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The Baby In Your Dream

Your dream baby is very special to you. It doesn’t matter that perhaps the baby in your dream is the child of another woman, it is still the baby of your dream. Like any baby, it is something new and vulnerable that has come to life – come to your life. The important question is, what is it that is new and growing in your love, in your work, or in yourself? Or perhaps it is about vulnerability. Therefore the answers you give to the following questions are important in helping you discover the truth about your dream baby.

However, if you are pregnant or hoping for a baby at the time of the dream, your dream baby may be reflecting your hopes, fears or intuitions about pregnancy. Many pregnant women have very anxious or strange dreams about their baby. So do not feel that such dreams are predictions. They are often ways of releasing anxiety or of expressing hopes regarding your unborn child.

How would you describe the condition or situation of the baby?

The baby in your dream might be hungry or ill. It might be wonderfully advanced and already able to speak. Whatever the condition, this is a description of what is happening with the newly emerging or vulnerable part of you. Therefore try to put into words what you see or feel the condition of the baby is.

As an example of this, here is a fragment from a man’s dream: ‘I am responsible for bringing up a baby boy. I feel very happy about it and feel committed to it.’ So in this case the condition of the baby is that of being loved and cared for.

What does it mean when I give birth to a dream baby without a father?

If you have given birth without any man involved, it suggests it is a virgin birth – i.e. no male partner was involved at the time.

Many women dream of giving birth without any man involved. Virgin birth is normal part of dreaming. It means that the woman or young girl has conceived as a process of Life. Being a virgin represents the human soul or psyche and its possibility of dropping pre-conceptions, thus attaining an inner virginity and through that being receptive to the unseen or unconscious side of self. Joseph Campbell in his book “Myths To Live By” says – “There are myths and legends of the Virgin Birth, of Incarnations, Deaths and Resurrections; Second Comings, Judgements and the rest, in all the great traditions. And since such images stem from the psyche (from you and your dreams), they refer to the psyche. They tell us of its structure, its order, and its forces, in symbolic terms.”

For instance, the story and events surrounding the virgin birth, when looked as if a dream are not about a biological miracle, but about how as ordinary people, we can drop our preconceptions, our fixed ideas and beliefs and allow an entirely new and creative impulse into our life. This truth has been so venerated that we find virgin figures all over the world such as Maya the mother of Buddha born 500 BC; the virgin mother of Osiris, and of course the story told of Mary.

Being a virgin in this case is about having a mind free from previous ‘conceptions’ and so being open to Life itself fertilising you for a new and precious thing being born. If you are not a virgin because you have had children, that is not what virgin birth is about. It is about conceiving without any mental preconceptions, having an open and receptive mind or soul. it is about a wonderful human possibility.

So the dream baby born to you in this way a wonderful creative act between you and Life. It is a new part of you that if you let it gradually grow into your waking life as a new force, a new way of feeling about life and acting. Being pregnant like that is very important. Obviously you are not going to give birth to a physical baby, but dream babies are important too.

Only a ‘virgin birth’ can bring forth the birth of an intuition, a new response to oneself and ones environment, that transforms ones life. This is a living relationship with the mystery which underlies our life. If we generate a child in this way, we are not held prisoner by habits of thought, stereotypes of behaviour, then we can begin to allow into our waking life what was previously impossible to know. This open state of mind and feelings, acts as a link between the identity or personality, and the deep unconscious life processes. This link allows a birth of realisations and inner change that brings healing and a possibility of experiencing the aspect of oneself that is our core self. Here is an example of a man giving birth to the wonderful child.

“Was in a basement where my wife and a woman I loved was giving birth to a baby, but I was somehow the one who gave birth to it without a doctor being there. It was a lovely boy. Its lower face was covered by a tight caul, but I pulled this off and it began to breathe. It opened its eyes and looked about, fully conscious; then said something about Jesus, and, “It is gone!” I asked what had gone, and it replied, “The other ego; where has it gone?” I explained that the spirit self it knew before birth was now gone so it could live in the body. The baby was then taken upstairs, and I felt it was a holy and wonderful baby. I was going to rest from the rigours of the birth, but on looking around saw how dusty and dirty the basement was. I began to clean it, and felt I would go upstairs and rest afterwards.”

This was a dream marking a real change in the man’s life. The man did work at cleaning his basement/unconscious and then began to go upstairs to his wider awareness.

What are your feelings or thoughts about the baby as it appears in the dream?

What you feel and think about the baby gives an indication of how you are relating to the new or vulnerable part of yourself, or what worries you are discharging. Clarify them to recognise what may be helping or hindering this new experience in your life.

An example of this: I had a dream that I had a child and had to cancel a test because I had to take care of the baby. I was breast feeding the baby, because it is healthier to breast feed than to give formula from a bottle. The person that I had been seeing wanted to know what I thought I was doing. The question was in an accusatory manner, like I had no business breast feeding my own baby. Then I left the baby with my friends and left. When I came back, they were feeding the baby Tabasco sauce because they ran out of milk. This shocked me because I thought my friends were more responsible than that.

So there are two issues here. The first is the struggle and strength to oppose what is felt to be right in the face of other people’s opinions. The second is that other people can injure your vulnerable and growing self if you let them take over your decisions. In either case it is clear that you have the intuitive knowledge to see what is the best way to nurture your baby.

Is the dream baby my own child?

If we are parents we often dream about our own children. Occasionally such dreams express concerns we have about our own child. We have noticed something ‘out of the corner of our eye’, and the dream puts this into focus. But often such dreams use the child to illustrate a developing part of you. This is because your actual child has characteristics unique to itself. They may be adventurous, playful, thoughtful or highly verbal. To understand your dream you need to define how you see and feel about your child.

For instance a woman dreamt she was sitting on a window sill and was frightened of falling. So much so she couldn’t move. Then she reached out and took her small son’s hand and climbed into the building away from danger. In describing how she felt about her son, she said he was courageous and confident. So her dream was showing how, by reaching out for her own confidence and courage, however immature, she could overcome her anxiety about falling/failing. Her child calls out her inner strength to meet the situation and overcome the danger.

Can I help the baby in any way?

This is an important question to answer because your dreams often present you with opportunities to change or to grow. If the dream is dealing with an emerging part of your nature, or a new love or project, protecting and helping this new dimension of your life is important. So, for instance, if your baby needs feeding or affection, sit quietly and imagine yourself feeding the baby, or giving it affection. Do whatever you feel is needed to help it.

Is this an intuition about a baby’s or my baby’s situation?

Quite often we dream about awful events in connection with our baby or child. Because these can be incredibly disturbing it is important to understand their meaning. As a first step there are at least two types of dreams that deal with disturbing events. The first type of dream is called ‘representative’. And the following is an example of it.

I am on a country walk with my wife and small son. I look back to see my son fall down a deep hole. I rush back to see him drowning, and wonder whether I should jump down to help him. Then suddenly he is okay and with me again.

The father was incredibly worried that it showed a bad situation for his son. But as we explored it we realised that the son represented his marriage. He had a terrible row with his wife the day before, and he was frightened that it was the end of their life together. The son in this dream was the result of their marriage, what they had created together. So if the son had died it would have shown the father feeling their marriage had no hope of a future. But the dream showed the son fully recovered, showing that even when he was feeling bad, his dream showed him a different outcome. So it represented the father’s intense feelings and the possible outcome.

The other type of dream can be called direct insight or prophetic. Such dreams are usually not in any way symbolic and are highly uncommon. They do not include such things as are in the above dream which quickly switches from danger to ease. The following dream is an example.

One morning my wife woke and told me she had dreamt about the baby of two of our friends. The friends, a man and wife, were living about 200 miles from us. We knew the wife was pregnant, and about a week or so before the dream we had received a short letter saying their baby, a boy, had been born. We were not on the telephone at the time, so the letter was our only means of communication.

In the dream my wife saw the baby and a voice from behind her told her the child was ill. Its illness, she was given to understand, was serious, and would need to be treated with a drug taken every day of the child’s life. The reason for this illness and the drug use, she was told, was because in a past life the person now born as the baby had committed suicide using a drug.

In this dream very definite information was given that could be checked. I didn’t take the dream seriously, thinking it was some sort of personally symbolic dream. The dream was sent to the couple, and about a week later a letter from them said that the letter and dream had crystallised their already existing anxiety about the baby. It had not been feeding well and was fretful. On taking it to the doctor nothing definite could be found but special tests were made in hospital. From these it was discovered the baby was dying. It lacked an enzyme which was needed to digest calcium. To compensate it was given a drug, which it has had to take every day of its life to make up for the lacking enzyme.

The dream did not represent a situation, it described it clearly. Also it could easily be checked. So if you are uncertain, always go for the representative dream, as prophetic dreams are extremely rare.

So the questions to ask are: Is this dream making a direct statement? If so can I check it for accuracy? If it is a representative dream, ask yourself what it represents symbolically, and go through the questions above.

Summing Up

From the answers you have given to the questions see if you can recognise what new thing has come into, or is emerging, in your life. What do you feel vulnerable about? Is it to do with someone you love? Is it a new attitude you have to the way you express yourself? Or perhaps it is a new project you have undertaken.

When you can connect the dream with your everyday experience, consider what the dream is depicting in its drama. Is it saying the baby is healthy and strong? Does your baby need support? Is it nourished? Whatever you have discovered from looking at your dream baby, try to use the insights in your everyday life. Build them into the way you feel and think, and watch your baby grow.

See Inner Baby and Child; also baby babies.

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-Ashley 2013-12-27 10:18:26

Hi I am currently 38 weeks pregnant and last note I constantly dreamed about people I know who was about to die but I kept trying to find a way to save them. Then I remember looking down at my pregnant belly and saw my baby a and was able to touch and move her while still in the womb. I remember she had dimples and kept smiling at me. Then I noticed she was laying sideways so I put her head down so she could be born easily. Then poof I couldn’t see her anymore, but I was happy and telling everyone how beautiful she was. This dream was so real, what could it mean? Please reply soon.Thanks

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-Kay 2014-02-19 5:13:53

Hello I had the weirdest dream tonight. I trust that I was pregnant at some point I had the baby early. I forgot she was born and continued on thinking and acting as though I was still pregnant. One day I felt the C-section cut on my stomach that showed me I wasn’t pregnant and went to get her. I had left the baby girl with a family meme who doesn’t take care of her own kids. Then the paternal grandmother was there with this family member when I got there and confused as to why I never told her I had the baby but had been asking her to pray for me and the baby because the pregnancy was so difficult.

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-Alicia 2014-03-29 14:03:59

I had a dream last night that was very strange to me. I was waiting in a long line standing outside of a fence. As we approached the building I saw it was a hospital setting. My father hooked me up to an IV and I was telling him I wasnt sick and asking him to just unhook me so I could go home because my husband was waiting for me. He didnt and I was taken to a room and sat I what looked like a dentist chair. The nurse told me that only the dr could release me, I felt confidant that the dr would as I was I good health. When he came back I k Dw instantly he wouldn’t let me leave. It was an old lover, in my dream we had dated…(in real life idk who it was but he shared similar features of someone I know) he said I couldnt leave and told the nurse to give me morphine, I was part scared part relieved. I felt an undeniable attraction to him and felt it would be hard to say no to him. He asked me who my daddy was and was touching me asking if I remembered how good it felt. I gave in…then my cell phone is ringing its my husband. I cant answer. Finally I get home and my older sons run out to me carrying this malformed infant that I was pregnant with that was some how born while I was gone. I felt bad for not being there when it was born and then instantly gad to know the sex but I couldnt tell, the baby was so malformed. In my dream I kept thinking how did I have her at 25 weeks? The baby opened up and all the organs were in the wrong place and tucked behind the lungs was a vagina. I jyst remember thinking I’ve git to get to a hospital I called an ambulance but they needed to know how far they were taking me before they came out. I told them. Just as I hung up the phone my husband drives up in another females truck and I could only think that was strange but then I thought hopefully the fact that the baby is so messed up he will have an easier time with it being s girl…but then I thought it doesn’t matter because he is leaving anyway….. ive never dreamy like thst before, I’d really like to understand what it may have all been about, thankyou

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    -Tony Crisp 2014-03-30 9:31:23

    Alicia – The fence showed you that you were fenced off from knowing something – barred. Then your father, possible a caring influence in you life overcame the hesitation you met.

    Of course you felt you were not sick – but when you think about yourself in waking we are mostly almost blind. But in the world of dreams your sight is a wonderful thing; like a magic mirror which shows you the real you – though one that you deny is you. Because you live in a tiny little room of yourself that you, a small image of you that is only a tiny part of you.

    In the dream you realise there are parts of you that you never knew. And the hospital is a healing process.

    You see, whenever we live with anyone or live with them we form a bond that makes them enter into us. Most people are often totally unaware of the experience they take in and how it interacts with them when we love someone. In other words the memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with someone and they are what makes you the person you are. Your dreams tend to put all that in the image of the past person when you are dealing with the influences left in you from the relationship. It is impossible to believe how much we take in. Please read this http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Explains, it will show how much we take in from those we love or lived with.

    The morphine is an inner effect that enables you to feel and experience something of the connection, emotional, sexual and of course personal. But they are all in you and so do not get hung up on the past person. Please read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#Summing

    Because you misunderstand the process of dreams you carry that into the feelings about your husband. And in the inner world of yourself you can love as many people, as a mother can love all her children.

    But that is not the real problem, because you are suffering an inner indigestion. I know this will sound strange but we actually digest everything we take into us – memories, lessons learnt, longings and desires – they all need to be digested.

    So I would suggest you integrate all the good things from your relationship with him and your husband; because in your dreams about them you are meeting your feelings. And if you do not do this the negative memories or desires for them will keep coming back. So try doing this by taking the dream images of your ex and pulling them back into your body. Yes, literally making them one with you. Do this slowly and allow any feelings that arise. This may sound strange but all the images in our dreams are projections from us onto the screen of our sleeping mind; so taking them back into you is like owning them and integrating them. It is called honouring our experience.

    Example: What a fool I had been to hold onto my identity as isolated independent. Of course I had forged a great independence but at the cost of feeling – and that is all it was, a feeling – isolated and immovable. Now as I opened myself to R. and the love I felt for her, in fact everybody else I had loved, I felt whole and free to move inside.

    This opened a whole new dimension in all the dreams of other people I had heard about being haunted by dreams of ex-lovers. It was because they had actually gained a new dimension, a new freedom, but they hadn’t accepted it. Instead they were seeing it only as an external reality – what a waste.

    Now I realised that my dream about my mother’s hand reaching mine through the curtain, and then feeling the enormous love and realising that the love came from Life itself. So then I opened to knowing Life/Love, and really felt how because I was connected with all I knew, all I loved, Life would flow to all, and their Life would flow to me.

    Tony

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-Caroline 2014-04-20 6:50:52

I had a dream that I was in hospital , my baby girl Lilly-Rose was abit older and I had a son that was about 10 but I don’t have a son they came to see me but they got taken away what before I could talk what does this mean ?

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    -Tony Crisp 2014-04-21 8:46:37

    Caroline – Before you could talk, in the language of dreams means you were a baby, innocent and open to the inner life.

    You are so focussed on the life of your body, the outer world, that you do not realise that you have a son. Dreams are a very real presentation of your inner world, and there you are in the inner world of your dream and your son is there before you and you deny it.

    As a woman you hold within you the miracle of creativeness. You creativeness have also given you Lilly- Rose. Perhaps you will have a son too – but if not the dream son is alive in you and can be a new phase of your life. See http://dreamhawk.com/pregnancy-childbirth/the-baby-in-your-dream/ and also http://dreamhawk.com/stories/the-house-of-the-ancestors/

    Tony

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-shay 2014-06-12 22:25:08

I had a dream that I was in jail, and I got pregnant by a celebrity but time went be quickly the last thing I remember was being at the doctors looking at the ultrasound and my baby was smiling at me and it was the best feeling in the world. It makes me happy every time I think about it.

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    -Tony Crisp 2014-06-13 8:28:31

    Shay – Becoming pregnant be a dream celebrity means that you have a good mothering instinct – you want a good influence as the father.

    Being in jail is often about feeling trapped by circumstances. But your wonderful pregnancy changed that. It is innate in women to dream of being creative and giving birth in their dreams. So I believe that such a baby is a very real part of you – though an inner and not always an outer part. It is a creation of a part of you that is only now becoming real in your life. In other words a dream baby is a new birth of part of you that is emerging and needs to be cared for. Just as you teenage self emerged and needed understanding, so does this new you that is being born. See http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/inner-world/

    Tony

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