Dreams about Dead People

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Dreams about a Dead Person

How can We Talk to the Dead and They can Talk With Us?

Dreams about a Dead Husband or Wife

Dreams about a Dead Mother

Dreams about a Dead Child 

Summary of after death experience

What Happens When Our Body Dies?

Coming back to earth 

The Journey Through Death and Back

Journeying Beyond Dreams and Death

Dreams about People We Know who have Died

Dreams in which dead people appear are sometimes expressive of our attempts to deal with our feelings, guilt or anger in connection with the person who died; or our own feelings about death. When someone close to us dies we go through a period of change from relating to them as an external reality, to meeting and accepting them as alive in our memories and inner life.

It is wise to understand something before you read what else has been said. For instance, a single cell, which is a seed from which all life forms evolved from, doesn’t become old or die because it is immortal, for it keeps dividing and doesn’t die. In dividing it constantly creates copies of itself, but as it does  so it gathers new experience, it changes what is copied, so becomes the ‘seed’ for multi-cellular organism. We all started from the original one cell, and we, you and I,  are the result of gathered experience.

As adults we believe we are complete and whole. A seed is a return to the source of life and it/our beginnings under the sun. Consciousness on our planet started in the slime of creation, the slime we return to, to procreate. And from that slime which is a vehicle for our seed to exist in, our awareness goes through the whole process of evolution as we develop in mother’s womb, the dividing of cells, the forming of structure and organs, the creation of a creature with gills, and on to a human type form ready to breathe air, carrying your seed onwards.

As one textbook states, “A human is not constructed like a modern office building, as cheaply and efficiently as possible. . . but rather like an ancient historic edifice to which wings and sections were added at different times and which was not modernised until it was almost completed.” See Levels of the Brain

In doing so it uses many of the things that Life or Nature learnt from past life-forms that it  uses in dealing with human life. As an example plants use very clever system with bulbs and other root systems. A bulb can grow a new flower each year and each flower is a totally new and unique thing. The the flower dies and its essense or experience is drawn back into the bulb, and next season another unique flower emerges. This hold true for humans too.

Our present personality has never existed before. It lives with a new brain that doesn’t carry old memories. Searching within its own experience and memories it could never find memory of any past lives because our present brain has no connection with the past seeds, yet our seed is the collection of man, many lives lived. Tendencies, unaccountable fears or talents, give the clue to these past selves.  See Mushrooms

These past lives are not remembered easily because the new soul that developed in the new body had no past connections because it has a new brain. The soul or personality is built from the local memories stored in the new brain. So, memories of the past can only be attained by a deep awareness of our core awareness.

So, dead people can simply be people from our past. Considering that the major part of our learning and experience occur in relationship to other people, such learning and experience can be represented by characters from the past. For instance a first boyfriend in a dream would depict all the emotions and struggles we met in that relationship, and what we learned from it or took away from it that still influences present relationships. Therefore dreaming often of people we knew in the past would suggest that past experiences or lessons are very active at the moment, or we are reviewing those areas of our life. A woman who had emigrated to Britain from a very different cultural background frequently dreamt, even twenty years afterwards, of people she knew in her native country. This shows her still very much in contact with her own cultural values and experiences.

Example: ‘My husband’s mother, no longer alive, came and slid her arms carefully under me and lifted me up. I shouted ‘Put me down! Put me down! I don’t want to go yet.’ She carefully lowered me onto the bed and disappeared.’ E. H. – In this example the dreamer is feeling fear about being carried off by death.

Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr M.

Here the dreamer has not only come to terms with his mother’s and his own death, but also found this inner reality.

Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning toward him which I had done so often in his lifetime and saying ‘I thought you had died. Thank God you have not.’ Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken.’ Mrs I. – The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality.

A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort. Thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the women has within her such memories to replay. These are a reality. The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband. The ‘aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of the same person. What arises into their own lives from such memories, is the observable influence of the now dead person. But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. See: Dead Husband or Ex

Example: In a recent news program on television, a man who survived the Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know. The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name. The photograph was kept for forty odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not know how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph.

Dreams about a Dead Person – General Meaning:

This can represent some area of your life that has ‘died’. It can refer to death of feelings, such as hopelessness in connection with relationship and the loss of feelings about someone; the depression that follows big changes in your life such as loss of a loved partner, job, or child. It can also reflect the sense you have of your life in general, that it is without the stimulus of motivation and satisfaction, as when one feels oneself in a ‘going nowhere’ relationship or life situation. The dead person in the dream may link several of these feelings together, as symbols often represent huge areas of our experience. So the dead person my be a part of oneself you want to leave behind, to die out.

Some dreams are so clearly about the person who died. Here is an example of such a dream by a young child.

With his brothers and friends he went to bathe in a mill pool. He was only four or five at the time, and could not swim. In the recklessness of their-play, one of the children pushed him into deeper water. At that moment, the mill gates opened and water rushed through carrying him along. He was drowned – but some adults who were hastily called to the scene managed to pull him out and revive him.

As his father carried him home in his arms, the boy talked about his mother, who had died some years earlier and at first his father smiled at his story.

The boy said that as he went under the water he felt himself sinking down and down into darkness. Then there was a change and he felt himself rising up slowly until at last he rose to the surface.

He was in a huge sea. Around him, other people were also surfacing, and all were being gradually washed towards the nearby shore. There on the beach, people waited, and greeted those who were brought to them by the sea.

And as he himself drew near there on a small promontory were his grandparents waiting to welcome him – and in front – his mother, and she bent to draw him into her arms. She took hold of his hands and as she did so, a cross around her neck swung before his face. Sparkling in it were seven stones. But at that moment, something seemed to pull him away, and he sank into the sea and at last awoke on the riverbank.

The other half of the Story

At the conclusion of the story, his father’s condescending smile vanished. They were now at home and his father left the room, obviously deeply moved. Only years later did he tell his son the other half of the story.

The boy’s mother had died when her son was tiny and she had died on her birthday. For many weeks before, her husband had saved for a special present which he had kept secret. On her death, heart-broken, he had crept down to the coffin in the middle of the night, unscrewed the lid and given the present to his dead wife. It was a cross with seven stones, and the secret of it had been buried with her.

Putting together a picture of many such death experiences, we can begin to see a general view of what it might be like, what it certainly is for some, to die.

First of all comes a lessening and eventual disappearance of bodily sensations. Although all pain and physical awareness goes, most people are still conscious of their physical surroundings and of other people. In fact they often watch their own body breathe its last struggling breaths.

Usually people see themselves in a body, but it’s sometimes more perfect than the body they have just left. Their perceptions are nearly always enormously heightened in many ways. There seems to be no sensation of gravity or weight – the whole room or area can be seen instantaneously, as if with circular vision, and there is an awareness of the thoughts and emotions of those present.

See Talking with those who have passed on

Dreams about a Dead Husband or Wife:

Many dreams of dead people come from women who have lost their husband. It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband or wife at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the meeting become easier.

But as with the example above, there are many cases where people meet their dead in dreams and have tremendous assurance.

Dreams about a Dead Mother:

As with other ‘dead person’ dreams they usually show how we are working out or unfolding our relationship with them. They can be wonderfully confirming of continued existence.

Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr. M.

Dreams about a Dead Child:

When our child dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this.

The example below shows how this can be possible.

For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’

Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’.

When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality.

After her conversation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.

Summary of after death experience

Because after death we are still in a dream like existence, we tend to create around us those things we expect to see or experience. So someone who has no previous information about death may wander around for awhile confused. A Christian may see Christ welcoming them, so the beginnings are very varied, and a Buddhist might meet Buddha, or a Muslim might see Muhammad. But there is some sort of life review. This is about harvesting all of value from the life experience. Not only do we gathered the lessons we learned from our life, but we also relive it moment by moment, feeling and reviewing our own feelings, but also the feelings we engendered in others. But because we are no longer living a life in three dimensions and time, it will be an all at once experience, not stretched over time.

This can be quite a trial considering the life we have lived. But it is not a judgement from outside us, but a self judgement of the quality of our life. We need to pass through this because after death we have left the physical world and moving toward the spiritual. We can see this as the Big Self; the Self with Enormous Love. But there is an enormous transition taking place at death. We lived within a body, and now without it we have to be ready for life without it in what is called the spirit world. That is why the life review is necessary. All our earthly experience has to be put through a transformation to make it fit for a wider life. The wider life works through universal connections, and the less we personally can connect with the universal the less fit we are for the universal life.

Something that I have noticed is that some people believe, and therefore experience, that ‘heaven’ is exactly like life on earth except better. They see it as having houses and living much the same way. But that is not really the whole truth, because just as our body grows and changes, so do we in the after death state.

It seems as if there is a great difference between existing in a body and surviving in the grand world of the spirit. For in the spirit world there has to be found something that will link the life with giving and receiving from others, and of course the integration with a greater purpose.

Many people say they go along a tunnel toward a great light, and then a great spirit leads them through life review. Others go through a door to the light, and others go up a flight of grand stairs.

Having lost their body and its appetites there may be a period of adaptation to a life in a world without boundaries. Also because the spirit world is similar to the world of dreams, you create around you an environment made up of your own inner state. So if you are full of hate, murderous impulses and selfishness, you create a world like that is usually called hell. We are not ‘cast into hell’ we create it ourselves.

The same with heaven, it is created out of all the attitudes and ideas and feelings that are in harmony with the way the universe works or is. As a friend told me after his death, “I cannot escape myself. This is because everywhere I look is like a mirror. Every direction I find a reflection of me. It is  three-dimensional. It doesn’t matter if I look up or down, left or right, all I see are expressions of who I am.”

At first one will look much as you did at death, except if you are old or ill, then you have quickly gained a more youthful and healthy appearance.  But of course that is only your physical shape, and you will create that because that is who you think you are. But a great and probably slow swing over will occur. Because your body is gone, and you are moving toward the spiritual being that has always stood behind your life and witnessed it and given it impulses to try to live out, so gradually you may lose any sense of being male or female.

It is possible some people will not make it that far, but will go into a sleep state until their next life in the body. But if they can maintain consciousness as they meet these changes they will slowly become a greater being, and have an awareness that could be seen as super human, touching all around them. This is why some dead relatives come back to us in dreams and visions and tell us things they would never have normally been capable of knowing.

Another conversation with a dead friend stated some of this:

I seems to me that things are different for me now. I feel something that is difficult to understand. I seem to be getting  less and less of the me I knew; yet at the same time more of who I am. More of me is being lost, but at the same time more of me is being gained. A strange paradox.

Then there is the going beyond even more barriers toward what can be called real spiritual awareness.

In the next region, one sees how the person’s life has accorded not only with their own Self, but with the ‘true being of the world’. We see ourselves as we exist, in or out of harmony with that world consciousness, that essence of all beings, sometimes called God or the Christ, or Krishna, or Buddha. Here is the judging, the self judging, of the ‘quick and the dead.’

And finally, in this withdrawal, the seventh region is reached, ‘quick or dead’, asleep or awake to the highest in us. ‘The man stands here’ says Steiner, ‘in the presence of the “Life-kernels”, which have been transplanted from higher worlds, in order that in them they may fulfil their tasks.’ These ‘tasks’, expressing through the self, mediated by the soul, and materialised by the body, usually motivate us unconsciously. In this region, if consciousness remains, we know ourselves as the whole cosmos of sun, moon, planets, and stars; as all beings, creatures and kingdoms. When we look at these through our physical eyes, we are looking at our own wholeness. The ‘Life kernel’ is the doorway to other ‘cosmic beings’. ‘The life between death and a new birth, and is really a living through the world of stars: but this means, through the spirit of the world of stars,’ not the physical stars. See What Happens When I Die?

Coming back to earth

Having made this ascent to the innermost of our nature, the essence of the whole cosmos, there now comes for most of us, a return to a fresh physical experience.

There awakens a ‘desire’ or direction, to perfect one’s own being and that of the earth. ‘Thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven,’ is an impulse from this region. Depending upon what fruits were brought to each region, this descent enables certain things, qualities or strengths to be ‘claimed’ from each level of our being. A new spiritual ‘seed’ or ‘germ’ is fashioned which will play its part in fashioning our body. The essence of the future personality chooses the hereditary line and its parents. Steiner says the parents provide a seed bed of physical substance, impregnated with their own characteristics of body and psyche. At conception, the material substance is broken down into the germinal level of chaos, in which all physical form is dissolved. The spirit ‘germ’ of the new being takes hold of this.

At birth the ‘germ’ of the future personality and body, is clothed with physical substance drawn from the parents, along with inherited temperamental qualities. Working with these as materials is the essence of the past life and death experience. This spiritual impulse, takes the ‘model’ given by the parents, and works into it the pattern it brings from its central experience. So there comes into being, through life and death, another life upon the earth.

Just as there was a reliving of life at death, so just prior to birth there is a reliving of death. ‘He sees a tableau which this time displays all the hindrances he must remove, if his evolution is to make further progress. And what he sees becomes the starting point of forces that he must carry with him into a new life.  See Life and Death; Steiner Life after death

Another conversation with a dead friend provided the following information.

I am in process of creating a new life. But this is something like a work of art, not however, as we think of it with brush and paint. I felt it like a constant rise and fall of possibilities and forms that I, the Spirit I, was giving birth to. As one rose it expressed a certain quality, and this was in some way compared, or its harmonic compared, with all that existed in the changing spiritual and physical world. There was as yet no total interface between what was being created in this way, and what was expressed by the changing worlds. So I was gradually sifting the emphasis of all it contained from life experience and its possible future connections with physical life, moving toward a harmonic unity. It was explained to me that the unity would be a real connection with time, place, parents and the life that would emerge from them. When that harmonic unity was made the new life would begin.

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-makenzie 2015-01-02 0:01:28

I’m terrified. I just woke up not to long ago from a nap. I was dreaming and I was in all sorts of different places I guess? But everywhere I went, my grandmother, (deceased last year) was there each time. Either a in a picture or there with us. She had the same expression each time. Decaying and serious. She wouldn’t talk. This is unlike her. Then the last dream or place I was in my father’s room I heard someone going up the steps which are next to his room. I go over to look there my grandmother is climbing up the steps. I scream I’m alone in the house and it’s dark. She sees me. She really quickly climbs up the rest of the steps and jumps or tackles on top of me (it happened so fast). And she screams but it didn’t sound human or like her she sounded out of breath almost. Please help, I’m freaked out and I’d like to find out what it means..

-Kristina 2014-12-29 15:24:22

My cousin died from having a seizure while driving and it was horrific crash! I sat at his site to identify him all knowing it was him but I felt I really needed to know and had a hard time with his passing! I would have nightmares for months about his death I would see him crash and wake up screaming for months! His crash was so bad that even tho I didn’t get to look at him to identify him I know what it done to his body like it took half his head off and such. And 3 months after his passing I had a dream so real that I was driving down the road where we wrecked since it’s on the main highway. And when I got to the spot where he wrecked iny dream he appeared iny passenger seat and said hey cuz! I turned and said ur dead he said yes I am

-Susan Barrett 2014-12-24 13:29:40

I just lost my mother to a massive stroke on Dec 4 2014. I dreamt tonight that she was ok. That I had been mistaken. I felt both relief and anger. Relief that she was ok and anger at everyone else for beleiving she was gone. In the dream she was sitting in the livivg room talking to my cousin (living) and my Aunt (passed away in 2002) and we were all together like nothing was wrong. Was it just wishful thinking? Also read your bio and read about your stroke. Mum’s was so massive there was no hope for recovery. Before she passed she spent days completely paralyzed on the right side unable to speak or swallow. I saw recognition in her eyes once and she seemed really intrigued with a stuffed toy I gave her. It was an elephant hugging a baby elephant. She was my best friend most of my life and I am an only child who already lost my Dad in 1996, so this was very hard. It gives me some peace to know she didn’t feel totured being trapped and unable to move or speek. I would like to hear more about your experiences in hospital. Also, do you think ghe four of us, Mum cousin & Aunt had a mini reunion in the dream?
I look forward to your insights and I am going to buy one of your books.
Thanks Susan

    -Susan Barrett 2017-06-04 15:25:33

    It’s okay. I talk to myself all the time. Lol. I realize you are busy. It’s 2017 now and I still dream about Mum and other dead family members together wit living family members. Quite often we are all just sitting around talking together , relaxed. Sometimes eating and drinking like it’s a holiday celebration. I like these dreams. I always feel better after. Night before last though I had an odd one. I just sold Mum’s townhouse after much cleaning, clearing, decision making about what to keep, what to donate to charity, what to throw away. That was real and quite stressful. The dream was I was back in Calgary where her brother, my Uncle still lives ans Grandma and Grandaddy (their parents, actually deceased long ago, but well loved by me (I was lucky enough to have a really nice family) , anyway…it was supposed to be theri house byt it was different, larger and there were rooms I never knew existed before. One off the front in front of the dining room (where the dining room actually is) that was like an office wirh a large desk and there was a key and my grandmother was saying “don’t forget about this…it’s important.” Then later when I was talking to Mum she was trying to tell me she wasn’t really dead, and I was arguing with her that she was and she got mad at me and huffy. I ended up apologizing and grabbing a big hug from her (which felt real btw) and I turned to Grandma and asked her to talk to Mum for me to let her know that she isgone. She sort of just shrugged her shoulders and gave me a hug too…which also felt real. I came away from this very sad with two feelings. Is she mad at me for selling her home? And to make sure Ikeep I
    in touch/look after my Uncle who lives alone In that house In Calgary because he Is getting old and never married so I am kind of all he has. His next door neighbour is now my facebook friend. There was also a huge tree in the backyard with a tree swing in it that doesn’t exist in real life. Something about a security camera in the swing? I’m guessing the bad parts of this dream are guilt related. Mum had the stroke while I was at work and I woke up with a headache and almost called in sick that morning but went in to the office anyway. That was Friday. I was tired and didn’t call to check on her Friday evening, we discovered her Saturday morning and had no clue when the actual stroke happened. Doc tried to make me feel better by saying it was so massive that if I’d been in the next room when it happened it wouldn’t have mattered.
    Anyway…even if you don’t reply it helps somehow to type it all out. Thanks, Susan

      -Tony Crisp 2017-06-06 10:28:58

      Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

      Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/


      Susan – You seem to be mixing up your dream life with everyday physical life.

      Considering that we all have an inner world or dream world which is far more than the limited world shown by our senses, we can contact the so called dead and also each other, for we are like islands in a sea of consciousness, and the shoreline is the limit of our range of awareness. But our awareness spreads like an ocean in which we are like islands, and beyond the shoreline, beneath the surface, we are all connected. Also, you can never lose anybody you have lived with, cared for, and loved even when they die.

      Many modern physicists, working with the information arising in experiments with quantum theory, tell us that our view of the world is based upon our blindness, and is very limited, and through its limitation, unreal. The implications of the theorem are enormous. Something can be in two places at once, in fact everywhere at the same moment. Apparently distant objects, or people, are intricately linked in an immediate way. There is no separate existence as we previously thought. Our view of the world is not one supported by the facts of physics. Time and space are transcended. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/going-beyond/

      So no wonder your Mum got huffy trying to get through to you – most of us are programmed with old language and views.

      The house with extra rooms that you never knew existed, is a way of showing you that there are enormous possibilities built into you that you have never been aware of.

      The bad part of the dream have nothing to do with guilt about your mother’ death, but are all created by you antiquated beliefs and thinking. See http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/life-after-death/

-crystal 2014-12-22 14:17:47

I had a dream recently of my dead grandfather celebrating Christmas with the family.. He’s usually in most of my dreams. I always wondered why but I never seeked out for answers until now. Like I was saying we were celebrating Christmas as a family and I started freaking out about a gift my uncle gave me and then everyone started to leave except for me and my grandpa he was sleeping and I woke him up because I saw people outside the people introduced themselves as a spiritual group and they told me to read this paper and its weird because in my dream as I was reading the paper I was shaking and something inside me started to say to leave get out and everything was dark I again then looked outside and I saw the people in a van just watching me and the house . this really freaked me out I need answers!!!!!

-Alexandra Wininger 2014-12-21 18:28:41

My name is Alexandra and I’m 12. My father has past away recently and I saw my him in a dream and I went to hug him and he said that nobody could see him except me so I would have to listen to him. So he was dead in my dream but I could see him but he disappeared after he said that. What does that mean?

    -Tony Crisp 2014-12-22 9:22:32

    Alexandra – You have a rare gift and what your father told you is basically true. Our eyes are only sensitive to 1% of visible light and our ears only hear 1% of audible sound, so we are really almost blind and deaf. The strange thing is that people are so sure that they are right when talking about things they know nothing about – like death.

    While we dream we are in a completely different dimension and can see or do things that are impossible in our body. So you could see and communicate with him because you are dreaming, and because your mind is open to learning and experiencing. So do not lose that wonderful ability of having and open mind. There is an old saying that you cannot put anything new into a cup/mind that is already full. Please read http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#TalkDead


-Ellen 2014-12-20 12:59:08

I have had a dream about my mums nephew who committed suicide he was raised by my mum for the best part of his childhood and they have always remained close throughout his life, he was sat on the sofa with my mum at the other end and he said ” they caught up with me, it all caught up with me” I said back to him that he should of came to mum mum would of helped him and he turned to her and looked.sad and said tell her” I am sorry”…then he went what does this mean ? Why am I suddenly dreaming about him months after what happened?

-MASK 2014-12-10 14:27:47

I have had dreams about three people in my life that died. The weirdest thing is they are not family, the ones that I loved the most or even who I would expect. One of them was a dear friend so I can see that I dreamed about her – but the other two surprised me.

The first I dreamed about twice. She was a good friend of mine who lost her battle with cancer and I can see why it was important for me to dream about her because she was like a life mentor to me. She was much older, wiser and had lived a simple yet wonderful life. She learned to weave with the Indians in Mexico and was an artist who made things out of what other would throw away. Her death devistated me because I felt I had so much left to learn from her. The first dream is that I went to heaven and there were many people there. I did not recognize anyone but my friend. We hugged and chatted for a moment but the weirdest thing was that her hair was blue and neither of us thought it was odd. The second dream was that she was a deer and that she would come and visit me and when I saw her I knew that everything was going to be ok. I know this may sound stupid but every time I see a deer, I think that she is watching over me.

The second person I dreamed about was my boss. I was there when he died. He was decent to me and very christian. I also had two dreams about him. One was that he was in a crowd of people but that he had a disguise on. He had a trench coat, fake eyeglasses that you would wear on Halloween because the eyeglasses had eyes painted on them, and he had a mustache that he did not have in real life. The second dream about him has faded from my memory and I am not sure why.

The last person I dreamed about was a young adult that died in an awful car accident when he was 19. I used to watch him and take him to school for a year when he was little and then he moved. His grandmother worked with me. His grandmother and I had our troubles- big time, but she was so sad by his death. One day I went home from work very sick with a fever. I fell asleep on the sofa and dream about this young man, only in my dreams, he was younger than when he died. He was drawing with colored chalk on the driveway. In my dream everything was backwards. He had not died but his younger brother had. He asked me about his brother. Then he told me that he wanted every one to know that his brother was ok and was in heaven. I woke up a little confused because he brother was the one who was still alive. I hadn’t seen him in a long time and he had already been dead for over a year. He had not been on my mind and it felt weird that I would dream about him since his grandmother and I have very conflicting personalities and she had been a source of anxiety in my work life for many years.

-valerie 2014-12-09 3:23:45

my stepdad, commited suicide past april. i have dreams of him every once in awhile. he was a alcoholic and did drugs and would abuse my younger sister. he would also touch me in wrong places when i was in 6th- freshman yr. i never liked him. my dream are diff . one time i had a dream of him walking into my livingroom with his mother who is still alive nd he was almost like a zombie. he just stood there drugged up and stqring at me. Another dream was him telling my sister and mom he loved and missed them. my other dreams are very odd of him. i am 17 and i honestly can say i hate him with a passion. theres so much i wish i could tell him. its all anger i hav built inside of me.

-Notyourbusiness 2014-11-30 5:47:42

Hello, so , I dreamed last night about my grandma who in no longer in life.She passed away like 5 years ago. Last night i Saw her in my dreams, she came in the cuisine and wanted to eat. She sat in the chair and began to eat. I go near her and i ask her :how is she doing? And she replied: who are you? . I hugged her and , half asleep i began to cry.
-she never had problem with her memory.
Please reply I wanna know all about this dream ??
I’m very worried since last night !!! Reply please

    -Tony Crisp 2014-11-30 9:12:12

    NotYourB – I think your dream revolves around the question you asked your grandma. You asked her, “How are you doing?”

    So you were worried how she was after so long, and I see the dream not as a communication but as an expression of your concern about her – in fact you were worried that she had forgotten you.

    That is impossible. She is a living part of your life. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#Summing


-shaun 2014-11-21 20:50:32


I am so frightened. I know each of us will face a physical death, but I fear not only the pain that comes with it, but that I shall be “cast out” of the “good” part of the afterlife.

I’m 48 years-old and know that death could come any time. I have anxiety and panic attacks over it. The anxiety causes chest pain and breathing issues. My doctor has declared me fit, but my fear is all-encompassing. I want to enjoy my physical life; not sit around waiting for death.

I, like everyone else, have made mistakes in my life, but am unable to let them go. I believe I’m a kind and considerate being.

Please help me gain a greater understanding of why I feel the way I described.

Desperatly yours, Shaun

-Nadia 2014-11-19 20:26:04

My grandma died in 2012 from cancer, i miss her so much. Ever since i Dream about her. Yesterday it was about that she just was a bit sick and she came home again from The hospital and everything was fine. But when she died she was in the hospital and didnt get home. Is it because i wanted that to happend, or is she saying that she is fine now? Every dream i has about her, is were she is fine and everything is good. you know anything about that??

Thank you, from Denmark

-shawnna 2014-11-01 18:49:17

My mom had a dream about her deceased mom. Who’s been dead for almost 13years. In the dream she was laying in bed with her mom and my little brother. She couldn’t see her moms face but she new it was her, her mom was on the phone but she couldn’t hear what she was saying. My mom tried to bite her moms hand in the dream over $10 dollars but she can’t remember the rest of the dream although its been heavy on her mind. After that she had a second dream of flying roaches attacking her.
Can someone help us understand what her dreams mean???

-Jenna 2014-10-21 15:42:03

I dreamed that I was in my childhood home in my mother’s bedroom. My mother passed away in 2009 at the age of 43. She was lying on a couch in front of her bed. She looked so tired and could barely keep her eyes open. Whenever I Dream my mother, she is always exhausted and her eyes are closed. I woke her up from the chair and told her to climb into bed. She grasped my arm tight and told me that she had a secret to tell me. She told me I had a sister that died at the age of 13. I am very confused as to why I Dream my mother so tired and with eyes closed. I also am very confused about this sister she speaks of. I only have two brothers and I am the youngest. I just really need some clarification. Is this a message or am I just crazy? I would greatly appreciate you input.

-tammy 2014-09-29 18:40:01

i had a dream that my cousin who died in his 40’s came to me and smiled but he looked like in was 12 years old.

-Jennifer 2014-09-27 4:31:35

I was looking for an answer because I have been bothered by this for years, and even can’t remember my dreams now.

One day years ago in high school, this guy who was friends with my friends, but I didn’t really talk with was pretty mean to me. He kinda blew up at me for no reason. I didn’t really think much of it then than oh, he is having a bad day. That night I had a dream that we were in the cafeteria, (where our group usually hung out) and he pulled me off to the side to talk. He appologised first, and we started talking about why he said what he did and what he really thought about me. Then we started talking about some other friends. It was like, things he really wanted to say to them. One that was like his brother, and then he said something about tell Mandy that is wasn’t her fault. I did not even know who Mandy was. Well I got up the next morning a felt really good about the dream, so I went to wait for him by the tables. My other friends came in and were talking as usual, and I probably looked like I was doing my normal thing of waiting off to the side listening. It passed the normal time he would come in, so I turned to our mutual friend, and asked him where the guy was. He went to the office, I think to call him, I never really asked that question, and when he came back he was in tears because we had been told he died overnight. I can remember a lot of feelings that day, and I was very confused as to how I should really feel. I spent most of te say comforting our friends, and trying to say the things me and this guy had talked about in the dream the night before without coming out and saying that I had been given the message so to speak I guess. Imagine my surprise though in the chaos when I met his girlfriend Mandy. I never really told her the “message” because it sounded to freaky for me to say it to her outside of the whole “it’s not your fault” in general line. Apparently she had been with him and some other friends, they got into an argument, and he had an (can’t spell) athasma attack and had used another friends inhaler. Apparently the medicine in that inhaler reacted very badly and his throat closed up later on, and he died from that. It all seemed very prothetic given what I had experienced the night before, but I kept it to myself. This was 12 years ago, and it’s always really bothered me. Is it really just my mind was trying to make sense of a rude comment, or something else? Any insight?

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