For a man the penis represents more than simply his sexual appetite. It depicts the whole drive of life through his glandular system that develops the body type he has. It is therefore often depicting a sense of his own power of self expression, his potency in expressing himself and capability in the world.

The healthy function of the sexual organs predispose a mans body toward male sexual characteristics such as square hips, muscular frame, facial hair and deeper voice. This brings a certain creative explosiveness to his personality, creates urges toward fatherhood and loving his woman, with connected desires to supply the needs of family if he is emotionally healthy. The positive aspect of the penis/masculinity is for him to want his woman to meet his maleness, his caring aggression, his sexual desire, with her own fiery female energy, needs and strength.

So the penis in the male dream can link with any of these characteristics, or in some way indicate difficulties, trauma or fears about them.

Example: The prick stands up for love. Maybe in youth it stands up for performance, or because you are expected to have sex, or because you believe you have no value if you cannot perform. But when you are 60, 70, or 80, the truth comes out. Can you love? The prick stands up when you feel that glow of life that we call love. This sort of love isn’t just there because you said you were going to do it at 12 o’clock that day. This love is an expression of life. Like life it has its seasons. It ebbs and flows. To press it to perform day after day is not to respect those seasons. With such little respect the flow diminishes. The prick no longer stands up except perhaps through artificial stimulation. You do not command life, it commands you. If it does not, you or dead. This sort of love responds to the human need. Perhaps it should be called compassion.

Example: Emily takes my penis and loses it? For a time Emily really did control my penis. I was completely at her mercy. P

This is one of the themes in male dreams, showing how the man is at the mercy of his sexual desires for a woman. In this sense he feels she controls him. It might even be that she is shown cutting off his penis, suggesting relationship with her kills his sexual drive.

Example: I broke it. I broke my dickey. It was dead. I was dead. I was dead and wanted to kill others too. I couldn’t ask for love because my dickey was broken. My prick. I didn’t have a prick. I didn’t want people to look at my prick because it was dead, broken. I couldn’t ask people to love me because they would know my prick was dead. I couldn’t love people because they would know. I wanted love but I couldn’t ask. My pride was gone. I lost my pride because I lost my prick I didn’t want to go on living without it and wanted to die.

“That’s why I killed my daddy. I killed him. I killed him because I wanted his prick. Mine was broken and wanted a good one. So I killed him to get his. 

Example: Dreamt I cut off my penis and used it to masturbate myself. This I did by pushing the penis inside me, where presumably I had a vagina.

Example: ‘My lover Terry, myself and another woman were all on our bed. The other woman seemed very sure of herself and kissed Terry in a very intimate way, he doing the same to her as I lay very near to both of them. Then Terry stuck his bottom in the air and started to lick my chest and breast. I found myself licking around his penis, felt I was under some kind of pressure from both the other two to do so but didn’t feel too shattered as I did it with love for Terry, but I had a bitter taste in my mouth.’ Sally P.

In talking about this dream Sally said she often struggled with what she wanted, and what her partner wanted in sex. She might go along with his needs, but not find it palatable. Even if she did do it with some love, it might leave a ‘bad taste in her mouth’.

Example: ‘I felt as if I were as one with Terry and I realised he was trying to make a journey, as his penis, into his mother’s vagina. Her vagina looked like a long dark tunnel and was threatening to him. I said, ‘You haven’t given your mother satisfaction and you say you will not. Then he was really smashed up in body. Withdrawing into a garden with a high green hedge. I took a leaf from the hedge and began to pull it apart with my hands. Terry said, ‘Look what you are doing, teasing me.’ I felt withdrawal wasn’t the way and started to follow him, walking alongside the hedge. I said, ‘It feels like you are strangling me, so why don’t you do it and kill me?’ We have been going through a lot of sexual withdrawal, Terry saying his sexuality was his to do with as he wanted.’ Sally P.

This second dream of Sally’s is a shrewd summing up of Terry’s sexual fears. In fact Terry suffered a great deal of anxiety about sex, and later uncovered the sort of fear and desire to avoid giving his mother satisfaction in becoming a full blooded man shown in the dream. Our unconscious is a very capable psychologist, and while Terry in Sally’s dream represents her insights regarding him – and must not be seen as a statement of fact about Terry. Nevertheless, such insight are often enormously useful in dealing with relationship difficulties.

Just as women may experience penis envy, men may experience vagina envy. This because there is nothing that a man can do that is quite as miraculous as having a baby. In some men this involves a huge struggle regarding their sexual orientation or easy expression of heterosexual sex.

Example: Was in an underground train. It came out and floated on a lake or river. Then it drew back into the tunnel. I had a baby that I took into a toilet on the train, and put my penis into its back passage, having sex with it. Afterwards, in wiping my penis, a whole lot of stagnant looking sperm came out. I threw it down the toilet.

Although dreamer had never had any conscious urges to have sex with a baby or children, it is not uncommon to dream such dreams. In fact the dream is about the stagnant sperm. His normal sexual development had been disturbed as a baby, and he was reconnecting with it.

Penis replaced by vagina: Could be feeling inadequate as a man or be developing a contact with the female receptive in oneself. It might also show the loss of male drive in sexuality.

Loss of penis: See: castrate.

Penis turns into a snake: Feeling the intense instinctive drive of sexuality. This is a realisation of the drive as existing beyond one’s personality and is an expression of what the sex drive is doing, depending what is happening to the snake. See:reptiles lizards snakes.

Bleeding from penis: Emotional hurts or fears that are interfering with expression of healthy sexual feeling.

In a woman’s dream: Your relationship with, desire for a mate and therefore your relationship with your own desires and male characteristics, such as ambition, work capability, aggression, intellect.

For a woman, the penis may represent your feelings or fears about meeting a man’s full sexuality, as well as the deep experience of the relationship with your father, and all the issues of dependence, fear, love or anger that still exist in your from your childhood. It connects with your experience of growing from childhood, and how your father met your emerging female sexuality. The penis is also the holy grail of your desire for sexual expression. The reality underlying the symbols of temples and churches, embodying as they do the sacredness of the creative sexual drive and the mystery of life.

The penis might also depict the details of the sexual relationship with your partner. As with the example of Sally’s dream below, the events in the dream define the problem or relationship.

Freud suggested that some women experience penis envy – a sense that their vagina is not as good as a penis. This theme often appears on women’s dreams and may be the nucleus of a powerful conflict if explored.

Example: Dreamt that I have an icicle hanging off my penis

In this dream the man’s sexual drive is show as frozen, probably repressed by anxieties or relationship difficulties.

I was with a very attractive woman and felt to see if my penis was erect. It was, but I seemed to have no power there. When I explored the issue of my sexuality, I realised that when I hold back my sexual feelings toward women, for whatever reason, then I feel slightly depressed, disconnected from the world, and with less personal positiveness in what I do. It is almost like a stream of life flows through me when I am happily sexual, which is diminished by my restraints, whether moral or social. Once the river of life is flowing through me again I feel whole and healed – I feel I can achieve things in the world.

As with the above examples, the penis in a dream is usually a direct reference to sexual feelings, fears, or problems. As these can be quite complex several examples are given below.

Example: ‘So for the third time I held the woman and made love. The woman’s vagina was like a flower. I don’t mean to look at, but in physical sensation. My penis felt like it was penetrating petals of flesh and touching with great pleasure a central receptive area. I was left with the feeling of being able to make love again and again without any negative effects. It was a very positive and healthy feeling.’ John T.

John is feeling confident about his sexual drive. Although a powerful drive, subtle feelings and fears have an intense influence not only on the pleasure of sex, but also the response of the physical organs. The relationship with the penis and sex act in one’s dream shows what fears, hurts or attitudes are influencing the sexual flow. See: castrate.

Example: ‘Was in a house with my wife. Outside the door was Something which wanted to come into her – an invisible being. We were frightened and it said ‘Do not be afraid, I want you to put your penis in your wife and wait for me to activate you. In that way you will form a body for me.’ I woke and realised the dream was moving me to parenthood. Already having three children I realised this would mean another 20 years of responsibility. Nevertheless my wife and I made love. Two weeks later I dreamt my wife was pregnant with a son. In fact nine months later she bore a son.’ Nigel I.

In this interesting dream sequence the penis is Nigel’s drive to be a father. See: bedknobpole; reptiles lizards snakes.

Useful Questions and Hints:

In a female dream – what is my dream showing my relationship with male sexuality is?

In a male dream – what is my dream revealing about the way I relate to my sexual drive?

Does this dream reveal anything about the way I am in an intimate relationship – if so what is it?

Are there any signs of me growing beyond old patterns of my sexual/emotional behaviour – if so can I enhance them?

Here some useful links – Easy Dream InterpretationSexually InadequateMan In Your DreamsDream Like a Computer Game


-Dan 2017-10-07 14:05:59

Dreamt that I could suck my own penis. What’s this mean?

    -Tony Crisp 2017-10-07 14:15:44

    Dan – It means that you are trying hard, but you haven’t done the hard work to be able to bend that low 🙂 It’s all your wishful thinking.


-MK 2017-04-25 14:25:38

Hello Tony, i javent written in awhile though Ive never drempt about a penis’!
Two men and its as a subtle pursuit, I recognized both men to be affluent in the body building promoting industry.
Going from room to room the more powerful laid on the bed leaning back, legs over edge and exposed his enormous johnson proudly, hos had red and a black tribal tatoo full length. The other man stood at the foot of the bed then proudly exposed his very large one with the black outlining of his tatoo.
There were windows in thos home though it seemed as an exposed wood frames with furniture.

I appreciate any insight you could offer.
Thank you !

-GABRIEL MAMPONE 2016-11-28 5:10:13

I just dreamt where my penis had fallen on the ground and picked it to hospital to get sawn into place. What is the meaning of this strange dream?

-Robert Edwards 2016-10-16 7:17:25

My girlfriend dreamt my penis fell off. She says she’s getting enough sex. Can anyone please tell me what this means? She described it as a nightmare lol

-asenath 2016-10-03 12:30:04

Dear Anna
Friday night I had a frightening dream.I dreamt me and my Bf were kissing.As we kissed I saw a pale lady with black eyes peeking us off through a window…we walked downwards a aisle.As I walked back without my bf this pale woman with the pitch black eyes walked towards me her eyes transformed from black to bloody red.She attacked me we wrestled I hit her off me.When my Bf came back to me she appeared normal.when we continued smooching and kissing and becoming intimate she were peaking from underneath my bed her eues transformed again and she stormed again towards me…She wanted to bit me in my neck.I could felt her breath in this dream against my neck..Then i woke up from all this fear

-Sarah 2016-07-19 19:18:31

I dream my boss forcing to put his penos in my mouth

-Sarah 2016-01-31 18:04:57

I am a female, dreamt that I started to grow a large penis and testicles. I could feel my testicles tighten as I became arroused and felt proud of my large erect penis. I was walking through a dim hallway and entered a room where a man was sitting on a couch. I don’t know who the man was but I felt we were in a safe relationship. I came to him and though the dreamed needed before we had intercourse I felt confident that I would be able to have sex with him and that he actually had a vagina. I felt confident we would have very passionate satisfying love making and I was anticipating experiencing sex as a female with a fully functioning penis. What does all that mean??

-cloy 2015-10-13 10:38:08

Dream am pulling a chain ftom my penis.

-chrissy 2015-06-26 13:22:37

I had a dream last nite that really threw me for a loop…in my dream I had a penis that was removed from a man (dream didn’t express who) but I used the penis to please myself. This really turns my stomach, it was very pleasurable and clean, no blood or anything from the penis. I woke thinking wtf, I’d never do that what the heck does this mean. Can you help me?

    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2015-06-28 14:52:07

    Dear Chrissy – Sometimes our dreams can really throw us out of our comfort zone and that is their purpose.
    In the widest sense nearly all dreams act as a process of growth or a move toward maturing. Some dreams are very obviously presenting internal forces or dimensions of experience that might lead the conscious personality toward a greater balance and inclusiveness.
    On a deep level this dream is about getting in touch with your animus male self and integrating/including it into your being.
    Physically a woman is predominantly female, but also has a clitoris and produces some male hormones. Psychologically, we may only express part of our potential in everyday life. In a woman, the more physically dynamic, intellectual and socially challenging side of herself such as assertiveness and taking charge of situations may be given less expression.
    Integrating these aspects may very well be experienced as pleasing your dream figure in your dream – “it was very pleasurable” – while it came as a shock to your waking self – “I woke thinking wtf, I’d never do that what the heck does this mean”. So be patient with yourself and take time to adjust to the new situation emerging from deep within.
    Hexagram 51 of the I Ching expresses this approach very well:
    “Through the unexpected life is confronting us with the way things are rather than how we believe them to be. There may be some anxiety mixed with this. The events may question or confront old opinions and ways of doing things. Be ready to let go. So remaining calm and balanced enables one to adjust more quickly to the situation”.
    Please also read
    Anna 🙂

      -asenath 2016-10-03 12:18:09

      I had a dream last night…I dream I was masturbating and as I reached a climax.I ejaculated but there was visible blood in the sperm

      -asenath 2016-10-03 12:20:47

      I had a dream last night…I dream I was masturbating and as I reached a climax.I ejaculated but there was visible blood in the sperm.I then further dreamt of this green pastures and some trees…it looked like an oasis with this white sand and this clear flowing water.My uncle went towards it I followed him there but I started feeling unease…I was scared of some cattle that might spot us so I walked away from this beautiful nature scene….what does it mean?

-Dordra 2015-03-06 14:16:06

I had a dream last night that I was in the bathroom and found out I had a penis, I was kind of happy and curious to figure out how it felt to have a penis so I masturbated, and it was erect and at some point turned curly, like the shape of an s, maybe a snake? But still erect and then I reached down and I also had a clitoris so I played with that too, I remember thinking it was cool to be able to feel what a man and woman felt during sex or masturbation…please help, what could this dream mean 😮 ?!

-bhavesh vadhwana 2014-09-17 7:11:13

I had dreamt that a bunch of hair had grown on the tip of my penis and I am pulling it with my hands

-Leia D 2014-08-15 23:23:56

They dreams where so real aswell and I could actually feel the texture of the skin and everything! There is also another reoccurring dream that happened mostly when I was 10 when I start rubbing my body all over another boy but I don’t do anything proper I just sit and wee all over him and we both enjoy it so much though I only enjoy it because I am desperate for a wee in the dreams! This dream has happened in many different ways, the same things happen but I am a different person each time! I can remember one from when I was 10 and I was princess Jasmine from Aladdin and I went up to javar ( or whatever his name is), sit on his face and wee :/ I am sooooooooooooooo confused! I hope you can tell me what all of these dreams mean! They are so bizarre and I have never told anyone else before… Please x

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