Woman Women

In life the conscious attention a woman has to give to her animus (her inner male) problem takes much time and involves a lot of suffering. But if she realises who and what her animus is and what he does to her, and if she faces these realities instead of allowing herself to be possessed, her animus can turn into an invaluable inner companion who endows her with the masculine qualities of initiative, courage, objectivity, and spiritual wisdom. Archetype of the Animus

Example: For women in particular there is an urge to give their love. What are you going to do with that love, have babies? If that is the direction you want to go, wonderful, go for it. Let all the power of your love and energy stream into it. Claim it as yours. Fill it with yourself. If that is not what you want, don’t flap about thinking that’s not what you want and being half-hearted about it.

Don’t kill that energy however. The energy of procreation is the fundamental river of life. But if you want it to go elsewhere let it build up and build up until it bursts through into the area you wish . Awareness is the key. What are you going to spend your wonderful female energy on? Are you going to spend it on a man? If you do, he might not even know the wonderful thing you are offering him. Is that what you want to do with it? Well, maybe spend some on him. But not all of it. You have so much of it. Awareness is the key. It is the flow of your life. Do not block it or allow it to become tangled up by pain. If it does, return to the source of your being for renewal and healing. Take the energy up to expanded awareness. Feel the pain of giving birth to that new self. Become a whole woman. I see all women, as holding within themselves, all women who have existed. They are agelesss, and at the same time the latest, the top of the heap, the newest model with all the bells and whistles. But unless they keep in contact with the stream of their own life, their source of womanhood, they will desiccate, dry up, as a person. If they lose contact with that, they are simply a painted face. You are simply what the plastic surgeon does. You might look like a beautiful shell, but you are dead inside. See Core

A woman has a variety of ways she needs to be fulfilled. That is, by being cared about, being loved sexually, having her man do something valuable socially, and having a companion of depth and width she can play and cry, work and talk with. So a powerful woman can face a powerful man because she knows her own power. She feels within her the ability to stand as a force in the world, as well as the ability to care for her own children or even others. She acknowledges everything everything she is, from her animal within her to her human ability to take hold of the world and create, children as well as business or social functions. She has a natural religious feeling which may have nothing to do with the church or other religious bodies, but is a love of life and its creatures. She is a WOMAN.

Example: Part of the imagery I had experience was that the spider creature, the woman, the female of the species, has a fundamental message that she is crying out either unconsciously or consciously. It is, “I am different. I am different. I am different!” “I’ve got something wonderful.” This is a very basic thing, a cry from her own genetic material. She is saying “Mate with me I am offering you something that is different to anybody else.” This even flows into the personality where the woman might present herself as better, different, more wonderful. Very often the woman is trying to get a particular male, or a particular type of male. She has, consciously or unconsciously, an ideal that she is seeking. But that male, or that type of male, may not actually become her partner. So then she looks around to see if she can attract the nearest to that ideal, and if that fails she may take whatever opportunity allows. She looks to see who’s next in line.

A young woman may need to create an inner man, an image or concept of manhood, within herself, before she can relate to a mate. But before a woman takes a man as a mate she needs to define exactlty –What is a MAN. That is not what her fantsies or romantic ideas are but see the whole spectrum of maleness from murders; sexual predators; young inexperienced males, older males who have been married to old men.

A woman in a woman’s dream: An aspect of yourself, but often a facet of you that is not immediately identified with. See Being the Person or Thing

Goddess, holy or oriental woman: The dreamer’s highest potential; what she is capable of but may not yet have lived; her intuition and wisdom transcending her own personality. Something she has brought to life what lives and expresses through all life – a universal sympathy. If you have lived with someone for a while with a girl or a woman, you have developed an inner female.

Inner female woman: Many people do not realise that they have an inner woman equally as powerful as an external woman. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with your the girl or woman, and they are what makes you the person you are. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner woman can appear in dreams because you are still deeply influenced by what you hold within you.

Example: I dreamt of being with a woman who was desperately seeking a man. I was also with my own female companion. I believe the woman had been suddenly dropped by her man, and I and my partner were close and with her.

Still in the semi-awake state I tried ‘being’ the woman, and had a very clear response. I experienced being her, but was also me with experience of seeing into myself in some degree. I saw that the woman, like most of us, was a female creature whose instinctive drive was to find a mate. But she was not aware of this as an instinctive drive but as a personal feeling. As such she had become, like many women and men, lost in a huge web of personal ideas about whether they were attractive, sexy, with many complications about love, gender mixed with childhood unconscious traumas and the heartbreak all that brings.

But women have a much older and more wonderful inner woman. Yes, you grew from a seed, but no plant or creature grows from a dead seed, and each living seed carries within it all the past gathered from all its forebears. So, the seed in your mother’s womb is as old as and even older than human kind, and you carry that wisdom or memories in you. But in this life you developed a new brain, and the memories you gathered this time are what you built your personality from, but beneath that is a very huge and ancient self. For in a real way, you are simply a conscious personality riding an ancient beast, your body.

Example:  I could then see a fairly easy way to climb the great tree. So, I climbed up and the top of the tree was like a massive bell of a flower, like a crocus shape. And it was light and colourful. Suddenly I saw a spirit, a beautiful female. It was the spirit of the tree. At this point I was semi awake, and I wanted to hold the beautiful spirit, but realised that the tree was a representation of my life, and so was the spirit of the tree. The spirit sat on me in a sexual position, so I was lying on my back and she was upright. She slowly took me into her, I mean the whole me, as if she was sucking my whole body into her. I realised that I had to die because she wanted to take all my experience of life and endeavour into her and fertilise herself to form a baby. So, I was ready to die and watched her form a new baby, a mixture of her and me.

Older woman: Could be the dreamer’s mother; her feelings about ageing; her sense of inherited wisdom; sometimes, if you are a woman, she represents the person you are becoming.

One woman one man: Behaviour patterns arising from parental relationship.

Two women and the dreamer: Conflicting feelings or drives.

Woman’s sister and female children: Particularly used to represent herself. The character of the dream woman, loving, angry, businesslike, lazy, sexual, give a clue to what part of the dreamer it is referring to. If the dream woman is a person known well, the above can still be the case, but the woman may represent what the dreamer feels about that person.

Woman in a house: Can represent your mother or wife.

Woman younger than the dreamer: Oneself at that age.

Woman in a man’s dream: This is fundamentally about your felt relationship with a particular woman, or women in general. What is happening in the dream will depict the aspect of relationship being illustrated. The dreamer’s present relationship with his own feelings and intuitive self; his sensitivity and contact with his unconscious through receptivity; or how he is relating to his female partner. The latter is especially so if the woman in the dream is his partner.

Old woman: Usually the dreamer’s mother. The woman, because she is his feelings, is obviously also his sexual desires and how he meets them. But very often it represent the power of experience, or old experience and wisdom. In terms of the dreamer, it can signify your own intuitive power – a power because it carries a lot of your own energy and wholeness with it. It can, in some dreams represent what you have brought to life what lives and expresses through all life – a universal sympathy.

Oriental woman in occidental dream: The aspect of mind and emotions that links the conscious personality with its unconscious transcendental wisdom and intuition, and perhaps the capacity to love.

Two women and the dreamer: An ‘eternal triangle’ situation; conflicting feelings.

Unmarried woman: Dreaming of being unmarried – is it a desire for freedom or independence, or comparison with present situation if married? Also it might point to the way you were prior to marriage. Possible hope for a new sexual partner, a husband prior to marriage or an unmarried male friend. Recent documentaries on tribal life showed clearly how polygamy in such groups was a powerful force in child care, women’s support, and leaving no one unmarried and uncared for at the death of parents.

It worked well in a group that had no social welfare and survival in a harsh environment that was hard for all. An argument against polygamy is that of females being subordinate to males, but in some cultures the polygamy is that of a woman having several male partners. An Indian young woman states she had no conflict over the fact that Hindus in Asia closely protect unmarried girls and that she was living with a West Indian. She said, “I am not being unfaithful to anyone and after all this is quite the usual practice among students in London”.

She finished the interview by saying that she felt much more united with the Almighty and at peace inside herself. She is certainly completely relaxed and able to discuss her situation living in Western culture with great charm and understanding.

One may remain unmarried because of immaturity or a powerful mother influence. An unmarried woman secretary of 28 was referred by the family doctor in 1959 because of her fear of being sick, for which he could find no organic cause. She was the only daughter of middle class parents and lived at home in comfort in a London suburb. She was of superior intelligence and a first class secretary. The details of her social relationships showed evidence of marked emotional immaturity and she was leading a social life appropriate to an 18-year old girl. After treatment she sums up – “I see now that I was terribly immature and very very greatly influenced by my mother, who had the most tremendous power over me. It was quite unconscious on her part, but she was my God, and that is what I saw under the treatment.

Example: It all started off, by this awful fear of sickness. I wasn’t sick but I was absolutely petrified that I was going to be. I think is was the fact that when I was sick, I associated that with being ill in bed and therefore under Mummy’s power completely. I was very much worse after I had glandular fever, which I had very badly, and I was in bed for three weeks. It also got worse every time I fell in love with anybody. I had lots of boy friends, but twice before I met my husband I fell in love, and then this fear of sickness became very much worse. Every time I went out with a boy friend to a restaurant I got quite panic stricken that I was going to be sick, and of course, I felt sick because I got in such a state about it that I made myself feel really sick.  Well of course, having been married for two years, and knowing what real love is, I would say no. I used to get these “little pink cloud” romances, which is the sort of thing that happens to teenagers, which was merely infatuation, but it was never a really deep love.” Quoted from LSD and Ritalin in the Treatment of Neurosis, by Ling and Buckman.

Example: I was getting married with two other couples. We all wore Cinderella dresses, but I didn’t have a husband. Then I changed into peach coloured long skirt and danced – really let my hair down. The others went off on their honeymoon. I’m 21 and my boyfriend and I have decided not to get married as both our parents are going through awful divorces.  Theresa

Cinderella is of course the girl without parents. So you are taking into your decision – to wed, or not – Cinderella is of course the girl without parents. So you are taking into your decision  feelings of being unsupported. Obviously your parent’s divorce contributes to this. Do remember Theresa, that neither marriage nor living as an unmarried couple, guarantees against break up. Many unmarried couples I personally know have gone through the most bitter separations.

Divorce is not necessarily failure, it is change. If you don’t live in make-believe-land where all things forever remain in a state of sleepy permanency, then you can plan for change. Most bitterness in parting is about money and hurt hopes, or maybe misplaced dependence. If you can learn to love each other without possessiveness, and with awareness of normal change, you can avoid many of these hurts. It makes the relationship stronger too. See Ages of Love

Younger woman: Can depict his desires for a woman of that age, or his more vulnerable emotions.

Example: ‘I gave birth to a baby girl I named Charlotte. I had mixed emotions about this, uncertainty, excitement. I wanted to share the news with my friends. I phoned one, a woman in Australia. I told her with enthusiasm, but she listened quietly and remained silent. I felt uneasy, then she said ‘We lost Luke’ – her son – ‘the week before.’ I then woke with muddled feelings.’ Mo.

The example helps make plain how the other woman in mo’s dream is the aspect of her that is in pain and mourning. Mo explored her feelings about the dream characters. It all fell into place when she asked herself what she had ‘lost’ recently. She had left a lover of some years standing. This gave her a lot more freedom and new opportunity, depicted by the baby, but also muddled feelings of loss. Her Australian friend represents her feelings of grieving for the ‘death’ of her relationship. Her muddled feelings arise because she both loves the new life which opens up, but grieves the death of her romance.

Example: ‘On a raised mobile platform a goddess stood. I loved her and flew to her, skimming above the heads of the people. I talked to her. She told me the only love I could receive from her was that which I gave to a human woman. Inasmuch as I gave love to a human female, she would love me. She was all women.’ Andrew P.

The example shows Andrew meeting his archetypal conception of a woman, his ideal. But he understands that you cannot love an ideal. His love must find a real woman. Through a real love he would call love from out of himself, out of his unconscious reserve. The conditions or situations of the woman, see under appropriate entries, such as illness, murder, swimming, etc. See: anima; the great mother; old wise woman – old wise man under archetypes.


-Zandrea 2015-03-09 12:16:42

Last night I had a dream about a dark skinned woman with black eyes and she was bald. I dreamed that I was lying in my bed and I turned over and she was standing there looking at me. I asked her and she told me I was her sister or she said I am his sister. And, she was face to face with me with black eyes and went into me. I remember feeling scared in my dream and I made myself wake up. And, told my Husband about the dream and he told me it was a demon. Note: Last month my sister died at age 25. I am the oldest sister of my mothers children. I

-Jess 2014-11-16 19:20:21

A week and a half ago, a guyfriend and I had a falling out. Real bad. But before that (3 weeks ago) I had a dream that he and I were in a car, I laid my head on his shoulder. He stopped the car, and turned to me and said, “I’m desperate over you, kiss me!” I did. And when I turned to look out the window, we were sitting before a bridge. I looked at him and said, “let’s do it!” He said, ” I don’t know- okay. ” So we drove over the bridge, no problems. Clear skies, calm waters. We made it to the other side. Here is where the problem came in, he had a white piece of paper in his hand and he needed help writing it. We drove to a brick house with a black iron wrought door on the front. When we got in the house he asked an elderly woman to help him write the paper, she wouldn’t and he asked again. She continued to say no, so I told him that I would write it. When I looked at the paper there were words on it. The elderly lady asked us to leave, so we did…. What could this all mean?

-erik 2014-10-02 4:48:26

i had a dream that i met a women outside wearing a white dress. she was blond and she flew into my arms and was laughing and very happy. it felt as though we were in a relationship and we both knew each other even though i never saw her before

later i saw myself in a house looking outside a window with rain falling from the sky hitting the ground

is this a foretelling of some sort
positive or negative

-Antwon Fuller 2014-09-29 13:31:51

I dreampt i was dancing at a wedding.
It was my wedding i found later in the dream.
An arranged marriaged because i didn’t know know the woman i was getting married too.
She was Asian, a beautiful face with very high
cheek bones, tiny lips and a small body frame
but she matched me move per move on the dance
floor wedding celebration
But she worn no wedding dress nor I a tuxedo.
What does this mean?
I’m going to a wedding with a special woman
but she’s not Asian.

I don’t get it-

    -Tony Crisp 2014-10-06 12:10:23

    Antwon – Wedding dress and tuxedo are not for the sort of marriage you are engaged for – in to.
    I feel your dream is about a big step you are taking, a step to becoming a more whole human. And such a change dos not come easy, for you must have out in some work on yourself already.

    The Asian woman in dreams is your other half, often called a soul mate. But it is not an external woman but you own inner female. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-anima-jungs-view-of-the-female-in-the-male/
    In your dream I think you were not yet married. If so there is quite a lone process of personal growth before you are actually married, which is often a deeply felt thing. Absorbing your female half does not make you less male, or give you and urge to wear female clothes, I think those are urges in wannabes.

    You are on your way to a fuller life.


-Bettina 2014-09-12 10:00:48

I had a dream I was standing outside of my mothers old car which I was using.. And I was parked in a side road parking lot, late at night. A strange skinny woman with a creepy smile started approaching me and I jumped into the car quickly and struggled to lock it before she made it to me. I can still see her face a day later…

-katy 2014-09-06 10:34:08

I keep on having this reoccurring nightmare with some old woman that I don’t know and she is always infront of my house telling me things like she is going to kill me and how she really hates me but the thing is she looks really really really scary and she also tries getting in my house but I always slam the window on her

-luccasmommy 2014-08-13 16:43:44

last night i had a very weird dream with different events happen, but id like to know what the big things sybolized.. i dreamt first about trying to take a family members german sheppard because it wasnt being cared for properly but then the ospca came and told me i was not able to and they continuted to remove the dog from the home dispite how much i told them i would care for it, then later on i was with my old friends out for dinner at mc donalds like we used to but they kept eating my burgers? lol so i decided that we go back home.
when we got to my house there was a gate which looked old and like it was made of cardboard almost and ( i have a tattoo of a concrete angel like the ones at cemetarys on my shoulder) and she appeard and started talking to my friends.. i didnt think anything of it because i always felt she is so beautiful, but we went into my house, i found a random camera so i sat down and started to look through the photos and they were of me and my two friends sitting on a bench and a big black dog was laying at the end of the bench but i could see a shadow behind us, then the second one was the same except there was almost like a tree house and this ghostly woman was sitting in the tree house, the third was as iff somebody was watching us which as were all of them but it was as if someone was sitting under a deck taking the photos and a lady appeard again behind us, i thought these were really strange and then my friend came up to me and said that the angel ( girl person ) had asked my one friend if she could give him a treatment? the angel walked up to me slowly turning into a woman, an old woman.. with long grey hair and she looked like my mother but she wasnt my mother at all.. maybe body shape and some features in her face but then i suddenly freaked out at her asking why would she want to give my friend a treatment? what is wrong with you, ect.. i then chased her towards my screen door to my sun room and then she had sat on my lazy boy, perched up on one side like i do and she haad wide eyes, and her mouth was open like she was screaming at me but nothing was coming out.. i then asked my friends to help me get her out of the house and i ran to my kitchen table and picked up a knife and started to try and kill her, i tried stabbing her and she would get away, i tried slitting her throat but she got away.. i then had her in the sunroom before the last door to my back yard and i stabbed her in the eye with the knife but when i got it in the middle of her eye i could not push any farther.. and she got away.. she was screaming but no sound was coming out.. she then moved back towards my screen door and i asked my friends again to hold her while i tried again to kill her but she got into the house and last thing i know i slammed the screen door shut and i woke up screaming.. her face and the way she looked was so disturbing when she was sitting like i do on my lazy boy..its almost as if she was me when im 70 or 80 but as of now i am only 22.. what does this mean? 🙁

-Rimotay 2014-04-05 7:08:43

I dreamed a girl that was injured and i took care of her, she was blonde, very pretty.. but she seemed to think that i was a bad person…

    -Tony Crisp 2014-04-06 9:32:00

    Rimotay – In our dreams we are all times and experiences all at once – although in waking life we usually only are one thing at a time. So the little girl is you that was hurt in some way. Because you are older. stronger and are capable of dealing with old hurts you are having this dream.

    Please use http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson as it may put you in contact with the little girl in your dream.


-Jenna 2014-01-10 23:32:23

I dreamed that I was with my family. My mother was not there (she passed away in 2009). It was nighttime and my family and I were walking outside. The moon was huge and was a silver and blue color. I pointed out the moon and the image of two women appeared in the moon. They appeared to be almost identical goddesses. They were standing next to eachother and touching hands above there heads. Neither of the women were familiar to me. I can’t figure out what this dream means. Can you help me?

-Cathy Maravegias 2014-01-04 14:10:03

I had a dream I was looking at myself in the mirror and my eyes were Asian and the rest of my face. There was a friend standing next to me and she as was Asian as well. I was commenting how Asian my eyes have become.

-Tabatha 2013-09-07 21:01:10

. I just had a dream about an older lady sitting in one of my bed rooms her and it looked like her child was smoking in my house I was livid!! I asked her to leave my home and she said no she was invited. I got so angry I escorted her and the child out. What does this mean?

    -Tony Crisp 2013-09-08 12:02:53

    Tabatha – It means that you are very mixed up about what dreams and the part they play in your life. People are very confused about the difference between their waking life and their dream life. They believe that what they dream is the same as what they meet in waking life. So a dream like yours is an example of this.

    You were sure the old lady was a real outer character and wanted to get her out of your house. But a house in dreams is yourself, and the old lady is a projected part of you. Most of us interiorise our morals into our dream life. In other words we take as a truth that what is important outwardly is as important inwardly. In other words you are as upset by a dream as if it had actually happened in waking life. Such mistakes make us feel things that are ridiculous.

    This happens with the morals we live with by and may be necessary in waking life, we try to make them fit to our much bigger and freer dream/inner life and that causes conflict because the two worlds are completely different.

    So the old lady is an important part of you that needs to be recognised – even though your outer morals are rigidly against it. It will do you good to unbend a little when you realise that dreams are all about your inner world. See http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/inner-world/ and http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/secrets-power-dreaming/


-brenda 2012-12-07 15:29:48

I had a dream about a black woman dressed in a white peaseant shirt and skirt and an african scarf print on her head. At first i was leary of her but then she smiled and opened her arms and she hugged me. Nearby a smile pile was moving around and when i looked it was a black happy baby. What does this mean? (i am lost on this one)

    -Tony Crisp 2012-12-09 11:37:29

    Brenda – I take it you are white skinned? If so the black woman represents your own natural self, without all the often crazy rules we put on ourselves. She is a part of you that you easily rule out of your life – I was leary of her. But you are gradually getting to know and appreciate that side of you.

    Are you thinking of becoming a mother? I ask because of the happy baby. I would suggest you try imagining yourself as her and see what you feel. Also try it with the baby. So perhaps try using http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson


-keegan 2012-11-30 17:01:54

i dreamt that a native american woman in a dress made of skins was leaning over me beside my bed. her black hair hanging down. she had disappered right when i flinched at the sight. i never got to see her face very well becuz she left to fast.

    -Tony Crisp 2012-12-02 20:35:01

    Keegan – This was you seeing a spirit guide that is watching over you. Make friends with her by sending her thoughts of thanks and warmth.


      -keegan 2012-12-03 15:22:00

      how can i do that? and she has appeared to me again last night. this time she her mouth was moving but no words came out. she kept pointing at my ceiling and then at me. should i be worried? its almost as if she is warning me of something.

-angels eyes 2012-10-30 16:36:26

I had a dream about a a young woman crawling out of our house and it was if I nwas in a trance and could not move I could only see her and my husband was setting on the floor between where i was laying at as if he was blocking my view.

-chickenlady 2011-07-03 14:00:44

I had a dream last night about a Native American woman… long black hair in braids on either side of her head running down her back, in a leather dress, moccasins, turquoise and feather jewelry around neck and wrists… walking through my pasture, past my two horses going away from my house…… there was great sense of peace… any ideas?

    -Tony Crisp 2011-07-15 8:40:41

    ChickenLady – She passed by you – and it is a pity she didn’t stop. Because it seems that it was a guide or a touch of your spirit that came very close.

    What that means is that you have a lot of feelings for the animals and nature around you. And that allows you to be in touch with an even wider awareness of the Life of nature and what it can teach you. For the woman is an image of that, and could and can teach you.

    So call her back to you. Offer her something as a gift – some tobacco maybe. Then invite her into your home.


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