Husband
It can depict how you see the relationship with your husband; your relationship with your sexuality; sexual and emotional desire and pleasure; how you relate to intimacy in body, mind and spirit. Or it can be habits of relationship developed with one’s father.
Example: ‘My recurring dream – some disaster is happening. I try to contact the police or my husband. Can never contact either. I try ringing 999 again and again and can feel terror, and sometimes dreadful anger or complete panic. I cry, I scream and shout and never get through! Recently I have stopped trying to contact my husband. I managed once to reach him but he said he was too busy and I would have to deal with it myself. I woke in a furious temper with him and kicked him while he was still asleep.’ Mrs G. S.
The husband here depicts Mrs S’s feelings of not being able to ‘get through’ to her man. This is a common female dream theme, possibly arising from the husband not daring to express emotion or meet his partner with his own feelings. For Mrs S. this is an emergency. Although the dream dramatises it, there is still real frustration, anger, and a break in marital communications.
Cannot find or lost husband or he disappears: Many women dream of ‘losing’ their husband while out with him, perhaps shopping, or walking in a town somewhere. Sometimes the dream portrays him actually killed. If you wonder whether your dream was a premonition, it is more likely a form of practising the loss, so it does not come as such a shock when or if it does happen. The greatest shocks occur when we have never even considered the event – such as a young child losing it’s mother – an event that has never been practised, not even in fantasy, so has no inbuilt shock absorbers. As most of us know, men tend to die before women, and this information is in the mind of married women. Mrs A. D. may have unconsciously observed slight changes in her husband’s body and behaviour, and therefore readied herself.
Example: ‘I dreamt many times I lost my husband, such as not being able to find the car park where he was waiting, and seeing him go off in the distance. I wake in a panic to find him next to me in bed. These dreams persisted, and then he died quite suddenly. He was perfectly healthy at the time of the dreams and I wonder if it was a premonition of me REALLY losing him.’ Mrs A. D.
Example: My husband and I go out somewhere together, mostly in a town or built up area. After a while I lose him, and even though we arrange to meet at a certain place, he’s never there when I arrive. I’m looking everywhere and desperately asking passers by if they have seen him. The sense of loss and panic is awful and people keep saying “Yes, he is over there, or went that way.” I never find him.
Dead husband: Your memories and remaining emotions about your husband. Sometimes a meeting with him. See Dreaming of Death
The example below illustrates the ‘psychic’ meeting some women experience. In anything of an apparently psychic nature, we must ALWAYS remember the unconscious is the great dramatist. It can create the drama of a dream in moments. In doing so it makes our inner feelings into apparently real people and objects OUTSIDE OF US. While asleep we lightly dismiss this amazing process as ‘a dream’. When it happens while our eyes are open or we are near waking, for some reason we call it a ghost, a vision or a psychic event. Yet the dream process is obviously capable of creating total body sensations, emotions, full visual impressions, vocalisation – what else is a dream? On the other hand, the dream process is not dealing in pointless imaginations. Many women tend to believe they have little sexual drive, so it is easier for G. L. to see her drive in the form of her husband. But of course, her husband may also depict how she felt about sex in connection with his ‘sexual appetites’. It is a general rule however, that our dream process will dramatise into a past life, or a ‘psychic’ experience, emotions linked with trauma, or sexual drive, which we find difficult to meet in the present.
Example: ‘My dead husband came into my bedroom and got into bed with me to make love to me. I was not afraid. But owing to his sexual appetites during my married life with him I was horrified, and resisted him with all my might. On waking I felt weak and exhausted. The last time he came to me I responded to him and he never came back again. This happened three times. The last time I don’t think it was a dream. I was not asleep. I think it was his ghost.’ G. L.
Death of husband: If you think about your husband, do you think it is him. No, it is your feelings memories and emotions you feel. That is exactly the same with dreams. It is not your husband you are dealing with directly, but your fears and feeling, your emotions and anxieties.
So dreaming or his death you have been exploring your feelings about him dying. It is not a prediction, and many women dream of their husband dying, and feeling of what it would be like without him. Rather that than never have face his death before it happens.
Example: I had a really horrible dream last night. My husband died. In the dream we were sleeping and when I wake up in the dream I realize that my husband is lying next to me as if he were still sleeping, but he’s not sleeping he’s dead. He died while sleeping. In the dream it’s horrible and we don’t bury him, I cremate him and I go every where with his ashes. I cannot let go of him and I feel so much pain because I won’t see him anymore, hear his voice or feel him. I woke up from the dream crying and turned around and hugged him and kept crying I felt so scared and I felt a lot of pain; it took a while for him to calm me down, I couldn’t stop crying. Right now typing this makes me get a chocked up feeling just thinking about what I felt in that dream makes me feel horrible (in the sense that I might lose him) I hate it and I feel scared. What could that dream mean?
It means that the woman is facing her feelings and anxieties about losing him. But losing him means the loss of support and companionship, of dreams of their future.
Inner husband: Many people do not realise that they have an inner husband equally as powerful as an external husband. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences, along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with your husband, and they are what makes you the person you are. This is true even if your husband was never there for you – you still have all the memories of him not being there for you filed under ‘husband’. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner husband can appear in dreams because you are deeply influenced by what you hold within you.
Other woman’s husband: One’s own husband; feelings about that man; desire for a non committed relationship with less responsibility.
Sex with husband: The sexual dream at best is a wonderful indicator of how you, the dreamer, are feeling about your sexual and emotional relationship, or what one longs for, at the time of the dream. At worst it depicts all one fears might happen or be happening.
One can fairly safely say that our dreams are not so much about how the world and other people actually ARE, but rather how we see or passionately FEEL people or the world are. Of course our feelings and views may be very accurate, but one must always be aware of the variance between what one has created out of ones own inner life and vision, and how others people see themselves or events actually are.
Example: I dreamt I was laying in bed with my husband. I felt a sexual attraction and flow, something I hadn’t felt for a while in our relationship. I reached out to him expressing this but there wasn’t any response from him. So I talked to him saying that I had reached out to him sexually and in his body response I had felt there was no attempt to meet me. He replied that in fact that was the situation as far as he was concerned – that he was indeed saying no. Jo K.
Jo and her husband had lived for a year without any sex at all prior to the time of this dream. This had not been an unhappy time. Far from it, they had achieved a lot of peace and warmth without tension. On talking about her dream with her husband, he felt that he wasn’t saying no to her sexually. Indeed, his stated reason for not reaching out to her was that for years it had always been him making the approach to her. This had led to his feeling he was imposing something on her and as this was unpleasant he had stopped any attempt at sexual relationship. So Jo’s dream was really about how she saw her husband rather than what was actually happening. See Surviving Love and Relationships
Useful Questions and Hints:
Is the dream in any way an expression of what I feel or fantasise?
What is the dream dramatising?
Does it express our present state of sexual relationship?
See Difficult Relationship – Dead Partner or Ex – Identity and Sex – Ages of Love
Comments
Hi
I just can understand that I still dreams of my late husband, I can see his face – I can even hear him talking. Sometimes it happens that I dream that he was never dead but that he just disappeared from us. Other times, like last night, I dreamt that we were talking normally. He passed away 10 years ago.
I am now in a relationship and was wondering if that is why I am having dreams about him?
Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.
Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/
Tony
Alta – Ex’s play an enormous part in many people’s dreams. The reason is that dreams about ex’s are very tricky for several reasons. To start with most people are often totally unaware of the experience they take in and how it interacts with them when we love or interact with someone. In other words because we memorise the feelings and responses we felt; and because we learn through our experiences, we are changed by them. The memories and the learning are part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences, along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with someone and they are what makes you the person you are. Your dreams tend to put all that in the image of the past person when you are dealing with the influences left in you from the relationship.
But your dream has several levels, such as dreaming that he was never dead but that he just disappeared from us. While we dream, our awareness is no longer limited by living in a body, that is almost blind and deaf. For instance you can see less than one percent of spectrum of light, and hear less than one percent of the acoustic spectrum. So, ‘naturally’ you are almost blind and deaf.
Also while you sleep we all have an inner world that is quite distinct from the outer world we encounter with our physical senses. It is the world we meet when we experience imagination or dreams. We enter the ability to communicate with the dead.
Example: I learned lucid waking dreaming through practicing LifeStream. As I entered it I felt like I was experiencing going through the gates of death. Then I was aware of my dead father and mother, something I had never done before. They told me things about their condition that was very new to me. It gave me great certainty about their after-death life.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/dimensions-of-human-experience/
I was dreaming that i am getting married to my husband but my husband is outside while i was walking in the aisle. I also notice that i forgot to put cake so i was asking to buy cake, then after iwas eating desert then after i decided to go outside to check my husband, he is just wering his usual clothes and using his cellphone. Then he told me that he is came from him country(we are different county/nationality) they have connecting flight in milan italy then arrived in my country, i was shocked and happy(because my dream is to visit europe) and telling him why he didint joined me. He also asked me if im willing to join him even i am not secured that something bad may happened and i said yes. Then suddenly our location change into crowed where his nationality is their, waiting for our flight. All crowd is checking kids from school same nationality as mine.
I had a dream that my husband got jumped well at a train station and I was trying to help him and they were holding me back and they killed him right in front of my face and I even start talking out loud in my dream u killed him my husband my best friend it was the scares dream I ever had
Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.
Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/
Tony
Melissa – Such dreams have at least two causes. The first is that most women realise that their husbands often do not live as long as they do. This causes them to wonder what life would be like without their man. So women dream such dreams as a way to get rid of their fantasy about how their many would die, and to help them to face his death – sort of practice runs.
The second reason is that many women fear the death of their man, and the dreams are ways of facing such fears. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/near-death-experiences/
My husband passed away 11 years ago. He was only 38. I have 2 different kinds of dreams about him. 1. He is alive and I can’t find him and when I do he doesn’t remember us. 2. The dream starts he has already died and rhen he comes back to life and he dies again and I can’t get to him in time. They make for a bad day when I have them.
Thanks!
Hi – I am stopping from answering your posts fully – but will try to give hints; sometimes long ones because I quote from masses I have already put online. Also I need to take time to update the site – dreamhawk.
It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/
Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practicing what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPersonOrThing or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/
Tony
Kerron – When we dream about a dead person communicating with us it can be distorted by our view of what death is – or our thoughts and associations with the dead person. So the dream is often a mixture of a real communication and your beliefs and thoughts
You can’t find him because we are trained to believe we should be able to hear him. But the dead communicate by thoughts. See http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#TalkDead
I dreamed my deceased husband had his arms around me and said,” I want to try this again”..as our marriage…..what does this mean?
I had a dream that my dead ex husband,myself and our daughter went on an overseas holiday.We had a big fight while there as he told me some woman that was staying where we were walked in on him as he had got out of the shower he said she accidentally walked into the wrong room.
He was boasting about her i in anger yelled and said well where and who is she I’ll go and find her you don’t walk in to the wrong room we have keys. I stormed off in a daze looking for someone I had no idea what she looked like or who she was as I was roaming around the neighbourhood actually quite calm I ran into some people I knew but we didn’t get on we spoke briefly they were a bit rude so I left and just wandered around in a bit of a daze and confused
I dreamt my husband died but the husband in my dream was a younger guy whom I’m never met. I actually felt maternal towards him in the dream. His face wasn’t revealed to me until the end of the Dream where I had a flashback memory of him. The whole dream prior was me at the funeral grieving.
answering your posts – I started revising the dictionary in 2006, and haven’t neared the end yet. I believe someone else may start giving interpretations.
So, for a while I urge you to read http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/i-am-no-longer-interpreting-dreams/ – It describes ways that can help you. And often it would help too if you looked at http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing
Tony
It sometimes happen that women, knowing unconsciously that men do not live as long as women, dream of their passing as a way to get used to the idea. He appears different because dreams show the death state which often transforms their appearance.
I dreamt me and my husband went out of town and we decided to get some type of immunization shots. When he got his shot the doctor came out and told me that he had died.
I was in such disbelief that I continue to do what I was doing before we got to the doctor. Overtime within that day it started to hit me that my husband was dead. Before I didn’t call any of his family his friends or anybody and let them know, because I didn’t believe it. Once it started to hit me his mom came to me and asked me, and for some reason she already knew. Also his brother came to me and asked me that for some reason somebody had already informed them over the days.
I broke down and cried, and felt so shocked that I could not believe I was no longer with my husband, and that he had died all of a sudden.
Hi – I am sorry to suddenly stop replying to dreams like this, but I must upgrade the dream dictionary – I started the revising in 2006, and haven’t neared the end yet.
So for a while I urge you to read http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/i-am-no-longer-interpreting-dreams/
Also, here are so ways you can find your dreams meaning – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/ or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson and http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/opening-to-life/
Hundreds of questions about your dreams have already been answered if you scroll down to the very bottom of the page were people’s questions/comments were replied to. Also, see http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/
Tony
Hints about your dream – Often we experience something or think about something that triggers a dream. So did someone’s death call this dream up?
Anyway, it seems your dream is typically a meeting with feelings about death. I don’t see it as a premonition. Dreams are often a way of educating us about what death is. See http://dreamhawk.com/news/exploring-death-and-life/ and http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/the-shadow-of-death/
I had a dream I found my husband convulsing violently after he was kicked in the head by a horse I could see him but couldn’t reach him someone (never saw their face) was by his side & told me he was dying. I screamed & then woke up. what does this dream mean?
Hello I just want to ask If what is the meaning of my dreams, In my I saw a Men but he’s face is blurr I cannot see clearly in my first dream in there is We will having a sex. In my second dream is we are in the beach wedding I wear a white gown our motive is white and he’s wearing a white american suit like in my 1st dream of him is the same he’s face is blurr and 3rd of my dreams is where in the same house. what is the meaning of my dreams
Hi – I am sorry to suddenly stop replying to dreams like this, but I must upgrade the dream dictionary – I started the revising in 2006, and haven’t got near the end yet.
So for a while I urge you to read http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/i-am-no-longer-interpreting-dreams/
Also here are so ways you can find your dreams meaning – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/ or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson and http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/opening-to-life/
Hundreds of questions about your dreams have already been answered if you scroll down to the very bottom of the page were people’s questions/comments were replied to. Also see http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/
Tony
You are probably meeting your male self – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-animus-jungs-view-of-the-male-in-the-female/
I left my husband when i noticed he has another woman that was started to dream about my husband.i dreamt either he is angry to me or he is dead but i cant see his body
Hi – I am sorry to suddenly stop replying to dreams like this, but I must upgrade the dream dictionary – I started the revising in 2006, and haven’t got near the end yet.
So for a while I urge you to read http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/i-am-no-longer-interpreting-dreams/
Also here are so ways you can find your dreams meaning – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/ or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
Tony
When you think about a friend or a person you meet, you are only taking in your thoughts, impressions and feelings about them. So many people do not realise that they have an inner person equally as powerful as the external person you know. You have taken in millions of bits of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by meeting or living with them, and they are what makes you the person you are. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner person can appear in dreams because you still carry the memories or impressions of them, and so they influenced what you hold within you.
I had a terribly realistic dream my husband had died. I had him cremated. The ashes I was given looked like deep orange/almost brown teeny pebbles (almost like kitty litter). I ate them, actually ingested them and bragged about it to a co-worker of mine (whom I don’t get along with in real life). One of these “pebbles” was bigger than the rest, so I took it out of my mouth and when I pinched it, away flew grey fine dust. I then spit the rest of the pebbles from my mouth and shook my hand so as not to be holding anymore…
Hi – I am sorry to suddenly stop replying to dreams like this, but I must upgrade the dream dictionary – I started the revising in 2006, and haven’t got near the end yet.
So for a while I urge you to read http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/i-am-no-longer-interpreting-dreams/
Also here are so ways you can find your dreams meaning – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/ or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson and http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/opening-to-life/
Hundreds of questions about your dreams have already been answered if you scroll down to the very bottom of the page were people’s questions/comments were replied to. Also see http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/
Tony
Sad that only after 24 days you stopped offering your services…I asked, you unfortunately couldn’t respond. 🙁
Jane – Any interpretation is nothing compared with your own exploration – See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPersonOrThing
Because, really: I haven’t found any interpretations to explain my dream…, your form letter response is disappointing considering your previous, personal responses…
I had a dream about a natural disaster occurred. Meteriods were falling near my moms mobile home. Then I was searching for important documents to get out of the mobile home. It was also flooding. I send my youngest daughter swimming to get away from the fire. I helped my mom and her dog out. My husband died from the fire. But the trailer did not burn completely. My brother assisted to carry out his half burned body. It’s also like mobile home on a fault line. People had started trying to steal stuff.
Angela – Having read, experienced, thousands of dreams and tried to understand them, the conclusion I have arrived at is that each dream is like considering a mirror and seeing yourself. You are viewing yourself, but with every part of you shown, not only your face, but what you are feeling and thinking inside.
Your dream shows you feeling anxiety about what you see around and inside you. The mobile home is you, and the fault line is how you feel about your life at the moment. Yes, the ground is moving under your feet because so much change is happening, or you are frightened it will happen.
Your brother, well you have taken in millions of bits of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by meeting or living with him, and they are what makes you the person you are. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner person can appear in dreams because you still carry the memories or impressions of them, and so they influenced what you hold within you.
I don’t know what memories or feelings you have about your brother, but it sounds like you/him is having a hard time with change, your inner husband too, it sounds like life without him could be easier.
Ancient peoples believed that seeing a meteor in the sky, or finding a part of a meteor suggested that a gift had been given by heaven. That is where the idea of wishing upon a falling star arose. To dream of a meteor or meteorite is for some people an expression of anxiety that they might be hit. But usually it has real significance. It represents something from the mysterious cosmos entering our experience, so can represent awareness or recognition of something beyond our present experience showing itself to us. It begs the questions, where did it originate; what different world of experience does it represent, and how and why did it enter my life? Well it usually is from your core self.
Of course, those are only my thoughts about your dream, but you can get straight insights by using http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson and http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/practical-techniques-for-understanding-your-dreams/#TalkingAs
Tony
My dream begins with my husband, his male friend and I walking into a building. The male friend told us he had shares in the building. We entered a door and went down some stairs and was meet with two males one had a gun and took it out shoot he male friend a d my husband and point it at me but didnt shoot me. Instead he said to keep quite and dont look at him or he will shoot me.
I ended up outside with help and was screaming that my husband was hurt.
Then i heard someone said the shooter is wearing yellow….but when i look down the road i see my husband limping to his vehicle trying to take something out of it and he had on a yellow shirt and i could see that my husband is hurt but i just cant get to him….something is preventing me from going to him.
Then i woke up breathing very heavy from my dream.
what do this dream mean?
Zee – Your dream shows you are a very nervous person, for whenever we dream its images are not like real life, because a dream is nothing like outer life where things could hurt you, but is an image like on a cinema screen, so that even if a gun is pointed at you and fired it can do no damage – except if you run in fear; so all the things that scare you are simply your own fears projected onto the screen of your sleeping mind.
Also, your husband who was injured in the dream when you think about your husband, you are only taking in your thoughts, impressions and feelings about them. So many people do not realise that they have an inner person equally as powerful as the external person you know. You have taken in millions of bits of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by meeting or living with them, and they are what makes you the person you are. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner person can appear in dreams because you still carry the memories or impressions of them, and so they influenced what you hold within you.
Therefore, it is your inner husband that has been injured, probably because of the anxieties you experience. Even the character with the gun is a projection of your fear on the screen of your sleeping mind.
So, all the images, people, animals, places we see in our dreams, are simply your own feelings, fears, hopes and wonder projected onto the screen of your sleeping mind as images. So, it makes sense to take the image of your dream person, thing or animal back into you and own it. In that way, you are actually meeting and dealing with the things about yourself you are not owning or conscious of. That is why dreams are often difficult to understand, because we are hiding things from ourselves.
So if you want to rid yourself of these feeling you could use http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
But obviously, you will meet the feelings behind your fears.
Tony
my husband passed away a couple of years ago after 26 years marriage, i am now seeing a new guy but i have had a couple of dreams where they are both in the same room and my husband appears upset about this other guy. does this mean he doesnt approve or something else. i wake up feeling guilty that i have somhow cheated on him
Shola – You have an inner and outer husband and they react differently. Many people do not realise that they have an inner husband equally as powerful as an external husband. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences, along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with your husband, and they are what makes you the person you are. This is true even if your husband was never there for you – you still have all the memories of him not being there for you filed under ‘husband’. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner husband can appear in dreams because you are deeply influenced by what you hold within you.
So the dream husband is mostly likely reacting to your inner feelings about him, the memory of his life and death with you, and particularly what you feel.
So I suggest that you imagine you are back in the dream, it doesn’t matter that you cannot get clear images, it is the thought if being all together that counts. Then tell your husband what is happening for you and your new guy, and ask him why he is causing such difficult feelings inside you – and carry on until you get satisfaction. It works.
Tony