Conflict with the father can lead to feelings of not being loveable, acceptable or capable of love. It can also implicate you in a desire to go against family and social ‘principles’ and lead a life of rebellion – or certainly one that is alternative. A great deal of anger and the urge to inflict hurt or to criticise may be involved in this. See: animus under archetypes.
One may rebel against being a part of normalcy, even to rebelling against one’s personal sexual characteristics. The alienation can also occur because for one reason or another you cannot live within the patterns of behaviour accepted, or built into, your family or social group. This is particularly evident in religious or political groups, which, to function well, requires a high degree of conformity.
Dr. Morse was part of a long term research on children who had a Near Death Experience (NDE), they showed an absence of any drug use. They have little rebellion against authority, and showed a keenness to learn and be active in the world. Their maturity and wisdom was marked, and they each claimed that during their NDE they had learned profound lessons about how to live and the meaning of their life.
Experiments with expansion of awareness showed the constriction and limitation of the ego and its rational verbalism; this too meant nothing to those who had never transcended their conscious ego limits or the clanking machinery of reason. In this conception was an attack on the validity of social sanctions, which aroused sympathy among social rebels but was hardly likely to gain any favour among the powerful and well placed.
Certainly they have a point; but they have ignored another point, perhaps more basic. Modern man is inextricably involved with and dependent on the body social that we are all a part of. This leads to being seen as rebels against society and its institutions, incurring its disfavour. So rebelling can bring relentless penalties. He may not feel guilty, he may completely disbelieve the rationale of his punishment, but he suffers it all the same. But there is another path for rebels, it is called creativity. The creative rebel might write songs of protest and so reap the rewards of popularity. See Archetype of the Outcast
Example: Then somebody, the man (?), who had called up the beast or fish, said that the next thing was the most difficult. The beast then came out of the hole, and changed into an enormous eight-foot tall woman. She was tremendously obese. She had breasts full of water, hanging down to below her waist. Everybody scattered, but the fat woman caught a rather spinsterish woman by the arm. She then applied a lighted taper to the woman’s arm. At first the woman was petrified and took it – allowed it. Then she rebelled, much to the fat woman’s astonishment. Her arm flung up and hit the fat woman hard in the face.
Example: There were some rebels who were defying the government – holding some government people hostage. They are told if they surrender and let these people go, they will be free to go. They agree. But it is a trick. And when the Police Chief comes back, he is laughing at how easily the rebels fell for this trick. He has some pictures and spent bullets showing how the rebels were killed. Everyone is laughing at how easy it was to trick these poor rebels. I am an observer of these people gloating over their success.
Example: (I get drunk for the next two days after this dream. I played a classic game of ‘Drunk and Proud’ – rebelling against my wife who said that she wouldn’t be home on Saturday because she had to take her mother to the doctor. “Not again! Last week you weren’t going to be home because you had to see your friend that you hadn’t seen in 32 years. This week it is to take care of your mother again.”
Example: After this, my brother and I went through many difficulties due to a difficult separation between our parents, with whom we became increasingly estranged. Our father was physically not far from us, however his response to the separation was to bitterly cut away any chance of an amicable future with my mother, for the sake at least of good parenting. My brother and I both rebelled heavily against our parents, in our own ways.
Useful Questions and Hints:
Did you rebel or learn from authority figures?
What is my relationship as a member of family, a group or society – is it a rebel, a participant, an outsider or what?
What have you ever fought it rebelled against?