Death
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Death the walking dead or rigor-mortis
Death dancing with or meeting dark figure
There are two forms of death and any study of death needs to be aware of them.
- The easiest one for us to confront is the death if the body. This occurs when the body is badly injured, has suffered a bad illness or is dying from old age and so cannot support the intricacies of consciousness, then consciousness can longer function in the body.
- Another one that many people are not aware of is ‘ego death’. There are many descriptions of ego death, in fact the term Ego Death is misleading, because nothing dies in this process of enormous process of growth, instead it is a huge enlargement, a massive shift of our ideas and experience of who and what we are. The history of those who obviously have experienced this enlightened state, does not show that their experience of themselves has disappeared, it has been transformed. It occurs when we have stopped living in our thinking, beliefs and opinions – or what is sometimes thought of as our personality.A man, Anthony, describes the experience of it by saying, ‘I was sitting opposite someone during an enlightenment intensive workshop. We had been posing the question for days – “Who are you?” Suddenly I realised that it was a silly question, because I was the answer. All thought stopped and I existed as the answer. My being had always been this. In this state there was an awareness of being connected with everything around me, in the beginning of creation. This was the first day.While in the state of simple existence I was able to observe many things I am usually not aware of. For instance while I simply existed, my usual pattern of behaviour and thought went through contortions to be the centre of attention again. I could see them almost like habits, systems, that have life, like a body does, and they were dying and twitching in their death throes. Also I saw that I knew that all thought is like a mimic, so all our thinking is like photocopies, without any real life. Also as I saw this I had an image of a monkey that was actually my normal thinking self running alongside my every motion and trying to mimic it. It was almost as if as I as a person walked along, another mechanical person ran alongside trying to keep up and mimicking everything I did in an attempt to be alive and real. Yet thought can never be life. If you think of dog, the thought can never be a living creature, just a word.’
Another person says, ‘Unexpectedly everything changed and my fundamental self was something that existed throughout all time. It didn’t have a beginning or end. There was no goal to achieve. I am.
I am a wave on a shoreless sea.
From no beginning
I travel to no goal,
Making my movements stillness.
Constantly I am arriving
And departing,
Being born and dying.
I am always with you
And yet have never been.’Slightly different but still the same enlightenment. ‘Everything seemed to slip away and I felt as if I melted back into the primal being of the universe. It didn’t seem as if my ego was gone, just melted into everything else. It was blissful.’
Dreaming of death: Some aspect of your outer or inner life is fading, or being superseded by a changed approach or attitude, so may be shown as dying. Your drive to achieve something might die, and be shown as a death in your dreams. Changing from adolescence to puberty, maturity to old age, are also shown as oneself dying. Lost opportunities or unexpressed potentials in oneself are frequently shown as dead bodies.
But death of anything also involves a tremendous release of energy as the form breaks down. But the various levels of energy involved in the death of a person are never lost, for energy cannot ever be lost, it is transferred and used elsewhere. A transformation takes place. The consciousness and energy that gave the body life also goes through a process of transformation into universal life.
All of us unconsciously learn attitudes or survival skills from parents and others. If these are unrecognised they may be shown as dead. Sometimes we have killed the child or teenager in us because of difficulties or trauma at those ages, and these may be seen as a dead person in one’s dream. Some death dreams may show the awakening of new life in the dreamer. For instance, Sue worked on a dream in which she was told her baby had died. She woke shaking with grief and tears. The dream and emotions appeared to show her becoming alive enough to feel the grief of her past pain as it connected with the death of her hopes, love, and ideals. She had suppressed her pain for so long. In now coming alive enough to feel her emotions, she was feeling at last that something had died in her.
Because you cannot actually die in your dreams. It is like you become totally involved in a movie that you can only escape from by waking. But when you wake things are the same – you are not dead – but you have been enriched by a lot of new experiences. I feel so deeply that our society does not let us die. What a terrible thing! The process of death isn’t just your heart stopping, it is a long process of shifting values, of creating a self that is no longer so deeply identified with the things of the world. The way our society is structured forces the ageing individual to go on and on almost like a hunter or warrior tied to processes in the external world trying to pay their way. Why I wonder? It seem so strange that the Stone Age societies living in very difficult circumstances, without our massive technological back-up, could manage to support their ageing and allow them a period of sinking into death. We, with massive resources, cannot do this. I felt a tremendous desire here to let go of all my worldly activities. I wanted to hand all my savings over to my sons and say, look, you care for this. All I ask is for a small amount of money to pay for my food and basic needs. I dearly wanted to give up and live from within myself.
Also parts of ones feelings sometimes die. Our love for someone might die for instance, and so our dream illustrates this with a death, perhaps of that person. Some teenagers dream of their parents dying as they start to become independent. This is a form of killing of dependent feelings about their parents as a means of growth. This happens in some relationships too, where we want to break with the person. See Dimensions of Human Experience
“The dead differ from the living only in this respect: they are in a permanent dream state the subconscious state because the conscious mind of the physical body no longer exists. But the body is an expendable shell, and all else is intact. On the astral level of existence, the sub-conscious mind replaces the conscious mind of the soul, and the superconscious replaces the subconscious. Hence, in dreams, we find that communication with those who have passed on is more logical than the average person is able to comprehend.” Quote from Edgar Cayce.
Death of someone known: Frequently, as in the example, this might express desire to be free of them, or unexpressed aggression. Perhaps your love for or connection with that person has ‘died’. We often ‘kill’ our parents in dreams as we move toward independence. Or we may want someone ‘out of the way’ so we do not have to compete for attention and love. When someone we know dies lots of things happen to us. First of all we have always thought of the person as being outside of us. Then suddenly they are gone from the outside world, and we either think of them as gone forever never to be seen again; or we do what dreams often do and find them inside of us. In this way we can discover a new relationship with them, either because they now communicate with us as a dead person, or we receive from them what they left in us.
Example: ‘During my teens I was engaged to be married when I found a more attractive partner and was in considerable conflict. Consistently I dreamt I was at my fiancé’s funeral until it dawned on me the dream was telling me I wanted to be free of him. When I gave him up the dreams ceased.’ Mrs. D.
Death of yourself: You might be exploring your feelings about death, or retreating from the challenge of life. Sometimes it expresses a split between mind and body. The experience of leaving the body is frequently an expression of this schism between the ego and life processes. It could also be death of old patterns of living – your ‘old self’, or the loss of the traits that limit your awareness to an identity connected only to your body.
Example: ‘I dream I have a weak heart which will be fatal. It is the practice of doctors in such cases to administer a tablet causing one painlessly to go to sleep – die. I am completely calm and accepting of my fate. I suddenly realise I must leave notes for my parents and children. I must let them know how much I love them, must do this quickly before my time runs out.’ Mrs. M.
This is a frequent type of ‘death’ dream. It is a way of reminding yourself to do now what you want – especially regarding love.
Example: During a major operation I dreamt I saw my little daughter – dead for many years – standing in a corn field. When she was actually buried the cemetery was skirted by a corn field, and later in life, coming to terms with this early death of a child, I imagined my daughter walking into the corn field. In the dream I walked into the corn field. My daughter was waiting for me with her arms held up. I put my arms to her and we greeted each other smiling. At that point I felt it wasn’t time to die yet, turned and walked out of the corn field. Ken S. Example: I was upstairs watching T.V. with my dog laying on the bed. I heard a motorbike out in the yard. I went downstairs and the dog followed me and this person on the bike tried to run the dog over. My husband came out and told me to go back to bed. I picked the dog up and started up the stair, reached the top and there was a big gap from the top of the stairs to the bedroom door, so to get to the bedroom I had to jump across this gap. I tried to jump this gap but missed and I fell and hit the bottom. The next thing I remember was I was floating up, I looked down and saw myself lying face down with arms spread out and I suddenly realised I was dead. I was so frightened that I woke up. I had the feelings of fear of dying and that the dog had been killed. I felt no pain.
The dream is obviously about her fear of dying, and also shows that even if one hits the ground one does not actually die, but experiences feelings of dying.
Death of child: Dreaming that your child dies can have several meanings. In some dreams a parent, much to their horror dreams of killing their child; or as one dreamer said, “I saw him jump off a bridge to his death.” This occurred at a time when her young son was making his first moves toward independence, and it was a difficult thing for the mother to face – the loss of her son. So it can easily be shown as the death of ones child in a dream. Another women describes it differently as follows:
‘I am standing outside a supermarket with heavy bags wearing my Mac, though the sun is warm. My daughter and two friends are playing music and everyone stops to listen. I start to write a song for them, but they pack up and go on a bus whilst I am still writing. I am left alone at the bus stop with my heavy burden of shopping, feeling incredibly unwanted.’ Mrs F
Mrs F was dreaming about her young daughter leaving her, and she has to grieve it, almost like a death.
This can mean a lot of other things than your actual child dying. For instance a man told me a dream that worried him enormously about walking with his wife and his young son fell down a hole and was apparently dead. But in fact he had had a terrible row with his wife that day, and it was showing the child as what they had created between them. In fact the dream child recovered as did their marriage. Your child dying can also be a warning that your inner child is dying. We each carry some awful memories from childhood that are shown in our dreams as our child. So it is worth taking hold of your apparently dead child – nothing can actually die in our dreams – and hold it and tell it you love it. Watch any feelings that emerge as you do this and any tears you shed. See what you understand from what you feel. Of course this could be a ‘mother’s’ dream in which your terror of losing your child is dreamt. A woman ones told me a dream in which her daughter was murdered. As we helped the woman explore her dream – not interpret it – she burst out into enormous sobs, crying that her daughter was leaving home and she was terrified of losing her. The girl was never murdered. See Baby or child hurt or killed So ask yourself what your fears are about.
But our dream child can represent many things, and it is useful to realise that any person, object or scene in a dream is not a symbol – it is not dead thing that has to be interpreted – it is a living part of you and can only be understood by relating to it. So in this way I have found that a child can represent whatever our strongest feelings about them are. It can represent your marriage or partnership because it is what you have created between you. In that case the death of the child can depict something like an awful argument that feels as if it the marriage has died.
A child and its death can also show you how you have killed out the growing or adventurous side of you; or if you see your child as vulnerable and needing protection it could show you the death of that part of your feelings.
So you need to ask yourself what your dream child depicts as a living part of you.
When our child actually dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this. See Life’s Little Secrets
For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’ Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’. When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality. After her converstation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.
Death the walking dead or rigor mortis: Aspects of you that are denied, perhaps through fear.
Death dancing with or meeting dark figure: Facing up to death and developing a different attitude to it – unless of course you are running away. If you turn around and face these figures you will break through to a different way of life. Death of someone close to us: As explained above, this often refers to ones own feelings or talents that have been hurt, denied, or ‘killed out’ by events and your response to them. The following example illustrates this.
‘My son comes in and I see he is unwashed and seems preoccupied and as if he has not cared for himself for some days. I ask him what is wrong. He tells me his mother is dead. I then seem to know she has been dead for days, and my two sons have not told anyone. In fact my other son has not even accepted the fact.’ Anthony.
Anthony is a divorcee. Processing the dream he realised the two sons are ways he is relating to the death of his marriage – the children’s mother. Although the unconscious has a very real sense of its eternal nature and continuance after physical death, our conscious personality seldom shares this.
Also we all we all carry within us ideas, behaviours, talents and ways of life from those now dead. The farmer today unconsciously uses the collective experience of humanity in farming. What innovation he does today his children or others will learn and carry into the future. This aspect of a life beyond the physical is shown in many dreams.
For instance a man I knew dreamt of walking with a friend of his. As they walked they came to a river. The friend crossed, but the dreamer was unable to. Even in the dream he felt crossing the river meant his friend had died. Some time later he discovered that his friend had died at about the time he experienced the dream.
As the dream points out, the friend died, but continued another type of life ‘across the river’. A woman told a similar dream to me. Her teenage son came down to breakfast looking very unhappy. When she asked him why he said he had a dream that deeply disturbed him. In it he was walking with a friend and the friend walked through a door. When her son tried to follow he could not pass through the door. They could not find a rational explanation for the dream, but on arriving at school, her son heard that his friend had been killed in a motorbike accident on his way to school.
The river and the door are often used in this way, suggesting a change to another dimension of life usually unreachable by the living. Idioms: Dead and buried; dead from the neck up/or neck down; dead to the world; play dead; dead to the world; dead tired; drop dead; stone dead; at death’s door; brush with death; death wish; kiss of death; sick to death. See: Dreams of Death; Illness;
Useful questions and hints:
What feelings about death does this dream highlight?
If I imagined the dream being carried forward, how would I change it?
Am I changing and my past self dying?
If this is someone I know what are my feelings about them – and where are those feelings arising in me at the moment? What part of myself have I killed?
See Being the Person or Thing – Near Death Experiences – Techniques for Exploring your Dreams – Journeying Beyond Dreams and Death
Comments
I had a dream that my husband, myself, my 5 year old son and 15 month old daughter were out to dinner. While in parking lot trying to leave my husband gets in altercation with a woman. She drove away and as she did my 15 month old and I started to walk back into restaurant (we forgot something). I looked back and saw my husband flip off the driver. The driver stopped and started to back up to where my son and husband were in back of our truck (we don’t have a truck but in my dream we did). I started to yell frantically for my son to come where I was…he didn’t hear me. The driver then got out of truck shot my husband…I ran inside to call police. When I got off phone I asked where my son and my husband were. My real mother who passed away several years ago and I had no relationship with told me that she put them both in back of car and they were dead. I freaked out ran to the car and jumped in back seat crying and grabbing my son. His face looked like he was in a lot of pain at time of shooting…I woke up before I could see my husband’s face. I woke up frantic and crying…went to sons room and layer beside him crying.
I had a dream last night that i was walking with my boyfriend and my mom had my 2 sons my older son started running away from my mom with this black lady and then me and my boyfriend started to vhase her in the car and then they were gone. Throughout my dream i went crazy looking for him i asked everybody and nobody was being helpful.i was asking my boyfrind to ise the car but was worried more about his gas.then i get a call from work saying they fouund what i was looking for, i got my hopes up then when i got to work the sherriff lady told me he had died. I dropped to my knees and then my boyfriend just comes walking up to me to console me. So horrifying waking up crying thinking something has happened to your children
I had a dream of my son who pasted in the dream he was crying I asked if he was ok he said no I said you stomach he sis yes I tried to hug him he shook his head no and walked away what does this mean
I had a dream that a friend and I was renting a house upon entering the house we had to close a small bridge that was real high when walking across my friend told me to be careful because a old lady fell off and died earlier that day. We walked into the house to inspect it together. We walked into each room one floor was slanted to the left. We walk thru three empty rooms. My friend kept saying over and over “ok” overtime we left a room. The last room had a tub full of water with a lot of suds in it. Looking in the tub i seen the older man (the husband of the of the woman died from falling off the bridge) He was completely submerge in the water but I could hear him moaning/crying noise loudly. Remember having this feeling like I got to get out of here but couldn’t run. I then woke up. This dream is bothering me and i and trying to find out the meaning
Dear David – Please read this first as it explains a lot about “the house in your dream”;
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/the-house-in-your-dream/
Also it is good to realise that every image and person in your dreams is an expression of your own life process. As such it is alive and intelligent and is something sent to help you. A dream is like a projection from a movie projector, except that you are the projector.
Everything you see as outside you is coming from you, your emotions, your fears, your beliefs, your joys and explorations and are all you, clothed in the dream images and drama. So when you dream of someone you should not feel you are dreaming about that actual person. As with most dreams, the person in the dream is not the person themselves, but is a collection of memories, associations and feelings about him or her.
The way I see your dream is that you are moving from one phase of life, activity or emphasis to another and you feel uncertain about it.
You take your friend with you whom I see as a symbol of a part of you that you feel you can rely on in this transitional stage.
While crossing the bridge you become aware of another time you had to cross from one phase of life to the next and in which you killed an inner aspect of you; the old lady, probably because you felt/were aware that it was the only way to get through the process.
The old lady could for instance be a symbol of your inner wisdom and/or your mother and/or your feelings (for her).
Exploring the symbol will help you understand what the meaning is; so if you feel like it you could try “Being the dead old lady” – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
Because of what you wrote “My friend kept saying over and over “ok” every time we left a room” I see the empty rooms as symbols for outgrown habits and/or ways of life you left behind. This way you made room for expressing more of your inner potential.
See also http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/every-seven-years-you-change/
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http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/potential/
In the last room you meet an aspect of you that you do not like meeting (yet) and you are aware that there is no point in running from it, because you cannot run from yourself.
It shows a part of you that is ready and willing to be immersed in feelings and to release them with the intention to come clean, to be rid of guilt or conscience or something that makes you feel grubby. In other words; let go of the past.
See also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/practical-techniques-for-understanding-your-dreams/
Let me know David, if you have any questions about how I see your dream.
Anna 🙂
I’ve had a dream that my current partner took me and my 6 month old hostage, it was all very real and very emotional as he came by every day an raped me then before I woke up I seen him holding my baby from the window he came in put him down came up the stairs and raped me, then went down stairs I heard his son say put him in the water, my partner then shouted come and see him as I walked down the stair I could see a pool of blood, a smashed rose wine bottle and my child dead it was awful so much went on in this dream I can’t put together what it really means
Dear Anna – There is indeed a lot going on in your dream and so in your inner world.
Because I do not know anything about the (past) circumstances or your relationship with your current partner in your waking life, I can merely give you some hints which will assist you to start exploring your inner world for yourself.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
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http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/practical-techniques-for-understanding-your-dreams/#TalkingAs
The way I see your dream is that you believe or that you are aware that you are victimized by your current partner – being a hostage with your baby – and that he is dominating you – your partner raping you in your dream.
To understand the difference between perception and awareness please read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/projection/ and stay open to the idea that what you see in your dream could also relate to your INNER world only.
This perception or awareness leads to feeling hurt and the idea that the (vulnerable) relationship with your partner has come to an end.
Questions you could ask yourself to explore your dream could be; “Do I perceive my relationship with my current partner in my waking life as oppressive and unsatisfactory and do I feel entrapped in this relationship?”
“Could it be that I am projecting my own unresolved, unconscious, inner issues on my partner in my dream and/or in my waking life?”
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/the-archetype-of-the-shadow/
An unresolved issue in your inner world could be for instance that you are not expressing a (vulnerable) creative part of your personality because of an oppressive inner male in your (inner) world. This oppression is causing you pain and it leads to killing part of your inner potential.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/potential/
About the inner male; In general we can say the man in a woman’s dreams represents the woman’s mental and social power, her ability to act creatively in ‘the world’. It also holds in it an expression of her complex of feelings about men, gained as experience mostly from her relationship with – or lack of relationship with – her father. The animus is also a synthesis of all her male contacts. So the whole realm of her experience of the male can be represented by the man in her dream, and is accessible through the image.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-animus-jungs-view-of-the-male-in-the-female/
It is good to realise that in this new phase of your life – you have become a mother only 6 months ago – you can still feel more vulnerable and fragile and in order to meet the new task, the new identity, Life asks you to grow.
So be kind and patient with yourself and your healing and growth process and try to see the dream as a way to help you grow beyond old pains so you can become a better mother too.
Let me know if you have any further questions.
Anna 🙂
This is the second night in a row i have had this type of dream. I have had dreams in the past that have come true and objects in my dream that cause me to feel de ja vu. But i need help with these. First dream…i am driving down the road and the car in front of my wrecks terrible and before it crashed i kept saying to myself something isnt right. I swerve to avoid the accident and see a trash can dumped over with a childs body half hanging out i scream cry and speed to a building and it turns into a school. I descibe to 911 operator what i saw and then remember i saw a camera on this dark road in the woods. I wake up.
My life right now. The night i had this dream it was my birthday. My boss was murdered two days ago by her husband which has made our work place very down and i currently live with my brother trying to get on my feet.
Dream two….the very next night. I am talki n g to my ex husband and he tells me he is leaving the grocery store with all of my children. The youngest is playing in the car. So i am preparing for a disaster in my dream when he shows up and tells me my 10 year old daughter has died. He says she drowned. In my dream i didnt respond until i found out it was really asphyxiation. I woke up.
In real life…i have 7 children half are grown on there own 3 live with my now ex husband. Please interpret my dream. Thanks bunches.
I just had a horrible dream that my little sister died 22 yrs old and then I ran out to a car to find that my stepfather has murdered my oldest son and my middle daughter but in my dream my daughter was a baby, about 6 months old and my son was about 3 yrs old…. then a day or so later my grandmother died. I’m very distributed and upset from thos dream. I don’t know what to think.
My Name is Julia I had a dream that I left my broken down car with my nephew and son inside why I don’t know and I went to get help I seen my step sister and cousin so I had them go get my son and nephew when they came back I found out that my baby had been killed by my cousin I was freaking out crying saying I want my baby back but I felt like there was nothing I cud do it was really hard to wake up but when I did I just hugged n kissed my baby.
Dear Julia – It is difficult to get a very clear picture of your dream without knowing anything about your waking life; for instance how you perceive motherhood.
So in order to get a deeper feeling understanding of your dream, you will have to enter your dream while awake and explore some things for yourself.
See also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/practical-techniques-for-understanding-your-dreams/
You wrote; “I left my broken down car with my nephew and son inside why I don’t know”.
What did you feel at this part of your dream? Could it be that you did not want to take them with you, because you are aware that walking without a baby and a nephew (how old is he?) is easier?
Do you feel you give yourself enough room to explore all your feelings as far as motherhood is concerned?
I ask because a car in a dream is a symbol of ability and opportunity. That is, ability to move around freely, and the opportunities this allows us. Through cars we have the ability to get to work that might otherwise be out of reach; to enjoy leisure times; to meet and spend time with people; to carry things that would otherwise be impossible; to live a lifestyle that without the car would be out of the question. So a car allows choices, independence and freedom that are missing without it.
Being a mother of a baby limits in a very practical way your choices, your independence and your freedom.
Also in modern Western society pregnancy and birth is often associated with a “pink cloud-like”, blissful, carefree state, as it is also suggested by images of the media.
Such expectations to feel happy and easy can put great pressure on your shoulders, when in reality – from a psychological point of view – it is a profoundly challenging period of transformation on all levels; for body, soul and psyche.
It is good to acknowledge this, because only with self-observation are you able to deal more consciously with all the changes that are part of your inner and your outer world.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/self-observation/
The way I see your baby being killed in your dream is that you are becoming aware that you will not always feel love for your baby when you become aware of all the inner and outer changes he/she has asks you to make.
Sometimes it is wise though to consider if there is also another way available to deal with your role as a mother, perhaps a way which will give you the opportunity to spend time in other roles as well in which you can express your potential.
Did I give you a start in exploring your inner world?
Anna 🙂
I had the WORST dream……no nightmare last night! In my nightmare I was getting ready to have a shower when the phone rang. I saw it was my friend calling so I answered thinking I could tell her I’d call her back. I answered and she started to tell me that her almost 3 year old daughter was sick and she had her to the hospital and she was put on antibiotics. Then she told me “I gave her her meds and we lost her, she’s gone” meaning she died. I remember screaming into the phone in my nightmare. I woke up shaking as though it was real and had a really hard time getting back to sleep. The thing is, I’m currently 6 weeks pregnant and have been going through some stress as I have been to the hospital recently due to some bleeding. Waiting on ultrasound results to find out if everything is okay with my baby. Not sure if that was a sign telling me that something is wrong with my pregnancy or not. But it scared the heck out of me! I haven’t told my friend about it because I dont want to upset her because it was a nightmare about her daughter. Can someone tell me what this could mean? I really hope it doesn’t mean something is wrong with my pregnancy or that something is going to happen to my friends daughter! Could it just have been because Ive been worrying about my own pregnancy and had the possibility of a miscarriage on my mind?
I was 8 month pregnant when my daughter past 4 years ago. The first 2 years were really hard I would have the worst nightmares. Like I would be laying in bed and a little figure would crawl towards my bed and when it go closer I saw it was my daughter but it wasn’t it looked evil. It would grab my arm and then I would wake up. Eventually the dreams stopped. Just recently they started up again but this time they are different. My dream would start when I was having her and I was laying in the hospital bed holding her. I would look up at my family members and say I wish I knew what her eyes looked like and as soon as I looked down these dark black eyes would be looking at me. And my daughter didn’t look human Then she reached up and would grab my face and squeeze. And laugh an evil laugh while doing it. I would wake up. But now I have a hard time sleeping because all I can picture every time I close my eyes is that face and it scares me. Does this mean something?
Dear Mariya – Evil is ‘live’ spelt backwards. In dreams the sense or presence of evil is often depicting those things you have so repressed that they are no longer properly alive and healthy. Repression has turned them back upon you making them an internal evil. They therefore need meeting and being brought into proper recognition and expression.
Do you feel you have sufficiently expressed and released your feelings of anger and pain after the loss of your child?
Anger is a normal grief response. Parents feel anger that their child had to be the one that died. Often parents are angry that they were given a life, only to have it snatched away so quickly
A heart that hurts from the inside out will often feel a great deal of anger. Sometimes there is even a great deal of anger with God for taking away their child. This, too, is quite normal.
Please also read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/anger-angry/
and
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/digest/
I feel you will have to explore for yourself which approach will give you the possibility to come to terms with the loss of your physical child and I trust that going through this process will help you rebuilt a loving and caring relationship with your daughter in your inner (dream) world.
Perhaps an approach like Expressive Art Therapy can help you on this path?
Expressive arts therapy is the practice of using imagery, storytelling, dance, music, drama, poetry, movement, horticulture, dream work, and visual arts together, in an integrated way, to foster human growth, development, and healing.
See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Expressive_therapy
and
http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/peoples-experiences-of-lifestream/
Does that give you a start?
Anna 🙂
I always had dreams that one of my children out of the 5 I had was going die. Later on through the years. The dreams started focusing on one of my sons. I would wait up put him in the bed with me. He asked me one day How will I die. I said I don’t want to talk about it. Well my son was hit by a suv in front of my house and died in 2006 he was 6 years old. Why did i have to keep dreaming those dreams.
Dear Katherine – This is what I believe now; because we are a human being with many levels of awareness, it is not always easy to understand at which level(s) we have to understand a dream.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/levels-of-awareness-in-waking-and-dreaming/
With that in mind, a mother dreaming about a child dying could express the process she is going through when her child is becoming (more) independent and/or the fear of losing her child, it could also mean that her inner child is dying, that she has killed part of her own feelings etc.
Please read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/death/comment-page-15/#Child
Because at some level we are all linked with each other, your son could have picked up your fear/thoughts and dreams about losing him and that is why he came up with the question about how he will die.
As you can see I am hesitant to say “THIS is why you had to keep dreaming those dreams” and why certain things happened, because there is still so much we do not know about Life.
Another thought which arose while reading your comment was the way Carolyn Miss perceives our life.
The answer and belief she found helpful – which could be an answer to your question as well – is that “I believe that each of us is guided by a Sacred Contract that our soul made before we were born. That Contract contains a wide range of agreements regarding all that we are intended to learn in this life. It comprises not merely what kind of work we do but also our key relationships with the people who are to help us learn the lessons we have agreed to work on. Each of those relationships represents an individual Contract that is part of your overall Sacred Contract, and may require you to be in a certain place at a certain time to be with that person.
This doesn’t mean, of course, that free will plays no role in your Sacred Contract. At any given moment — or “choice point” — your Contract may provide you with an opportunity for growth. It can come in the form of a challenge at work, the dissolution of an old relationship or the formation of a new one.”. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/karma-and-past-lives/
Also many people have dreams in which ESP, out of the body experiences, and knowledge transcending time and space occur.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/function-of-dreaming/
I hope I gave you a start to explore your question Katherine, for as I see it exploring and giving meaning is part of your inner journey.
Anna 🙂
Three years ago my daughter (age 22) died in a car accident. A few months after the accident I dreamed she was in a car in our driveway waiting to talk to me. In the dream I said I can’t do this, I am not ready for this. Then she was gone. Since then I very rarely dream of her. I feel as if I missed my only opportunity to say good bye. Any idea why she is no longer in my dreams?
Dear Ann – Please do not punish yourself with thoughts like “I feel as if I missed my only opportunity to say good bye” and “Any idea why she is no longer in my dreams”?
I do believe that your daughter disappeared at the moment you honestly told her that you “can’t do this”; because she respected that you were not ready for it yet.
I also believe that now your feelings (guilt?) about having missed what you perceive as your only opportunity to say good bye to her is what is blocking you from connecting with her more often (in your dreams).
You do not need to say goodbye to her, because she is part of you, of your inner world and of Life.
Please also read this entry in “Dreams about dead people” and continue to communicate in an open and honest way with your (inner) daughter; either in dreams or while awake.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/dreams-about-dead-people/#dead-child
Anna 🙂
Dreamt my son was running towards me and playing rough with his friends,I kept telling him to stop playing rough but he’s 6yrs old and full of energy he refuses to listens and fell into an open drainage full with dirty water along wit 2 of his friends,knowing him to be a good swimmer,I screamed at him ,now u will have to swim in that dirty water but b4 I could finish a fourth bigger friend pulled them out one after the other and my son was last and wasn’t moving much.i ran to him to try give him CPR if it was necessarily but he was headless and fingers were still moving,I screamed and woke up,it was a horrible dreams
Dear Ad – I hope I get it right from your name that you are male. I do not get a clear impression if your son in your dream is a symbol of your son in waking life, a symbol of your inner child or both.
See http://dreamhawk.com/health-and-healing/inner-baby-and-child/
A parent dreaming about his or her child swimming – “knowing him to be a good swimmer, I screamed at him, now u will have to swim in that dirty water” – might very well be considering whether that child will “sink or swim” in its dealing with life.
See also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/dirt/
The way I see it however, is not WHETHER your son will swim but merely HOW he will swim and if dealing with Life that way – Life in the broadest sense possible – is a helpful approach toward him feeling loved and whole.
In your dream your (inner) son is playing rough and the response of your dream figure is somewhat rough too “now u will have to swim in that dirty water”.
There is a “less rough” part in you – a fourth bigger friend – who acts quite different, for he ignores the words of your dream figure and pulls your son out of the dirty water.
To get a better feeling understanding of these two inner aspects of you it will be helpful to use “Being the Person” and “Talking as the Person” and switch back and forward between your dream figure as he appears in your dream and this “bigger friend”. The bigger friend in a dream often refers to a more mature or more important part of you. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/autonomous-complex/ which explains why you have so many parts of you.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
and
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/practical-techniques-for-understanding-your-dreams/#TalkingAs
See also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-anima-jungs-view-of-the-female-in-the-male/
You can use the same approach for your (inner) son as he appears in your dream – without a head and with moving fingers – because the way I see it, he is communicating something to you, not in words, but in feelings.
Good Luck!
Anna 🙂
I dreamed my stepson died, scared the life outta me, OMG
Dear Jackie – Your stepson dying in your dream could reflect that in his waking life he is moving toward becoming (more) independent (from you).
Please continue reading at http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/death/#Child to get a better understanding of what your dream could mean.
Anna 🙂
I am going through major changes in my life rite now… I lost my home moved in with my mom new job this Monday and I am seperated from my husband…. so I had a nightmare that my husband and I took our kids on a hike that had waterfalls and my 7 year old was jumping from the rocks into the water… my husband and I both told him not to do that… but being 7 and his active self he didn’t listen… jumped a few more times took a huge jump and hit his head and was laying there… I woke up shaking and heart broken after that
Dear Chris – Thank you for sharing something about your waking life as well, as it makes it easier to understand your dream.
I see your dream as digesting the separation from your husband and the path both of you chose which led to this break-up.
Your dream starts with hiking; which depicts personal effort, making your own way at your own pace with the situation you are in, but it also reflects the bond you have with each other.
As dream symbols unite an enormous amount of varied information, your dream son can represent your husband’s and your inner child but he is also a symbol of what has been created by your life together.
I feel that an important part of your dream is “my 7 year old was jumping from the rocks into the water… my husband and I both told him not to do that… but being 7 and his active self he didn’t listen…” (your dream son should not be confused with your son in waking life)
I believe it means you went through releasing loads of pent up emotions – the waterfalls – and negative (childhood) feelings and it was not possible anymore to manage your and his inner child; “my husband and I both told him not to do that……. but being 7 and his active self he didn’t listen…”
Many of the characters or elements of our dreams act quite contrary to what we consciously wish. This is why we often find it so difficult to believe that all aspects of a dream are part of our own psyche. (In the context of your dream I see the inner child as parts of both your psyche and your husband’s) Some drives or areas of your inner self act or express despite what we would want. These are named autonomous complexes.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/autonomous-complex/
and
http://dreamhawk.com/health-and-healing/inner-baby-and-child/
There are many ways in which we might come face to face with your inner child. These might include the arising in your daily life of inappropriate responses to situations. In a warm and loving relationship you experience only pain instead of pleasure; you feel terror that your partner will abandon you; you hit out emotionally or even physically at the person who is actually closest to you; you withdraw from the world or lack any motivation to be a part of society or be in contact with others; you feel enormous longing to find love, but it never seems to be there when you relate to someone.
If you do not meet your inner child and learn to manage it in your life, he will certainly manage you, and lead you into relationship tangles, emotional responses and actions that are not what you yourselves choose to be or feel.
“jumped a few more times took a huge jump and hit his head and was lying there…” is about becoming aware that the inner child was too much in charge and it was not a helpful aspect of your relationship”; your dream does not reveal if your dream son died though.
Please also read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/death/comment-page-15/#Child
and
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/nightmare-2/
I feel it will be helpful to use “Being your son” and “Talking as your son” to explore this dream symbol for yourself.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
and
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/practical-techniques-for-understanding-your-dreams/#TalkingAs
Anna 🙂
Dear Chris I had a dream that I was in a consert of taylor swift with my daughter and family members . and that i had to walk slowly up by the roller coaster to go where taylor was so I was with my daughter and I accidentally let my 2 year old daughter go 🙁 she died in the instant and I ran down towards her, the ambulance had took her and say that she past away I was sad my brother and his girlfriend were the only ones there at the moment . we told my mom she was just shocked didn’t show emotion . we were dropping off my brothers girlfriend at home and I was just quiet I couldn’t talk since i was crying a lot .she just hugged me and left . after that I woke up crying I had real tears and I hugged my.daughter so much!!!! I just don’t know why I dreamed that 🙁