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This has a great many levels of meaning. Basically it is a looking at yourself, a self examination; and the face in the mirror may not match your own. It may be better or worse. That is, in self examination you may come across, or see, parts of our nature that are the worst side or the best side of yourself. These re the things you do not usually see about yourself. You may, for instance, see innate possibilities as they would be in full bloom. But the mirror might only reflect your negative worries about yourself, or how you think you appear to others. Worries about ageing might be one of these. Nevertheless, the dream process usually tries to lead through worry to growth.

This can show concern over ones ‘image’ or how others feel about you, self examination, self love, negative only if the love is not shared with others. In some dreams it reflects anxiety about changing or ageing. There is the possibility of self assessment, so how you are judging yourself a the moment. But also being absorbed in yourself.

The mirror particularly depicts self awareness in the sense of insight into your behaviour or character traits.

The mirror appears in many religious symbols and in much folklore. Water was probably the first mirror, and as such represents human consciousness, soul, or self awareness. This looking at oneself can therefore be a way of depicting self awareness, your ‘I’, as a distinct individual.

Alice goes through the mirror to enter Wonderland, which is again symbolical of looking within self, and exploring unconscious contents.

Indian and Buddhist philosophy use it in a slightly different way, as also Yoga teachings. It is explained that when we look at a mirror we do not see its actual surface. We do not see the actual mirror, only the images reflected on its surface, which appear as reality. Likewise, mind or consciousness is like a mirror. In it we see the images of physical existence and life experience, which we take to be the only reality. But the Yogi asks himself, what is this that is conscious of all these images? What is this mirror we call consciousness? Who am I outside of the images?

 The mirror is also similar to water and can depict looking into the unconscious to see who you are. But like a crystal ball, sometimes you see things that your intuition is telling you. The following example illustrates this. 

Example: Was looking in a mirror. Suddenly a shadow appeared on it. At first the shadow seemed threatening or frightening. Then I saw it was only a directive, a figure with its arm and hand extended as if pointing. Looking behind me I saw the shadow was cast by a featureless cat or animal. Its head was completely smooth, without eyes or ears. At first I thought it could not see or hear, but then realised it must be able to, as it was pointing to a man out in the rough sea. The man had a lifejacket on, so was in no immediate danger. But the sea was very rough. I went out and brought him in, dried him off, put him in my house to recover.

Here the cat is the dreamer’s intuition telling him that inwardly he is experiencing some stormy weather, and needs to take care of that part of him. It also points out that his intuition does not depend upon having physical eyes.

Changed face in the mirror or multiple selves: Becoming aware of aspects of ones character which are usually unknown or not accepted.

 Example: ‘Getting ready for a wedding in an upstairs room, feeling a bit unsure of what to wear. I look in a mirror and see I have on stockings and suspender belt with a very short frilly petticoat. It looks very sexy. I am aware the door is open and have an urge to close it, but then feel okay about looking sexy and people seeing me.’ Nora LBC.

Nora is looking at how she may appear to others if she allows her natural feelings to show.

Cracked or broken mirror:  Distorted self image. A poor understanding of yourself, or perhaps a warning that your sense of self is cracking up.


Useful Questions and Hints:

Is what I see in the mirror pleasnt or unpleasant?

Can I accept it may be a side of myself?

What can I do to meet the image I see?

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-Dreamer 2016-06-07 21:41:46

Last night I had a crazy dream, it genuinely freaked me out. Thus, how I ended up on this site, googling what seeing your reflection in your dream means.

I remember trying to leave a house, but felt very drunk, like I shouldn’t be driving. I imagine this was just me feeling tired and groggy and my conscious compared this feeling to being drunk. I’ve had this dream several times, while I drive and feel drunk. Although in real life it’s something I’ve never experienced or tried.

Moving on, I decided I couldn’t drive in my dream so I walked back into this house to go look in the mirror to see if I looked as drunk as I felt. The house wasn’t familiar, but the mirror was. It was the oval mirror I have hanging in my bedroom. When I looked at my face my eyes were SUPER tiny. Immediately, I scream and put my hands to my face. As I’m doing this the reflection changes. Not my face has shifted shapes, almost as if it were made of clay or something that could be easily morphed. I knew it was me, but it was scary looking version of me. In my dream I thought I had been roofied by someone.I thought I had taken drugs and that’s why my face looked like that. At this point, I realize I was in a dream and woke up. I was panicking and my heart was beating super fast.

I was scared because the first face I saw in the mirror I recognized as me but it didn’t look like me. The first face was, a demonic looking creature, with beatie eyes. It wasn’t an unfamiliar face though. I had seen this demonic looking face in the background of a friends photo years ago. The regular picture just looked like there was a white orb behind her, but if you zoomed in you could distinctively see two faces. One looked like a creepy clown and the other looked like a skull with small, sunken in eyes.

I thought maybe I saw what scared me most, because that picture was very real and freaked me out. So maybe I was seeing something that had been stuck in my head for years. But why would this be my reflection? Why when I screamed did it change shape into an ugly, ogre like figure? Is this how I appear inside my own head? Is this what my soul actually looks like? SO many questions, but it has left me very shaken since.


    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2016-06-12 6:56:02

    Dear Dreamer – What I see in your dream – and do continue to explore it yourself as well http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson – is that when you let go of control (get drunk or drive drunk) you are able to meet different sides of yourself; these are your disowned selves and facing them feels threatening to your “primary selves”.

    “We spoke to our “primary selves” which were very well developed. They ran our lives or, as we liked to put it, they drove our psychological cars. They were the ones that made up our personalities; the selves that “knew all the answers” when we first met. Then we went on to learn about our “disowned selves.” For each primary self there were opposite disowned selves that were buried or repressed so that the primaries could keep control of our lives. The primary selves were familiar and we were comfortable with them. It was easy to get them to talk and to tell us how cleverly and successfully they ran our lives. The disowned selves were unfamiliar and threatening to our primary selves. Each primary self felt that the disowned self on the other side was a potential destroyer of our well-being. For instance: “What happens if you really let go and learned to ‘be’ instead of to ‘do?’ You might never want to work again!” would be the Pusher’s concern.” Quoted from http://delos-inc.com/articles/Voice_Dialogue-_Discovering_Our_Selves.htm

    See also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/demon/ and http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/whole-2/ and http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/autonomous-complex/

    To explore the different parts of your inner world you can use “Being the demonic looking creature” and “Being the creepy clown” and “Being a skull with small, sunken in eyes” etc.
    As you have become aware, your inner world that you see reflected in the mirror can be easily morphed by your thoughts, beliefs, fears, hopes etc. http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/inner-world/#MakesInner
    I trust this will give you a start to continue to explore your dream and there is even more, because you wrote “At this point, I realize I was in a dream”.
    See http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/lucid-dreaming/
    Anna :-)


-Manahil 2016-06-21 5:05:11

I saw a dream where I supposedly moved with my family to another house, in which my room has the same furniture I do right now including my mirror. What happens is me and my parents (i don’t have siblings) figure out that there is something wrong with the house and somehow end up inside my mirror. The inside of the mirror is my tutor’s house where I used to go to study when i was little. Note that now this house is horrifyingly empty, dull and dark; inside the mirror. We start to become “haunted by the spirits in the mirror when we are in there with them but in a way that they are trying to lead us somewhere important or to show us something essential. We get terrified and leave the mirror to come and sit on my bed. My mother says: “Now I didn’t want to tell you this but seems like I have to. A few days ago I was hanging clothes out to dry when I felt something – a hand – on my foot and a raspy voice saying ‘[God] help me’. Then I woke up gasping.
Ever since I have had this dream I have been scared of my mirror in my room. Please tell me what this dream means.


    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2016-06-25 8:54:14

    Dear Manahil – Do you know the story of Alice in Wonderland? This story reflects the ability to look within your own mind to explore unconscious contents.
    When you become aware that there is “something wrong with the house” it is like becoming aware that something – probably from your past learning – is withholding you from expressing more of yourself and your potential; http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/potential/
    The house that you meet when you have entered the mirror is a part of your inner world that is “horrifyingly empty, dull and dark”.
    Can you relate (yet) to any of these feelings as far as your waking life is concerned?
    The moment you will start looking within, it often seems as if your inner life gets worse. What is actually going on is that you dare to meet those aspects of your inner world that you have repressed before; http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/defence-mechanisms/
    In the context of your dream I see the spirits as past memories or experiences that still haunt you, perhaps because it has never been fully felt and that is why “they are trying to lead us somewhere important or to show us something essential.”
    The spirit needs your willingness to access and release what may have been bothering you (consciously or unconsciously) for “some time”. (Unfortunately you do not mention how old you are.)
    There are several ways available to explore what haunts you.
    Perhaps you feel like exploring your dream and your inner world with your parents; http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/peer-dream-group/?
    See also http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/10-stress-busters/
    Anna :-)


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