Baby Babies
General
Aborted baby
Adult body with baby head
Adopted baby
Baby body with adult head – Baby Boy – Baby Girl
Crying baby
Dead Baby
Do I need a pregnancy test if I dream of having a baby? – Dream Baby – Dropping a baby
Gifted or holy baby – Girl baby – Giving birth
Happy baby – Hitting the baby
In a man’s dream – In child’s dream – In woman’s dream – Losing/not finding a baby
Man giving birth to a baby
Neglecting or forgetting baby –Nursing a baby
Pregnancy – dreaming of baby during
Sick baby – Starving baby
Twins or twin
When appearing with a couple
If you cannot find what you want in the first section, there are a lot of questions answered at the bottom of the page under Comments.
If you have given birth to a baby in a dream, it can represent a new phase of life; a new idea; new activity – as when we say someone has a new baby, meaning a new project or business. This ‘baby’ might be part of you that did not have a chance to be ‘born’ or express before. Or it may be things learned in a rich life that you could not put into practice because of circumstances. The baby in this aspect is the ‘you’ that could have been if you had been free from problems and past hurts.
In real life a baby is a blending of mother and father, and all they represent. A baby is a new thing that has been ‘born’ out of them and the circumstances they are involved in.
Example: My wife and I were walking out in the countryside. I looked around suddenly and saw my four year old son near a hole. He fell in and I raced back. The hole was narrow but very deep. I could see water at the bottom but no sign of my son. I didn’t know whether I could leap down and save him or whether it was too narrow. Then somehow he was out. His heart was just beating.
The dreamer had an argument with his wife the night before and was frightened it had killed his marriage. The baby son represented their marriage and his fear of the end of their life together, but the dream went on to show that it survived.
But the dream baby can also represent one’s own feeling urges at that level of development – such as possessiveness, joy, curiosity, responding to the world without words or formed concepts, innocent love, infant trauma; intense dependence; feelings of helplessness; vulnerability; lack of responsibility; and being cared for. Even as adults many of these early feeling responses still dominate the way we meet relationships and events. It is quiet common for instance for adults to feel intense and destructive jealousy about their sexual partner. This is exactly the sort of feeling we experienced naturally as a baby and child. Unfortunately in adulthood we seldom see such things as an emergence of baby feelings which we have not grown beyond. Instead we accept them as adult behaviour and justify them, often blaming our sexual partner for them – i.e. ‘You made me jealous by showing affection for that other man/woman’. The baby or child often feels murderous rage in connection with such dependence and jealousy, but it is too small to effectively act on the rage. When an adult feels such rage however, it is highly dangerous and irrational. See Beware of Love; victim; personal growth.
Aborted baby: In general something that was developing, a new facet of self, or a new opportunity that has now been lost or rejected. If in a pregnant woman’s dream, usually it is an expression of fears regarding ones ability to carry the child to full term – but it is wise to have a check. See: pregnancy.
Adult body with baby head: Suggests that the way one approaches life, ones thinking, is still immature, even though one is physically mature.
Adopted baby: Adopting a new stance in life, perhaps conceived by, or seen in someone else; taking on the responsibility of something or someone that needs care and help to grow; if you are trying to adopt a baby it would reflect feelings or intuitions about that activity.
Baby body with adult head: Suggests that while one has developed an adult intellect and rational thinking, or an adult self, aspects of ones feelings, hungers and sexuality remain at the baby level of development.
Baby Boy: If you have given birth to a baby boy, it is usually about the principle of maleness entering your life. Maleness is like the sun, it expresses most of its energy outwardly to give life. Whereas the female is like the earth, receiving and nurturing life.
Birth or emergence of a new phase of self expression in terms of activity or achievement. In a males dream may suggest a new self emerging, or new aspect of self.
Baby Girl: If you have given birth to a baby girl, it is usually about the principle of femininity. Femininity is about having the power of creating life within and nurturing its growth.
Baby Dying: The anxiety dreams include such images as giving birth to a baby who is only a few ounces in weight – the baby is malformed – the baby is born dead – the baby is blind or deaf or injured.
Castle was able to follow the dreams of over 200 pregnant women, often from about the time of conception through to their post natal situation and experience. One of his interests was to see if dreams showed signs of information about physical conditions that were not apparent at the time of the dream. He says that many dreams did in fact show that small shifts in the physical state, such as conception, were shown in appropriate symbols in the dreams of some women. So if you have a worrying dream about your baby it is worth making sure you check out its condition, something that with modern equipment is easily done. To quote Castle, “The unconscious mind of the pregnant woman seems able to monitor and detect biochemical imbalances, tissue abnormalities, or structural defects in the uterine environment and communicate an awareness of disturbed functioning through dream imagery, which is sometimes fairly literal, sometimes symbolic.”
Seeing a baby die in a dream can suggest many things. It can suggest that the most vulnerable part of you has been killed by your hidden emotions. Also I have received, over 40 years, many dreams of mothers who dreamt their baby or child was dead, and not one of them died. One woman who explored such a dream with me found that a death had taken place, represented by the child, and the death was that of her love for a man. She had ended a relationship that had lasted for years.
Dead baby: Dreaming that your child dies can have several meanings. In some dreams a parent, much to their horror dreams of killing their child. But our dream
child can represent many things, and it is useful to realise that any person, object or scene in a dream is not a symbol – it is not dead thing that has to be interpreted – it is a living part of you and can only be understood by relating to it.
So in this way I have found that a child can represent whatever our strongest feelings about them are. It can represent your marriage or partnership because it is what you have created between you. In that case the death of the child can depict something like an awful argument that feels as if it the marriage has died.
A child and its death can also show you how you have killed out the growing or adventurous side of you; or if you see your child as vulnerable and needing protection it could show you the death of that part of your feeling.
If a dream seems to predict the death of your child, it is wise to remember two things. the first is that a said above many dreams about our baby are actually about injury or death of our vulnerable self – See Characters and People in Dreams.
That predictive dreams are very uncommon. But if you are feeling it is predictive remember that the future is not set in stone. But you can pray for protection for your child and it can change the outcome.
Gifted or holy baby: Often shows the dreamer having given birth to parts of their personality which are connected with wider sympathies, or wider awareness, than their own personal ego or self. It may show an awareness of the universal processes of life. It is the same sort of meaning as Christ in symbolism. It can show the emergence of awareness of the levels of existence beyond the senses. See: esp in dreams.
Example: “Was in a basement where my wife and a woman I loved was giving birth to a baby, but I was somehow the one who gave birth to it without a doctor being there. It was a lovely boy. Its lower face was covered by a tight caul, but I pulled this off and it began to breathe. It opened its eyes and looked about, fully conscious; then said something about Jesus, and, “It is gone!” I asked what had gone, and it replied, “The other ego; where has it gone?” I explained that the spirit self it knew before birth was now gone so it could live in the body. The baby was then taken upstairs, and I felt it was a holy and wonderful baby. I was going to rest from the rigours of the birth, but on looking around saw how dusty and dirty the basement was. I began to clean it, and felt I would go upstairs and rest afterwards.”
The man who dreamt this said that he felt afterwards that at the time of the dream he had given birth to the very best of him. This became more and more obvious as years went by. Also he realised that his inner life, his unconscious, needed cleaning, and then began to go upstairs to his wider awareness. It could be helpful for you to use the following Talking As.
If you have given birth without any man involved, it suggests it is a virgin birth – i.e. no male partner was involved at the time.
Many women dream of giving birth without any man involved. Virgin birth is normal part of dreaming. It means that the woman or young girl has conceived as a process of Life. Being a virgin represents the human soul or psyche and its possibility of dropping pre-conceptions, thus attaining an inner virginity and through that being receptive to the unseen or unconscious side of self. Joseph Campbell in his book “Myths To Live By” says – “There are myths and legends of the Virgin Birth, of Incarnations, Deaths and Resurrections; Second Comings, Judgements and the rest, in all the great traditions. And since such images stem from the psyche (from you and your dreams), they refer to the psyche. They tell us of its structure, its order, and its forces, in symbolic terms.”
For instance, the story and events surrounding the virgin birth, when looked as if a dream are not about a biological miracle, but about how as ordinary people, we can drop our preconceptions, our fixed ideas and beliefs and allow an entirely new and creative impulse into our life. This truth has been so venerated that we find virgin figures all over the world such as Maya the mother of Buddha born 500 BC; the virgin mother of Osiris, and of course the story told of Mary.
Being a virgin in this case is about having a mind free from previous ‘conceptions’ and so being open to Life itself fertilising you for a new and precious thing being born. If you are not a virgin because you have had children, that is not what virgin birth is about. It is about conceiving without any mental preconceptions, having an open and receptive mind or soul. it is about a wonderful human possibility.
So the dream baby born to you in this way a wonderful creative act between you and Life. It is a new part of you that if you let it gradually grow into your waking life as a new force, a new way of feeling about life and acting. Being pregnant like that is very important. Obviously you are not going to give birth to a physical baby, but dream babies are important too.
Only a ‘virgin birth’ can bring forth the birth of an intuition, a new response to oneself and ones environment, that transforms ones life. This is a living relationship with the mystery which underlies our life. If we generate a child in this way, we are not held prisoner by habits of thought, stereotypes of behaviour, then we can begin to allow into our waking life what was previously impossible to know. This open state of mind and feelings, acts as a link between the identity or personality, and the deep unconscious life processes. This link allows a birth of realisations and inner change that brings healing and a possibility of experiencing the aspect of oneself that is our core self.
Crying baby or helpless baby: Your fundamental needs are not being, or were not in the past, met. These include basic things like feeling happy and relaxed in ones environment, feeling wanted and loved, having a sense of connection with other people. There may be something distressing you at a feeling/needing level that you are not acknowledging; a new project or aspect of self needing more care.
But it is part of inbuilt wisdom in babies to cry and act helpless of injured to get their needs or a parents love. So if you dream of such a baby it may well be showing you that you are using the same tactics to get people’s sympathy.
Example: Baby pelicans can produce a false epileptic fit; they do this because it is a way to get their parents to carry on feeding them. The alternative is that they must get off their butt and feed themselves.
Dream Baby – i.e. one you gave birth to in your dream. Dream babies are usually special and are a way that you give birth to either parts of your personality that have developed over time and are now ‘born’. They slowly become obvious to us as new talents, a new direction, or even a new way of life.
Such babies are easy to give birth to, and usually are beautiful and speak soon.
Do I need a pregnancy test if I dream of having a baby?: If you are having unprotected regular sex or if you are trying for a baby, then yes have a test. But if you know you had not had sex with a partner, then it is a dream baby. See all the comments and answers at the bottom of the page.
Dropping a baby: Carelessness in dealing with your basic needs, especially in relationship; mishandling an opportunity; betraying trust; feeling you have been ‘dropped’ by someone, perhaps in a relationship. It might also at times suggest a miscarriage or the lack of support in caring for a pregnancy.
Example: I turned and ran with the pram at a small boy on a tricycle who was pedalling toward me playfully. We laughingly collided. Not a bad bump, but enough to send the baby over onto the ground on its head. The baby cried but didn’t seem badly hurt. I realised it was the second time I had dropped the baby, and felt I must be more careful and responsible. We were then preparing for a storm on the ship.
It was during the past few days that my wife told me that her period was late. She thought she was pregnant. This caused an awful situation between us. I was out of work in an area that offered me no work. I suggested she had an abortion. As it turned out it was a false pregnancy. However, the damage had been done. (Apparently I had dropped the baby?)
Girl baby: Birth or emergence of new aspects of feelings and feeling relationship with others. But in a females dream may mean an emergence of a new phase or a new start in her life.
Giving birth: A healthy woman is designed by nature to create a baby. But it is also true that at the heart of a woman’s being is the power of creation, and that creation can go in any direction – a mother, an artist, a dancer, a poet, a social worker, or even an alcoholic or drug dependent.
But in our dream world the image of your creation is usually in the form of a baby. But as you may not be pregnant you have produced an image of your creation and creativeness. It is new so you do not know what it is. That you have dreamt this at all shows you need to take note of this extraordinary creativeness and investigate it. You can do this by imagining your self as the baby – remember that dreams are showing reflections of your own inner world so the baby is an expression of your creativity – and talk as the baby describing what it feels. Use Talking As.
If it is difficult or a C-section then you are anxious or have fears about having a baby, or else there is a history of difficulty that you need to work out. Try using Carry the Dream Forward.
That you have dreamt this at all shows you need to take note of this extraordinary creativeness and investigate it. You can do this by imagining your self as the baby – remember that dreams are showing reflections of your own inner world so the baby is an expression of your creativity – and talk as the baby describing what it feels. Talking As
And do not dismiss this as a silly dream, such dream babies have a very real purpose and life of their own. They are your creation out of the wonderful creative process that is a woman, and your own ideals and longings. If you nurture them you will see them grow – I call the spirit children.
Happy baby: Feeling at ease with oneself and surroundings. It may be that something has happened in a relationship or environment that brings a deeper level of relaxation and sense of security.
Hitting the baby: Usually a sign of not being able to cope with ones own childhood pain, and so it ends in hitting. See: hitting.
In a man’s dream: The same as general definitions, but also may be oneself at that age; desire for parenthood; weight of responsibility; fear of inability to produce. See Man Giving Birth to Baby.
In child’s dream: Themselves at that age; feelings about a baby sibling.
In woman’s dream: The same as general definitions, but also may be oneself at that age; desire for a baby; responsibility of caring for baby; worries about having healthy baby; worries about baby’s welfare.
Losing/not finding a baby: Losing contact with or not caring for your fundamental feeling responses to life; losing an opportunity or mishandling a delicate relationship; feeling lost and abandoned in ones own child feelings.
Man giving birth to a baby: Often happens during the pregnancy of the mans partner; shows the man bringing something to birth in himself. This is usually a new understanding, or a new sympathy or viewpoint. It can show the emergence of awareness of the unconscious. See Special Baby
Neglecting or forgetting baby: Many baby dreams, as in the example at the bottom, have this theme of neglecting, or even starving the baby. This is usually because we need to take care of, or be more aware of, how much personal need we have for things like care, appreciation and love being given to us. If as a baby our need for being held and given attention were met, then we can move into the next phase of our growth. But if these needs were never met, one is often stuck emotionally at this level of development. See Beware of Love.
If you are a parent with a baby, the dream may represent natural anxieties about ones ability as a parent – i.e. the dream may reflect a fear you are not giving as much to your child as you wish, or that you find yourself wishing for a break from parenthood.
Example: ‘I have my own baby who is lying in a cot in a bedroom looking very weak and pathetic with eyes closed. I know that he or she is getting weaker and weaker through lack of food and care. In fact the baby seems to be dying. The feelings of guilt are terrible because I know it is my responsibility to do something to make it well. I keep saying to myself I must go and feed that baby – but I don’t. I just keep worrying and feeling guilty.’ J. C.
Because of circumstances we may not have been able to satisfy all our babyhood needs – we may have been weaned earlier than we wanted; our need for attention may have been unsatisfied or we felt rejected or unwanted – and these are shown as a baby in our dreams. Dreams such as the above show how we sense the need of this part of us to be cared for and nourished. If some of these earliest needs are not met in some way, the development of our enthusiasm, our pleasure and ability to be involved and self-giving, may be diminished, giving rise to dreams suggesting the need for nourishment, as above. See: baby – healing and helping; baby in my dreams.
Nursing a baby: Caring for ones own infant needs which still exist in ones adult life; giving care and love to someone who is relating to you in a baby way; wanting a baby, or needing to express the depth of your own ability to give and love.
Pregnancy – dreaming of baby during: Most women dream about their growing baby during pregnancy. These dreams are vary varied and often anxious or frightening. Such dreams are not to be taken as signs of a problem other than natural anxiety. Occasionally a pregnant woman dreams of the identity or personality of her unborn child, perhaps even before it is conceived. This can of course occur to the father too. See: pregnancy; birth dreams during pregnancy; fifth example under penis, in the body section.
Sick baby: Our babyhood experience builds the foundation of all relationship with other people and the world. If for instance we are punished for being curious, or are traumatised in our need for love and support, it will show in our adult relationships. Perhaps we will lack explorative curiosity, or avoid or have difficulties in a close relationship. The sick baby usually depicts such difficulties. Exploring our feelings in connection with the sick baby, or being the sick baby as in Gestalt dream-work, will help uncover the details and intense feelings involved in such unsatisfying emotions and habitual responses.
Starving baby: See: Neglecting or forgetting baby: above.
Twins or twin: The many polar opposites or splits in us – the split between waking consciousness and sleep or the unconscious; the split between what we want in our deepest desires, and what we can allow ourselves socially; the split caused by infant trauma; the split between our sense of eternity and the facts of physical mortality; introversion and extroversion; something of self which has got split off; the lack of balance in our being; twins can represent duality, conflict, or two sides of an issue, but also the emergence of something new, something that was denied, or born with one, but never acknowledged as part of oneself; ones unconscious relationship with another person, such as occurs in a telepathic link; separation.
Or perhaps even ‘died at birth’, or one died, leaving us feeling only half a person; the lack of balance in our being. When one of the babies died and the other survived it might be as happens often that the situation wasn’t right for one perhaps because of health issues. See Tony’s Inner Voice
When appearing with a couple: The marriage – what is created in the relationship; the life process in us based on reproduction. What you have produced and care for or neglect together
Quoted from Dreams and Dreaming, by Norman Mackenzie.
Then I went back in my mind to being two years old when I felt that a terrible thing had happened to me, the realisation that my mother had no love for me. I saw her holding a male baby and I felt in that instant that I hated males. I had just this fundamental feeling, a terrible feeling, and it grew and I became full of hate and I realised that it was directed toward the opposite sex. I felt that this had begun at an early age when I felt that my mother had given affection to the male members of the family and not myself. I was the only female. I realised that at that age she didn’t love me and I must have felt jealous of the male This grew up within me.
This graphically describes the depth of feeling we often carry from our earliest years, feelings which deeply influence our adult behaviour. In this case it made the woman’s relationships with her husband strained and tense.
Example: I have my own baby who is lying in a cot in a bedroom looking very weak and pathetic with eyes closed. I know that he or she is getting weaker and weaker through lack of food and care. In fact the baby seems to be dying. The feelings of guilt are terrible because I know it is my responsibility to do something to make it well. I keep saying to myself I must go and feed that baby – but I don’t. I just keep worrying and feeling guilty. J. C.
Because of circumstances we may not have been able to satisfy all our babyhood needs – we may have been weaned earlier than we wanted; our need for attention may have been unsatisfied or we felt rejected or unwanted – and these are shown as a baby in our dreams, as with J. C. Dreams such as the above show how we sense the need of this part of us to be cared for and nourished. If some of these earliest needs are not met in some way, the development of our enthusiasm, our pleasure and ability to be involved and self-giving, may be diminished, giving rise to dreams suggesting the need for nourishment, as above. See: baby healing and helping; baby in my dreams.
Example: I am 48, have two children in their late teens and definitely DO NOT want another baby. Nevertheless I have a recurring dream in which I am always in labour, experiencing no pain, and although there are nursing staff I am in some sort of laboratory, although everything is very pleasant. I never actually give birth and when I wake I always have a vague feeling of disappointment. V. I.
This dreamers conscious decision to have no more children may be in conflict with her biological urge for another baby. But the dream might also suggest there is something she deeply want to give birth to in her life but has not yet achieved. Her creativity did not end with her children, there is still more for her to bring out of herself in some way.
Example: My mouth was full of what looked like liver. It was also coming out of my left ear. When I turned away from the mirror I saw medical people in caps and gowns who kept telling me to bear down. I then gave birth to a baby out of my mouth. I am an invalid and very sick at present. Mr. M. S.
This mans dream is about preparation for death. The baby is the extraction of all that can live on after his present life is left behind in death. See: death – is there life afterwards.
Useful Questions and Hints:
Useful questions are given in baby in my dreams.
Comments
I had a dream last night about being at an elaborate rest area and finding a baby that was just left there. I have two wonderful friends who have been battling infertility and have been approved to adopt. They are also about to try a fertility treatment. The baby was a sweet, baby boy and I knew my friends were going to be so excited to adopt this baby. We waited 24 hours to make sure no one was coming back to claim the baby and then I brought him to my friend. It was wonderful, until the biological parents showed up and wanted the baby back. My friend was devastated. Thanks for any insight!
SunshineMom – I feel as if you are such a caring person you have tried to hard – in your dream – to help your friends. And I believe that is the message of the dream.
We are not in control of our life, or even the lives of others. Most of our lives are out of our control – our breathing; our heartbeat, and all the other vital things go on out of sight. So we need to be a bit humble. Also we can get ourselves in trouble if we try to hard to help others – I am thinking of things I have done in the past.
Tony
Hi I am now 6 weeks and I am a mother of 2 children already and I had the most vivid dream that I was carrying my baby as I am now and I was lying on my bed and called my husband in and showed him how my belly was moving already. Then before we knew it a baby boy with tons of dark hair and big blue eyes popped out. It was so weird. Me and my husband were so excited but knew I was only 6 weeks and he still had growing to do even though he looked full term so we pushed him back in my belly and that was it. So surreal.
Andrea – Dreams have a habit of not taking too much notice of time and space. So dreams often show the future – and there you have it. Of course it, the dream baby, could pop back in your belly. Nice place to keep it warm.
Dreams are surreal. It’s in their nature.
Tony
My ex and I had a bad breakup, but a long history. He’s returning from deployment soon, and would like to meet with me. As much as this scares me, it also excites me. I’m worried to fall into the same pattern that up until this point hasn’t worked. We always come back to this. In any case, last night I had a dream we were together and I had given birth to a beautiful baby boy that looked just like him. Everything was so vivid that when I woke up I had my arms in a position as if I was actually holding a newborn. Embarrassing to say the least. Then it was more complicated. Apparently, I had a child with someone else (w/ an aggressive personality) who doesn’t appear remotely familiar. I feel intense dependence for my ex, and our relationship had been based on an innocent love. I’ve always been someone who’s absolutely frightened by commitment and being a mother so the fact that I felt at ease and positively about this dream is alarming.
Nessa – It is difficult to know whether this is about an actual child you will have or a dream child. If it is the former I can believe that such a child could make a huge difference in the way you both relate. I know from experience that when a child is born, the man, if he is healthy, cannot help but want to provide and care.
Two dream children – well I’m stumped. But it feels like there is a separation between them. I feel it is about the fact that you deeply want things to work between you. Yet in the past it has always created conflict. So in the dream the baby is a mixture of your desires to have it work and the conflict you feel about what will happen. However, the giving birth is a healthy sign and it may be that things will work out for you.
Tony
i keep having these dreams of someone following me and wanting to rape is like the third time i have it but is different versions is really scary bcuz once i wake up am real scare and can’t even go outside on my own bt like by the end of the day the scareness goes away i was just wondering what these dreams ment
ok so i had this weird dream last night and i really want to know what it means if anybody can help me out please, ok well i dreamt i gave birth to a baby boy he was a beautiful baby very chubby with dark blk hair, his chubby cheeks stood out to me alot in my dream anyway so i delieverd him in my house after he came out i grabbed him he still had some blood on him n the embilical cord still attatched i carrried him into the next room where my fiance was sleeping i put the baby on top of my fiance n he didnt want the baby on him so i picked up the baby and grabbed a white blanket and wrapped the baby in it he felt soo heavy and looked like a 3 month old baby he was crying but in my dream i couldnt hear the crying i knew he was hungry and i was trying to give him my breast i felt so much love for this baby and comfort while holding this baby what does it mean?
Eloisa – There is a feeling in your dream that your fiancé isn’t at the moment really interested in having a baby. But you have such a mothering instinct that in your dream you have created a beautiful baby boy.
It might be that in your dream you felt no connection with your fiancé as the father. That is fine as it suggests it is your love that has created it. The dream is also showing you a very new part of you, one that knows you can be a mother. Also when you do have a baby you have as it were the mould for it. We create out of our dreams, and you have created a lovely child.
Tony
Last night, I had a horrible dream, and reading through out Dream Dictionaries, I still can not find exactly the meaning. PLEASE HELP!!
I am 24 years old, no children.
This was my dream:::
I do not remembering giving birth, but all of a sudden in my dream, i was holding a beautiful little girl. Standing in line at a store with my boyfriend, checking out.
Next I know, were home. Walking up stairs outside to go to our front door. My boyfriend was infront of me, carrying our baby girl. He set her down on top of the stairs to unlock the door, I yelled at him not to set her down like that. Then he picks her up, back to me. He froze and slowly and quietly says, “She’s dead.” and when he turned around, she had black stuff coming out of her nose, and I started crying.
Thats when I woke up. I want a baby so bad, I have difficulty conceiving, so this is really painful when I think about it. I cried when I told my boyfriend about it this morning. And I feel like I ACTUALLY lost my baby girl.
Please please please help me understand this dream!
I also forgot to mention, earlier in my dream, I was dreaming that I WAS pregnant, and was laying down feeling my belly, but no bump or anything. But I knew I was pregnant. then I was dreaming of other things in between, THEN I dreamt of this horrible accident of her dying. (Just thought I would add that in there)
Kristi – Please dear woman, relax. This is simply your feelings of wanting a baby so badly so badly turning back on you – probably because of worry. I see the dream as a projection of your terror that if you did have a baby it would not survive. Dreams are a mirror which reflects our fears and hopes so we can see what is going on inside us. And your dream is a reflection of your fears.
So get a good book or video which deals with the positive side of motherhood and enjoy it.
Tony
Ok so im about 27 weeks pregnant dany after new years i had a dream about having my daughter and i was forced by my family to give her up for adoption to my aunty i was extremely pissed off about it cuz i didnt want to, a year later in my dream i went to go see her and she looked identical to what i looked like when i was a baby and i started freaking out in my dream screaming that she’s my daughter that i never wanted to give her up that i wanted her and everytime someone asked why i was crying i would tell them shes my daughter know one elses and my mom would tell me just give it up michelle its done i dreamt that twice in one night and everytime i woke up i was crying just like i was in my dream what could that mean, cuz it really freaked me out.
Michelle – What an awful dream!
I wonder if you ever felt abandoned by your own mother. I say ‘felt’ because often it doesn’t actually happen but it certainly feels like it I had a terrible struggle with this because of things that happened. But perhaps you have not remembered it.
Ad the reason I see you dream like that is because in the dream your mother says to you, “Give it up Michelle.” And it is the baby you in the dream, and of course, if I am right you would feel frightened it would be happening to your baby.
Obvioiusly you have a great fear of being separated, and of course it could simply be about the stress dreams some mothers have.
Tony
In a dream that i had last night i was pregnant but had no belly showing that i was pregnant even though i was due to give birth. in the dream i was alone in my grandparents house laying on the bed and i felt like i needed to push to have the baby i went in to the bathroom and looked in the mirror and saw no belly i then sat in the shower and had the baby on my own and held the baby and then the baby dissapeared and i was cleaning out the shower and then i woke up. im really confused and was curious as to if this dream could mean anything?
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Cuando te mira mucho no puede vivir sin tí?
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Si se despide despacio es porque no te puede dejar ír?
I don’t think so Jessy.
It sounds like romantic make believe to me, the sort that leads to the real pain of ‘not being able to live without you’. A pain that is best avoided.
Tony
Hi,I dreamt twice about baby boy,the first one was a fat fair baby but was unable to see the baby face and someone is taking baby away from me and another person is standing up 4 for and fighting to have my baby back,and in my dream my daughter is grown up like she is 6years,when I do get my baby I fed him breast milk,second dream is again daughter big and I have a cute this time ting baby just looking at me.
I have frequent dreams about babies, and it’s driving me crazy! Though each one is different, they all have a similar theme:
I suddenly have a baby in my present day life. Every time they appear in my dreams, my dream-self is always really confused, and feels guilty that they had a baby at all and didn’t even know it. Then, because I still have daily things to attend to, I feel guilty, and blame myself and the baby for ruining my plans. In one of the most recent dreams, I had twins, and the girl looked odd in comparison to a normal baby. Aside from the twins, I normally only have one baby, a girl, and my boyfriend always pops up in the dream.
I have no idea what the point of these dreams are, but I always wake up grateful that I haven’t actually given birth, and now have an unexpected baby to care for. I am only 18, and these dreams are freaking my boyfriend and me out. Any help???
Jen – This is a sign that our education is severely lacking as far as learning what Life is all about. It doesn’t teach us how to meet ourselves and deal well with who we are.
The fact is that we are more than one person. If you think about it you were a very different being when you were a baby, and different again when you were a child, and again a change when you were a teenager. But we think that as we grow we have left all those other selves behind, and that just isn’t so.
The baby you dream about – and your dreams are a purely mental phenomena and you are alone in the dream world with only your own feelings – is a reflection of you at that age. It is not a photographic copy, but is altered and keeps altering to bring home to you something you are neglecting.
Very, very few of us have a completely satisfying babyhood, or pass through it without some sort of trauma. So you must not think of your dreams as having anything to do with you outer life as they are a reflection of what is taking place in your inner life. To quote from http://dreamhawk.com/health-and-healing/inner-baby-and-child/
“It has to be said that paradoxically the meeting of ones infant self is not in itself painful. It is deeply emotional and powerfully active. Why many people fail to connect with what they carry within them of their infant and child is because they avoid, or do not know how, to feel deeply, to let their body express and discharge that degree of emotion, bodily movement and excitation.
Juliana Brown and Richard Mowbray, in their paper on Primal Integration describe this ‘regression’ as follows:
The ‘regression’ that we facilitate in Primal Integration is not about going back in time, but rather about becoming aware of your existing state of regression – about realising that parts of you have not grown up and moved forward into the present. In our view, most people are living in two time-scales simultaneously – past and present. Part of them will be living in the here and now. Other parts of them will be reacting to present events as though they were still ‘back then’, thereby confusing aspects of the present with the past.
Uncovering the ‘past’ that is still with you here in the ‘present’ takes real work and needs dedication over a fairly long period of time. It is a work that is desperately needed in the world and in society. Very few people, even those in high positions of government or society, have actually grown up in the full sense. They are still operating in the world either from promptings and fears from their earliest babyhood, or from social conditioning that is out of date and needs upgrading.
Perhaps the simplest and gentlest way of finding transformation and growth is through exploring your dreams. This should not be simply talking about your dreams, but actually exploring them and being ready to feel the emotions and past impressions involved in them. A method to do this is described under http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-in-your-dream/.
Tony
soryy for another post, but i fail, i forgot to mention that, no i am not pregnant, so yeah.
ok, I am currently 13 years of age, and I have been getting these weird dreams lately. I have had these dreams for at least three months(I wonder if that’s normal). My dreams tend to be something horrible happening to me. such as: my house burning down, seeing my grand fathers grave, my brother in a coma, my car drowned in a lake, and so much more(the setting is always depressing, either dark, rainy or foggy, and very cold). The thing is, every time I dream such things, a little girl of about 5 or 6 years of age tends to appear. She has some of my features, mixed with other features, which I assume are from me and her father(note I have no boyfriend). She is very beautiful and charming. Every time she sees me she ends up running towards me and gives me a big hug. Every time I see her, I don’t know why, but I end up in tears (both in my dreams and in real life) and hug her too. The most common things that she tells me is, “momma, please don’t cry, I know it’s tragic right now, but if you cry, you make me cry. momma don’t cry, I’m here for you.” I have nicknamed her “Esperanza” which means “hope” in Spanish. She only appears when something goes wrong in my dreams and is always wearing different clothes that are always extremely dark colors, they seem depressing. She has gotten to the point of revealing many things with me in my dream. I have had these dreams for so long, I feel as if I am developing feelings for her. At first seeing her very appearance scared the crap out of me, but now I just…..it’s hard to explain what I feel, it’s a mix of horror and love. Dangerous love. I have lately been trying to find solutions to my dream by trying my best to make Esperanza happy, I sometimes feel as if even though it’s a dream, she is the highlight of my life, and I need to protect her from something. I have been ignoring my real situations to help myself in my dreams. Even though I love Esperanza (I feel as if I have a motherly connection to her)she still scares me a bit. I would like to know why I dream of her, why she only appears in such bad situations, if this means anything in real life, and if it is rare for me to have affection towards something in my dream, something that is unborn. Please reply, I would love to know what this means.
Jennifer – I think you are having a hard time seeing anything really hopeful in the life you witness around you. It sounds as if you are slightly depressed and so are many other girls at your age – I was too and it took me ages to climb out of it.
Your dreams of Esperanza could be a helper who is there to make life a bit better. And the love you feel is a big part of that.
Of course Esperanza could also be an image of the young you who needs help because of her past life experience. Perhaps you could ask her questions about why she is in your life and dreams. It can really help you to understand.
Something that is unborn – well in the language of dream most of us are unborn. And to be born is to give oneself to Life and then you feel alive for the first time and the darkness within you has gone. See http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/the-lifestream/ After all, it is only Life that makes us alive, and if we do not open to it fully then we are sort of dead.
You are a young woman, so please do not walk along the path of hopelessness. See http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYYXq1Ox4sk and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SF3KqGpxXvo&feature=related
Tony
I had a very odd dream this morning and felt the need to understand why a baby has appeared in my dreams twice this week. This morning my dream was as follows:
I was at my parents’ house that had burnt down, in my old bedroom when I suddenly felt as though I were giving birth. I saw the entire process of the baby coming out of my body as though I were floating around myself. There was no pain and the process happened quickly with the baby gliding out of my body. I quickly placed the baby girl in some baby clothes I found but then realized that I had not washed it. My sister-in-law took the baby and then handed it back to me, its body washed but not its hair because in the dream we saw that as something sacred that should be reserved for the mother to do. I held the baby and then realized there was an air conditioner pumping cold air into the room. I laid the baby on the bed and tried to turn it off, which I couldn’t. When I came back, there were two babies on the bed; a large boy baby and my little girl. I started to wonder if I had given birth to twins. I called to my mother to help me swaddle both babies to keep them warm from the cold air and continued to worry about why I hadn’t passed the placenta. I also started to worry about how I had gotten pregnant as I am a lesbian and I wasn’t sure how I was going to explain this to my partner.
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Tiffany – I cannot help myself laughing when you say, “Why I hadn’t passed the placenta. I also started to worry about how I had gotten pregnant as I am a lesbian and I wasn’t sure how I was going to explain this to my partner.”
I laugh because of the fact that none of us today – apart from a few individuals – have ever been taught anything about Life and how it operates in us. Dreams are not about outer reality, they are reflections of our inner life; and our inner life has very different rules. It is a world that is very different to the waking world in the body. In the dream world in a sense you do not have a body. The point is that whatever we believe we are; whatever we believe the world is; in our dreams it becomes that because we create it out of our mind stuff.
In the film Matrix, the hero is at one point put into a lucid virtual reality called ‘the construct’. He cannot understand what is happening to him, and his guide says, “What you see now is what we call residual self image. It is a mental projection….” Your dream is exactly that, an amazing moving and living projection in which you act and interact with YOURSELF. There is, in the widest or cosmic sense, nothing else. The dream process transforms your emotions, your beliefs and hopes, your fears and traumas, your intuitions and creative visions, into people, environments, animals and events. Understanding that is vital.
So of course you had no afterbirth and the birth was easy – after all you had no body, only a mental construct formed from all you are and feel. And the babies you gave birth to are projections of things you have just given birth to; new parts of you that are young and vulnerable and need nurturing to help them grow into useful aspect of you.
The cold air from the air conditioner seems to me to represent the cold attitudes we often find around us in society that can easily cause new and vulnerable parts of us to die.
You have a nice sense of connection with your family – sister in law and mother – and it seems this connection will be an aid in bringing these new parts of you to maturity. But in our inner life it often doesn’t take long. The thing about the sacrednes about washing its head is an ancient tradition from very early times, and is different is each culture. It is a time of great bonding for the mother, and it cleanses that most sacred spot, the fontanelle, and it should be treated as such. It links the body with the spirit.
You can explain to your partner that you now have two spirit children.
Tony
this is my dream first one the night before last i had had a baby only a day old and i just went out and left it with out feeding or changing it whe i remembered i rushed back to make its bottle and change it but dropped it when trying to make the bottle then i couldnt change its nappy was asif i didnt no how then the next night same kind of dream bt i left the baby on a bus and it took me forever to find it again the strange part is its been the same baby in all the dreams i have had a few more like this in the past few weeks but none that stand out as mucch as this one
Lucy – This is your dream baby. Like any baby, it is something new and vulnerable that has come to life – come to your life. The important question is, what is it that is new and growing in your love, in your work, or in yourself? In your case your dreams are pointing out a serious situation, that even though you are trying, you seem to be mishandling this new and vulnerable part of you. And remember that this is about a new part of YOU, not an external baby.
So to learn to take care of it the first thing to realise is that dreams are a purely mental phenomenon, and are about your inner life that you meet when you close your eyes and do not listen to anything outside you. So it is important to help you baby self by using visualisation or imagination. Take your baby in you arms and hold it tenderly. Tell it how sorry you are about leaving it and how you will do better from here on.
The baby part of you that you are dreaming about is not an intellectual verbal process. The baby doesn’t think. Its feelings are not expressed in words. Its experience was one that involved it in total body sensations and passionate and all consuming hungers and emotions. So watch out for any such feelings that you have, and when you notice them have an image of caring for your baby. And realise that you as a baby is still alive in you as habits and feeling memories.
Tony