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Dream Dictionary

Online Dream Dictionary & Encyclopedia

by Tony Crisp

The Spanish Dictionary is all the work and effort placed in it, as well as many excellent dream interpretations all by Anna Hoser,

Introduction

The latest edition of the Dream Dictionary and Dream Encylopedia is the result of some sixty years experience of working with dreams and their understanding. The Dream Dictionary encompassing articles on a vast range of topics. This gives the reader an unparalleled insight into the study of dreams and the inner life. But there are an enormous amount of Features in the Dream Encylopedia that cover a range of topics about dreams and the inner life.

The aim of the Dream Dictionary is to help you make connections between your dreams and your everyday life; to discover more fully the powerful emotions and reactions that unconsciously direct your decisions and responses in waking. This is not an attempt to give you merely ideas to play with, to agree or disagree with, like fortune telling. It can lead to real insights which empower you to make more of yourself, and find your way through the many decisions with which life confronts you.

Useful Links

Your Guru the Dream

Your Guru Your Body

What Are Dreams

Learn how to Interpret Your Dream

What does my dream mean? – How to explore your dream meaning

Personal Dream Interpretation

A Note About the Author: Tony Crisp

Mind Watching and Dreams

Introduction to Using the Dream Dictionary

Using the Dictionary

The Discovery of Dreams – Things We Need to Remember About Us

Gaining Insight into Your Dreams

Acknowledgement to this Edition

What Is Offered In The Dictionary

The Discovery of Dreams

Deepening Dream Understanding

Seeing under the Surface

Exploring Inner Space

Things I Wished I Had Had Been Taught Earlier in My Life

Features Found on Site: this is a full list of the topics covered by the Dream Encyclopedia (not a list of dream dictionary words). 

  What Are Dreams?

Dreams are one of nature’s miracles, not the result of a wandering mind in sleep. A dream is an interface between the process of life, our core self and our conscious personality. Life existed quite capably for millions of years before the self-aware human personality came on the scene. In all that time the ancestors of the modern human being survived without having a rational mind to reason with, or self consciousness to ask such questions as ‘What do I do about this?’ Nevertheless survival strategies were still developed in their unconscious intelligence. Dreams express this unconscious wisdom that was developed in humans and animals through millions of years of Life experience.

Life’s age old unconscious processes are still the major part of our being, yet we seldom consciously meet them – except in dreams. As our physical and psychological health depend upon a reasonable co-operation between the spontaneous processes of life – such as breathing, digestion and the thousands of other life sustaining activities and our conscious decisions and actions, the encounter in dreams is vital. As I often point out to those I am advising we are a human face on a long line of beautiful animals. In fact “You ride an ancient beast.” The ancient beast is your body, and your conscious self is the modern and recent rider of it. Some ‘riders’ do not understand their animal needs – and the fact that we have several levels of brain that are independent of each other proves this. Still active in us are our Reptile Brain, Our mammalian Brain, and our Human Brain, and the reptile and mammalian brains are still very active and constitute a large part of our human unconscious. See  – Brain Levels and Dreams –  Life’s Little Secrets and Levels of Awareness in Sleeping and Waking.

So, no plant or creature grows from a dead seed, and each living seed carries within it all the past gathered from all its forebears. So, the seed in your mother’s womb is as old as and even older than human kind, and you carry that wisdom or memories in you. But in this life you developed a new brain, and the memories you gathered this time are what you built your personality from, but beneath that is a very ancient self. To meet this ancient self try using Opening to Life

That suggests that dreams cannot be defined under any one heading. Like human beings, they are enormously varied in what they express. Just as one cannot say the human mind is simply a system of memory, one cannot say dreams are just the reflection of experienced events. The mind also deals with problem solving, predicting outcomes of action, playing with possibilities via imagination, creating the new out of old material, replaying traumatic and disturbing events in order to find ways of meeting them constructively. Dreams, being the mental phenomena they are, deal with all of these issues and more. The following definitions give the main functions observable in dreams.

Dreams are:-

  1. Dreams are one of nature’s miracles, not the result of a wandering mind in sleep. A dream is an interface between the process of life, our core self and our conscious personality. Life existed quite capably for millions of years before the self-aware human personality came on the scene. In all that time the ancestors of the modern human being survived without having a rational mind to reason with, or self consciousness to ask such questions as ‘What do I do about this?’ Nevertheless survival strategies were still developed in their unconscious intelligence. Dreams express this unconscious wisdom that was developed in humans and animals through millions of years of Life experience.
  2. Recently I have come to see dreams as the lonely voice of Life calling out to us in our often frantic search for meaning. It calls out from its vastness that is beyond our understanding, and in its loving efforts gathers the fragments of our memory and associations and forms dreams with them. It does this in its efforts to instruct, guide and even heal us; but often we miss seeing that just as Life reaches to us from its vastness using things we might understand, we too must reach beyond our often pitiful understanding to move toward and touch the wonder of Life within us.
  3. An expression of what is happening in the physical body. Some doctors consider dreams to show signs of illness long before they are evident in other ways. Women frequently know they are pregnant very early on through sleep awareness in a dream. See: bodybody dreamsKasatkin_Vasilyconsciousness-mind body split.
  4. A link between the sleeping mind and what is occurring externally. For instance, a person may be falling out of bed and dream of flying or falling.
  5. A way of balancing the physiological and psychological activities in us. When a person is deprived of dreaming in experiments, a breakdown in mind and body quickly occurs. This type of dreaming, or even nightmares, can often be a safety valve releasing tension and emotion not dealt with in waking life. See: compensation theoryself-regulation dreams and fantasyscience and dreams.
  6. An enormously original source of insight and information. Dreams tap our memory, our experience, and scan information held in our unconscious to form new insights from old experience. Dreams often present to us summaries or details of experience we have been unable to access consciously. Sometimes this is as early as life in the womb.  See: creativity and problem solving in dreams.
  7.    That insight comes from an amazing ability dreams have. Mostly we are lost in being aware of this moment or cares of recent events, and of our present environment, but the dream process has another view, that is of our whole life, like flying high and so have a huge view. We have taken in so much life experience, but many of  us have not learnt the amazing lessons we gained by it. But the overall view we get from dreams, visions and our intuition gives us a view that synthesises or whole life and highlights its wonder, its destiny, our real purpose and our life’s real work. See Intuition – Using It
  8. A means of compensating for failure or deprivation in everyday life, and as a means of expressing the otherwise unacknowledged aspects of oneself. Such dreams are a move toward wholeness. See: compensation theory.
  9. In dreams we may be integrating new experience with what we have already gathered and digested. In this way our abilities, such as social skills, are gradually upgraded. See: computercomputer-dream process as aEvans, Christopher.
  10. Dreams often stand in place of actual experience. So through dreams we may experiment with new experience or practice things we have not yet done externally. For instance many young women dream in detail of giving birth. This function of what might be called ‘imagination’ is tremendously undervalued, but is a foundation upon which human survival is built. Seeimagination and dreaming.
  11. An means of exercise for the psyche or soul. Just as the body will become sick if not moved and stressed, so the mind and emotions need stimulus and exercise. Dreams fulfill this need. See Opening to Life
  12. An expression of human supersenses. Humans have an unconscious ability to read body language – so they can assess other humans very quickly. Humans have an unimaginable ability to absorb information, not simply from books, but from everyday events – for example science now tells us that we collect information at an enormous rate, millions of bits every second, but unfortunately we do not synthesis it to see what it means, for most of it is unconscious, only dreams access and use it. With it they constantly arrive at new insights and realisations. Humans frequently correctly predict the future – not out of a bizarre ability, but from the information gathered about the present. All these abilities and more show in our dreams. See: esp in dreams.
  13. A means of solving problems, or formulating creative ideas, both in our personal life, and also in relationships and work. Many people have produced highly creative work directly from dreams. See Creative Dreaming and Problem Solving
  14. A presentation in symbols of past traumatic experience. If met this can lead to deep psychological healing. Such dreams are therefore an attempt on the part of our spontaneous inner processes to bring about healing change. See: abreactioncompensation theorynightmares.
  15. In the widest sense nearly all dreams act as a process of growth or a move toward maturing. Some dreams are very obviously presenting internal forces or dimensions of experience that might lead the conscious personality toward a greater balance and inclusiveness. See: individuationLifeStream.
  16. A way of reaching beyond the known world of experience and presenting intimations from the unknown. Many people have dreams in which ESP, out of the body experiences, and knowledge transcending time and space occur. This type of dream may indicate a link between the present person and people who had lived in the distant past; or between the dreamer and all existing life. Some of these dreams present powerful insights into how the transitory human personality may arise out of an eternal consciousness. They thus deal with the spiritual aspects of human nature. See: Dimensions of Human ExperienceBuddhism and dreamsCayce, Edgarcollective unconsciousBible and dreamsesp in dreamshallucinationshistory of dreamingreligion and dreamsyoga and dreamsDream Yoga

Learn how to Explore Your Dream

I know how much you might like to skip the Introduction to Dream Dictionary, and if you are tempted to do so, I wholeheartedly ask you to read Summing Up. Without understanding the things given there you are likely to completely miss the point of understanding your dreams. The best technique to enter you dream world – Peer Dream Work

You can start using the Dream Dictionary by entering the word you wish to research into the Search Box on the top right of most pages and clicking the search symbol – or you can read some fuller information below about the dictionary and how best to use it.

But the quickest way is to put your word in the search box. 

Your dreams can become vortexes of power to transform your life, and to enhance your perceptions. There is no ‘wave a magic wand’ route to this. It will not happen because you read a great book or look at a good dream dictionary. Those things might help, but the real magic lies in whether you can enter into your dream in the right way. (Try using Being the Person or Thing and Meaning of Your Dream).  

What does my dream mean? – How to explore your dream meanings

It is important in reading the definitions of dream images to realise that not every possible meaning can be covered in this dictionary. So please see if you get the idea of what is being said and allow your own imagination/feelings to fill in the meaning.

There are several ways you can understand the meanings held in your dreams, and there are several levels.

The first is an easily understood level, followed by greater depths:

For instance, speaking as an object or dream person, one needs to take time with it. Learn how to actually describe what you are as that dream object or person. If I dream of a dog, don’t simply describe what you think a dog feels like, but actually take time to tune into the dream image and describe the dog dreamt about. Is it an old or young dog? What is it doing in the dream? Listen to your feelings and describe what it/you feel. Remember that each image is a creation of your own mind and unconscious, so you are really describing yourself. Say whatever comes and consider its value afterwards. Below is a quote from Tiziana Stupia’s book Meeting Shiva 

Tony taught me a process in which a dream could be interpreted and understood by assuming that everything, people and objects alike, in a dream represented aspects of the Self. Sitting cross-legged on the squishy, old-fashioned sofa in the living room of my sadhu’s cave opposite Tony, I’d close my eyes and mentally return to a dream I had the previous night. He would ask me questions about the dream, which I’d answer in the first person. So if I dreamt about a tree, I would ‘become’ the tree, assume its personality and respond from its viewpoint. He’d ask ‘So what kind of tree are you? Are you big or small, old or young? What do you look like? Where are you growing? Why are you in Tiziana’s dream?’

This sounded like a silly exercise at first, but I was soon enough convinced of its validity. It was fascinating to discover a wealth of insight and emotion emerging from my responses, and understand how they related to my current situation. They also pinpointed exactly where I was in my growth process. Sometimes, the dreams would uncover unconscious fears and intuitions. Often, they also held important clues and offered solutions to my problems. It was like doing detective’s work – arduous at times, but rewarding beyond belief.

So below are listed several ways to gain insight and information from your dreams. Take your time with each approach until you get the feel for it, and then experiment with other approaches.

You can enter a key word in the search box. The Dream Dictionary contains interpretations on almost any type of dream subject. So, if you dreamt of a flying saucer landing in a field, and aliens getting out and taking a baby, a snake, and a pregnant dog back into the saucer, you could search separately for each of these subjects in the Dream Dictionary. Find the entry for flying saucer; then the entry for dog, babysnake, pregnant, and so on. For each entry, find further related entries by looking under ‘Similar Articles’ on the right-hand side of the page. Then see Techniques for Exploring your Dreams.

Each entry gives the general meaning of the dream subject, just as an encyclopedia or dictionary does for a word. Several possible meanings are given. This is because as with our speech the position of the word – the context – gives it special meanings. So, a hot dog would be quite different to a black dog, dog-end or dead dog. Therefore, when you read an entry which has several different meanings, sometimes with a ‘;’ between, it simply means any one of them could apply, which means you need to think about the feelings in your dream, the context, the other imagery used. Please do not fall into the trap that one reviewer made of saying that the whole dictionary is about sex. Of course, sex is one meaning among many others. So, use your own sense of your dream as well as any definitions given.

To really explore the meaning, it is useful to use the Dream Dictionary as it is designed, rather than arrive at a ‘thought out’ interpretation. To see a working example of this see Dream Interpretation Example One

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Personal Dream Interpretation

I no longer offer a personal dream interpretation service, but only occasionally if you manage to send  an interesting dream I will respond – the reason is I am getting past my sell by date being 84.

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In the meantime, here is a way to work out your own dream – Getting at Your Dream’s Meaning.

Please note: this a not-for-profit site and it offers real dream interpretations, not dream dictionary features that are not real interpretations. We ask no payment for these interpretations, but it would be a great if you wish to donate anything. I do not ask a fee for what I do, but if you wish to donate you can click on this Paypal Donation  

A Note About the Author: Tony Crisp

I have been interested in the health of mind and body since my early teens. I began writing about these subjects in 1956. My fascination for what lay under the surface of the mind led me personally to explore the unconscious using dreams and other mental and physical disciplines. From 1972 – 94 I worked as a psychotherapist using an eclectic, Humanistic Psychology approach which included dream work and releasing the secrets the body holds. My books include Do You DreamMind and MovementThe Instant Dream Book; Dream DictionaryLife’s Little Secrets –Liberating The Body  – and many more. See My Books.

During those years I worked as a dream columnist for The Daily Mail and She Magazine. I was the regular dream interpreter for the London Broadcasting Company; I ran Teletext’s dream page on UK television’s Channel Four; and for New Zealand Teletext, and now I run this website giving dream help in the many replies to peoples dreams and in as well as many features on subjects connected with the human inner world. See Features

Throughout more than five decades I have been involved in a personal search for the secrets of mind and spirit. In those years I have also taught thousands of people techniques of deep relaxation, meditation, and methods of self exploration using dreams. Wanting to dig deep I explored the use of dreams and taught individuals and groups of people how to use these visions of the night to discover and heal the deepest issues in themselves, and to touch the high ground of their spiritual awareness. I worked for twenty years as a psychotherapist using several approaches, one of which was a way of honouring the body as a doorway to the unconscious mind, the emotions and spiritual experience. See Self-Regulation –  Recognition – Life’s Little Secrets – The LifeStream and Opening to Life

During the sixty years of seeking the wild wondrous beasts of the mind and spirit I dared my own inner adventure. But I also travelled with other people as an ordinary person, not a therapist, sharing their experience of fear and wonder as they unveiled and set loose their fountain of perception. I have travelled countless dream pathways, traversed the timeless with those using awareness enhancing drugs, and wrestled with the vitality of the body as people mimed and shouted their deepest intuitions through movement, dance and voice. See Tony’s Biography

My aim has always to share my findings – actually what I was shown or given from within – was given freely; I never had any teacher or attended a course, of course I read an enormous amount, so I cannot ask for money. If you wish to donate anything to the running of the site you can do so by clicking on https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=JYTWAMC4LQLQ4&source=url 

My teacher has been from exploring dreams and occasionally touching the wonder we were born as – not from words written in books about that but by meeting it. See Enlightenment  

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Introduction to Using the Dream Dictionary

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Diccionario de los Sueños

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What Is Offered In The Dictionary

Because of the many nature films shown on television we are used to the idea of mature and intelligent adults spending days or years watching the behaviour of animals such as hyenas or chimpanzees. In her book In The Shadow Of Man, Jane Von Lawick Goodall explains how, by watching chimpanzees and taking note of her observations, radical new insight into the behaviour of chimpanzees arose. She didn’t think beforehand what she expected to find, but simply observed and put together the information that arose. For instance on several occasions she saw the chimpanzees kill another animal and eat its flesh. The knowledge that chimpanzees were meat eaters was entirely new.

In a similar way, by observing dreams and laying bare the emotions and associated ideas and memories we have with the dream imagery, we gradually define our personality, its strengths and weaknesses, we discover new abilities and we grow beyond our old problems, and that in a depth we had never managed previously. I have called this mind watching, but it covers every aspect of human nature, not simply the intellect or thinking.

This mind watching through observation of our dreams first presents information about our personal experiences and memories and how they influenced our growth and influence present responses. Gradually the information arising from such watching leads beyond ones personal self. It shows in many cases how our unique self has arisen from, and has indissoluble links with our forebears, with our culture, with the past as a whole, and with the cosmos itself. It leads from oneself to the edge of the known, and perhaps helps us take a few steps beyond that edge into the unknown, to create new understanding.

This mind watching gradually reveals to us the many aspects of the mind’s working, and with such insight may come the growing ability to use these facets of ourselves. Not only may we discover great vistas of personal memory, but also the roots of our creativity, the subtle senses of our emotions and unconscious, and the treasures of experience we have gathered. See Your Amazing Circle – Self Observation 

So how can we get into this magical world of our dreams and start to harvest the possibilities held there? The following pages of this book are designed to help, guide and inform on how to do this. The book is also a counsellor on what you may find in your dream adventure.

The information about dreams presented in this book has been gathered during fifty years of working with and studying dreams and the dream process. It synthesises the experience of personally helping hundreds of individuals explore their dreams. The examples used have been taken from a collection of over 8000 dreams put onto a computer filing system. The filing system was also used to define general associations with commonly used dream images.

The major input for definition however has arisen from the actual exploration of dreams undertaken by individuals. These are either people I have worked with personally who have deeply felt the emotions and issues behind their dreams, not simply talked them over and come to an intellectual interpretation but a deep insight, or are people who have written up their findings arising from similar work. Added to this is the commonly held associations we have through our language and the way we use imagery within speech. Of course your personal dream imagery may not be using the commonly held associations, or those used by other people, and so you must read the definitions with care and consider if these fit what is implied or dramatised in your dream.

In the entries in the Dictionary are explanations of the many different types of dreams and dream images. Despite some people’s attempt to explain dreams in one simple formula, dreams cover a huge range of phenomena and human experience. Amongst subjects covered in the book are thousands of entries on the researched meaning of the things, people, creatures and places we dream about. There are also many entries on special subjects such as symbols and dreaming; interpreting dreamsrecurring dreamsnightmaressex while asleepteenage girls love dreamsprecognitive dreamstalking in ones sleepthe dream as an adventure; Occultism and Dreamsscience sleep and dreams; and many more.

There are a compete list of these Features and the  Archetypes covered.

Therefore, if you have dreamt of such things as your teeth falling out; being chased; or your marriage partner dying, you will find an explanation of your dream in the following pages.

The aim of the book is to help you make connections between your dreams and your everyday life; to discover more fully the powerful emotions and reactions that unconsciously direct your decisions and responses in waking. The book is not an attempt to give you merely ideas to play with, to agree or disagree with, like fortune telling. It can lead to real insights which empower you to make more of yourself, and find your way through the many decisions life confronts you with.

But you can move directly on to Using the Dictionary – or better still read Meaning of Your Dream

The Discovery of Dreams

In this section are given real practical methods of understanding your dreams. This is not like an intellectual interpretation of your dreams but a real meeting, it is the difference between thinking about something and living it. It is the difference between reading a description of a person and actually meeting them in a deep relationship. These are given for use only if you wish to use them, otherwise there is the dictionary that is also very useful. To start with here are some things to remember about dreaming. They have been gathered from a long involvement with dreams. But you can move directly on to Using the Dictionary.

Dreams are a magical mirror in which your innermost hopes, longings, fears/terrors and genius are made real. They are made real as external environments, people, animals and relationships. It is as if all your deepest feelings, hopes, fear and wonder are projected outward onto a multidimensional screen. It is a world of virtual reality that you feel is real. Unfortunately this wonderful virtual reality world is usually felt as dealing with other people, as externals, like something that can damage us, or something like the Devil that can possess us.

But the greatest truth I have found in exploring dreams – not interpreting them – is that we are alone with ourselves in the world of our dream. If we can acknowledge and admit that our terrors we dream are actually our past hurts that we have not faced presenting themselves for us to heal; that the ghosts and demons that can rampage about our night are embodiments of our fears; that our wonderful visions and insights are an expression of our own infinite potential, then we can walk a pathway to finding what we really are. Audio Introduction to Exploring a Dream

  1. Dreams are virtual realities that we create in our sleep. Even the wonderful dreams of God and angels are an external virtual reality, and mirror of our own inner immensity and our enormous variety. Unfortunately people either accept them as externally real, or as fantasy. But they are reflections of your potential, that cannot be seen in your daily life that is so dominated by your physical senses and hungers and fears.
  2. See The Magical Dream Machine. So the images and fears we experience in our dreams are projection upon the vast screen of our mind. They are all projections from you. Running from them is like trying to escape from yourself.
  3. In life and sleep we have two powerful actions working in us. The first is our waking experience based on having a body, its limitations, vulnerabilities and a particular gender. Our second is the power that gave us life and continues to express as dreams.
  4. While we sleep our conscious self is largely or totally unconscious, and while we sleep our voluntary muscles are paralysed – therefore another will or motivating force moves our body. So we have a Conscious Will, and what I will call a Life Will. The first one we have experience of as we can move our arm or speak in everyday activities; but the second will takes over when we sleep. See Sleep Paralysis
  5. This Life will can move us to speak, to move our body, and in fact do things that we cannot do with our Conscious Will. As Freud pointed out this inner will has full access to our memories. It can do so many other things that are described else where – See ESP in DreamsEdgar Cayce and the Cosmic Mind.
  6. This Life Will or motivator has been active for millions of years and we see it working all the time in animals. We are partly split in half because we are often opposed to what our Life Will in us wants. So the only way to express what is good for us is in dreams when our conscious will is largely passive.
  7. Life Will created your body and pre-existed you as a person you know today. It was working in you prior to your ability to speak or know in the way you do now. But of course it has fantastic wisdom and skills, as can be seen in animals.
  8. Life, if you look around you at Life’s creature, they can take any form. So Life itself is without form. In fact the recent advances in quantum physics suggest that what gives us existence is beyond space and time – beyond understanding.
  9. So dreams do not come from the human unconscious, but from the formless origins of Life – our Core Self. To express in a way that is understandable to us as a person with limited understanding, dreams use all the common imagery and ideas. So people who say that dreams are a mish mash of common everyday events are mistaken. See LifeStreamLevels of Awareness in Sleeping and Waking; .
  10. Our core self can be explained by realising that we are all dependent on the universe. We often feel that the universe is way beyond our understanding, but a few simple facts may help. The first is that the universe as we know it began with what had been called the Big Bang. But before that there was a situation prior to the creation of time and space. That situation is very much like the experience of Edgar Cayce who had an awareness reaching beyond time and space. See God and the Big Bang are the Same Thing
  11. Irish physicist John Stewart Bell put forward a quantum theorem that has revolutionised the way reality is considered. In brief, the theorem states that when two sub-microscopic particles are split and moved to a distance from each other, the action on, or of, particle ‘A’, is instantaneously reproduced with particle ‘B’. This interaction does not rely on any known link or communication and is considered to stand above normal physical laws of nature, as it is faster than light. Prior to such findings it was thought nothing could transcend the speed of light. Nick Herbert, in an interview published in High Frontiers writes: ‘THERE ARE LOTS OF THINGS that are being kept from the public as far as the subjects of physics and consciousness are concerned. Bell’s Theorem was proved in 1964, and it is still not taught in physics classes, and you don’t hear it on your science news programs. A theorem is a proof, and no one has found a flaw in this theorem. It’s such a simple proof that a high school kid can understand it. So physicists can understand it. They have various ways of trying to ignore it, but it can’t be refuted because it’s so simple.’

Our Core self is that amazing part of us existing beyond time and space, and was within us from the start of our universe.

  1. In the world of dreams our most intimate fears and longings are given an exterior life of their own in the form of the people, objects and places of our dream. Therefore our sexual drive may be shown as a person and how we relate to them; or given shape and colour as an object; or given mood as a scene. Our feeling of ambition might thus be portrayed as a business person in our dream – our changing emotions as the sea or a river; while the present relationship we have with our ambition or emotions is expressed in the events or plot of the dream.
  2. You cannot be killed in a dream. All you can experience is the anguish and perhaps fear of dying, but in dreams you cannot die – or drown, or burn or any other threatening thing. We make the mistake of taking our very real values from our outer life into our inner life of dreams.
  3. In dreams, what ever moves away from you in our dreams is going out of your awareness or even life; and whatever moves toward us is emerging into consciousness. Whatever it is that is coming toward us is giving us something whether it is energy, insight, or a frightening dream that is trying to shock us to wake up and clear out the inner mess we are in.  The fact we give it a frightening image is because we are brought up to be scared of ourselves and to not trust Life/Core. If you know the tenets of the AA, you will see that is what they are about – to trust Life.
  4. Most people are frightened of life. I see this in so many dreams sent to me. They do not trust themselves to the powerful action of Life flowing through them. See Life’s Little Secrets.
  5. We have been brain washed to believe that our existence depends upon nothing but accidental events, the survival of the fittest, the chemical and biological mechanical actions. Yet every time I have gone deeply into my ‘unconscious’ and yet maintained awareness, I have found a wonderful power of Life there.
  6. So if your dreams frighten you, I want to say you are frightened of something wonderful that could have grown you and enlarged your experience of yourself. The thing that was full of fear was your own fear put into an image, and yet was a wonderful gift that you avoided receiving.
  7. I too was full of fears and often woke up screaming. Then I learned to trust Life. It is like learning to swim. So please go back into your dream and let the fearful thing be fully experienced instead of waking up in fear. Then it will unveil itself as a thing of light and love.

Deepening Dream Understanding

The methods described above will throw light on most dreams, even if you do not take time to write out fuller associations. When the insights gained in this way become useful, you may wish to increase your skill still further. Therefore, below, and throughout the book, additional information is given on how to draw out the wisdom in dreams. A working attitude toward them is also outlined.

I suggest you only try one method at a time and use it until you are capable or it or it doesn’t work for you, then move on to other methods taking time with them until you find what works best for you.

Although the process of dreams might not be a direct attempt to present MEANING, a dream may nevertheless have a great deal of INFORMATION in it. This becomes clearer if we remember that not many years ago it would have appeared highly superstitious or suspect to claim to be able to tell a person details of their health and parentage from a sample of their urine or blood. Today it is common practice. We accept that a growing amount of information can be gained from these unlikely sources. Blood doesn’t contain meaning, but we can gain information from it. In a similar way a sample of our dreams can also tell us an enormous amount. Sometimes this data is obvious, sometimes it needs processing to uncover, as with urine and blood.

Dream Processing – The following dream needs no deep techniques of processing. The word ‘processing’ is used throughout the book instead of analysis. Analysis has the connotation of giving our own thoughts or opinions to the dream. Processing is used to suggest extraction of information which leads to insight. With this particular dream, all it needs is a few facts brought to it to make clear what information it holds. The dream is that of a young woman, Mrs C. L.

It is a bright sunny day. I am walking across a large concrete car park. It is empty except for a huge trailer from a truck. It has BOOTS written on the side, and stands high off the ground. Being 4’ 9’ tall myself I decide to walk underneath. As I am half way the trailer starts to be lowered on top of me. I try to shout but cannot. I get onto my hands and knees and the trailer still kept coming down. I am now lying on my stomach, convinced it is going to crush me. Then it suddenly stops a couple of inches from my head. I wake feeling terrible.

The dream is interesting, although the information it holds may at first not be obvious. But with a minimum of processing the dream information will become clear. The first technique of processing the dream is to recognise some of the key statements within it. These are I AM WALKING – I TRY TO SHOUT – CONVINCED IT IS GOING TO CRUSH ME.

The reason these are key statements is because the dreamer is saying ‘I am walking’ – ‘I try to shout’ – ‘I …am convinced’. The word ‘I’ is important.

This form of processing has not added anything to the dream. It has simply drawn attention to the information already there in the dreamer’s description of her experience – this is why it is useful to write the dream out fully. If we add a little more information which the dreamer herself connects with the dream, then it becomes even clearer. Mrs C. L. says, ‘I work for BOOTS the chemist. The employees at the shop I work in were told at the beginning of the year that Boots are selling our shop. When that happens I will be made redundant. We were supposed to finish on May 26th. It is now the end of July. The deal fell through so we are now just left hanging indefinitely until a new buyer comes along. I feel very unsettled as I can’t make any plans for the future.’

Having read these comments, it would be difficult not to see the dream as relating to the woman’s work situation, and to her strong anxiety connected with it. She herself says – through her dream – she is ‘convinced it – the situation – is going to crush’ her. She also feels her strong emotions about this – expressed in her attempt to shout – are not being expressed or ‘heard’. From just this one dream, we can be forgiven if we assume that dreams may express in dramatic form our feeling reaction to the circumstances of our everyday life. Taking this dream as information, Mrs. C. L. could see she is feeling crushed by the situation, yet not stating her feelings loudly enough to be heard. She might therefore speak to the manager to clarify the situation for herself.

Here is an even shorter and less complex dream. It has been left just as it was written so its information is immediately apparent. The key words here might be TRYING TO CONTACT HIM and NOT UNDERSTANDING WHY HE LEFT ME. The dream is from Mrs C. J.

Years ago I lost my first husband at twenty nine. I had the same dream continually of being in a phone box trying to contact him, not understanding why he had left me. He died of cancer. Later I remarried and this husband died of a heart attack. Once again the same dream came back so much.

On speculating about the dream from what is immediately apparent, we might say that although it is irrational to continually  try to contact her husband when there has never be any success, nevertheless, her desire to be with him continues year after year. This same part of her cannot understand why he died. We might put such feelings into words as, ‘But what had he done to die so young? Why should it happen to me twice?’ We can also assume that her desire to understand these questions, which is what contacting her husband represents, is expressed in the dream as the telephone.

The dream process has dramatised her situation and inner feelings – given them form and made them experiential. Looking at this dream helps us see how an image, such as the telephone, performs exactly the same sort of function as a spoken word, although in a different way. Namely, it represents feelings and thoughts. That the woman’s questions remain, that her problem is unsolved, is apparent from the fact she does NOT make contact on the telephone, and does not find peace. Understanding her dream shows her the importance of the questions she continually asks herself, and the need to release the emotions behind them. With this she could be free of the dream. If she cannot manage this by herself, taking advantage of the professional help of a therapist might help.

To make it clear how everything is a dream holds personal information, to give an example, I was recently asked by a man who had given no thought to dreams how on earth you could extract any meaning from them. He was wearing a fairly old T-shirt, so I said, “OK, let’s imagine you dreamt of your T-shirt, what would you make of that?”

After a while he said, “I don’t know that I would make anything of it.”

My response was to say, “Right, but now tell me where you bought the T-shirt, and what memories it has for you.” Whereupon he told me memories of being abroad, and that the shirt was part of those memories, and he wasn’t prepared to say what they were as they were so personal.

The important point is that everything we see and deal with, every person, every imagined scene, has such a background of feelings and perhaps memories. It is exactly this background of feelings and information that the dream weaves its story from. To understand it you need to become aware of the usually unconscious feeling responses you have in connection with every thing, place, person and animal you fill your dreams with.

For fuller Dream Processing – Below are described simple techniques that make it possible to quickly gain information from your dreams. They have been put as a series of questions. If you take time to consider and answer the question you will find your way into a new experience of dream understanding.

Read it in: Processing Your Dream  

Seeing under the Surface

The following information is to take you deeply into the dream you are exploring, They are for those who really want to make progess in their life and in their inner world or dreams

Acting on your Dreams – Extracting more from your dream by letting your body and feelings express it can provide a remarkable release of insight. There are several ways of doing this.

Do see the instructions see: Acting on Your Dreams

The Peer Dream Group – This method is the most powerful and deepest method. It includes some of the other techniques mentioned.

The way of working known as the Peer Dream Group came about from our experience that dreams are largely self explanatory if approached in the right way. An exterior expert or authority is not necessary for a profound experience of and insight into dreams and into oneself if certain rules are respected and used. The dreamer is the ultimate expert on their own dream  and themselves but only when we break through to what is usually unconscious mental states, and when treated as such, and supported in their investigation of their dream drama, they can powerfully explore and manifest the resources of their inner life.

To use it see: The Peer Dream Group and What I Have Seen In Dreams

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-Curious 2011-02-28 3:47:05

I am 24 year old woman and had the strange dream…

I have been going through alot over the past 2 months, with my husband and family. My husband of 7 years was always abusive and what no, then he recently went to jail for breaking my nose.

I plan on divorcing him, but he doesn’t want me to. But I just cant be with him anymore. We have a son together. But this dream I had, I was in the back yard of this home that is always in my dreams. This home has a “secret”/hidden room. So I was standing in the yard and I see the huge wave from the ocean, it was like the waves from the movies that would destroy all life on land.

I saw it and my husband had said something like “the world is ending” I got scared and held him, my son, tight and said a prayer. Then we went back in the house and went into the secret room. That’s when other people started appearing in the dream, And we all started to get food from the kitchen and taking it in the secret room.

Eventually, I was wondering what happened to the wave but I had noticed there was flooding in the house but nothing to end life of any kind. And noticed that my husband or my son wasn’t in the dream anymore. It was just alot of people who I didn’t know. What does this mean?

-Curious 2011-02-28 3:45:33

I have been going through alot over the past 2 months, with my husband and family. My husband of 7 years was always abusive and what no, then he recently went to jail for breaking my nose.

I plan on divorcing him, but he doesn’t want me to. But I just cant be with him anymore. We have a son together. But this dream I had, I was in the back yard of this home that is always in my dreams. This home has a “secret”/hidden room. So I was standing in the yard and I see the huge wave from the ocean, it was like the waves from the movies that would destroy all life on land.

I saw it and my husband had said something like “the world is ending” I got scared and held him, my son, tight and said a prayer. Then we went back in the house and went into the secret room. That’s when other people started appearing in the dream, And we all started to get food from the kitchen and taking it in the secret room.

Eventually, I was wondering what happened to the wave but I had noticed there was flooding in the house but nothing to end life of any kind. And noticed that my husband or my son wasn’t in the dream anymore. It was just alot of people who I didn’t know. What does this mean?

    -Tony Crisp 2011-03-03 11:58:53

    Curious – The huge wave is a sign of tremendous changes coming. How long is not certain, but as everyone was rushing to get into your secret room, it seems as if it will not be long. But sometimes it takes a while, maybe months or so.

    The wave is also a sign of nature itself being instrumental in the change that is coming, though I doubt that it will be an actual flood or massive wave; more like difficult times producing social change.

    The ocean is the source of life and all its events, so it seems as if this might be a great thing in your life – and as I have many reports from people sending in similar dreams, I feel it is not just you who will be affected.

    The last part of the dream I am not sure of. It certainly seems that after the change you will not be threatened by your husband. It is as if he and your son are no longer an important part of the dream, but I do not have any feeling that they are therefore no longer in your life. I feel that because, as you saw the wave coming and you held your husband and your son, you prayed.

    Tony

-Kavita Nair 2011-02-27 21:15:23

I had a dream that I had a tail on my back and it started growing .as I tried cutting it shorter but it keep growing non stop.what does this means?

    -Tony Crisp 2011-03-03 12:56:40

    Kavita – This certainly refers to the animal we all carry inside us. Firstly the mammal and even reptile is an actual active part of our brain. But also we are only recently, as far as time goes, have developed real human characteristics, such as complex speech. So we are very much still a mammal, and in our fears are still a reptile with its flight and fight mechanism.

    So you cannot cut of your tail, and if you try to repress it, it becomes stronger.

    There is so much treasure and wisdom we carry from our inner animal that it is best to acknowledge and allow it to teach us. So the animal in your dream can portray your relationship with the fundamental life processes in you. Dreams depict these processes as intelligent and responsive, not just as chemical actions and reactions as modern medicine so often does. Therefore your conscious attitudes influence these fundamental living processes in you – processes that maintain health, digestion, beat your heart, rebuild damage and fight infection. Negative feelings or attitudes can cause these ‘animals’ is you to despair or lose motivation, and thus lead to depression or illness. Remember that in looking at the animal in your dreams you are yourself an animal. You as a person are a tiny spark of consciousness, a little bit of self awareness riding an incredibly ancient animal you call your body. Remember that your body has formed from cells and genetic information that has gradually developed over millions of years. It holds that information in it unconsciously. The animal in your dreams depicts this ancient wisdom and how you relate to it. It shows you how you are dealing with the urges in you that are natural, but might need to be helped into modern life or transformed in some way, not killed out, maimed or tortured.

    Tony

-Holly 2011-02-25 21:09:28

I had a dream last night that has me bothered. I’m not sure what to make of it.

I dreamt I was cleaning my house and a friend of mine and his twin brother came over. I was pleasently surprised, and the one twin I am attracted to, responded affectionately. He took an earring from my ear, smiled and said, “this is so I can see you again, you’ll come back for it.” He hugged me, and I escorted he and his brother outside. It was sprinkling. They walked away in the sprinkling rain and I stepped out in to it, but did not get wet.
The overall emotions were positive but the swiftness of the dream and him taking my earring (along with my willingness) is what has me confused. PLEASE HELP!

    -Tony Crisp 2011-03-02 10:16:08

    Holly – It is very difficult to know exactly what your dream means. That is because we can dream about all manner of lovers, and seeing so many dreams of this type, I see that women really want the man they fancy to want them in return.

    Having dreams about so many beautiful women who I would love to have known, and seeing that in the end they are creatures of my dream world, I have to believe that this may of yours may be about a dream lover.

    But of course I could be wrong. If you wish him to become a real lover, then you must work on it by making him know you are interested. Men are not all the dynamic go getters in films. Many need a bit of encouragement. So go for it.

    Tony

-mary 2011-02-25 18:39:09

I am 8 months pregnant and i have been having very odd dreams this last month. One particular. I am not myself, i am married and very happy. I was sick one night so my husband put our dog outside so he wouldnt bother me. Later in the night it began storming and i felt bad for the dog and wanted to bring him inside. I couldnt find my husband so i went outside to look for the dog. There was a cabin with a light on in the woods and i went to see what it was thinking my husband or the dog might be out there. I walked in and there was blood everywhere and shackles and chains. My husband showed up behind me and i began running and he chased me through the woods. I came out at a road and saw a car but the car drove away when i was going towards it and then i woke up. I have had this dream a couple times now and its pretty upsetting what might it mean?

-Ashley 2011-02-25 17:21:03

I had a very intense fight in my dreams last night with a BIG BLACK DOG. I’ve recentlycome outof living on the streets and being hooked to slammig heroine and meth. I’m 22 and 7 months pregnant with a lil girl and have recently given my life to God. Like Peter in the bible who talked about a thorn in his side, i feel theres something battling my relationship with God fiercley. Was this dog a demon?

    -Tony Crisp 2011-03-01 13:38:35

    Ashley – No, darling woman, the black dog is not a demon; except maybe one you created out of your own struggle.

    There is no need to fight it, because whatever it does it cannot hurt you. You are only fighting images that you are scared of, and nobody is actually hurt physically. Of course if you believe in it, it can cause a lot of crazy thoughts. Belief is a tremendous power.

    If you can, love that black dog, and if you manage it will turn into a heartbreaking feeling. That is what you are fighting, the heartbreak of meeting yourself. And that has always been difficult for all of us.

    So, when you give your life to God do it wholly. Give your body, you sexual feelings, your emotions, your voice and your thought. But please do not hold onto any thoughts or plans of what that means. We do not know what God will do, or is necessary to do, to heal and grow us. We are all like stone men and women, cased with our own mistakes and ignorance. And when we first ask for help it may feel like someone is hammering at you. It’s true, the stone has to be hammered of. But when our arm or face becomes free and we feel the wind, it is worth it.

    Remember that you can make it. If not now, then later, because we have eternity.

    Tony

-Nesma 2011-02-25 9:19:21

I had a dream which I would love for you to try to analyse. First I’ll tell you a little about myself. I’m 17 years old (18 in two months) and I live at home with my two younger sisters and my mother, who divorced my father about two years ago. Now my mom is seeing this guy behind our back, lying whenever she’s meeting with him because she knows me and my sister wouldn’t be able to handle a new man in our lives. Plus she really doesn’t know how to pick them. Now for my dream.
It started out at home where I was with my mom and my youngest sister at the age of 7, and we were all a bit stressed. It turns out that my mom had booked a flying ticket for me and my sister to go to spain at 8 o’clock, and then she just left not to be seen again through the entire dream. I remembered that I had an appointment with my friends later that day (An appointment that I actually had in real life), and I was sad that I had to cancel, but a part of me was excited for the trip, so I left with my sister. we ended some place that was a bit magical and there were about four to five other people there whom we knew. We were around a lake wich was very very deep even though it looked like it wasn’t and around the lake was a lot of green plants, but we had to sail across the lake to get to the other side. I was the first to sail and it turned out to be a challenge, because if I didn’t have the ballance I would fall into the lake and drown. But then I saw my sister on the other side, and she was playing with this nest filled with eggs, so I quickly pulled her away and realized that one of the eggs were hatched, and there lied a little bird trying to fly. I picked it up trying to help it, but no matter what I did nothing worked, so we moved on. I was beginning to worry that we were going to miss our plane but we ended up at this icy place. I quickly realized that me and the other people were in the middle of a war, and somewhere hidden behind all that snow, lyied a bunch of angry bears in armor ready to fight us. We all ran out to climb the different mountains that the bears were guarding but they were always the wrong choice and we could never reach the top. Then I found out that we should just climb the tallest mountain where the queen was. (I wouldn’t really call her a queen because she wasn’t. She was this female figure with a lot of power…like a queen.) I was the first to climb the mountain but near the top I slipped and fell down a little of the way, but I just had to try again. When I reached the top there was very little space for me to stand on because of this huge wall blocking me from the queen. It was sort of like standing at the top of a building outside your window. But I maneuvered my way to the end of the wall and had a quick peek at the queen. She was standing there watching her bears get to her and I got the chance to talk a little bit with her. We decided to live in peace and shook hands on it, but it made the bears angry, so they decided to disobey their queen and attack us, but we all got away in time. I found my sister sitting in a sandbox with our cousin, and I asked her if she was ready to travel, and then we left for the airport.
I’m from Denmark so I apologize for any mistakes in my english language.
Thank you.

    -Tony Crisp 2011-03-01 13:18:08

    Nesma – This is one of those fairy story dreams, taking place in a magic world. The magic world is that of the wonderful and often hidden or even invisible world of what takes place in you as you age and grow.

    At this stage of your life you are learning the basics of physical and emotional independence. We face here the attempt to find strength to escape the domination, or felt domination, of mother/carer – difficult because one is dependent upon the parent in a very real way – and develop in the psyche a satisfying sexual connection.

    I feel the mother is the Queen who you find an agreement with, but still feel the threat of her bears – her instinctive feelings; those in regard to her sexual needs. Bears, when the mating urge comes, can sometimes walk off and leave their cubs.

    The very deep lake that you had to cross is the depths of the unconscious, the deeps from which Life grew your body and supported you; the wonderful mysterious cosmos that is the background – the unconscious – from which you emerged. If you lost your balance and fell into it without preparation you could drown in the amazing forces and experiences you would meet there.

    Your young sister – actually a young you – find a newly hatched chick. This is the still dependent part of you that has not yet learnt to fly the nest. And even though you try to get it to fly, and obviously you would love to fly away, you cannot yet manage it.

    The middle of the war scene and the bears suggest a conflict, but you didn’t say with what or whom. So you run from the bears – the instincts – and eventually climb the mountain. That is quite an achievement, so give yourself praise for it. The climb suggests you achieved a new level of appreciation, a new level of maturity, from which you managed a communication with the ruler of your world – your mother. I do not know if you have managed that outwardly, but you have the potential to be at peace with your mother.

    Then you care for the more vulnerable part of you and you managed the journey back to everyday life. It is a sign of maturity that you can explore the magical world of your mind, your psyche, and then return to a normal existence. And you did it without waking up in fear about the bears, or the first failure to climb the mountain. As I said – quite an achievement.

    Tony

-Laura 2011-02-24 22:24:11

I was wondering if you could help me interpret a few of my dreams. I normally don’t dream aka don’t remember my dreams, but this year has been different. I have had multiple dreams that I have vividly remembered and 3 have left an impression on me. All 3 of these I have woken up bawling. The one that had the most meaning was me seeing my Grandma and crying because she was still alive and I didn’t know why, but then I went up to her and started talking to her. I felt as though I actually did talk to her…I felt her there. Another was basically the same, but with my Grandpa. The 3rd one had to do with my friends and brother getting in a car accident and some of my friends died. I am just curious about some of the meanings of these dreams. I find this kind of stuff very interesting and it would be great if you could help me out!

    -Tony Crisp 2011-03-01 11:38:10

    Laura – Because most people are brought up to believe that death is the end of us, it seems s strange contradiction to dream of meetings such as yours that are so clear and stirred your emotions; something that would not have been so deeply felt if you had fully believed in their survival.

    I believed in survival from an early age, abut twelve, and later had experiences that showed me we live in a much wider world than that shown us by living in the constraints of our senses. Then I had an out of body experience, and it felt as if I had woken up for the first time, my mind was so clear and fast.

    So it is certain that you are realising that you are part of a larger life, in which your grandparents are still sharing. If you study a bit about it here on this site or in books, it will help you develop the ability you have. I believe the love you have for them was the key that opened the door for you. Treasure that key.

    The accident dream I can’t comment on because I would need a fuller description. Meanwhile see http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/life-and-death-chapter-links/

    Tony

-Michelle 2011-02-24 5:38:10

I had a dream that I was leaving and there was a big group of people walking me to my car to say goodbye to me. I looked around and the only person I really wanted to say goodbye to wasn’t there. (My recent ex-boyfriend who broke up with me 11 times.) I walked to his apartment and walked in without knocking. He was sitting on a sofa with his arms crossed and there was a man sitting next to him crying. I was under the impression that my ex-boyfriend had just broken up with this man and the man was having a difficult time letting go. I woke up feeling like my ex-boyfriend was homosexual. Was this just a “sour grapes” response to us not being together? I had received word from God that this man was sent by Him to be my future spouse. He has had issues related to losing his wife recently (18 months ago) after being very unhappily married 32 years. He has broken up with me every time we have had an argument or serious discussion. He said his relationship with his late wife was miserable due to her moods and dragging arguments on for weeks. He has told me that if all women are like this, he would rather be alone. He has commented to me about his telling guys at the gym that what they are trying to accomplish (lifting weights) “is working” and recently asked me if I thought it was weird. At the time, I just felt like he was just trying to lift up the younger generation, but now it seems like predatory behavior to me after having that dream, as he describes the men as “melting” related to his compliments. Now, I worry, was the dream about him having homosexual tendencies?

    -Tony Crisp 2011-02-28 10:49:04

    Michelle – The scene setter here is that you were saying goodbye to a group of people. So what are you saying goodbye to in your life at the moment?

    Then you realise that there is a person missing who you want to say goodbye to. Why do you want to say goodbye to him?

    Then you see him having difficulty in breaking up with a male friend. And here is where the complications arise. This is because in our dreams the person you dream about is never ever the actual person – just as your thoughts about your ex is never ever him, but your thoughts about him. And considering what you feel about him, your thoughts and feelings can create a dream of enormous criticism.

    So it could be that you wondered whether you ex has homosexual tendencies, and so you had this dream. But in your own dream you feel he is breaking up with a male.

    I think it might be better for you to get back to the beginning where you are saying goodbye, and ask yourself whether you really want to say goodbye to your ex. I feel as if you really want to be with him but do not know how. The male he is breaking up with is his old self, so there may be hope.

    Tony

      -Michelle 2011-03-14 1:17:51

      What you say is true. My ex- broke up with me 11 times and begged my forgiveness back 10 times. I believe the Lord told me He was sending this man to me–a very devout Christian. The last 6 times he has broken up with me has been extremely difficult and I have had two anxiety attacks related to my feelings/fears. I believe in my dream, I was saying goodbye to the promise I believe the Lord gave me that the boyfriend would be my future husband, the last man I would kiss or love. In my dream, I want to say goodbye to him because he is important to me. In my dream, my ex- is crossing his arms without emotion and there is another man (who appears wimpy and crying and reaching toward my ex-) who appears to be crying over their “break-up” . It is true; I do not want to say goodbye, but I cannot control the situation and it is making me feel just a little bit crazy inside. I do feel that it is unhealthy holding onto a relationship where he doesn’t love me enough to work through the difficult conversations. I still love him, but feel like I must move on. He still tells me “it is easy” to love me, but says he no longer loves me. I have written to you once before about a 8-year old Mexican boy that appeared in both of our dreams one morning who was “waiting”.

        -Tony Crisp 2011-03-18 9:29:30

        Michelle – I believe track records are often a good illustration of what it possible in the future, and your ex has an awful track record. Also he is saying he doesn’t feel anything for you. So be kind to yourself and let it/him go.

        You know, a woman’s heart can create so much hope, and it can lead to a very long period of uncertainty. As a women friend said to me, “I waited for him for 14 years, and in the end had to give him up as a bad job. He was always coming and going – and in the end he went.”

        Tony

          -Michelle 2011-11-11 2:53:02

          Not sure why I didn’t see your last response before. He did go to California to care for a sick relative, but then came home, with love letters and promises to marry, just before my back surgery in June. After a wonderful month, he was off again to care for his father and again broke up with me before he left in July. When he came home early this month to bring me a Maltese puppy that he promised me back in July, it was different. He was very loving and kind, but he had more of a distant attitude, more private, and didn’t seek me out or offer invitation to me. I asked the dreaded question and did discover there was another. I begged him to stop his calls to her. He smirked and shrugged, said he wanted a relationship with her and hadn’t even held her hand yet. He also smirked when I asked if she was younger than I–he had once told me he could “get younger”. (I am 46 and he is 57.) He still treated me with care, concern, and love and I still believed my promise from the Lord. I did end up taking his phone and calling her–very mature conversation between two women. He is upset because now she won’t take his calls. As I was picking my things up at his home that night, he said he didn’t think it was over between us, that he often thinks we are supposed to be together. I ended up breaking up with him that night via text, tired of his games, now doubting his trustworthiness. Some tears and heartache for a few hours, but thankful I was not married to him. The next day I was prayed over by my ladies Bible study group and have an immense peacefulness now, walking away from that situation. I am not sure it is over, but I am able to move forward without a lot of emotion now, which is uncharacteristic for me, a Cancerian. Thanks for what you do and thanks for listening.

          -Tony Crisp 2011-12-11 13:45:20

          Thanks Michelle for telling me what happened. And keep your hand and heart in God’s presence.

          Tony

-key janae lovette 2011-02-23 21:09:38

I had a dream that i had a baby boy. And i was taking care of him. He was a very cute little boy at that. I am not preganate or plan on being preganate. Please tell me what this means

    -Tony Crisp 2011-02-28 10:29:26

    Key Janae – It depends on how old you are. If you are early teens it could mean that you are practising being a woman and exercising your femaleness. It is something that dreams do; they try out your ability to have a child without getting into it physically.

    But if you are older, then it could mean, and this was m8y first feeling, that you have given birth to a new part of you. We all flower as we grow, and just like flowers we can grow for ages without any signs of anything else emerging.. Then suddenly one day8 there is a new bud, and it flowers. So you have opened a new part of you – a active, new phase of life; a new idea; new activity – as when we say someone has a new baby, meaning a new project or business. This ‘baby’ might be part of you that did not have a chance to be ‘born’ or express before. Or it may be things learned in a rich life that you could not put into practice because of circumstances.

    It is still very vulnerable, so care for it and see it grow. Give it a name and it will visit you in other dreams. I believe the baby loves you.

    Tony

-Jason 2011-02-23 19:21:20

In the last couple weeks i started getting into to dreams and what they mean, however this is my first comment describing my own. So you understand my situation, I turn 18 in a week and in my senior year of high school. Last night i had a dream where i hopped onto a boat with this man and one of my close buddies. We had decided to go fishing since this man consistantly started talking about fishing and had enough gear for us all. My friend randomly dissapeared and me and this “fisherman” were now a small dock in someones backyard by ourselves. I turned around and noticed three good looking blonde girls and decided to make things interesting. Not exactly sure what was at stake, i only know she said she wanted me to catch a certain kind of fish, she said it incorrectly and i told her the real name of the fish. I casted the line and got a bite after about 5 or so seconds of realing in. It was a really tough battle for the 10 seconds it lasted, but unfortunately this fish came off the hook and took my bait with it. After this i looked at my phone (was my actual phone, just bought it) and the screen was on the fritz, then i woke up. I looked up some signs, so hopefully these help as well. the water was calm, yet not clear. It wasnt merky, but i just couldnt see through it.

    -Tony Crisp 2011-02-28 10:14:00

    Jason – Thanks for trusting me with your dream.

    The fact that you have become interested in your dreams has, in my opinion, brought this dream to you. This is because fishing is a favourite symbol for dipping into the unconscious and trying to catch a fish. A fish is a wonderful image meaning something you cannot see, something mysterious that you could be nourished by. So it is saying that you are trying to catch a wider you, a bigger and more knowledgeable you.

    The man who knows about fishing and has enough tackle for all, is the Self, the part of you that overshadows your life, and knows your destiny and the things that could lead you in a satisfactory direction. He can only aid you and is there to help.

    Something happened then with the girls. Perhaps you were fishing for the wonderful fish with the wrong motive. Maybe you wanted to impress the girl rather than being true to yourself and the aim of fishing in the dark waters of the unconscious. You cannot yet see into the depths where dreams emerge from. And even the screen on your phone says something similar.

    Gradually if you persist you will see clearly the wonders of the deep.

    Tony

-priyam 2011-02-20 11:57:01

in my dream i saw that a cat and dog had entered in my home,i somehow got the dog out and shut the door.bt the dog was very angry and agressive to get in and started pushing the door from out,the door was getting opened,and i am triying hard so that the door dosnt get opened but the door is getting opened and the dream broke.pls help.

    -Tony Crisp 2011-02-25 11:02:07

    Priyam – If you consider that a dog and cat often represent your own feminine and masculine instincts, you may see that you are having a struggle shutting something valuable out of your life.

    Dream animals represent your fundamental drives such as the fear reaction, anger, need for food, urge to breathe, sex or procreative drive, parental urges, drive for recognition or dominance in groups; survival drive; love of offspring; spontaneity; home building. They depict these drives perhaps stripped of their social forms of expression. As such the animal can portray your relationship with the fundamental life processes in you.

    Unfortunately many of us repress or are in conflict with these natural urges, such a sex, parenting, easy expression of what we feel, etc. So I feel your struggle is in connection with such urges.

    If you can, learn to love the dog instead of shutting it out.

    Tony

-Mariah 2011-02-18 6:54:24

My boyfriend and i have been talking about having a kid lately & i had a strange dream.
I was working one min, then the very next i was at home, but no one was there. I then started to vomit and then i had a baby all of a sudden. I didn’t look like i was pregnant, and didnt know. I had only gained eight pounds. The baby didn’t look like me or my boyfriend, he was dark complected and had dark hair (me and my boyfriend are white). The baby was born and could already walk. My boyfriend was no where to be found, and neither was my family. I thought, oh i have everything i need, my sister had a baby, but when i went to use the car seat the padding was missing and the swing was gone off the stand. there werent any clothes, just an empty closet. I couldn’t put the baby down, it was like he was all i had.

what does this mean?

-Brandi Duncan 2011-02-16 21:45:56

I am 19 weeks pregnant and I had a dream about a friend of mine that has passed 8 years ago visiting me in the hospital while i was in labor! He said that he was there to protect me and make sure that my baby and I arent going anywhere! I dont understand this dream! What could it possible mean?

-irene 2011-02-16 14:17:42

Last night i had two dreams. One was about my friend going into labor and the other dream was about my nose bleeding. What do these dreams mean?

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