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Man In Your Dreams

The man you dreamt of last night, more than likely represents the male you have the most important emotional bond with, or a male you either associates with love or else a man you would like to be a partner.

If it is a man’s dream it is an aspect of your own personality expressing in your dreams. See Characters and People in Dreams

Dreams are ways in which the feeling urges which unconsciously direct so many of our decisions express themselves, are gratified, or are explored. Therefore the male, who appears almost as frequently in a woman’s dreams as her first love, is the man she is fantasying a romance with. For instance, Christine’s deepest impulse was to be wholly in a relationship with her husband Andrew. Difficulties he experienced in regard to sex frequently led him to withdraw his warmth, leaving Christine uncertain about where their life together was going. While alone visiting her family abroad, she met David, her own age, an old friend of the family, and separated from his wife. As Christine was depending on friends and relatives instead of hotels, David offered his own place. Christine turned it down, but she dreamt she was secretly meeting David. The meetings were very pleasant, except that Christine constantly had the ‘looking over her shoulder’ feeling.

From the dream Christine realised that she was at least considering the idea of looking for another partner. There was still too much good in her relationship with Andrew, however, for her to sever connections with him and be wholehearted about another man. This is why the meetings in the dream were ‘secret’. In that situation though, there could be no real pleasure for her either with Andrew or another man. The dream was therefore a way in which she experimented with directions, and her reactions to them, in a safe way. It is like being able to do something quite different in life than you are doing, then wake up and find you are safely back with no changes. You are then left with the possibility of changing direction, or maintaining the present one.

A Dreamer’s Comment

As a 50-yr-old woman dreamer, I want to add that these men of ours may be more numerous and more varied in person than, perhaps, the men in a man’s dream. Yes, over time, one of the men might dominate, but I don’t believe he is necessarily the most important. The stranger may be absolutely as vital to our female Life as the “husband.” See Archetype of the Animus

I Don’t Wish to See That!

Sometimes dreams about the man in your life may be attempting to express something you are trying not to see. Sarah repeatedly dreamt that her boy friend, Ron, had died, and she was attending his funeral. The dreams disturbed her and she wondered if they might be a prediction. Then she met another man whom she liked, and realised she had been trying to get away from Ron for ages, but didn’t know how to do it. In fact many women have dreams or fantasies about their partner dying, sometimes out of worry, but frequently because it offers an easy way out of feeling trapped. In this way they are secretly hoping that no effort of will and confrontation will be demanded of them.

Of course an older woman dreaming her man is dead or dying will probably have a very different underlying cause for the dream. This may straightforwardly be an anxiety dream about their man dying – men die before women on average. The dream may be a way of looking at this and exploring or dealing with feelings in connection with the possibility that your partner’s life will end before yours.

Ninety nine percent of the time, dreams are not prophesying what is going to happen to the man in your life. What they do pictorialise or dramatize is what you are feeling or fearing about him. A number of women have told me they frequently dream their man leaves them for another woman. I haven’t observed those particular men leaving yet, or even being unfaithful. What is obvious though is that the women who have these dreams experience a lot of unnecessary anxiety about being left. Therefore they dream about it, partly because that is what they are feeling, and partly as a safety valve for unexpressed emotions.

The Big One

 Many dreams of the man we struggle with or dream of love with, are actually either a way we release the tension of our enormous desire for love – or are actually developing a relationship with the most important man in our life – our real soul mate. I am talking about your real other half, the man you are, under the influence of having a female body. See Womens creative power

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-angel seo 2015-01-02 9:00:00

Hello. Thanks I found this site. I have a guy friend, were not that close but I used to talk to him often. This is my second time dreaming of him. The first obe is “I dream of him going in our house, I was surprised because i thought he was looking for me but, he was looking for my friend and they were trying to fix their relationship”. The next dream is “he were again in our house with my other friends but he was with his girlfriend” . I dont know what that means. Please interpret this for me. Very curious. He’s just a friend. Nothing more.

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-MS 2015-01-06 13:46:34

I keep dreaming about a mutual friend of mine and my husbands. Last year we started to hang out when my husband and I were having problems. We talked about my relationship my husband and how him and I had feelings for one another and he thought we had chemistry and how he thought I was this great woman and he wished he had met me before my husband. Long story short, he ended up kissing me and my husband found out and they had a falling out. I keep dreaming about him even when I dont want to and in my dreams he is either doing something sweet for me, holding me or im holding him, touching my face and hair or talking to me and smiling. I always see his face so I know its him. I feel really bad when I wake up. What can it be?

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-cait 2015-01-16 20:47:13

Hi I have been having this dream about a boy in my class and I have been dreaming about him for three days straight and in the first dream we were walking around my house and then we ended up in school then we went to class and he was sitting next to me the second dream I was in class and I had a price of paper that said meet me outside and so I went out and he was waiting form me against the lockers and we kissed the third dream he asked me out and we went on a date so what does it mean.

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