The way to deal with a dreamed of relationship difficulty or any past experience, it helps to work on integrating the influence left in you from the relationship with an ex or the experience from the past. See Inner Ex’s
It may also be a repressed drive or a shadow figure – all parts that have not be dealt with that need integrating. Try doing this by taking the dream images – like the person or situation and any beautiful or messy experience – and pulling them back into your body. Yes, literally making them one with you. Do this slowly and allow any feelings that arise. See
This may sound strange but all the images in your dream are projections from your inner world onto the screen of your sleeping mind; so taking them back into you is like owning them and integrating them. It is called honouring what you learned, bad or good, from the relationship. Think of it like digesting something. In a relationship you often absorb things from the person. You might take in such things unconsciously, as you did many things from parents and from the culture you were raised in.
And so when you digest it you can integrate the parts that are usable into your life and the rest is discharged as waste matter. See digest
But integration has a very real function in the growth and maturity of our personality.
When you think about a friend or a person you meet, you are only taking in your thoughts, impressions and feelings about them. So many people do not realise that they have an inner person equally as powerful as the external person you know. You have taken in millions of bits of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by meeting or living with them, and they are what makes you the person you are. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner person can appear in dreams because you still carry the memories or impressions of them, and so they influenced what you hold within you.
Many people are lost and feel as if they cannot move, are trapped, even by past loves. But in fact the more people we can ‘digest’, integrate or accept as part of our own experience, the more freedom we have. Each person we have within us in this way is a new space, a new area or experience to live in.
If you can accept that you have such people within you, it is wise to not repress them even if they are uncomfortable, for they are part of you and are enriching. To integrate our inner people you would need to learn things like Life’s Little Secrets and Opening to Life