Girl Girls

Female under the age of thirteen: Feelings; emotional self; young sexuality; vulnerability.

In male’s dream: Emotions; sexual feelings; daughter. But a young girl can also be used to depict a new pattern, a new opportunity to relate to a female. In contrast to an old woman, the girl is a shift from old patterns of relationship you may have developed with your mother or a wife. So she could represent a development in you away from old and perhaps destructive patterns. See Anima

In a female’s dream: Oneself at that age – whether older of younger; feelings about sister or daughter; the aspect of oneself portrayed by the girl – as in following example. The young girl, depending on your age, could depict a new aspect of yourself emerging or being met. See Characters and People in Dreams

Another girl with your man: How you deal with your sense of being wanted; anxiety about not being attractive or loveable; suspicion; a side of yourself which relates you differently to your man.

Example: I had a very clear dream of seeing a young woman’s legs, slim, perfectly hairless and well shaped. Then I saw her again with very tight tights on. She had a very beautifully shaped vagina that was not flat but like a new bud, with the crack well defined.

The dreamer then explored his dream and says if it: As usual it seemed as if a voice explained it to me. I was told that the young girl’s legs were representing my feelings of beauty, and the shaped vagina was her developing womanhood. With it came feelings of seeing a young girl opening to womanhood, and how beautiful it is. I saw that it was a beauty for me without any sexual feelings, but was a wonderful act of nature or life in the development of a young woman. Previously such views always had sexual overtones for me. Such a development in a young woman was almost holy, and invited love not sex. Sure love could lead to sex, but not sex that is usually called love.

If you are the young girl in the dream: Take care to watch what your dreams tell you. Be sure always remember that you have the wonderful potential for life and growth, and handle it with care and reverence.

Another girl with your man: How you deal with your feelings of being wanted, or anxiety about not being attractive or lovable. Maybe your suspicion he wants another female, or this could indicate a side of yourself that relates you differently to your man. See: Adolescent; Teenage girls love dreams.

A young girl with a baby: This is often about a girls feeling about motherhood and practicing being a mother.

Example: ‘I was watching, and at the same time I was, a young girl sitting on a lawn.’ Honey

Teenage girl: Apart from what is said in the link about teenage in adolescent, there are a few more things.

Many many dreams sent to me by girls are about boyfriends. It is natural for many young girls to obsess about boyfriends. The ‘crush’ is largely a young persons hormonal flooding and needs to be handled with care otherwise there can be enormous emoiotnal hurts. So please read Ages of LoveSumming Up.

Also even when a boyfriend has been left there can be all manner of feelings, confusion and hurt to deal with.  Most people are often totally unaware of the experience they take in and how it interacts with them when we love someone. In other words the memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with someone and they are what makes you the person you are. Your dreams tend to put all that in the image of the past person when you are dealing with the influences left in you from the relationship. Such things are you and you cannot escape from yourself. See crush

So I would suggest you integrate all the good and bad things from your relationship with them; because in your dreams about them you are  meeting your feelings. And if you do not do this the negative memories or desires for them will keep coming back. So try doing this by taking the dream images of your ex and pulling them back into your body. Yes, literally making them one with you. Do this slowly and allow any feelings that arise. This may sound strange but all the images in our dreams are projections from us onto the screen of our sleeping mind; so taking them back into you is like owning them and integrating them.

Example: I dreamt of being with a woman who was desperately seeking a man. I was also with my own female companion. I believe the woman had been suddenly dropped by her man, and I and my partner were close and with her.

Still in the semi-awake state I tried ‘being’ the woman, and had a very clear response. I experienced being her, but was also me with experience of seeing into myself in some degree. I saw that the woman, like most of us, was a female creature whose instinctive drive was to find a mate. But she was not aware of this as an instinctive drive but as a personal feeling. As such she had become, like many women and men, lost in a huge web of personal ideas about whether they were attractive, sexy, with many complications about love, gender mixed with childhood unconscious traumas and the heartbreak all that brings.

Example: ‘I was away from home somewhere and was helping and encouraging a young Japanese girl, who was pregnant, to come back to England to have her baby here. I felt a lot of care for her.’ Dave L.

Dave explored his dream and discovered a lot of sexual pleasure in connection with the girl. He had held himself back in this area most of his life, and as he was learning to allow his sexual feelings not simply genital sex, he found a deepening in his caring also.

Example: Who is the spider?” He looked at it, and as his consciousness hurtled through walls of shattering glass, it turned into a hideous old crone who trembled with delight as she clawed at the lovely woman beneath her. The patient was now almost numb with horror. “It’s no one I know. I’ve never seen a witch like that. Who is she?” he moaned. Again the shattering walls of glass, and the old woman had turned into a girl. “It’s a girl!” he said, staring intently into the inner space of his psyche. “Oh, my God, it’s me! It’s a girl me! I was jealous of all of the women, of my mother and my grandmother and my sister. The girl is myself fighting a battle of supremacy with the other women, just as I fought the battle with the males. How could it be?”

Useful questions:

What aspects does this girl have or represent?

Do I have these same aspects within myself?

Consider how you are relating to the girl and what it shows?

Ask your self if the girl is a young you that is showing you something?

See Avoid Being VictimsQuestionsTechniques for Exploring your DreamsAnimus


-keegan 2013-08-07 10:43:05

i had a dream of a girl that i have liked for years and years. we were kissing and joking and messing around but i kept pushing her away before getting intimate but she just kept coming back. and in real life i cant even approach her without getting week at the knees. im begging u to help explain it because its been causing me soooo much stress trying to figure it out.

-jane Robinson 2010-07-20 11:44:37

i have a scary recurring dream- my great aunt who died who i never knew is holding a little girls hand who looks like me but had never spoken to me until a few weeks ago she is 4-5 years old and beautiful- the dream changed and now she says ‘u can’t play with me yet mommy’ and runs away. i try to catch her and the emotion is so strong as if she will her hurt hreself and i’m trying to stop her but my aunt stops me. Can you help as i can wake up in sweats, crying and shouting?

    -Tony Crisp 2010-07-22 13:06:53

    Jane – This dream reminds me of many dreams I have come across of children who want to be born. Such children have such powerful emotional ties with you I can imagine you feeling frantic and crying. See

    If that doesn’t feel right, Then I suggest you spend time talking to this little girl as if it is a part of you that needs love and care. Hold her in you arms. This has a wonderful effect, whatever the truth is about the dream. I am sure it will unfold if you give it love.


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