Friend

Your feelings or worries about this friend. If the dream friend is no one you know then usually represents the inner intuitive feelings that encourage and advise you. The character of this unknown person will tell you what aspect of yourself the friend displays. Or it may relate to your contact with friends. See Characters and People in Dreams

Good friend: Each person, object or even place in a dream should not be thought of as a symbol, such as a road sign that needs interpretation. A person or object is a living part of you, just as your hand is not a symbol it is a living part of you. As such a person is alive and responsive, with enormous depths. And a good friend is a wonderful aid in your life, an aid that can see you through the difficult times, and show you a new side of yourself.

To understand the friend you need to be that friend. I mean imagine yourself in their body and see how it feels, and describe yourself as them, even ask them questions. In doing so do not forget that this is a part of yourself you are making more real. Don’t get the silly idea this is someone else, even though they have the face and body of someone else. In this way you will discover an enormous amount about your own strength and ‘goodness’. But if you cannot do that, then at least imagine talking to them ask them questions and listening for their replies. Or if you cannot even do that, then remember that you have a good friend and treasure it.

Bad Friend: This is the opposite of what was said above. So take heed of what you learn and try to avoid repeating the mistakes.

Boyfriend: See boyfriend

Girlfriend: See girlfriend

Example: A male friend of mind had finally come back from his vacation and I was flirting with him and he turned me down. We were eating pancakes outside. I remember leaving the table and the pancakes no longer hungry. Then I came back wanting to eat the pancakes again. Then I got in my car and drove for a long period of time.

Example: Back in January, my boyfriend’s friend was murdered. The trial is going to start soon and recently I have been having a reoccurring dream about his friend. I knew his friend but we were not close. In each dream, he is wearing the same clothes and hat and he is talking but I can’t understand him. We had the same first name and the look on his face gives me a weird feeling. He looks as if he is worried about something and I can’t understand what he is saying. I asked if anyone else has dreamt about him and everyone says no. What does this mean? Why would he come to me of all people? Is he trying to communicate with me? Thanks.

Example: The priest was going to question and assault my friend in connection with some opinion he had offended the church with. I went to stand near him to give him moral support, and physical help if necessary. I hated seeing anybody degraded. The priest saw my move and sent three thug type men to shoulder me out. They surrounded me to knock me down. I went berserk and knocked them all over the place with kicks and punches. John P.

Useful questions:

Is this friend someone I know? If so, what do I think and feel about this person?

If I do not know the friend in the dream, what characteristics does she/he have that reflect my own life at the moment?

If I imagine myself as this person what do I feel or realise?

See Being the Person or Thing – Processing Dreams – Learning to Love