Dreams about Dead People

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Dreams about a Dead Person

How can We Talk to the Dead and They can Talk With Us?

Dreams about a Dead Husband or Wife

Dreams about a Dead Mother

Dreams about a Dead Child 

Summary of after death experience

What Happens When Our Body Dies?

Coming back to earth 

The Journey Through Death and Back

Journeying Beyond Dreams and Death

Dreams about People We Know who have Died

Dreams in which dead people appear are sometimes expressive of our attempts to deal with our feelings, guilt or anger in connection with the person who died; or our own feelings about death. When someone close to us dies we go through a period of change from relating to them as an external reality, to meeting and accepting them as alive in our memories and inner life.

It is wise to understand something before you read what else has been said. For instance, a single cell, which is a seed from which all life forms evolved from, doesn’t become old or die because it is immortal, for it keeps dividing and doesn’t die. In dividing it constantly creates copies of itself, but as it does  so it gathers new experience, it changes what is copied, so becomes the ‘seed’ for multi-cellular organism. We all started from the original one cell, and we, you and I,  are the result of gathered experience.

As adults we believe we are complete and whole. A seed is a return to the source of life and it/our beginnings under the sun. Consciousness on our planet started in the slime of creation, the slime we return to, to procreate. And from that slime which is a vehicle for our seed to exist in, our awareness goes through the whole process of evolution as we develop in mother’s womb, the dividing of cells, the forming of structure and organs, the creation of a creature with gills, and on to a human type form ready to breathe air, carrying your seed onwards.

As one textbook states, “A human is not constructed like a modern office building, as cheaply and efficiently as possible. . . but rather like an ancient historic edifice to which wings and sections were added at different times and which was not modernised until it was almost completed.” See Levels of the Brain

In doing so it uses many of the things that Life or Nature learnt from past life-forms that it  uses in dealing with human life. As an example plants use very clever system with bulbs and other root systems. A bulb can grow a new flower each year and each flower is a totally new and unique thing. The the flower dies and its essense or experience is drawn back into the bulb, and next season another unique flower emerges. This hold true for humans too.

Our present personality has never existed before. It lives with a new brain that doesn’t carry old memories. Searching within its own experience and memories it could never find memory of any past lives because our present brain has no connection with the past seeds, yet our seed is the collection of man, many lives lived. Tendencies, unaccountable fears or talents, give the clue to these past selves.  See Mushrooms

These past lives are not remembered easily because the new soul that developed in the new body had no past connections because it has a new brain. The soul or personality is built from the local memories stored in the new brain. So, memories of the past can only be attained by a deep awareness of our core awareness.

So, dead people can simply be people from our past. Considering that the major part of our learning and experience occur in relationship to other people, such learning and experience can be represented by characters from the past. For instance a first boyfriend in a dream would depict all the emotions and struggles we met in that relationship, and what we learned from it or took away from it that still influences present relationships. Therefore dreaming often of people we knew in the past would suggest that past experiences or lessons are very active at the moment, or we are reviewing those areas of our life. A woman who had emigrated to Britain from a very different cultural background frequently dreamt, even twenty years afterwards, of people she knew in her native country. This shows her still very much in contact with her own cultural values and experiences.

Example: ‘My husband’s mother, no longer alive, came and slid her arms carefully under me and lifted me up. I shouted ‘Put me down! Put me down! I don’t want to go yet.’ She carefully lowered me onto the bed and disappeared.’ E. H. – In this example the dreamer is feeling fear about being carried off by death.

Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr M.

Here the dreamer has not only come to terms with his mother’s and his own death, but also found this inner reality.

Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning toward him which I had done so often in his lifetime and saying ‘I thought you had died. Thank God you have not.’ Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken.’ Mrs I. – The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality.

A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort. Thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the women has within her such memories to replay. These are a reality. The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband. The ‘aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of the same person. What arises into their own lives from such memories, is the observable influence of the now dead person. But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. See: Dead Husband or Ex

Example: In a recent news program on television, a man who survived the Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know. The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name. The photograph was kept for forty odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not know how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph.

Dreams about a Dead Person – General Meaning:

This can represent some area of your life that has ‘died’. It can refer to death of feelings, such as hopelessness in connection with relationship and the loss of feelings about someone; the depression that follows big changes in your life such as loss of a loved partner, job, or child. It can also reflect the sense you have of your life in general, that it is without the stimulus of motivation and satisfaction, as when one feels oneself in a ‘going nowhere’ relationship or life situation. The dead person in the dream may link several of these feelings together, as symbols often represent huge areas of our experience. So the dead person my be a part of oneself you want to leave behind, to die out.

Some dreams are so clearly about the person who died. Here is an example of such a dream by a young child.

With his brothers and friends he went to bathe in a mill pool. He was only four or five at the time, and could not swim. In the recklessness of their-play, one of the children pushed him into deeper water. At that moment, the mill gates opened and water rushed through carrying him along. He was drowned – but some adults who were hastily called to the scene managed to pull him out and revive him.

As his father carried him home in his arms, the boy talked about his mother, who had died some years earlier and at first his father smiled at his story.

The boy said that as he went under the water he felt himself sinking down and down into darkness. Then there was a change and he felt himself rising up slowly until at last he rose to the surface.

He was in a huge sea. Around him, other people were also surfacing, and all were being gradually washed towards the nearby shore. There on the beach, people waited, and greeted those who were brought to them by the sea.

And as he himself drew near there on a small promontory were his grandparents waiting to welcome him – and in front – his mother, and she bent to draw him into her arms. She took hold of his hands and as she did so, a cross around her neck swung before his face. Sparkling in it were seven stones. But at that moment, something seemed to pull him away, and he sank into the sea and at last awoke on the riverbank.

The other half of the Story

At the conclusion of the story, his father’s condescending smile vanished. They were now at home and his father left the room, obviously deeply moved. Only years later did he tell his son the other half of the story.

The boy’s mother had died when her son was tiny and she had died on her birthday. For many weeks before, her husband had saved for a special present which he had kept secret. On her death, heart-broken, he had crept down to the coffin in the middle of the night, unscrewed the lid and given the present to his dead wife. It was a cross with seven stones, and the secret of it had been buried with her.

Putting together a picture of many such death experiences, we can begin to see a general view of what it might be like, what it certainly is for some, to die.

First of all comes a lessening and eventual disappearance of bodily sensations. Although all pain and physical awareness goes, most people are still conscious of their physical surroundings and of other people. In fact they often watch their own body breathe its last struggling breaths.

Usually people see themselves in a body, but it’s sometimes more perfect than the body they have just left. Their perceptions are nearly always enormously heightened in many ways. There seems to be no sensation of gravity or weight – the whole room or area can be seen instantaneously, as if with circular vision, and there is an awareness of the thoughts and emotions of those present.

See Talking with those who have passed on

Dreams about a Dead Husband or Wife:

Many dreams of dead people come from women who have lost their husband. It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband or wife at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the meeting become easier.

But as with the example above, there are many cases where people meet their dead in dreams and have tremendous assurance.

Dreams about a Dead Mother:

As with other ‘dead person’ dreams they usually show how we are working out or unfolding our relationship with them. They can be wonderfully confirming of continued existence.

Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr. M.

Dreams about a Dead Child:

When our child dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this.

The example below shows how this can be possible.

For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’

Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’.

When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality.

After her conversation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.

Summary of after death experience

Because after death we are still in a dream like existence, we tend to create around us those things we expect to see or experience. So someone who has no previous information about death may wander around for awhile confused. A Christian may see Christ welcoming them, so the beginnings are very varied, and a Buddhist might meet Buddha, or a Muslim might see Muhammad. But there is some sort of life review. This is about harvesting all of value from the life experience. Not only do we gathered the lessons we learned from our life, but we also relive it moment by moment, feeling and reviewing our own feelings, but also the feelings we engendered in others. But because we are no longer living a life in three dimensions and time, it will be an all at once experience, not stretched over time.

This can be quite a trial considering the life we have lived. But it is not a judgement from outside us, but a self judgement of the quality of our life. We need to pass through this because after death we have left the physical world and moving toward the spiritual. We can see this as the Big Self; the Self with Enormous Love. But there is an enormous transition taking place at death. We lived within a body, and now without it we have to be ready for life without it in what is called the spirit world. That is why the life review is necessary. All our earthly experience has to be put through a transformation to make it fit for a wider life. The wider life works through universal connections, and the less we personally can connect with the universal the less fit we are for the universal life.

Something that I have noticed is that some people believe, and therefore experience, that ‘heaven’ is exactly like life on earth except better. They see it as having houses and living much the same way. But that is not really the whole truth, because just as our body grows and changes, so do we in the after death state.

It seems as if there is a great difference between existing in a body and surviving in the grand world of the spirit. For in the spirit world there has to be found something that will link the life with giving and receiving from others, and of course the integration with a greater purpose.

Many people say they go along a tunnel toward a great light, and then a great spirit leads them through life review. Others go through a door to the light, and others go up a flight of grand stairs.

Having lost their body and its appetites there may be a period of adaptation to a life in a world without boundaries. Also because the spirit world is similar to the world of dreams, you create around you an environment made up of your own inner state. So if you are full of hate, murderous impulses and selfishness, you create a world like that is usually called hell. We are not ‘cast into hell’ we create it ourselves.

The same with heaven, it is created out of all the attitudes and ideas and feelings that are in harmony with the way the universe works or is. As a friend told me after his death, “I cannot escape myself. This is because everywhere I look is like a mirror. Every direction I find a reflection of me. It is  three-dimensional. It doesn’t matter if I look up or down, left or right, all I see are expressions of who I am.”

At first one will look much as you did at death, except if you are old or ill, then you have quickly gained a more youthful and healthy appearance.  But of course that is only your physical shape, and you will create that because that is who you think you are. But a great and probably slow swing over will occur. Because your body is gone, and you are moving toward the spiritual being that has always stood behind your life and witnessed it and given it impulses to try to live out, so gradually you may lose any sense of being male or female.

It is possible some people will not make it that far, but will go into a sleep state until their next life in the body. But if they can maintain consciousness as they meet these changes they will slowly become a greater being, and have an awareness that could be seen as super human, touching all around them. This is why some dead relatives come back to us in dreams and visions and tell us things they would never have normally been capable of knowing.

Another conversation with a dead friend stated some of this:

I seems to me that things are different for me now. I feel something that is difficult to understand. I seem to be getting  less and less of the me I knew; yet at the same time more of who I am. More of me is being lost, but at the same time more of me is being gained. A strange paradox.

Then there is the going beyond even more barriers toward what can be called real spiritual awareness.

In the next region, one sees how the person’s life has accorded not only with their own Self, but with the ‘true being of the world’. We see ourselves as we exist, in or out of harmony with that world consciousness, that essence of all beings, sometimes called God or the Christ, or Krishna, or Buddha. Here is the judging, the self judging, of the ‘quick and the dead.’

And finally, in this withdrawal, the seventh region is reached, ‘quick or dead’, asleep or awake to the highest in us. ‘The man stands here’ says Steiner, ‘in the presence of the “Life-kernels”, which have been transplanted from higher worlds, in order that in them they may fulfil their tasks.’ These ‘tasks’, expressing through the self, mediated by the soul, and materialised by the body, usually motivate us unconsciously. In this region, if consciousness remains, we know ourselves as the whole cosmos of sun, moon, planets, and stars; as all beings, creatures and kingdoms. When we look at these through our physical eyes, we are looking at our own wholeness. The ‘Life kernel’ is the doorway to other ‘cosmic beings’. ‘The life between death and a new birth, and is really a living through the world of stars: but this means, through the spirit of the world of stars,’ not the physical stars. See What Happens When I Die?

Coming back to earth

Having made this ascent to the innermost of our nature, the essence of the whole cosmos, there now comes for most of us, a return to a fresh physical experience.

There awakens a ‘desire’ or direction, to perfect one’s own being and that of the earth. ‘Thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven,’ is an impulse from this region. Depending upon what fruits were brought to each region, this descent enables certain things, qualities or strengths to be ‘claimed’ from each level of our being. A new spiritual ‘seed’ or ‘germ’ is fashioned which will play its part in fashioning our body. The essence of the future personality chooses the hereditary line and its parents. Steiner says the parents provide a seed bed of physical substance, impregnated with their own characteristics of body and psyche. At conception, the material substance is broken down into the germinal level of chaos, in which all physical form is dissolved. The spirit ‘germ’ of the new being takes hold of this.

At birth the ‘germ’ of the future personality and body, is clothed with physical substance drawn from the parents, along with inherited temperamental qualities. Working with these as materials is the essence of the past life and death experience. This spiritual impulse, takes the ‘model’ given by the parents, and works into it the pattern it brings from its central experience. So there comes into being, through life and death, another life upon the earth.

Just as there was a reliving of life at death, so just prior to birth there is a reliving of death. ‘He sees a tableau which this time displays all the hindrances he must remove, if his evolution is to make further progress. And what he sees becomes the starting point of forces that he must carry with him into a new life.  See Life and Death; Steiner Life after death

Another conversation with a dead friend provided the following information.

I am in process of creating a new life. But this is something like a work of art, not however, as we think of it with brush and paint. I felt it like a constant rise and fall of possibilities and forms that I, the Spirit I, was giving birth to. As one rose it expressed a certain quality, and this was in some way compared, or its harmonic compared, with all that existed in the changing spiritual and physical world. There was as yet no total interface between what was being created in this way, and what was expressed by the changing worlds. So I was gradually sifting the emphasis of all it contained from life experience and its possible future connections with physical life, moving toward a harmonic unity. It was explained to me that the unity would be a real connection with time, place, parents and the life that would emerge from them. When that harmonic unity was made the new life would begin.

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-Norris's 2013-09-29 15:49:57

I’m pregnant with twin and I had a dream of my dead cousin and nephew What that mean

    -Tony Crisp 2013-09-30 8:12:08

    Norris’s – I really do not know what it means unless you give me a lot more to work on – a whole dream description would be good.


-Chris 2013-09-28 17:05:18

I had a dream of a man I have loved for 52 years….He died last year and I am deeply stressed about it. In the dream I told him I’d always love him…he did not answer me ..he was standing in fromt of a window in a suit with his back to me. I was never married to him but did have an off and on affair with him….I never told him my true feelings…

-Jen 2013-09-27 22:49:34

I had a dream last night of my deceased grandmother who I was very close with. I was talking to her on the phone and she was telling me that it was so beautiful where she was and that she was very happy and it was such a happy dream, until the end when I was standing in between a doorway still on the phone with her and then something tugged very quickly on my shirt and there was nothing there…it scared me and I woke up. What would scare me when I was so happy and excited in my dream to be talking to my grandmother?

    -Tony Crisp 2013-10-01 8:21:21

    Jen – Please read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions/#TalkingDead it will hopefully explain the reason you were frightened at the end – because it is only thoughts we are aware of with the dead, and you were looking with your physical eyes.

    The telephone is an image we often use to represent communication. And the doorway is the door between the living and the dead. Your grandmother managed to reach through that barrier to show you she can still touch you and help you.


-Kerrie 2013-09-25 16:44:13

I lost my husband on 8/9 to suicide. Since then, I’ve had very few dreams. I first dreamed that he had not died but had run away. This meant that we had to get married again (we had only been married in reality 8 months at the time of his passing). I didn’t see him in this dream, but I remember feeling the same giddy and happy feelings from our wedding day. Then, two strangers snuck up to the alter before the ceremony to drink the ceremony wine. I was furious and cursed them in front of the whole church.

My second dream involved him being in jail instead of dead. I went to the jail to see him but was informed that he had gone down to memphis (5 hrs away) for the day to look for work. They also indicated that he did not want to be found and was trying to fly under the radar instead of coming back to me.

The third significant dream was just last night. I did get to see his face but i was not allowed to communicate with him. I was allowed to write down all of my unanswered questions regarding his death on a piece of paper. I remember two of the questions: 1. why were there 2 notes left, and 2. what did the interrogation entail. We were separated by a glass wall that felt like being inside a jail. I did not get any answers to my questions, but I did see that he felt embarassed, unsure, uncomfortable, and confused. This is very out of character for him. He was always confident and in control.

-Adrianne Rochell 2013-09-21 5:30:02

I am constantly aiding and encouraging sick people mostly cancer, I lost a friend on Monday due to a 5 yr battle with colon cancer after her services I came home and had a dream she was dead but alive over her body she held two hands one was hers and clearly one was mines they were clutched together like a purse she lifted them up and unclutched the fingers leaving in her hand to fall limp all the time a warm smile she seemed to start to fade away then she put my hand into the hand of another and an image appeared as a person and it was my best friend who was just diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer I was under the impression she was letting me know I have ended one journey to move to another .

-Sue 2013-09-20 0:40:01

I dream of dead relatives such as my dad and sister, mostly of my father, here lately I have been dreaming of my ex boyfriend who died of cancer in 2009, He warns me that if I don’t stop smoking I will die .I have been smoking for 8 years now what is the dead trying to tell me?I’ve had these dreams two nights in a row, and sometimes I die in my dreams.

-Anne 2013-09-18 10:16:30

I woke up by a very vivid dream early this morning. I was sitting on my sofa at home and a little white cat was there playing. My best friend Jacqueline who died last year approached me and started imploring me to take it and save its life. Love for animals is something we shared and we gave many battles together to save helpless animals while she was alive. (Bizzarly at the table after her funeral a cat entered out of nowhere and climbed on a chair staying there with us….) I told her I have too many pets and a flat on a mortgage while I travel too much. That I worry sometimes, that another pet is too much and I wish I would get married and go live in a house with a garden with a husband who loves animals and will help me with them. I was crying, telling her I so much want to adopt the white kitten if only I could feel safer and Jacqueline held my hand. I could not see her but I can still feel her touch. She cried too, she said she knows how I feel and told me not to worry. I miss her terribly. She was older than me and was almost like a mother. It was wonderful to feel her so close. It is the first time this happened after her death.

    -Tony Crisp 2013-09-23 8:39:42

    Anne – A lovely dream and very clearly about your continued ability to be in touch with Jacqueline. The thing about the strange cat visited you was a sign that your friend was telling you she was alive and caring for you.

    The plea to save the kitten can also have another meaning. It could be saying that your present way of life doesn’t allow you to care for your own vulnerable self, which if not care for will slowly die. The kitten ‘you’ can grow into a lovely and satisfying experience.


      -Anne 2013-09-23 10:28:34

      Thank you so very much Tony. Both are true. I did leave my vulnerable self somewhere on the road and Jacqueline often pointed that out to me. Her cancer had made her very spiritual. She was almost in limbo between the living and the dead for quite a while and reflected a lot. I know she cared for me a lot and it feels wonderful to still have her by my side.

-abeltimi 2013-09-09 12:02:46

dream about seeing dead people

-Stacey Engel 2013-09-07 19:39:11

I have had this dream twice now. My husband who has been gone 16 months comes back from the dead. I know and he knows he was dead, but suddenly he is alive again. Both times I’ve dreamed this, I cried and was so happy, I told him how much I missed him while he was gone and how much I loved him. I don’t remember a lot of anything else except we were out shopping for rugs and I was telling him that his funeral cost me 20,000 dollars and there was no money.

    -Tony Crisp 2013-09-09 8:25:02

    Stacey – Well the first part is easy. Most people who watch their dreams meet their dead partner who is now alive. It is a common dream and is a sort of mixed up contact with your husband. I say ‘mixed up’ because dreams are always created by our thoughts and feeling. So your feelings about the cost of the funeral got mixed up with the fairly obvious contact. Also you were treating the dream as if your husband had come back, so went out shopping – a pleasure you probably shared with him. Next time see something of the world he is in.


-vipin 2013-08-27 19:42:26

Would you please help me..
My girl friend have a incurable deaease and recently she dreamed of her doctor who passed away around five years ago. And in the dream she saw it like they are married and sittin in a home which she havent ever seen. And he was really calm in the dream (the dr) , not aggressive. Thats all she can remember.. she didnt see him marrying her but she tells in the dream he was his husband. would you please tell me what does this dream mean. When i asked her, she said she havent had any memories of him recently neither he was like her favourite one or some. Still she saw him and that too as his husb…
Please help.

-Maggie 2013-08-27 19:00:36

I had dream about going to hospital to visit my grandfather (he was in hospital at that time) but after i saw him I went to another room where a newly born infant was lying on the table. The child was supposed to be my cousin’s (I know he doesn’t plan to have any children in the near future) and all of a sudden my great grandma appeared and blessed the child by doing a cross sign on its forehead.
If you could help me interpret this dream I’d be really grateful as I can’t stop thinking about it.

    -Tony Crisp 2013-09-02 8:28:35

    Maggie – Somehow this is linked with death, but has a message of hope and beauty. You didn’t say whether you grandfather is now dead or alive. But the appearance of the great grandma is certainly a sign of a link with the wisdom of your forebears – the wisdom coming when they passed on.

    Everything in our dreams relates to yourself in some way, so the baby doesn’t have anything to do with your cousin’s future, but is an indication or what sort of character you see the cousin as. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/characters-or-people-in-dreams/

    The baby is either something of great importance of your own that has or is coming into your life – see http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#WomCreative – or it could indicate a special child that you could give birth to.


-mira 2013-08-23 19:30:07

why do i dream about my dead x angry at me

-Rebecca 2013-08-20 15:55:19

I am 64 yrs –I have been married to the same man since I was 19. My husband was gifted a heart from a24 yr old who had killed himself. I have always been physically faithful to my husband. But when I was a17 I was in love with the best man Ai could have eve wished for. He was 18. My Mother refused to understand our love. Once we went to a Motel and did everything but final sexton. So 45 years have gone and my love forNick is stronger than ever. He left the Usa when he was 20. He went to Canada to avoid the draft. I never got in touch with him but always knew when my 2 children were grown that I would find him and be with him forever. He had boughtus both wedding bands for the future. But my future with him ended when my alcoholic Mother found letters he wrote me when I was in college. Beautiful love letters. When panicky was 24 he was in horrific car crash and died. I gave my sister my bpring to wear. She never took it off until she married a year ago. She sent the ring to me. Before the ring came back—-I felt touched that were fleeting. Kisses on.my forehead or on the back of my neck. Twice I heard my name be. called. I cry everyday about letting him go. I sometimes feel his arms around me and his whispering in my ear. We loved to dance the slow dances with our our bodies close and our ears deaf to everything else in the world. I have truly been qlk.tioning life and then I cry for what all I gave upup in this laughter and song danced filled life I.didnt get. What can I do to stop my insane mind. I can not continue like this. Forgot to mention that before I began to hear and feel him and want him _I had hit my head and was ubconcious for 10–15 minutes.THANK YOU

-Bonnie 2013-08-13 13:28:22

I had a dream where my immediate family Mom, Dad, sisters, brother-in-law, grandparents and my X in-laws and grandparents who have past are a together in what I’d call a Family Reuion in the forest preserve. They are smiling and having fun and talking to me however I can’t remember anything about the conversations. iwas happy to see them and they me.Can you help me understand this dream please.

-Joanne 2013-08-04 13:39:08

Please help me if u can. I continue to have dreams about my deceased husband (he died in 2001 at age 31). In life before he passed he was having an affair, my dreams are always about him cheating on me with no regard to me and the boys. In one dream he even had his new girlfriend come to my house to pick out furniture and another dream I found out he had a little girl, in another he faked his death and I found out he was still alive.
I’m often shaken up to the core after I awake. When he died in 2001 we were still together and I was just learning about the relationship with the girl in his office. It’s been so long, I haven’t remarried due to raising 2 boys as a priority. Please give me comfort and make sense of all this for me. Please.

    -Fa 2013-09-02 5:12:29

    Hi Joanne,
    I have also been having very disturbing dreams of my deceased husband. He passed when he was 31 years as well. We had a newborn when he passed. My dreams are always about him coming back to life. But he doesn’t want to be with us, he doesn’t love us, and I am extremely hurt and confused that he is still living. I don’t know what this means. The dreams continue every night, and are never the same, sometimes they take place in the past and sometimes they are in the present. I have no idea why I keep having them. I feel emotionally drained when I wake up and tortured.

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