Dreams about Dead People
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Dreams about People We Know who have Died
Dreams about a Dead Person
How can We Talk to the Dead and They can Talk With Us?
Dreams about a Dead Husband or Wife
Dreams about a Dead Mother
Dreams about a Dead Child
Summary of after death experience
What Happens When Our Body Dies?
Coming back to earth
The Journey Through Death and Back
Journeying Beyond Dreams and Death
Dreams about People We Know who have Died
Dreams in which dead people appear are sometimes expressive of our attempts to deal with our feelings, guilt or anger in connection with the person who died; or our own feelings about death. When someone close to us dies we go through a period of change from relating to them as an external reality, to meeting and accepting them as alive in our memories and inner life.
It is wise to understand something before you read what else has been said. For instance, a single cell, which is a seed from which all life forms evolved from, doesn’t become old or die because it is immortal, for it keeps dividing and doesn’t die. In dividing it constantly creates copies of itself, but as it does so it gathers new experience, it changes what is copied, so becomes the ‘seed’ for multi-cellular organism. We all started from the original one cell, and we, you and I, are the result of gathered experience.
As adults we believe we are complete and whole. A seed is a return to the source of life and it/our beginnings under the sun. Consciousness on our planet started in the slime of creation, the slime we return to, to procreate. And from that slime which is a vehicle for our seed to exist in, our awareness goes through the whole process of evolution as we develop in mother’s womb, the dividing of cells, the forming of structure and organs, the creation of a creature with gills, and on to a human type form ready to breathe air, carrying your seed onwards.
As one textbook states, “A human is not constructed like a modern office building, as cheaply and efficiently as possible. . . but rather like an ancient historic edifice to which wings and sections were added at different times and which was not modernised until it was almost completed.” See Levels of the Brain
In doing so it uses many of the things that Life or Nature learnt from past life-forms that it uses in dealing with human life. As an example plants use very clever system with bulbs and other root systems. A bulb can grow a new flower each year and each flower is a totally new and unique thing. The the flower dies and its essense or experience is drawn back into the bulb, and next season another unique flower emerges. This hold true for humans too.
Our present personality has never existed before. It lives with a new brain that doesn’t carry old memories. Searching within its own experience and memories it could never find memory of any past lives because our present brain has no connection with the past seeds, yet our seed is the collection of man, many lives lived. Tendencies, unaccountable fears or talents, give the clue to these past selves. See Mushrooms
These past lives are not remembered easily because the new soul that developed in the new body had no past connections because it has a new brain. The soul or personality is built from the local memories stored in the new brain. So, memories of the past can only be attained by a deep awareness of our core awareness.
So, dead people can simply be people from our past. Considering that the major part of our learning and experience occur in relationship to other people, such learning and experience can be represented by characters from the past. For instance a first boyfriend in a dream would depict all the emotions and struggles we met in that relationship, and what we learned from it or took away from it that still influences present relationships. Therefore dreaming often of people we knew in the past would suggest that past experiences or lessons are very active at the moment, or we are reviewing those areas of our life. A woman who had emigrated to Britain from a very different cultural background frequently dreamt, even twenty years afterwards, of people she knew in her native country. This shows her still very much in contact with her own cultural values and experiences.
Example: ‘My husband’s mother, no longer alive, came and slid her arms carefully under me and lifted me up. I shouted ‘Put me down! Put me down! I don’t want to go yet.’ She carefully lowered me onto the bed and disappeared.’ E. H. – In this example the dreamer is feeling fear about being carried off by death.
Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr M.
Here the dreamer has not only come to terms with his mother’s and his own death, but also found this inner reality.
Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning toward him which I had done so often in his lifetime and saying ‘I thought you had died. Thank God you have not.’ Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken.’ Mrs I. – The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality.
A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort. Thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the women has within her such memories to replay. These are a reality. The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband. The ‘aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of the same person. What arises into their own lives from such memories, is the observable influence of the now dead person. But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. See: Dead Husband or Ex
Example: In a recent news program on television, a man who survived the Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know. The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name. The photograph was kept for forty odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not know how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph.
Dreams about a Dead Person – General Meaning:
This can represent some area of your life that has ‘died’. It can refer to death of feelings, such as hopelessness in connection with relationship and the loss of feelings about someone; the depression that follows big changes in your life such as loss of a loved partner, job, or child. It can also reflect the sense you have of your life in general, that it is without the stimulus of motivation and satisfaction, as when one feels oneself in a ‘going nowhere’ relationship or life situation. The dead person in the dream may link several of these feelings together, as symbols often represent huge areas of our experience. So the dead person my be a part of oneself you want to leave behind, to die out.
Some dreams are so clearly about the person who died. Here is an example of such a dream by a young child.
With his brothers and friends he went to bathe in a mill pool. He was only four or five at the time, and could not swim. In the recklessness of their-play, one of the children pushed him into deeper water. At that moment, the mill gates opened and water rushed through carrying him along. He was drowned – but some adults who were hastily called to the scene managed to pull him out and revive him.
As his father carried him home in his arms, the boy talked about his mother, who had died some years earlier and at first his father smiled at his story.
The boy said that as he went under the water he felt himself sinking down and down into darkness. Then there was a change and he felt himself rising up slowly until at last he rose to the surface.
He was in a huge sea. Around him, other people were also surfacing, and all were being gradually washed towards the nearby shore. There on the beach, people waited, and greeted those who were brought to them by the sea.
And as he himself drew near there on a small promontory were his grandparents waiting to welcome him – and in front – his mother, and she bent to draw him into her arms. She took hold of his hands and as she did so, a cross around her neck swung before his face. Sparkling in it were seven stones. But at that moment, something seemed to pull him away, and he sank into the sea and at last awoke on the riverbank.
The other half of the Story
At the conclusion of the story, his father’s condescending smile vanished. They were now at home and his father left the room, obviously deeply moved. Only years later did he tell his son the other half of the story.
The boy’s mother had died when her son was tiny and she had died on her birthday. For many weeks before, her husband had saved for a special present which he had kept secret. On her death, heart-broken, he had crept down to the coffin in the middle of the night, unscrewed the lid and given the present to his dead wife. It was a cross with seven stones, and the secret of it had been buried with her.
Putting together a picture of many such death experiences, we can begin to see a general view of what it might be like, what it certainly is for some, to die.
First of all comes a lessening and eventual disappearance of bodily sensations. Although all pain and physical awareness goes, most people are still conscious of their physical surroundings and of other people. In fact they often watch their own body breathe its last struggling breaths.
Usually people see themselves in a body, but it’s sometimes more perfect than the body they have just left. Their perceptions are nearly always enormously heightened in many ways. There seems to be no sensation of gravity or weight – the whole room or area can be seen instantaneously, as if with circular vision, and there is an awareness of the thoughts and emotions of those present.
See Talking with those who have passed on
Dreams about a Dead Husband or Wife:
Many dreams of dead people come from women who have lost their husband. It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband or wife at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the meeting become easier.
But as with the example above, there are many cases where people meet their dead in dreams and have tremendous assurance.
Dreams about a Dead Mother:
As with other ‘dead person’ dreams they usually show how we are working out or unfolding our relationship with them. They can be wonderfully confirming of continued existence.
Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr. M.
Dreams about a Dead Child:
When our child dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this.
The example below shows how this can be possible.
For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’
Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’.
When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality.
After her conversation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.
Summary of after death experience
Because after death we are still in a dream like existence, we tend to create around us those things we expect to see or experience. So someone who has no previous information about death may wander around for awhile confused. A Christian may see Christ welcoming them, so the beginnings are very varied, and a Buddhist might meet Buddha, or a Muslim might see Muhammad. But there is some sort of life review. This is about harvesting all of value from the life experience. Not only do we gathered the lessons we learned from our life, but we also relive it moment by moment, feeling and reviewing our own feelings, but also the feelings we engendered in others. But because we are no longer living a life in three dimensions and time, it will be an all at once experience, not stretched over time.
This can be quite a trial considering the life we have lived. But it is not a judgement from outside us, but a self judgement of the quality of our life. We need to pass through this because after death we have left the physical world and moving toward the spiritual. We can see this as the Big Self; the Self with Enormous Love. But there is an enormous transition taking place at death. We lived within a body, and now without it we have to be ready for life without it in what is called the spirit world. That is why the life review is necessary. All our earthly experience has to be put through a transformation to make it fit for a wider life. The wider life works through universal connections, and the less we personally can connect with the universal the less fit we are for the universal life.
Something that I have noticed is that some people believe, and therefore experience, that ‘heaven’ is exactly like life on earth except better. They see it as having houses and living much the same way. But that is not really the whole truth, because just as our body grows and changes, so do we in the after death state.
It seems as if there is a great difference between existing in a body and surviving in the grand world of the spirit. For in the spirit world there has to be found something that will link the life with giving and receiving from others, and of course the integration with a greater purpose.
Many people say they go along a tunnel toward a great light, and then a great spirit leads them through life review. Others go through a door to the light, and others go up a flight of grand stairs.
Having lost their body and its appetites there may be a period of adaptation to a life in a world without boundaries. Also because the spirit world is similar to the world of dreams, you create around you an environment made up of your own inner state. So if you are full of hate, murderous impulses and selfishness, you create a world like that is usually called hell. We are not ‘cast into hell’ we create it ourselves.
The same with heaven, it is created out of all the attitudes and ideas and feelings that are in harmony with the way the universe works or is. As a friend told me after his death, “I cannot escape myself. This is because everywhere I look is like a mirror. Every direction I find a reflection of me. It is three-dimensional. It doesn’t matter if I look up or down, left or right, all I see are expressions of who I am.”
At first one will look much as you did at death, except if you are old or ill, then you have quickly gained a more youthful and healthy appearance. But of course that is only your physical shape, and you will create that because that is who you think you are. But a great and probably slow swing over will occur. Because your body is gone, and you are moving toward the spiritual being that has always stood behind your life and witnessed it and given it impulses to try to live out, so gradually you may lose any sense of being male or female.
It is possible some people will not make it that far, but will go into a sleep state until their next life in the body. But if they can maintain consciousness as they meet these changes they will slowly become a greater being, and have an awareness that could be seen as super human, touching all around them. This is why some dead relatives come back to us in dreams and visions and tell us things they would never have normally been capable of knowing.
Another conversation with a dead friend stated some of this:
I seems to me that things are different for me now. I feel something that is difficult to understand. I seem to be getting less and less of the me I knew; yet at the same time more of who I am. More of me is being lost, but at the same time more of me is being gained. A strange paradox.
Then there is the going beyond even more barriers toward what can be called real spiritual awareness.
In the next region, one sees how the person’s life has accorded not only with their own Self, but with the ‘true being of the world’. We see ourselves as we exist, in or out of harmony with that world consciousness, that essence of all beings, sometimes called God or the Christ, or Krishna, or Buddha. Here is the judging, the self judging, of the ‘quick and the dead.’
And finally, in this withdrawal, the seventh region is reached, ‘quick or dead’, asleep or awake to the highest in us. ‘The man stands here’ says Steiner, ‘in the presence of the “Life-kernels”, which have been transplanted from higher worlds, in order that in them they may fulfil their tasks.’ These ‘tasks’, expressing through the self, mediated by the soul, and materialised by the body, usually motivate us unconsciously. In this region, if consciousness remains, we know ourselves as the whole cosmos of sun, moon, planets, and stars; as all beings, creatures and kingdoms. When we look at these through our physical eyes, we are looking at our own wholeness. The ‘Life kernel’ is the doorway to other ‘cosmic beings’. ‘The life between death and a new birth, and is really a living through the world of stars: but this means, through the spirit of the world of stars,’ not the physical stars. See What Happens When I Die?
Coming back to earth
Having made this ascent to the innermost of our nature, the essence of the whole cosmos, there now comes for most of us, a return to a fresh physical experience.
There awakens a ‘desire’ or direction, to perfect one’s own being and that of the earth. ‘Thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven,’ is an impulse from this region. Depending upon what fruits were brought to each region, this descent enables certain things, qualities or strengths to be ‘claimed’ from each level of our being. A new spiritual ‘seed’ or ‘germ’ is fashioned which will play its part in fashioning our body. The essence of the future personality chooses the hereditary line and its parents. Steiner says the parents provide a seed bed of physical substance, impregnated with their own characteristics of body and psyche. At conception, the material substance is broken down into the germinal level of chaos, in which all physical form is dissolved. The spirit ‘germ’ of the new being takes hold of this.
At birth the ‘germ’ of the future personality and body, is clothed with physical substance drawn from the parents, along with inherited temperamental qualities. Working with these as materials is the essence of the past life and death experience. This spiritual impulse, takes the ‘model’ given by the parents, and works into it the pattern it brings from its central experience. So there comes into being, through life and death, another life upon the earth.
Just as there was a reliving of life at death, so just prior to birth there is a reliving of death. ‘He sees a tableau which this time displays all the hindrances he must remove, if his evolution is to make further progress. And what he sees becomes the starting point of forces that he must carry with him into a new life. See Life and Death; Steiner Life after death
Another conversation with a dead friend provided the following information.
I am in process of creating a new life. But this is something like a work of art, not however, as we think of it with brush and paint. I felt it like a constant rise and fall of possibilities and forms that I, the Spirit I, was giving birth to. As one rose it expressed a certain quality, and this was in some way compared, or its harmonic compared, with all that existed in the changing spiritual and physical world. There was as yet no total interface between what was being created in this way, and what was expressed by the changing worlds. So I was gradually sifting the emphasis of all it contained from life experience and its possible future connections with physical life, moving toward a harmonic unity. It was explained to me that the unity would be a real connection with time, place, parents and the life that would emerge from them. When that harmonic unity was made the new life would begin.
Useful Questions and Hints:
Have I dreamt of any dead person?
How did I react to the dream?
Can I accept that we have an inner world?
See Inner World – Techniques for Exploring your Dreams – Questions
Comments
I have a ex-boyfriend who is literally begging me to take him back, & I don’t love him.. We had a local woman to be killed by her husband for unknown (many rumors) reasons. I dreamed last night that my homegirl & I was taking her daughter some chicken salad for the repass & when we got there the lady was there. She talked to us all night long, laughed & talked, etc. What does that dream mean? I didn’t know her but I knew her children.. I never really had a conversation with the lady, but is God trying to show me something to be on the lookout for in this dream?
Meka – I do not think your dream is telling you to look out for something – but seems to be a promise of something that has arisen from your good feelings.
If I am reading what you said correctly, you went to visit the murdered woman’s daughter to take her a gift if food. This suggests that the fate of the woman and her child played upon your feelings. And those feelings, like any act of kindness, are a powerful thing in the world of dreams. So the woman appears to you, meaning she is fine with death, and saying that so should you be.
I can’t find any reference to your ex-boyfriend in your dream.
Tony
Tony,five years ago my niece’s four month old daughter passed away due to a genetic disorder.
Three weeks after she passed i had a dream about her.I dreamed that i was at the wake, and as i walked up to the casket to pay my final respects she opened her eyes.I proceeded to pick her up, and she began to tell me that she was no longer sick, and to tell her mom and dad that there was no need to worry about her because she was alright now.
I woke up in tears.It was so real to me.
My father passed away nearly four weeks ago.Last night i had a dream that my sister and I were at the hospital with him, and the only thing he said to me was that he was so cold.I turned to the nurse to ask for another blanket and the dream ended.
In the weeks leading to his death his blood circulation was slowing down so it was hard for him to stay warm.
Any thought Tony?
Thanks
In 2005, my husband was diagnosed with cancer and had undergone 2 rounds of chemo therapy treatments only to have the cancer return again. He then underwent a stem cell transplant in 2007. Although he survived all of the treatments and even was cancer free, he suffered from depression stemming from the very beginning of his illness. He was not able to work and then we lost our house. It was obvious, after his death that he kept his prescription addiction a secret and unfortunately, I was not aware of the depth of his condition when he took his life.
My husband passed away from a drug overdose on Feb. 28, ’11. I have had several dreams of him and feel him around me all the time (even with objects that have been obviously moved to get my attention) – but not once in these dreams does he speak. We were very close and connected and had a very deep love affair for nearly 19 years. I just can not understand why he does not speak in these dreams. Will he ever talk or give me any clues?
Maria – The fact that he took his own life is a very big factor, and can leave many difficulties for him. The reason being that the state of mind of the person actually creates their environment, as dreams do. It could be for instance that because he was secretive about his use of his drugs that he is now unable to really communicate.
I know that may sound like punishment, but it is not. It all comes back to what we have done to ourselves. I have personal experience of someone born with a drug dependency form birth because they had committed suicide in the previous life using drugs.
I see the best way you can help your husband is to send him as much love and support as possible. It may take a while for him to move from the environment he created at his death, but with help and prayers it can happen.
Tony
Years ago good friend died of a heroin overdose. She’d gone missing for a while, but before that she had stopped talking to me (I was being pushy, I guess, telling her to quit the hard stuff…didn’t realize quite how serious her drug habits were getting). After I didn’t hear anything at all about her whereabouts, I started looking myself, and kept hitting brick walls after bad signs. I stopped looking. It’d been a while since I’d thought about her, and i started having dreams about her. She never said anything to me, just looked at me. Sometimes she’d run away. Once, I followed her downstairs, and then all of a sudden it changed into this cleared forest area, but some parts were ditches, it was almost like a war-zone, and there were these partial soldiers, partial construction workers walking around faceless with masks. I was sitting, almost hiding, in a ditch with her, confused, but she just kept sitting, huddled, looking up out of the ditch.
About a year after these dreams subsided news arose that she’d been found in an abandoned house, by some construction workers. She was so badly decayed, they had to identify her by her teeth… This was YEARS ago now, but it’s only been recent that I think I understand what the dreams meant, I think. I had many dreams where she wouldn’t say anything to me.
Last night I had a dream that I saw her randomly, working in some kind of diner. I had to take a double look, but it was her, so I approached her and said “Amber?! I thought you were dead? Where have you been? Why didn’t you contact me??” It took so much for me not to hit her, and I felt a little silly, but she sort of smiled and said a couple things about change, and that she didn’t know, but she completely avoided all of the questions, and just kept kind of smiling and looking around. She never directly responded to any of my questions, but it’s the first time she ever spoke to me.
I didn’t attend her funeral, I was so mad, and I still haven’t visited her grave. I still have some of her drums, some of her clothes…I actually wrote a song about it. Do you think on this last dream, it was just me thinking about her? I think she had tried reaching out to me way before… I miss her, I’m so mad at her, and I haven’t visited her grave yet. I don’t know exactly what I’m looking for here. But she’s been popping into my dreams lately, and this last one was the only one she’d ever said anything to me.
I have seen my boyfriend’s dead mother in my dream couple times. I have never seen her or her picture. The first time I saw her she told me to make her son happy and never leave him. I didn’t tell him about my dream, but after couple months I heard that his mom died 4 years ago. After a while we broke up, I erased him from facebook. I dreamed his mom again, she was really mad at me and said she hates when people don’t keep their promises. 3 weeks ago I re-added him on facebook, and couple days after that she came to my dream again. This time she said she loves me very much, and invited me to move in with them.
I have never told my boyfriend or anyone about these dreams. I don’t even think about her, she just randomly appears in my dreams everytime I have problem with her son. Also, even though I have never seen her photos, the woman I see in my dreams exactly looks like her. I do have many dreams that come true or show me something about my future, but I can’t solve this one. Could you help me plz? Thanks in advance.
Julia – My first feeling was that this was a very powerful and protective mother who even in death is trying to protect him.
But then I saw that it could easily be him who is the one who called up his mother. The reason being than he is very vulnerable and doesn’t like being left. You will have to decide which one fits.
Tony
I grew up in Africa. on the street i lived on, there were very few houses with a well that produced clean water. one of the very few ones that did was owned by a elderly man that opened his home to all that needed water. my family and i fetch water from his home for over 10years. he passed away when i was about 17 and over 10years later, i recently saw him in my dream. i was about 17 in the dream and had gone into his compound to fetch water when i found my self hugging and weeping in his arms and telling him how great a man we all thought he was to have opened up his home to all and how much we missed him… I wonder what this means and why now?
Daniele – I feel that this is a beautiful dream. I believe there is a part of it you have not explained. It is that the man gave you so much more than water. The reason you dreamt the dream this late after his death is that it is only now that you can see growing in your life the gifts he gave you.
Truly it is a great gift, and you rightfully wept in his arms is because it was so deeply felt.
Tony
Last night I dreamed of person I knew had died a couple of months ago because of an accident but we never met in person, not even once. He never knew who I am though I knew who he was well and alive. The dream started when I was compelled with all the worries i had lately and all the things i should accoplished recently. I was in a place that I never knew before. I received a phone call but I can’t understand what the other line says. I run. Then I saw a big fountain in a garden like scenery. There he was sitting. I run to him and embraced him tightly as I cried and tell him everything about my worries like a child. He embraced me back like I did. it seemed to be so real. I woke up feeling light.
Can you please help me understand my dream? I’m hoping that you’ll help figure this out. Thank you.
Mae – You have very lucky to have a dream that seems to me to be a real communication with a dead person. I feel it is real because of the rapid transformation you felt from feeling awful to feeling light.
Also the setting and that he immediately accepted you and held you while you wept. In fact I wonder what sort of a man he was to be able to see you, understand you and heal you so easily. To be so at ease and capable in the afterlife so soon suggests he was well on the way of spiritual growth.
Meeting someone like that can ease the burden of life because they are living in a situation that gives them what we would see – in our body – as supernatural powers. But they are natural. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/what-we-need-to-remember-about-dreaming/ and read sections numbered 9 – 10 – and 11.
The place you had never known was a state of mind in which you were desperate for help. That opened doors of receptivity in you. That led on to the phone call, but that wasn’t clear enough. So then you ran into yet another state of mind, one in which you wept and allowed yourself to jump beyond your normal knowing. And of course it was real.
Thoughts are real aren’t they – even though you could never hold them in your hand unless you wrote them down or made them externally real? Yet thoughts are so real they are behind everything we see around through creativity. So dreams are as real as that.
Tony
I had a dream of my Deceased mom .. she was getting ready to shower n get ready ..I gave her and Hug and A kiss in our hallway and I said Mom I dont like this I feel like i dont have a Mom Like i cant Take you Anywhere I wanna take you shopping or out to Lunch But im scared ur gonna have another Heart Attack and Not Survive it and i thought in my Head How did she Survive her First one? and I was Shocked and started crying in my Dream I just realized she Didnt Survive it I was Crying of a broken heart.. I woke up sad It felt so real .. Could you Interpet this dream?
Yolanda – For some people it takes a very long time to really take in the death of a mother. So your dream was you acting as if she was still alive, and that is quite normal, but then you realise that actually she is dead. Then of course you cried.
Such dreams help us to adjust to the fact that someone we loved is no longer in the body. But of course you can still meet her in your dreams, and she can assure you that she is OK. So talk to her. She can hear you, and if you listen carefully you will feel her answering.
Tony
i realy want to know the answer. why i aways still dreaming about ,my past grand father 3 months ago later. everyday i always dream him but all good dreams but i was just confuse why???Can u give me some idea or answer why?
Jennifer – You know, dreams are a great place for the dead and the living to meet and talk. And probably you dream about your grandfather so often because either he has a lot to share with you, or you are missing him.
But it is difficult to be precise without see a dream or dreams showing you with your grandfather. It helps me a lot to work with a real dream.
Tony
Could you please help me, I have been confused about a dream of my diseased grandpa for many years now. My grandpa’s illness came out of no where. He was the healthiest man I knew, than suddenly bam, it goes from one thing to another, in the 3 months he was in the hospital I struggled to even touch his hand. It was hard to view this man with a wired shut jaw sitting in a hospital bed as the strongest person I had known. I didn’t cry once during his hospital stay. I was always there, but I never cried. It didn’t come out of me until his funeral, I accidentally called my uncle by my grandpa’s name and it broke me. The entire funeral I couldn’t get a grip. Weeks later I dreamt of my grandpa, he was in his sailors uniform. I honestly couldn’t even recall which branch of the military he was in, I asked my Mom afterwards and she confirmed he was in the navy. In my dream he was with other Navy men, and they were about to leave. We were in a field and I was a good distance away. I started running towards him and yelling “Grandpa, Grandpa!” over and over to catch him before he left. There was no sound. It was the strangest thing, because although I could hear myself yelling, it was like a scene in a movie but on mute. Him and all the men he was with were completely silent. Even the sound of me running through the brush was silent. The only sound I could hear was the yelling, but he couldn’t hear me, no one could. I yelled over and over again, and not once did he hear me. it wasn’t until I reached a fence between us, that he turned and smiled. He just smiled at me and started walking forward. He touched my face, than walked back to the men. I started yelling at him again to “please stay, don’t go, grandpa!”. He turned one more time,. smiled, and he was gone. It is clear that my dream was a form of a goodbye, and him leaving me with peace. He was a young man in his navy uniform, and although I didn’t recognize him at first, in my dream I knew it was him right off the bat. I think the empty field may represent his hometown in Texas, where he always told stories of the dead town of nothing but empty fields and one block of stores…Could you help me better understand my dream…thank you so much
Jess – yes, it was a goodbye, but very structured. The fence apparently represents the barrier between the living and the dead, a barrier that makes it difficult to communicate.
I believe that it is important what our relatives know about life after death. That is because their knowledge or lack of it is a factor in what they do, or think they have to do. Obviously your grandpa felt himself ready to depart on a navy mission. Then your missing him and not wanting him to leave was woven into the rest of the dream.
It doesn’t mean though that his leaving means he has left for good. But there are things he has to do and learn about his life out of the body. Then he will be able to communicate more easily.
It is worth reading something like http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1905857977/ref=oss_product Life Beyond Death – What Should We Expect? And also http://www.amazon.co.uk/Handbook-Afterlife-Pamela-Rae-Heath/dp/1556438699/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1310634535&sr=1-1 Handbook to the Afterlife
Tony
i dreamed of my dad which passed 8 months ago i could see him plain as day and in the dream he was helping me out in time of need what does this mean
i was just wondering how we dream and what and why we dream of watg we dream about
Lauren – I think the question is why we dream, as that is easier to answer. As far as I have understood so far it is to keep a balance in us. That is no easy thing to do, and it all ties in with the process of Life in us. It also is bound up with the difference between our conscious self and the process of Life in us. That process is largely unconscious and controls our the vital things such as breathing, but unfortunately we are so often not taking care of ourelves, or are living in a way that is destructive to our mind and well being, that our dreams and other functions try to release things, as in nightmares. But even then we are scared of the very things that are trying to regulate and balance us.
To really understand see http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/mind-and-movement-the-secret-power/
Here is a summary of self-regulation.
• Self-regulation is fundamental to all cosmic activities and life forms.
• In humans it acts both at a physical and a psychological level.
• It assures survival.
• It is partly a spontaneous process and is partly learned.
• Most self-regulation occurs unconsciously, and learning to cooperate with its action is a learned skill.
• Such skill enlarges ones possibilities.
• Vomiting and digestion are functions of physical self-regulation.
• The rising into consciousness of emotions and experience for integration and re-evaluation are functions of psychological self-regulation.
• The process of self regulation is constantly attempting to present past traumas and ‘held down 7’s’ for integration and healing. However, there are forces of resistance to this active in us, and these have to be overcome if we are to succeed in becoming whole.
• Pain and such feelings as fear and guilt frequently cause us to prevent experience and emotions from emerging into consciousness.
• Freud showed that if a person is afraid of sexual feelings their sexuality is repressed even in their dreams.
• Such deeply repressed feelings cause psychological and physical tension and illness.
• Allowing spontaneous body and feeling fantasy allows the emotions and experience held in the unconscious to be released, evaluated and integrated.
• At points where fear or pain usually block the process one can decisively allow the self-regulatory process to continue.
• Because this allows previously unrealised experience to be known, an enlargement of our personal self awareness occurs.
We dream of what we dream of because of very complicated factors of what you can allow yourself to feel and know, what challenges we face, what we are moving toward in growth or ageing, and also how much we have learned about who we are. See as an example of how little we know of ourselves: http://www.ted.com/talks/jill_bolte_taylor_s_powerful_stroke_of_insight.html
Tony
A year ago my dad died and just a few days ago i had a dream about him being in the coffin and when i got near the coffin his eyes opened and he looked at me. Also my dad was cremated so there was no coffin at his actual funeral. Does the coffin mean something as well along with the eyes staring at me. Because when they did it felt as though he was staring at my soul. Can anyone please tell me what this means because i am to afraid to go to sleep.
Jordan – The question is what did you feel you dad saw in your soul?
This dream is certainly not a communication with your dad, but it is difficult feelings about death or his death that you carry inside you. For after death your father has no longer a body, and certainly would not be in a coffin. It seems you have inherited awful visions of what death is. Maybe if you read the book Closer to the Light you will be able to sleep easily. http://www.amazon.com/Closer-Light-Melvin-Morse/dp/0804108323/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1307353595&sr=1-1-fkmr0
This book is not speculation but very clear information about death by a Medical Doctor.
Tony
My boyfriends mother whom we lived with past away suddenly 2 months ago. I have had numerous dreams where she has come back to life and she had never really died in the first place. I feel panicked in the dream and upset, I almost feel like I am struggling to get used to her being back after all the changes we have gone through when she past away. Last week I dreamt something different. I had gone to visit her somewhere I’d never been before and she was very happy and relaxed. She asked me how her son was coping and I said he was worried about the estate and she replied that he must not worry it will all be sorted out soon. She then took me to where she said she was now. It was a floating island and on the horizon she pointed out Thailand and on the other side Africa. I could see the different landscapes. When I awoke I told my boyfriend what I had dreamt and he was overwhelmed. He then told me his mother had always loved Thailand and Africa. The next night again I dreamt of her, she was happy and youthful and sitting next to an old man I’d never seen before. Today when we were going through some photos I found a picture of that man. I asked my boyfriend who that was and he said it was her father. He died 7yrs ago. I had never seen him before.
Robyn – Three very interesting dreams. The first dreams of her never having died I have heard a lot, and I believe they are saying that this woman and her death has had such an effect on my life it is shown as a struggle in your dreams.
The other two are quite remarkable and show a completely different way of relating. They seem to me to be a clear description of the afterlife; and the second one is a remarkable verification of that. It seems you have talent for communicating with the dead.
Tony
My grandmother passed away three months ago. I have frequent dreams (all different) of her since her passing. In my dreams, I see her clearly. I feel that she is trying to tell me something each time. In my dreams, I’m happy to see her and feel at peace too. I wake up and try to make out what the dream means but at the same time, I wake up feeling emotionally drained. There are also times that while awake, I smell a very beautiful scent (almost like hyacinths) just about anywhere-in the house, at work, in the car. Again, when I smell this scent, I feel at peace. Can you please help me figure out what is happening to me?
Elizabeth – Sometimes communication with the dead is complicated. That is because we are so dependent on words, and also the business of translating what is received into dream images.
But I feel the clearest communications are those that you ‘feel’ and smell. These give you peace, and if you want to add words to that you could say that your grandmother is at peace and loves you, sending a touch of heaven in the scent of flowers. She is bubbling away with so many feelings she wants to share with you – so much.
So when you feel her close and have feelings from her, translate the feelings into you own words.
Tony