For a man the penis represents more than simply his sexual appetite. It depicts the whole drive of life through his glandular system that develops the body type he has. It is therefore often depicting a sense of his own power of self expression, his potency in expressing himself and capability in the world.

The healthy function of the sexual organs predispose a mans body toward male sexual characteristics such as square hips, muscular frame, facial hair and deeper voice. This brings a certain creative explosiveness to his personality, creates urges toward fatherhood and loving his woman, with connected desires to supply the needs of family if he is emotionally healthy. The positive aspect of the penis/masculinity is for him to want his woman to meet his maleness, his caring aggression, his sexual desire, with her own fiery female energy, needs and strength.

So the penis in the male dream can link with any of these characteristics, or in some way indicate difficulties, trauma or fears about them.

Example: The prick stands up for love. Maybe in youth it stands up for performance, or because you are expected to have sex, or because you believe you have no value if you cannot perform. But when you are 60, 70, or 80, the truth comes out. Can you love? The prick stands up when you feel that glow of life that we call love. This sort of love isn’t just there because you said you were going to do it at 12 o’clock that day. This love is an expression of life. Like life it has its seasons. It ebbs and flows. To press it to perform day after day is not to respect those seasons. With such little respect the flow diminishes. The prick no longer stands up except perhaps through artificial stimulation. You do not command life, it commands you. If it does not, you or dead. This sort of love responds to the human need. Perhaps it should be called compassion.

Example: Emily takes my penis and loses it? For a time Emily really did control my penis. I was completely at her mercy. P

This is one of the themes in male dreams, showing how the man is at the mercy of his sexual desires for a woman. In this sense he feels she controls him. It might even be that she is shown cutting off his penis, suggesting relationship with her kills his sexual drive.

Example: I broke it. I broke my dickey. It was dead. I was dead. I was dead and wanted to kill others too. I couldn’t ask for love because my dickey was broken. My prick. I didn’t have a prick. I didn’t want people to look at my prick because it was dead, broken. I couldn’t ask people to love me because they would know my prick was dead. I couldn’t love people because they would know. I wanted love but I couldn’t ask. My pride was gone. I lost my pride because I lost my prick I didn’t want to go on living without it and wanted to die.

“That’s why I killed my daddy. I killed him. I killed him because I wanted his prick. Mine was broken and wanted a good one. So I killed him to get his. 

Example: Dreamt I cut off my penis and used it to masturbate myself. This I did by pushing the penis inside me, where presumably I had a vagina.

Example: ‘My lover Terry, myself and another woman were all on our bed. The other woman seemed very sure of herself and kissed Terry in a very intimate way, he doing the same to her as I lay very near to both of them. Then Terry stuck his bottom in the air and started to lick my chest and breast. I found myself licking around his penis, felt I was under some kind of pressure from both the other two to do so but didn’t feel too shattered as I did it with love for Terry, but I had a bitter taste in my mouth.’ Sally P.

In talking about this dream Sally said she often struggled with what she wanted, and what her partner wanted in sex. She might go along with his needs, but not find it palatable. Even if she did do it with some love, it might leave a ‘bad taste in her mouth’.

Example: ‘I felt as if I were as one with Terry and I realised he was trying to make a journey, as his penis, into his mother’s vagina. Her vagina looked like a long dark tunnel and was threatening to him. I said, ‘You haven’t given your mother satisfaction and you say you will not. Then he was really smashed up in body. Withdrawing into a garden with a high green hedge. I took a leaf from the hedge and began to pull it apart with my hands. Terry said, ‘Look what you are doing, teasing me.’ I felt withdrawal wasn’t the way and started to follow him, walking alongside the hedge. I said, ‘It feels like you are strangling me, so why don’t you do it and kill me?’ We have been going through a lot of sexual withdrawal, Terry saying his sexuality was his to do with as he wanted.’ Sally P.

This second dream of Sally’s is a shrewd summing up of Terry’s sexual fears. In fact Terry suffered a great deal of anxiety about sex, and later uncovered the sort of fear and desire to avoid giving his mother satisfaction in becoming a full blooded man shown in the dream. Our unconscious is a very capable psychologist, and while Terry in Sally’s dream represents her insights regarding him – and must not be seen as a statement of fact about Terry. Nevertheless, such insight are often enormously useful in dealing with relationship difficulties.

Just as women may experience penis envy, men may experience vagina envy. This because there is nothing that a man can do that is quite as miraculous as having a baby. In some men this involves a huge struggle regarding their sexual orientation or easy expression of heterosexual sex.

Example: Was in an underground train. It came out and floated on a lake or river. Then it drew back into the tunnel. I had a baby that I took into a toilet on the train, and put my penis into its back passage, having sex with it. Afterwards, in wiping my penis, a whole lot of stagnant looking sperm came out. I threw it down the toilet.

Although dreamer had never had any conscious urges to have sex with a baby or children, it is not uncommon to dream such dreams. In fact the dream is about the stagnant sperm. His normal sexual development had been disturbed as a baby, and he was reconnecting with it.

Penis replaced by vagina: Could be feeling inadequate as a man or be developing a contact with the female receptive in oneself. It might also show the loss of male drive in sexuality.

Loss of penis: See: castrate.

Penis turns into a snake: Feeling the intense instinctive drive of sexuality. This is a realisation of the drive as existing beyond one’s personality and is an expression of what the sex drive is doing, depending what is happening to the snake. See:reptiles lizards snakes.

Bleeding from penis: Emotional hurts or fears that are interfering with expression of healthy sexual feeling.

In a woman’s dream: Your relationship with, desire for a mate and therefore your relationship with your own desires and male characteristics, such as ambition, work capability, aggression, intellect.

For a woman, the penis may represent your feelings or fears about meeting a man’s full sexuality, as well as the deep experience of the relationship with your father, and all the issues of dependence, fear, love or anger that still exist in your from your childhood. It connects with your experience of growing from childhood, and how your father met your emerging female sexuality. The penis is also the holy grail of your desire for sexual expression. The reality underlying the symbols of temples and churches, embodying as they do the sacredness of the creative sexual drive and the mystery of life.

The penis might also depict the details of the sexual relationship with your partner. As with the example of Sally’s dream below, the events in the dream define the problem or relationship.

Freud suggested that some women experience penis envy – a sense that their vagina is not as good as a penis. This theme often appears on women’s dreams and may be the nucleus of a powerful conflict if explored.

Example: Dreamt that I have an icicle hanging off my penis

In this dream the man’s sexual drive is show as frozen, probably repressed by anxieties or relationship difficulties.

I was with a very attractive woman and felt to see if my penis was erect. It was, but I seemed to have no power there. When I explored the issue of my sexuality, I realised that when I hold back my sexual feelings toward women, for whatever reason, then I feel slightly depressed, disconnected from the world, and with less personal positiveness in what I do. It is almost like a stream of life flows through me when I am happily sexual, which is diminished by my restraints, whether moral or social. Once the river of life is flowing through me again I feel whole and healed – I feel I can achieve things in the world.

As with the above examples, the penis in a dream is usually a direct reference to sexual feelings, fears, or problems. As these can be quite complex several examples are given below.

Example: ‘So for the third time I held the woman and made love. The woman’s vagina was like a flower. I don’t mean to look at, but in physical sensation. My penis felt like it was penetrating petals of flesh and touching with great pleasure a central receptive area. I was left with the feeling of being able to make love again and again without any negative effects. It was a very positive and healthy feeling.’ John T.

John is feeling confident about his sexual drive. Although a powerful drive, subtle feelings and fears have an intense influence not only on the pleasure of sex, but also the response of the physical organs. The relationship with the penis and sex act in one’s dream shows what fears, hurts or attitudes are influencing the sexual flow. See: castrate.

Example: ‘Was in a house with my wife. Outside the door was Something which wanted to come into her – an invisible being. We were frightened and it said ‘Do not be afraid, I want you to put your penis in your wife and wait for me to activate you. In that way you will form a body for me.’ I woke and realised the dream was moving me to parenthood. Already having three children I realised this would mean another 20 years of responsibility. Nevertheless my wife and I made love. Two weeks later I dreamt my wife was pregnant with a son. In fact nine months later she bore a son.’ Nigel I.

In this interesting dream sequence the penis is Nigel’s drive to be a father. See: bedknobpole; reptiles lizards snakes.

Useful Questions and Hints:

In a female dream – what is my dream showing my relationship with male sexuality is?

In a male dream – what is my dream revealing about the way I relate to my sexual drive?

Does this dream reveal anything about the way I am in an intimate relationship – if so what is it?

Are there any signs of me growing beyond old patterns of my sexual/emotional behaviour – if so can I enhance them?

Here some useful links – Easy Dream InterpretationSexually InadequateMan In Your DreamsDream Like a Computer Game


-Leia D 2014-08-15 23:10:04

I had a dream a few months ago that I was forced to suck a penis but when I touched it with my mouth it was so gross and I started spitting all over the old guy( he was an old man!!!!) ! I have no Idea what it means and my friend also had a similar deam where an old man had sex with her… I had another dream yesterday aswell where I woke up in the morning and my vagina didn’t feel right, so I had a look and I saw a strange ( and I mean strange! It was soooooo wierd!) looking penis instead of my normal parts! I was so scared and I could feel my body heating up like blood was pumping through my vains fast. I then tried having my morning wee with it, standing up like a man does when they use the toilet, and my wee just sprayed EVERYWHERE and I couldn’t control it and I said ” this is much harder than it looks!!!” Please tell me what they mean! Me and my friend are only 13 and I really want to know!

-Junaid 2013-11-25 3:39:49

Great article…
I had a dream in morning (around 7.30) in which I saw a penis was inserted in a child`s vagina and then i saw that i also inserted my penis in that vagina(although another penis was inserted into it already)…then i started having intercourses and i ejaculated. What could this dream mean?
please interpret

-heather 2013-11-16 13:52:54

mmm I just had a dream about a large penis last night. This good looking man kinda looked like my bf at first but in better shape and then I realized it wasn’t him but couldve been related to him or something (not in real life).

So he’s standing there with this awesomely stiff di– penis and I wanted to just jump on it but I was all like wait Im not a cheater but he was rubbing on my back and showing it off. I just wanted it so bad. Then he turned into just a decent looking guy but his di– penis was still sooo long, hard and throbbing I was about to throw my morals out of the window and cheat.

BUT my sister was there and she was crying and telling me that I shouldn’t have slept with the guy and I told her that I didnt I only wanted to and she was ruining my vibe and after I calmed her down, all of a sudden I saw and felt his dic– penis inside of me and I was like woah buddy feels good but let my sis get out of the room first but then he was gone and it was like I had dreamed that he was inside of me.

So I leave my sis to herself fully intending to find him and just cheat (which I would never do in real life) and get some of that yummy looking — penis. Even though I know I wouldn’t have gone thru with it. I just wanted it sooo bad. (That’s how it used to be with my bf now its just sex. )

Sooo basically I woke up regretting that I didn’t get some of that penis because it was just a dream and not really cheating and I couldve had an awesome orgasm. Too bad I didn’t know it was a dream. Next time I will tell myself wait aminute random guys dont just show you their penis, this must be a dream, soooo guess I better get it while the gettings good!

one of the best penis dreams Ive had. Wish I could recall dreams to do over!

What does all this mean?

-Anon 2013-11-16 7:30:02

Ummm ya I had a messed up dream last night where there were two naked babes and they both had penises in place of their breasts…like they each had two fully erect penises where their boobs should be…what does this mean???

-Sarah Bean 2013-09-23 3:50:01

I had a dream where all the boys in the area had to get their penis’ cut off. It was an assembly line that took multiple days. I was supposed to go help but I hate gruesome things and blood. When I found out who was cutting them off, it was my boyfriend. The guys would walk up, put their penis in the bottom of this water jug, it would cut off their penis, and float to the top of the jug. I also keep having dreams that I can fly. But when I’m inside, I float to the ceiling as if I have no gravity. I’m not sure if these dreams are linking. The flying is reoccurring and I have had the penis dream once so far. Thank you so much!

-Nannah 2013-09-13 13:49:10

I had a dream that by boyfriend had a very small penis, almost as if it were a worm. Yet, he gave me really good sex in my dream. I’m wondering if it has a meaning.

    -Tony Crisp 2013-09-15 15:19:30

    Nannah – You need to ask yourself what was good about it, and what it was that produced a good feeling. All sex is movement. Sexual movement involves your body, your emotions and your spontaneity. For sex to be more than two people experiencing mutual physical friction, movements of our whole self are called for.

    So what apart from the movement was the key to your pleasure?


      -Isabel 2014-06-22 0:59:47

      I had two dreams on different occasions since I’ve been separated from my husband. One was i had a large penis doing it doggie style to another woman and my husband walks in and i wake up after the orgasm. The other one again I have a large penis masturbating while thinking about my husband and again after orgasm i wake up and both dreams feel so real then i go back to sleep.

        -Tony Crisp 2014-06-22 10:39:46

        Isabel – It seems to be that you had such a lot pleasure handling your husband’s penis that in the dream you are having the pleasure of having one yourself. I know Freud said it signifies penis envy, but I believe we are much more than Freud managed to understand.

        I know that many men dream of having a vagina and enjoying it while still very much heterosexual men. I cannot remember Freud saying men suffer from vagina envy. But please read

        Personally I feel you are exploring the different ways we can have sexual love.


-Tiffany 2013-06-23 17:50:58

I had a dream of my boyfriends penis. His penis did not look healthy. There were red spots, little holes in it, deformed and all around GROSS. We just started and dating and I have not had sex with him yet. What does this dream mean? I keep thinking about how I attractive and unhealthy his penis looked.

    -Tony Crisp 2013-06-24 7:07:47

    Tiffany – This could be two things.

    One is a warning to beware of getting closer to him sexually. Secondly it can be your intuitive feelings about him. Do you have difficulties about sex?

    It is a very strong dream so watch closely at how your boyfriend reacts to you.


-Terrence 2013-06-14 19:12:08

I had a very vivid dream where I had 4 penises(one above the other down my crotch). They were all erect and each one gave a slightly different sensation when I had sex with it in my dream. Any idea what this could mean? It was not a fearful dream but rather pleasant.

-Freaked out 2013-05-11 23:24:11

I had a dream about my ex the other night- we were in the foreplay stage of making love when she ejaculated and a white penis emerged out of her vagina (head first) which she then chose to remove and throw out the window

    -Still freaked out 2013-05-11 23:25:42

    Please help interpret!

    -Tony Crisp 2013-05-13 7:38:17

    Freaked Out – Don’t forget that the dreamed of ex is simply your memories and feelings about her – not actually her. See –

    It sounds as if you feel that your ex had a male feeling about sex; which you didn’t like so threw it out the window. Maybe you felt she was doing it to you rather than you doing it to her?


-Lori 2013-04-05 8:17:10

I am a female and have reoccuring dream that I have a small penis just above my clitorous. Its tiny and insignificant yet Im very proud of it in my dream and want to see if it works like a man’s penis works. However, I cant seem to have one moment of privacy to be able to investigate… What in the world?

-Bonna 2013-01-11 16:15:02

In my dream, I was dancing intimately with my officemate, wearing office clothes and we were so close that I can feel his thing in front of mine. After the dance, suddenly the thing became hard and so long that it was protruding inside my skirt.. Aaaaack… How did I have it when I’m a woman!?! Pls help to interpret, Mr. Tony Crisp..

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-Lulu 2012-02-13 10:38:16

I had a dream where I needed to walk through a crowd of men, all fully clothed but with their erect penises on display. At first I found it strange but I needed to wade through the crowd to get to my destination so I decided to have fun with it. I intentionally brushed up against them as I walked through. I was the only female. Can you please enlighten to me as to the symbolism of this dream. I am 5 months pregnant with my 3rd child, all to the same partner.

-Tassel Daley 2011-12-09 22:30:46

If a man dreams that his sister has a penis what does this mean?

    -Tony Crisp 2011-12-10 11:26:54

    Tassel – It depends what he dreams his sister does with her penis. In dreams we can be whatever we wish. So the question is why did you wish for a sister with a penis.


-John doe 2011-10-24 23:28:50

I can’t find any dream dictionary online that can suggest what a dream where you have a detachable penis means. I dreamt I had a detachable penis. after removing it, cleaning, I went to reattach it and wasn’t sure which was mine and which was my wifes toy. (no, I feel no competition with my wife’s bob. she doesn’t use it too often)

I suspect it means that my Eros and Ethos loves are feeling detached from each other rather than enhancing each other.

helpful information:
I’m in my mid 30s and am experiencing a drop in libido and have health issues that interfere with my sex drive. I’m happily married.

this is not a troll post.

    -Tony Crisp 2011-11-23 10:37:11

    John – After fifty years of watching my dreams, I have dreamt about my penis being detached, being a snake, being exposed in front of a class of people, a switch that I could turn my sexual impulse on or off, and also changing into a vagina. So it is quite normal to go through the whole range, and realise that you are a shape shifter.

    What it means to me is that you can remove your sexual drive – and that you were uncertain if it was yours or your wife’s toy is a further indication of changes going on in you. These sorts of dreams usually happen later in life due to the fact that we are then no longer driven by the sexual impulse but can look around and make decisions. So your situation has put you in this position because of your drop of libido. And it seems natural for me at the age of seventy four, to wonder whether it is your wife’s toy or your own urges.

    I think that eventually you can be anything you wish. To quote from something I wrote, “Part of the difficulty is that you have lived a long life with a younger drive, and the old ways of dealing with things is often difficult to let go of as things change. The opportunity to experiment more fully in life helps you to reassess yourself and what new way of relating and being suits you or is satisfying.”


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