought about by things so far beyond your knowledge that it is only a statement of our impoverishment to suggest an awareness of a creative force is an expression of some sort of smallness and failure. Have we never understood that? Have we not seen that acceptance of our own inner unconscious life is not only an acknowledgement of what we fail to understand and yet depend upon, but it is also an opening to it, a willingness to relate to it?
Often men and women dream of their partner leaving them, or going off with someone else, and such dreams are really about the dreamer’s own feeling of being abandoned and unloved. The difficulties we feel when we have dreams are about what we call love, but might, for greater clarity, be called dependence. For instance, if a partner leaves us and we experience great pain, much of that pain and anxiety comes about because we have depended upon our partner to supply, or help supply, such needs as money, a place to live, social standing, sexual satisfaction, a sense of being wanted, companionship and support in crises. See Beware of Love; Love
Also we often depend upon our work or position to gain a decent self image. Yet such dependence can be shattered if one loses the position – for change is constant.
As Helen Keller so wisely says, “Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature. Nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”